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Woman Confused As To Why Her BF Suddenly Throws Tantrum About Her Working Out
Woman Confused As To Why Her BF Suddenly Throws Tantrum About Her Working Out
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Woman Confused As To Why Her BF Suddenly Throws Tantrum About Her Working Out

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One could say that the world can be divided into two groups: those who go to the gym, and those who don’t. We aren’t here to judge, but it’s been scientifically proven, time and again, that even a little bit of exercise goes a long way. It keeps you mentally and physically healthy and, of course, stronger. Many people will tell you that once the gym bug bites and you start noticing the benefits, it can become hard to stop.

That’s why when one woman’s boyfriend suddenly told her to quit working out, she was more than a little taken aback. While she’s struggling to understand where all this is coming from, she’s refused to give up her trips to the gym. But at the same time, she’s wondering if maybe she should – for the sake of her relationship. Bored Panda spoke to personal training expert Coach Kat from TeachMe.To to get some advice on gym, fitness and to find out what happens if  or when someone suddenly quits training.

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    There was nothing out of the ordinary when one woman went to the gym for the third time in a week

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    Except that she got a message out of the blue from her BF asking her to stop

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    Text questioning why boyfriend suddenly dislikes her gym routine, asking if she's overdoing it by not stopping.

    Text exchange about gym visits; boyfriend expresses concern, woman insists on continuing her routine.

    Text exchange about gym workouts causing relationship tension.

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    Text conversation about a woman's gym routine causing issues, highlighting the boyfriend's problem with her dedication.

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    Experts recommend that adults exercise for at least 150 minutes a week

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    How many times you choose to go to the gym is entirely up to you, and there are a couple of factors to consider. “For general fitness, 3-5 times a week is often recommended,” personal trainer Coach Kat told Bored Panda during our interview.

    Each workout session can range from 30 to 60 minutes, depending on the intensity and type of exercise. Beginners might start with 3 shorter sessions, gradually increasing frequency and duration as they progress.” She adds that it is also very important to have rest days.

    Coach Kat is a personal training expert with an ACE certification and a Masters degree in sports science. She’s a full-time fitness coach and has helped hundreds of people get into shape. She’s also the owner of No Fit Rules and a go-to instructor for online learning platform TeachMe.To.com.

    The expert tells us she’s been passionate about fitness for over 17 years. “My journey started when I lost 50 lbs in high school and regained my health by practicing regular exercise and clean eating,” she revealed. When it comes to her fitness routine, the trainer says it’s a blend of strength training, functional movement, and HIIT cardio. “I typically train 5-6 days a week, focusing on progressive overload and proper form.”

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    Coach Kat has been working as an online personal trainer for 5 years, and besides being certified in group and personal training, she has a Masters in sports coaching. “I’m constantly learning and expanding my knowledge to provide the best possible service,” she says.

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    According to the U.S. Department of Health, adults should aim for 150 minutes of moderate-intensity physical activity or 75 minutes of vigorous-intensity activity per week, as well as at least 2 days of muscle-strengthening activities.

    The World Health Organization (WHO) warns that not being physically active is one of the leading risk factors for noncommunicable disease mortality. “People who are insufficiently active have a 20% to 30% increased risk of death compared to people who are sufficiently active,” reads the WHO site.

    The organization notes that nearly one-third of the world’s adult population, or around 1.8 billion people, are physically inactive. In short, “they don’t meet the global recommendations of at least 150 minutes of moderate-intensity physical activity per week.”

    A personal training expert advises on the ideal beginner workout plan

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    Coach Kat tells Bored Panda that an ideal beginner workout plan should focus on full-body exercises and proper form.


    She adds that it should include a warm-up of about 5-10 minutes of light cardio and dynamic stretching, compound exercises like squats, lunges, push-ups, rows, and overhead presses. “These work multiple muscle groups simultaneously,” explains the expert. “Start with 2-3 sets of 8-12 repetitions for each exercise.”

    Your beginner routine should also include cardiovascular exercise. “20-30 minutes of moderate-intensity cardio, such as brisk walking, cycling, or swimming,” suggests the personal trainer. And you should do a cool-down of around 5-10 minutes of static stretching. The expert adds that it is very important to start with light weights, and focus on form.

    Coach Kat provided the following example of a weekly workout plan:

    Day 1: Full-body strength training
    Day 2: Cardio
    Day 3: Rest
    Day 4: Full-body strength training
    Day 5: Cardio
    Day 6 and 7: Rest

    We asked the trainer what would happen if someone suddenly quit the gym… “Muscle strength and endurance will gradually decline. Cardiovascular fitness will decrease. Metabolism may slow down. Energy levels may decrease,” she replied. “Weight gain is possible if dietary habits remain unchanged.” Coach Kat adds that these changes are gradual, and not instant.

    On the other end of the spectrum, there is such a thing as training too much. Coach Kat tells us this might be the case if you have persistent fatigue, decreased performance, or increased resting heart rate. Sleep disturbances, mood changes, and loss of appetite are also warning signs, as are increased susceptibility to illness or injury and constant muscle soreness.

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    “If you experience any of these symptoms, it’s essential to reduce training volume and intensity and prioritize rest,” she advises.

    “Time to fully stop dating him”: netizens felt the woman should see the red flags

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    Bryn
    Community Member
    Premium
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    wow, so many angry incels. "attention seeking wench" wtf

    Libstak
    Community Member
    8 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Women shouldn't have male friends and vice versa when in relationships? Tell me you are shallow as he.ll and only talk to and make "friends" with people you might like to get a bit of some some with aka. Tell me you see people only for how you can use them not because of how you can support and laugh with each other. NOBODY should EVER have to justify a friendship or give one up because a third person thinks they own them.

    Skogsrået
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I reacted to that comment too, sounded to me like a very very insecure and immature person that probably should not be in a relationship.

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    Romy Rösli
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why are those incels assuming OP is working out to get other guys‘ attention? When I go to the gym I do it for me and the fact there are men around is just a fact I don’t care about.

    OpheliaPoe
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's wild how self centered some men are. They can't imagine a woman livibg her life and just existing if it's not for their visual pleasure. Hair, make up, clothes, etc. . Can't we look the way we want to without some man feeling the need to share their opinion on our appearance?

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    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can't stress this enough - if your partner is telling you who you can and can't see/talk to/be friends with, that's abuse and it will only get worse. Get out.

    Sue Ellen Bowen
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not her job to manage his insecurities.

    Grape Walls of Ire
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It sounds like he doesn't understand that exercise is a fundamental part of staying healthy. If she explained this to him, maybe he'd realize he's being an unreasonable little prìck. And if he doesn't, that would be sufficient reason to dump his pathetic little incel àss.

    BrownEyedPanda
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    BF sounds awfully controlling. That, or HE'S at that same gym--with someone else.

    Cerise Hood
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why is it that whenever a woman finds a hobby that she loves, it is attention seeking and shameful, but when a man finds a hobby he loves, it is proactive and exciting?

    Enlee Jones
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Boyfriend is testing what he can control, and it won’t stop with just going to the gym. Next it will be with what she can wear, who she can be friends with, throwing a fit about a girls night out, what she eats, and on and on and on. She needs to nip this b******t in the bud right now.

    David L
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It starts with this and before you know it she can't even speak with or see family.

    Firefly
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why are they having this conversation via text messages instead of in person if it is important to them?

    Devlin Tay
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And the last few comments are why incels are incels

    Just_for_this
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Insecure and jealous. possibly transferring his own feelings of inadequacy and temptations. Enjoy your hard work ditch the deadweight.

    Renee Stephens
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "I would like you to fully stop": I would like you to fully stop as well. Fully stop dating him.

    Dove Bradshaw
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So easy to see from the comments which ones were male. HA HA

    Ruth Watry
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tell him that your physical health is important, and that he is welcome to join you if he likes

    Kathrin Pukowsky
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love how profession-oO thinks it's insane that others assume this is controlling behaviour and then goes on to make assumptions about the boyfriend's motivation. Which is the same assumption OP already made and asked her bf about, and he denied having a problem with the workout buddies. And even if the boyfriend has a different motivation from what the majority of commenters suspect, the bf is STILL being controlling AF, basically telling OP to stop working out "because I say so" instead of offering any form of reasonable argument. Even just admitting he's afraid she's getting "too hot" for him would at least open a conversation and they could find ways to strengthen their bond and alleviate bf's fear. Without that, he just comes across as a controlling a-hole.

    Only Me
    Community Member
    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To get fit and keep fit you should train 5 days per week. I mostly run - 5-6 days per week, and I do toning exercises at home 3-5 days per week. Any person telling me what I should do in my life will not be in my life.

    Alecto76
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not making any comment on the level of his jealousy. But clearly she has made some male friends and is hanging out with them and he's jealous. Ok. But posting this like why is he suddenly like this? seems disingenuous.

    Shelley Colleen
    Community Member
    Premium
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Clearly, some rando mentioned to boyfriend that girlfriend is "out of his league" and he'd rather force her to stop being herself than get his own a*5 into the gym to catch up with her. PS: wtf is up with all these incel commenters?

    Daria
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    insecurity is strong in these ones 😕🤷

    Mark Childers
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That guy is completely insecure. Until he can get that under control, he shouldn't be dating anyone. And she needs to dump him immediately. It only gets worse from there.

    Gavin Johnson
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can’t imagine a scenario in which I believe that I can tell my partner to stop doing something that’s legal (obviously!). She’s her own person and perfectly capable of messing things up all on her own just like I can!

    sweet emotion
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have to laugh at the second option under the poll question. It's pretty obvious in the text that the boyfriend (I hope he's an ex by now) has no interest in communicating other than to lay down his law.

    Olav Thorsen
    Community Member
    8 months ago

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    This has nothing to do with working out, and has everything to do with hanging out with a bunch of guys. All while jacking the tightest workout clothes up as high as you can yank them.

    Bryn
    Community Member
    Premium
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    wow, so many angry incels. "attention seeking wench" wtf

    Libstak
    Community Member
    8 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Women shouldn't have male friends and vice versa when in relationships? Tell me you are shallow as he.ll and only talk to and make "friends" with people you might like to get a bit of some some with aka. Tell me you see people only for how you can use them not because of how you can support and laugh with each other. NOBODY should EVER have to justify a friendship or give one up because a third person thinks they own them.

    Skogsrået
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I reacted to that comment too, sounded to me like a very very insecure and immature person that probably should not be in a relationship.

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    Romy Rösli
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why are those incels assuming OP is working out to get other guys‘ attention? When I go to the gym I do it for me and the fact there are men around is just a fact I don’t care about.

    OpheliaPoe
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's wild how self centered some men are. They can't imagine a woman livibg her life and just existing if it's not for their visual pleasure. Hair, make up, clothes, etc. . Can't we look the way we want to without some man feeling the need to share their opinion on our appearance?

    Load More Replies...
    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can't stress this enough - if your partner is telling you who you can and can't see/talk to/be friends with, that's abuse and it will only get worse. Get out.

    Sue Ellen Bowen
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not her job to manage his insecurities.

    Grape Walls of Ire
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It sounds like he doesn't understand that exercise is a fundamental part of staying healthy. If she explained this to him, maybe he'd realize he's being an unreasonable little prìck. And if he doesn't, that would be sufficient reason to dump his pathetic little incel àss.

    BrownEyedPanda
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    BF sounds awfully controlling. That, or HE'S at that same gym--with someone else.

    Cerise Hood
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why is it that whenever a woman finds a hobby that she loves, it is attention seeking and shameful, but when a man finds a hobby he loves, it is proactive and exciting?

    Enlee Jones
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Boyfriend is testing what he can control, and it won’t stop with just going to the gym. Next it will be with what she can wear, who she can be friends with, throwing a fit about a girls night out, what she eats, and on and on and on. She needs to nip this b******t in the bud right now.

    David L
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It starts with this and before you know it she can't even speak with or see family.

    Firefly
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why are they having this conversation via text messages instead of in person if it is important to them?

    Devlin Tay
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And the last few comments are why incels are incels

    Just_for_this
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Insecure and jealous. possibly transferring his own feelings of inadequacy and temptations. Enjoy your hard work ditch the deadweight.

    Renee Stephens
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "I would like you to fully stop": I would like you to fully stop as well. Fully stop dating him.

    Dove Bradshaw
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So easy to see from the comments which ones were male. HA HA

    Ruth Watry
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tell him that your physical health is important, and that he is welcome to join you if he likes

    Kathrin Pukowsky
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love how profession-oO thinks it's insane that others assume this is controlling behaviour and then goes on to make assumptions about the boyfriend's motivation. Which is the same assumption OP already made and asked her bf about, and he denied having a problem with the workout buddies. And even if the boyfriend has a different motivation from what the majority of commenters suspect, the bf is STILL being controlling AF, basically telling OP to stop working out "because I say so" instead of offering any form of reasonable argument. Even just admitting he's afraid she's getting "too hot" for him would at least open a conversation and they could find ways to strengthen their bond and alleviate bf's fear. Without that, he just comes across as a controlling a-hole.

    Only Me
    Community Member
    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To get fit and keep fit you should train 5 days per week. I mostly run - 5-6 days per week, and I do toning exercises at home 3-5 days per week. Any person telling me what I should do in my life will not be in my life.

    Alecto76
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not making any comment on the level of his jealousy. But clearly she has made some male friends and is hanging out with them and he's jealous. Ok. But posting this like why is he suddenly like this? seems disingenuous.

    Shelley Colleen
    Community Member
    Premium
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Clearly, some rando mentioned to boyfriend that girlfriend is "out of his league" and he'd rather force her to stop being herself than get his own a*5 into the gym to catch up with her. PS: wtf is up with all these incel commenters?

    Daria
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    insecurity is strong in these ones 😕🤷

    Mark Childers
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That guy is completely insecure. Until he can get that under control, he shouldn't be dating anyone. And she needs to dump him immediately. It only gets worse from there.

    Gavin Johnson
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can’t imagine a scenario in which I believe that I can tell my partner to stop doing something that’s legal (obviously!). She’s her own person and perfectly capable of messing things up all on her own just like I can!

    sweet emotion
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have to laugh at the second option under the poll question. It's pretty obvious in the text that the boyfriend (I hope he's an ex by now) has no interest in communicating other than to lay down his law.

    Olav Thorsen
    Community Member
    8 months ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    This has nothing to do with working out, and has everything to do with hanging out with a bunch of guys. All while jacking the tightest workout clothes up as high as you can yank them.

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