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We've seen people on the internet talking about red and green flags in romantic relationships, but lately, there has been a lot of fuss about another color.

TikToker Caito (@itscaito) coined the term "beige flag" in one of her videos from a year ago, where she explained that it's a sign that someone's really, really boring to date.

@itscaito beige is the new red and in other news dating apps are a wasteland 🚩 #hinge #redflags #datingredflags #hingedating ♬ original sound - Caito

However, since then, folks have evolved it, making the beige flag something in between the red and green ones. Now, this sign is understood to be more like a personal quirk that catches your attention, a mannerism that makes you pause and think, "Hmmm... that's a bit odd" without fully understanding if it's good or bad.

(For reference, think of when Anatoly Dyatlov in HBO's Chernobyl heard the radiation reading and said: "3.6 [Roentgen] — not great, not terrible.")

So to give you a better understanding of the latest online dating slang, we compiled some of the most popular beige flags that we've seen.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Asking all the questions on people who do this is amazing, because they answer. Not sure if always honest or true.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry, but as annoying as this must be, I also find it hilarious.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone with high-functioning autism, this sounds like it might be Autism Spectrum Disorder. Many High Functioning Autistic people have trouble with chatting and casual conversation. The fact he has to google topics for conversation hints he might be having trouble with casual social skills and is making an effort to compensate. Likewise, the fact he asks intimate questions in a room full of people suggests he has trouble understanding social propriety and boundaries, another thing difficult for people with autism.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Put him in front of a mirror and tell him that he is cute and a keeper, because he is actually listening to you. My one, I could tell him 200 times how a watch is beautiful and he would still show up on valentines or birthdays with something else but the watch.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this is a healthy self care boundary and not a flag at all.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Green flag, if anything! I'm the same. My phone goes on Do Not Disturb and I don't answer anything until morning.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

#me. Don't text me after 9:30 pm; I will not answer until the next morning.

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10 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My rule is in bed by 10:00, but I can read for however long I like. Also, DO NOT call or text me after that time (mainly because I'M READING, but also because my husband has to get up at 0:dark 30 for work). Also - DO NOT CALL OR TEXT ME when Jeopardy! is on. My whole family knows that if it's an emergency let it ring 3 times, hang up & call back.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This used to be me, but 8.30-9.30 because I knew it took almost an hour to get to sleep. Now because I finally have drugs that help me get to sleep within 15minutes usually, and my anxiety has made me not want go to bed on the off chance they don't work and I lie there overthinking, I stay up until 11-12 most nights. It was so much healthier before am I am struggling getting back to that.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I used to always tell people that I turn into a pumpkin at 10:00pm so I have to head out for the same reason.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I get ready for bed at 10:45 if I have to be up early and 11:45 on weekends. Might push it 5 or 15 minutes, but if it’s later than that it’s usually not of my own volition. I get stressed if I’m up later. And I don’t want to sleep before then either! If I do it’s because I’m about to pass out. I hate waking up in the middle of the night with the light on fully dressed and a book over my face more than I hate going to bed before my time…

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh hey that's my usual routine. I'm in bed by 10 because 6AM comes very fast when you're an insomniac.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love my friends that do this. No question about when the night will end. 945? Let get my stuff and head home to my own bed. It's very polite and helpful.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's cute, maybe annoying in very specific situations but most of the time just cute.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is totally me, except mine is 10:00. I'm up at 6 every morning, so I get my full 8 hours, but if I dare stay up later someone always asks, why are you still up? 🙃

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In high school, my brother loved convincing people that "gullible" wasn't actually in the dictionary.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've often said that it's as selfish to refuse to receive as it is to refuse to give, because in refusing to receive we are denying other people the opportunity to be generous and we are refusing to be grateful to other, instead insisting they always be indebted to us. Generosity sometimes means allowing others to be generous too.

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10 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

100% me. Not hypochondria or attention seeking, my body is just a POS. I either try not to comment on it because I can absolutely see how this would be annoying, or I make it a joke, like, ugh, what's broken on me now?

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I friggin hate when people do that! Didn't you read the rest? Is your brain function that limited? Why?!

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my children went through this phase I'd pretend to not know what they wanted until they spoke properly. (And, yes, they were fully able to articulate clearly.)

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand why that would make the waiter embarrassed - he'll either have an actual favorite that he'll recommend, if not then he'll pick something at random from the menu (or something expensive)... or maybe the manager said "hey, we've got too much fish, so push the fish!" and recommend that. Not sure where the discomfort would come from unless the waiter was so unfamiliar with the menu that he couldnt think of a single dish to recommend.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm like that and I'm a woman. If they want to say, they will tell me - that's my reasoning.

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10 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe he thinks it’s a beige flag that you call yourself a scheduled girly.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is me, and this is apparently very common in people who have ADHD (not saying she does). I hate having notifications hanging over me, so I open the message, and if I'm in the right mood I'll respond. But sometimes I think "I'll get back to it later" and then totally forget the message ever existed until the next time I think to text that person.

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