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Boyfriend Is Livid After His Girlfriend’s Post In A Watchdog Group Reveals His Double Life
Every relationship involves a lot of blind faith in the other person and trust that they’ll not play with your heart, which can be scary. Especially because there are many people who find themselves as the victim of infidelity or betrayed by someone they thought really loved them.
This is what happened to a woman who uncovered her boyfriend’s secrets after coming across a post about him online. She spoke to one lady who seemed like she had gone out with him recently, which left her shocked and unsure how to proceed.
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The poster shared that she came across an “Are we dating the same guy?” post about her boyfriend, and multiple women shared that they had gone out with him
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When the poster asked if anyone had gone out with him recently, another woman replied, confirming that she had and that he told her not to date anyone else
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The poster always had suspicions about her boyfriend cheating, and this made her want to confront him about the situation, but she was unsure what to do
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Unfortunately, she also realized that her boyfriend had found out about her discussion with the other woman, which complicated things
Since the poster had mentioned that she had some suspicions about her boyfriend cheating, it made sense why she immediately responded to an online “Are we dating the same guy?” post. She noticed that a lot of other women had shared their experiences of going on dates with him, but she wasn’t able to figure out if any of it had happened recently.
These kinds of posts and communities offer a space for women to share their dating experiences and check if the guys they’ve matched with or talked to are actually safe to be around. Experts state that the anonymity factor is essential so that the men mentioned in the posts aren’t able to track the women or retaliate.
The OP also decided to keep her identity anonymous and asked if anyone had recently been in touch with her partner. That’s when another woman replied and confirmed that he had talked to her and told her not to date anyone else. This confirmed the poster’s suspicions, but she wasn’t able to probe if anything else happened because the lady stopped replying.
When a partner finds out, like this, that their loved one has cheated on them, it can be devastating to deal with. According to studies, whether it’s an emotional or physical affair, both kinds can cause equal pain to the victim and indicate that there are underlying issues in the relationship.
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The poster hadn’t even thought of whether or how she’d bring up the issue to her boyfriend, but when he returned home in a bad mood, she figured he knew that she had spoken to the other woman. She also suspected that he had told the lady to delete her messages, as their entire chat had disappeared.
Even in situations like this, where there is a lot more to still be uncovered about the other partner’s affair, mental health professionals state that the victim should focus on self-care. Getting such news can be emotionally taxing and also lead to physical symptoms like headaches, nausea, and dizziness, which is why rest and mindfulness are important.
The OP still seemed quite calm and collected about the situation, but she didn’t know how she was going to broach the subject, especially because she and her boyfriend were renting their apartment together. She told commenters that she was going to break up with him eventually, but since they still had five months on their lease, she didn’t know when to take that step.
It might seem obvious to confront a cheater and expose their lies, but sometimes patience can help a person form a better plan of action. Hopefully, the woman takes a stand for herself and confronts her boyfriend, or else he’ll probably spin another web of lies.
What do you think the best course of action is in a complicated situation like this? Let us know your honest thoughts down below.
People were shocked by the audacity of the boyfriend and felt that the poster needed to end things with him immediately
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JB 1 month ago (edited)
As a former landlord and woman, goldenfingernails is wrong order and missed a couple. 1) Pack up everything you can, ESPECIALLY paperwork, and go to a motel; the first step is always to protect yourself. 2) Secure yourself financially. Withdraw your money from any joint accounts and change *all* passwords on your own accounts. Lock your credit down. 3) Read your lease agreement! The vast majority state that tenants are mutually *and individually* responsible, which means even if you just took off without leaving a forwarding address, they are much more likely to go after the remaining tenant; although it might give you a black mark. Treat this option as last resort. 4) Check out your tenant rights in your jurisdiction. In some areas, they are legally required to release you from a lease if you tell them you have reasonable cause to fear your partner. BF slamming around is only a short step to threatening or actual physical harm. 5) Once you know your rights, contact the landlord to let them know you have left and why. Even if they aren’t legally obliged to release you, most will be understanding. There’s a lot of bad publicity about landlords in the news and SM, this is because the public mostly isn’t interested in positive information, it’s much more entertaining to read about the bad stuff. I found myself countering this by asking outgoing tenants to be my references. 5) Now, start looking for an alternative place to stay longer term.
Tabitha 1 month ago (edited)
Do not go alone to pick your stuff up. Gather as many people—-preferably large and scary types—-around you as possible, so the ex can’t pull any s**t on you, and definitely won’t lay a hand on you. Best scenario is to get your stuff when he’s not there, but still take as big a posse of people with you just in case he turns up unexpectedly. NEVER be alone with him. If he wants to talk about it, he can do it on the phone or in a crowded public place—-or you won’t be there and he doesn’t get to have his stupid lame say.
Janelle Collard 1 month ago
"I'll take 'Clueless Women For $100,' Alex." How is this even a question??? She's "dating" a walking STD!
CP 1 month ago (edited)
Clueless people don't seek out advice. They aren't aware that they need it.
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JB 1 month ago (edited)
As a former landlord and woman, goldenfingernails is wrong order and missed a couple. 1) Pack up everything you can, ESPECIALLY paperwork, and go to a motel; the first step is always to protect yourself. 2) Secure yourself financially. Withdraw your money from any joint accounts and change *all* passwords on your own accounts. Lock your credit down. 3) Read your lease agreement! The vast majority state that tenants are mutually *and individually* responsible, which means even if you just took off without leaving a forwarding address, they are much more likely to go after the remaining tenant; although it might give you a black mark. Treat this option as last resort. 4) Check out your tenant rights in your jurisdiction. In some areas, they are legally required to release you from a lease if you tell them you have reasonable cause to fear your partner. BF slamming around is only a short step to threatening or actual physical harm. 5) Once you know your rights, contact the landlord to let them know you have left and why. Even if they aren’t legally obliged to release you, most will be understanding. There’s a lot of bad publicity about landlords in the news and SM, this is because the public mostly isn’t interested in positive information, it’s much more entertaining to read about the bad stuff. I found myself countering this by asking outgoing tenants to be my references. 5) Now, start looking for an alternative place to stay longer term.
Tabitha 1 month ago (edited)
Do not go alone to pick your stuff up. Gather as many people—-preferably large and scary types—-around you as possible, so the ex can’t pull any s**t on you, and definitely won’t lay a hand on you. Best scenario is to get your stuff when he’s not there, but still take as big a posse of people with you just in case he turns up unexpectedly. NEVER be alone with him. If he wants to talk about it, he can do it on the phone or in a crowded public place—-or you won’t be there and he doesn’t get to have his stupid lame say.
Janelle Collard 1 month ago
"I'll take 'Clueless Women For $100,' Alex." How is this even a question??? She's "dating" a walking STD!
CP 1 month ago (edited)
Clueless people don't seek out advice. They aren't aware that they need it.
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