“They Saw The Blood Leave My Body”: Woman Refuses To Tip 10% At Bridal Store

I don't mind tipping for service jobs like waiters, hairdressers and hotel services. Last summer I left a $10 tip for housekeeping and when we got back in the evening she had left a thank you note and a baggie of candies! I figure if they have to clean up after us I can afford the cost of a beer at a ball game or concert to make their day a little brighter.

I'm an Aussie and tipping is not part of our culture. Being asked or expected to tip for something I'm paying for anyway is weird.

This is not about could I afford it or much would the tip be. It's about: This is the job they are paid to do by their employer. Who is not me.

Uber also asks for tips, but I don't mind that because Uber pockets 25% of the money for each trip. So I calculate how much Uber will be taking and tip that amount. So if the trip costs R66, the tip would be R16.50. So that's how much I tip - usually I just round off, so I'm tipping R17. That's fine.

I would walk out of a bridal shop if asked to tip. I tip only at restaurants where I am seated and served a meal. Then, I tip appropriately for the service. A friend and I had breakfast at a busy family-type place and we received fabulous service from a very harried waitress. We tipped her a lot, and she came up and hugged us at the cashier station. My friend and I are easy customers, just keep our coffee cups filled and we're happy.

Just don't give anything. You pay for a service, they do it, full stop. I for one would have asked jokingly what the tip is for since I already pay for the dress a rather expensive price. As for when the tip is deserved, I don't use a percentage but check the value for the service. if you hang me an item or meal, its price doesn't change the value of your work.

Don't sweat it. If there's no service provided (no one brought your food to your table, or did anything other than take your order & ring you up) do not tip.

Tipping is outrageous. Thanks goodness Australia hasn't become " infected " too much. It's a shocking method of the customer making up the employees wage which the employer should do in the first place. The tipping customer is literally paying part of the employees wage, which results in the employer making a bigger profit. Ha, what nonsense ! I won't be a party to it at all.

"All this noise obscures the real and somewhat legitimate, original reasons why tipping existed in the first place. Particularly in the US, many restaurants had very low wages and it was assumed that tips would make up the difference. " Tipping actually originated with the English aristocracy. A serf would receive a gratuity for having performed superbly well for their master. Time Magazine has a very disturbing reason for tipping being so prevalent in the US (second link below). https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gratuity#:~:text=The%20practice%20of%20tipping%20began,for%20having%20performed%20superbly%20well. https://time.com/5404475/history-tipping-american-restaurants-civil-war/

The nice people who bring me pizza, Walmart, Target + Instacart orders get tips. If you are not *actively* helping me or doing things for me, I don't tip.

Tipping is just out of effing hand anymore. My understanding, as a waitress in the early days, is that “a tip” is a basic gratuity for good service, amount determined by the quality of the service, usually a “standard”, like 10% - 15% - 20% is generally expected. It is NOT a mandatory thing. I felt that in waiting tables, that tips were given because waiters and waitresses were given less in hourly wages BECAUSE they received tips! It is totally out of hand but the US wages are ridiculous and should be addressed.

Need to pay workers a living wage. Tips should be given only for excellent service. If its compulsory fee it should be added on the price tag as should all taxes. Give customers the real cost of items

Employers ripping off employees by not paying them a liveable wage is criminal, then expecting the customer to tip to bring up their income to a level that they can afford the basics in life is even worse. Tipping should be an added reward for good service and is at the discretion of the customer (at least those customers who are not complete A-holes). I'm actually surprised the US government isn't leading a charge on this because all that tip $$ is essentially untaxed income.

I’m a doctor, and I was going to make a joke here about patients eventually being asked to tip their doctors, but then I saw there were two comments about tipping in the medical field. Absolutely not. That should not be done, it seems somehow unethical to me to ask your patient to tip, as they might feel obliged to tip out of fear of receiving less than stellar treatment the next time they need to visit me.

I've never gotten married and due to small family, never been part of a wedding. But I have the impression that shopping for a dress is a multi-day affair in which you send the employee off to fit your every whim. It seems like a personalized service and you tip service industry, so it makes sense to me. Maybe not if it was choosing a dress off the rack and checkout, but all of the "is there another size" or "it's not princess enough" and "I want beads but not too many beads but enough" and having the associate hold their hands throughout the whole ordeal... I'd tip for that level of service.

The wait staff at a restaurant is paid less than $2.50 an hour. If they don't receive tips then that $2.50/hr is all they make. In addition the IRS assumes that they get 15% - 20% in tips on all meals served and charges them tax on that amount. How would you like it if your boss told you to get your living wage from his customers?

Tipping adds so much insecurity to everything, I'd expect americans to be against it. It's like a stereotypical failed state where you have to tip/bribe the police and any civil servant into doing their job --- how much does it cost to transport my cargo from here to there? I don't know it depends on the number of roadblocks, etc... It make all business figures insecure and means you have to add arbitrary extra costs 'just in case', so everything ends up less competitive.

My bridal gown and veil and my mother's gown (like an evening gown- long, chiffon, she was absolutely gorgeous) were from one of those teeny independent shops where the owner runs the show, does the fittings and alterations and everything. She had one helper. I was really nervous about the search for a gown because I didn't know what would look good, I'm plus sized, and I didn't have a ton of time (was getting married in three months). Going independent made what could have been an awful experience absolutely magical. I felt like a princess. The owner of the shop made sure my gown was perfect, cried with my mom, and even made some changes to my mom's gown to accommodate her taste. She was cheerful and kind and extremely knowledgeable. And we spent somewhere in the neighborhood of 10k there- which all went to the owner. I didn't feel like we needed to give her a tip.

Why is tipping still common in the US? My guess is excessive taxes. There is no way to check on tips, so it becomes undeclared income. Abolish income tax and the problem would be solved.

Could the word "like" be stricken from the English language! I'm like.....Thank you!

I've said it before and I'll say it again- in the US, tipped-wage employees still make minimum wage regardless of whether they receive tips or not !!

I always check "No Tip" on the little iPad.

Why freeze? there is a simple option - hit NO on the screen. bye bye

firsties sure like strewing the peons. i wore tie dye to my $200 backyard eedding

It is inherently an American thing, tipping. So they say in Europe, etc. It is because we live under capitalism {which is like modern day slavery}.

This is my eff you doordash: Your driver's are underpaid, and rely on tips. Many of the restaurant workers rely on tips. It's sad, but true. After adding the option to be your own 'dasher', you've screwed everyone. My workplace generally had two people working at any given time. We prepped the line, took your order, made your food, packaged it, then cashed you out. All this while being stared at by actual drivers who hate us for being behind what their employer said when it would be ready. We do the dishes ourselves, too. Would you tip your server? They also have to tip out the busser, the host, the bartender, and sometimes the cook. It's a terrible culture, but please don't take it out on small business. Id love to end this system, but unfortunately don't have the time or money to rally. (Obviously US)

Press no. It's not hard. Like everything else in a capitalist society, vote with your wallet

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

Imagine tolerating a bunch of drunk people for HOURS and that one coworker that doesn't lift a finger gets the same pay as you. Or the staff are rude except that one employee that really puts in an effort to make this experience special that could be just as lazy as everyone else but doesn't want this experience to suck... there's a million scenarios where tipping is a reward and not an obligation. It's a gift to people who make the experience good and you're all crying because you can't do that math. This is why certain companies add gratuity to the bill after having to babysit YOUR kids while trying to serve and be polite because you're rude and entitled. Here's a fix: stay home and then no one will have ed to deal with your c**p