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Every wedding is unique, and every couple has their own vision for the big day.

But sometimes that vision spirals into something… a little more extreme.

One bride’s wedding plans have gone viral for all the wrong reasons, after a groomsman shared what can only be described as a slowly unfolding disaster. From Reddit to TikTok, people couldn’t believe what they were reading, and it all started with a last-minute change to the date and venue.

With every update, new demands appeared: guests were told to chip in $650 for general expenses, bridesmaids had to buy new dresses and pay $300 each for professional makeup, and non-Catholics weren’t allowed to stand near the couple during the church ceremony. There weren’t enough chairs. And apparently, if you didn’t plan to drink, you shouldn’t come at all.

Oh — and the wedding planner? She quit.

Read the full list of this bride’s shocking rules and see how the internet reacted below. Would you still attend?

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    And the internet was stunned as the post went viral

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    @sundries.snark how are these real people? how did they convince anyone to be in their wedding party? is this a simulation?! #greenscreen♬ original sound – Sundries & Snark

    The worst wedding planning mistakes, according to professionals

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    Well, the chaos of wedding planning probably doesn’t get much more chaotic than the story above.

    But while some mistakes seem obvious (at least to outsiders), others can sneak up on you, and unfortunately, you may only realize them when it’s too late.

    To help couples avoid the most common disasters, wedding professionals shared some of the biggest red flags they’ve seen. Here are a few to keep in mind:

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    Not having a weather back up plan

    No matter when you’re getting married—winter, summer, or anything in between—you usually lock in a wedding date months in advance. That means you can’t control the weather on the day itself, and wishful thinking won’t stop the rain.

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    Georgie Karloci, director and founder of After The Rock, told Mamamia that “people not investing in a good quality marquee and watching it be destroyed in high winds and not having a wet weather back up an the whole event being rained out,” are two of the biggest red flags she has seen in her 10 years as a wedding planner.

    To avoid a soggy disaster, always have a reliable backup venue or shelter option in place.

    Trying to plan a wedding too quickly

    According to Georgie, another major issue is couples not “taking the planning timelines seriously.” Planning a memorable day takes time, not just for you, but for your vendors, stylists, and coordinators too.

    “Be honest and communicate as clearly as you can,” she says. “Work to the deadlines given to you by the professionals you are working with to avoid any additional stress or disappointment. And collaborate! It’s more fun when you work together to bring your dreams to life.”

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    Family conflicts

    This one hits home for many. Maybe your in-laws want to take over your vision. Maybe emotions run high on the day. Maybe you’re just trying too hard to please everyone and end up overwhelmed.

    But it doesn’t have to be that way.

    “Family conflicts are red flags that can be managed by efficient communication and realistic expectations. With family, you can’t control them, just focus on yourself and your partner. Your planner will creatively attempt to avoid conflict via seating plans for example,” Nina Wiener, director and founder of Nina Ma’Belle Weddings and co-creator of WEDIT, told Mamamia.

    Overlooking the guest experience

    Of course, you want your wedding to be beautiful. When couples get caught up in the aesthetics, though, they sometimes overlook what really shapes the experience for their guests—how it actually feels to attend.

    Planners Wedding Erah told The Wed that the guest experience should always be part of the plan:

    “While aesthetics are important, don’t forget to prioritize guest comfort. Long waits, overcrowded seating, or unclear directions can leave guests feeling frustrated, no matter how beautiful the event is. Thoughtful planning ensures your guests feel cared for and engaged throughout the celebration.”

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    Yes, it’s your big day, and it should reflect your vision. But if you’re throwing an event for other people to join in, don’t forget to make them feel welcomed and comfortable too. Just don’t swing too far the other way—over-pleasing isn’t great either.

    The groomsman dropped even more details in the replies

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    Reddit comments reacting to last-minute wedding changes with mixed opinions and frustrations about unusual wedding rules.

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    Readers couldn’t hide their shock

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