At a quick glance, most people would likely find it hard to distinguish between American and British faces, if one took away accents, fashion, and food. But it turns out none of that is necessary to identify the two, as some normal habits in the US could be deemed “rude” when in the UK.
A woman who goes by @yorkshireyank is a TikTok creator, originally American, who lives in the UK. Her content typically centers around comparing the two different countries with one another.
- An American TikTok creator in the UK highlights how a few normal US habits are often seen as rude in British culture.
- House tours are common in the US but considered unusual in the UK.
- In US restaurants, servers often take a customer's credit card away to pay, while in the UK, payment is done at the table.
A two-and-a-half-minute-long clip, which was posted yesterday, May 15, explained different etiquette rules normalized in American culture — and how they could be glaringly strange to other foreigners.
A handful of habits that are considered normal in the US can be seen as rude or off-putting in the UK, according to a woman on TikTok
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Most citizens in America tend to give tours of their homes to guests, especially if it’s their first time in the area. Showing them where they cook, do laundry, and relax in their spare time can give a sense of familiarity.
“This is something that I have personally been privy to and I’ve personally been walked around people’s homes,” she said.
But in the UK, “it’s just weird and it would be considered rude.”
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Some on social media disagreed with this particular point as they suggested that offering up a tour wasn’t poor etiquette — it just shouldn’t be expected, especially if the guest were only over for a couple of drinks.
The TikToker went on to describe how it’s fairly common for waiters and waitresses to take a customer’s debit card away from them when paying the bill at a restaurant.
House tours aren’t exactly common in the UK
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“For about a period of five to ten minutes, you have no idea where your card has been, who has touched it and what has happened to your card in that timeframe,” she explained.
In the UK and most other countries, “that just doesn’t happen.”
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“They bring the credit card reader to your table and then they do it right in front of you, so there is no chance of anyone skimming your credit card,” she added.
One person on Reddit gave a brief explanation to clarify that it’s a problem with the restaurant’s technology, rather than a cultural aspect.
“It’s because they haven’t upgraded their system in the last 5-10 years,” the comment read. “This isn’t a cultural thing, just penny pinching owners.”
Many foreigners find it strange when American staff take away their debit cards when paying in restaurants
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On the topic of food, table manners in the US and the UK seem to have vast differences.
“A lot of Americans will say that they know their table manners but you don’t know them like the Brits do, so let’s agree to disagree,” said the creator.
“You’ll be sitting on a train and the first thing you can hear are these American accents. You can hear us before you can see us.”
Lastly, the simple use of ‘thank you’ seems to be used more from those in the UK. She clarified that there are a “large chunk of Americans” who will thank strangers for everything, but there are also a good portion who would wander into a store and blurt, “Hey, where the flour?” without any intention of being rude.
“All you should just be saying is ‘Please can you tell me where the flour is?’” she suggested.
The comments provided a bit more insight on other small nit-picky things that could be frowned upon, such as whistling to get a bar staff’s attention, wearing a hat indoors, or not dressing up if invited out somewhere.
Others made sure to let the content creator know that it wasn’t just the UK who found some of these habits strange — it was many other countries, as well.
Money and fashion are other areas where the two countries differ
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@yorkshireyank Habits in the United States Which are considered rude in the uk #expat#british#American♬ original sound – yorkshireyank
“It’s not just in the UK that people think Americans are strange and rude,” one person said. “The rest of the world see it too.”
Another laughed, “It’s not just Brits that know table manner. It’s literally the rest of the world.”
“America is so backwards,” one user claimed
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What a truly terrible 'article'. Someone's taken the time to write a few words, but I still don't know what this ws about. As an American tourist i the UK none of the scant few things she mentions are about her being rude to anyone or anyone being rude to her. I don't get it.
Clickbait! Sometimes American can be loud but so can the British; anyone denying that hasn’t had to share a restaurant with a hen party or an office birthday party. The only really rude Americans I’ve come across were the woman in Vienna who chose to sit at the table next to us where the waiter/owner was helping clear up after our son had vomited profusely and demanded his immediate attention (the waiter’s, not my son’s). Who willing sits next to a table covered in vomit? Also the lady in a small seaside Italian who threatened the owner with a bad tripadvisor review because he refused to serve something which wasn’t on the menu. His response was “Ok, do that”. In my experience these weren’t typical
Load More Replies...What's with the poll this time? Whistling to get a waiter's attention is rude even here in the US.
I know. Those 2 things are sooo far apart you can't group them together 😂😂
Load More Replies...I don’t consider it rude but I don’t understand how some Americans use cutlery at the table. Cut something then transfer the fork to the right hand and eat. Lather rinse and repeat. Seems a very inefficient use of your time. Just hold the fork in your left hand and the knife in your right (unless you’re left handed of course) and the cutlery stays there while you eat. 🙂
I’m American, and was taught to keep my fork in my left hand and my knife in my right. (No, I wasn’t raised by European immigrants, both of my parents were from the US.) I love the efficiency of it, in comparison to constantly changing hands just to eat—-something I saw a more than one friend’s house and tried to copy but didn’t like. Guess I’m an outlier American who eats like a European.
Load More Replies...I lived in the UK for 10 years and people were constantly surprised to learn I'm an American because I am soft spoken.
I lived in the UK for 10 years and people were constantly surprised to learn I was an American because I am soft spoken.
I hate when they bring the card reader to the table and hover over you as you choose the tip, especially since I've seen many cases where it is incorrectly calculated based on percentage. I would very rarely tip less than 20% (have done so only twice), but if I felt it was deserved, I sure wouldn't want to do it right there in front of the server. Luckily I have nobody to go out to eat with, so none of this is a problem any more.
I must be strange but I never use the have/take/do it is extremely rude and I'm an American. A please and thank you takes no effort! I could rant about how rude Americans are in general or maybe it's undereducated in how to be polite.
I’m 64, and was raised to say please and thank you as well. Did parents stop teaching their kids manners thirty or forty years ago, or something? (Another thing I remember was being immediately corrected if I started a request with “Can” and not “May”. I would be told, “You can, but you may not.” It wasn’t until I got older that I realized there actually IS a huge difference between the two words that changes the meaning of the question. So, regardless of what may have evolved to be considered acceptable now in casual speech, it turns out the old folks who used to correct me were actually 100% right when it come to the correct use of the words themselves. Important to know if you ever find yourself speaking in a more formal setting.)
Load More Replies...One thing we had to relearn after moving to Spain was an opening line. At most parties and social functions in the US, the ice-breaker question is, "So what do you do?" That's considered rude in Europe -- people are not their job. A more appropriate question is something like, "What's the favorite place you have visited?" or "What's your favorite pastime/hobby?"
For about a period of five to ten minutes, you have no idea where your card has been, who has touched it and what has happened to your card in that timeframe,” she explained. - no we just honestly take it to the counter to pay your bill so you don’t have to get up, it may take 5mins cos there is one till and it’s being used to pay another bill and they want to split it or someone’s ordering drinks still on the till. Scouts honor only a total shitbag would do something to your card, and we most likely wouldn’t hire someone shady like that in a restaurant anyways.
In the U.K. and other places in Europe you’d have a card machine that you bring to the table. Even back in the 80s they’d bring the gadget with carbon paper to swipe your card at the table.
Load More Replies...What a truly terrible 'article'. Someone's taken the time to write a few words, but I still don't know what this ws about. As an American tourist i the UK none of the scant few things she mentions are about her being rude to anyone or anyone being rude to her. I don't get it.
Clickbait! Sometimes American can be loud but so can the British; anyone denying that hasn’t had to share a restaurant with a hen party or an office birthday party. The only really rude Americans I’ve come across were the woman in Vienna who chose to sit at the table next to us where the waiter/owner was helping clear up after our son had vomited profusely and demanded his immediate attention (the waiter’s, not my son’s). Who willing sits next to a table covered in vomit? Also the lady in a small seaside Italian who threatened the owner with a bad tripadvisor review because he refused to serve something which wasn’t on the menu. His response was “Ok, do that”. In my experience these weren’t typical
Load More Replies...What's with the poll this time? Whistling to get a waiter's attention is rude even here in the US.
I know. Those 2 things are sooo far apart you can't group them together 😂😂
Load More Replies...I don’t consider it rude but I don’t understand how some Americans use cutlery at the table. Cut something then transfer the fork to the right hand and eat. Lather rinse and repeat. Seems a very inefficient use of your time. Just hold the fork in your left hand and the knife in your right (unless you’re left handed of course) and the cutlery stays there while you eat. 🙂
I’m American, and was taught to keep my fork in my left hand and my knife in my right. (No, I wasn’t raised by European immigrants, both of my parents were from the US.) I love the efficiency of it, in comparison to constantly changing hands just to eat—-something I saw a more than one friend’s house and tried to copy but didn’t like. Guess I’m an outlier American who eats like a European.
Load More Replies...I lived in the UK for 10 years and people were constantly surprised to learn I'm an American because I am soft spoken.
I lived in the UK for 10 years and people were constantly surprised to learn I was an American because I am soft spoken.
I hate when they bring the card reader to the table and hover over you as you choose the tip, especially since I've seen many cases where it is incorrectly calculated based on percentage. I would very rarely tip less than 20% (have done so only twice), but if I felt it was deserved, I sure wouldn't want to do it right there in front of the server. Luckily I have nobody to go out to eat with, so none of this is a problem any more.
I must be strange but I never use the have/take/do it is extremely rude and I'm an American. A please and thank you takes no effort! I could rant about how rude Americans are in general or maybe it's undereducated in how to be polite.
I’m 64, and was raised to say please and thank you as well. Did parents stop teaching their kids manners thirty or forty years ago, or something? (Another thing I remember was being immediately corrected if I started a request with “Can” and not “May”. I would be told, “You can, but you may not.” It wasn’t until I got older that I realized there actually IS a huge difference between the two words that changes the meaning of the question. So, regardless of what may have evolved to be considered acceptable now in casual speech, it turns out the old folks who used to correct me were actually 100% right when it come to the correct use of the words themselves. Important to know if you ever find yourself speaking in a more formal setting.)
Load More Replies...One thing we had to relearn after moving to Spain was an opening line. At most parties and social functions in the US, the ice-breaker question is, "So what do you do?" That's considered rude in Europe -- people are not their job. A more appropriate question is something like, "What's the favorite place you have visited?" or "What's your favorite pastime/hobby?"
For about a period of five to ten minutes, you have no idea where your card has been, who has touched it and what has happened to your card in that timeframe,” she explained. - no we just honestly take it to the counter to pay your bill so you don’t have to get up, it may take 5mins cos there is one till and it’s being used to pay another bill and they want to split it or someone’s ordering drinks still on the till. Scouts honor only a total shitbag would do something to your card, and we most likely wouldn’t hire someone shady like that in a restaurant anyways.
In the U.K. and other places in Europe you’d have a card machine that you bring to the table. Even back in the 80s they’d bring the gadget with carbon paper to swipe your card at the table.
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