From losing sleep privileges to getting a so-called “pregnancy nose”, those are just a few of the hundreds of reasons why women have expressed their disdain for ever having kids, and this Aussie model has taken it upon herself to highlight the reasonings.
Model Ellie Gonsalves collected over 100 reasons not to have children, from other women sharing their own experiences with pregnancy and motherhood on social media.
Nevertheless, upon sharing the controversial list, the 32-year-old has been subjected to backlash.
Model Ellie Gonsalves collected over 100 reasons not to have children
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In fact, Ellie left people online quite divided after sharing 118 justifications why she does not want children on Instagram last Sunday (November 26).
Opening up to Mamamia about the online abuse she has received following her brutal honesty, Ellie said: “I have already received hundreds of DMs criticizing me, telling me how much of a horrible and broken person I am.
“But lots of these fears/thoughts ARE real.
“They resonate with not only me but with so many other women.
“A lot of them are small things that contribute towards a much bigger picture.”
“Lots of these fears/thoughts ARE real,” Ellie said
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The model reportedly admitted that the messages she has received questioning the list she had posted to her Instagram page only increased her firmness.
Ellie explained: “They further illustrate my main point: people are sold a certain life, and when they witness others choosing a different path, the frustration lies within themselves.”
Ellie and her husband Ross Scutts said they didn’t want children
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However, the influencer also opened up about the multiple positive messages from fans praising her for speaking her truth and sharing her candid view of her desire to remain child-free.
She said: “It’s been nice to read hundreds of comments from people who feel seen, people who have also had uncomfortable moments where others have questioned their choice and all that has done is made them feel awful or uncomfortable.”
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Ellie’s post, which has prompted nearly 1,000 comments, listed, among other things, postpartum hair loss, “babies poo inside you”, and “your house will never be tidy”.
She clarified: “While some of those things on my list are satirical, many are serious and factual.
“Societal pressure when it comes to this topic is truly questionable and I believe unfair towards those with differing opinions.
“Very rarely do we see a voice in support of this, because let’s face it, the public backlash can be too much.”
“I have already received hundreds of DMs criticizing me,” Ellie admitted
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As a result, Ellie isn’t planning to grow a family anytime soon along with her recent husband and long-term partner, entrepreneur Ross Scutts.
Ellie and Ross reportedly married in two luxury ceremonies back in March, with the official nuptials taking place at the floating beach club La Luna on the Gold Coast.
The couple followed the intimate ceremony with a second luxury event where they had invited their bridal party and other guests.
“They resonate with not only me but with so many other women,” the model explained
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Last year, TikTok user @yuniquethoughts rose to popularity online after going viral several times for sharing her ongoing list of reasons why she never wants to have a baby, earning her the nickname of “the girl with the list”.
Yuni has constantly shared videos of women sharing their experiences with having kids and pregnancy on TikTok, prompting a never-ending stream of pros and cons of having children.
Her list, which has since been printed to show the impressive amount of pages the number of cons have amounted to, features over 300 reasons to not have babies.
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One of the few pros that have been listed includes not having a period for nine months, although this isn’t the case for all women.
Other women have also taken to TikTok to make similar lists, such as @lifeofnina___, or simply “the girl with the list” on the social media platform.
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According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, since 2007, the birth rate in the US has been declining by about 2% each year on average.
Despite early speculation about a pandemic baby boom, the coronavirus crisis accelerated the decline even further, with births falling by 4% last year, as per CNN.
Moreover, Business Insider reported last year that a growing number of Americans have lost interest in becoming a parent, as a November Pew Research Center survey of 3,800-plus Americans suggested that 44% of non-parents said it’s not too likely or not likely at all they’ll have kids someday.
While some women state their careers as being more important than having children, others have said the idea of being childless has become less taboo, while others simply think it costs too much to take care of a child.
People admired Ellie’s honesty and wished more people shared their experience
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She’s thought it through. I think it’s hilarious how miserable people with children like to point and judge. We are happy. Leave us alone. Oh, and your baby stinks.
I totally support fellow women who choose to be child-free, just as I support those who choose to be parents. We've fought a long time to be able to make these choices for ourselves. However, if you choose to post a self-indulgent rant about either decision on the internet, be prepared for a slew of opinions.
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Jeez, some of the comments! "You'll regret it when you're 50", No, she won't. She'll be enjoying the lifestyle she's become accustomed to over the years while watching her parent peers struggle to finally get rid of their offspring so they can start spending their hard-earned money on themselves.
and having to start it all over again with grandkids! Nah, pass, thanks
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Is Raven your bird, your dog or your cat? I'm voting dog...
Load More Replies... She’s thought it through. I think it’s hilarious how miserable people with children like to point and judge. We are happy. Leave us alone. Oh, and your baby stinks.
I totally support fellow women who choose to be child-free, just as I support those who choose to be parents. We've fought a long time to be able to make these choices for ourselves. However, if you choose to post a self-indulgent rant about either decision on the internet, be prepared for a slew of opinions.
Load More Replies... Jeez, some of the comments! "You'll regret it when you're 50", No, she won't. She'll be enjoying the lifestyle she's become accustomed to over the years while watching her parent peers struggle to finally get rid of their offspring so they can start spending their hard-earned money on themselves.
and having to start it all over again with grandkids! Nah, pass, thanks
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