Becoming a parent is arguably the biggest responsibility one can bestow upon themselves. The least we can do in return is thank the folks that brought us up. Enter Lithuanian photographer Vaida Razmislavičė. To express her gratitude for everything they've done, Vaida has dedicated an entire series just for motherhood.
Becoming A Mother is a photo series that aim to show how getting pregnant and giving birth changes a woman. Vaida photographed 33 women, before and after they delivered their firstborn, and really focused on their eyes. "For this photo idea, I chose a very simple format, as if I was taking passport photos," she wrote. "I wanted to highlight my model's gaze, taking away everything that would interfere with it (i.e. the belly)."
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Same Face, Different Vibe
All these photo's have this effect. I think its manipulated with the light setup.
Load More Replies...Rename this gallery "Women before and after the slightly change their hair style and facial expressions" amazing.
is it just me, or does she look softer and kinder in the photo on the right? is it just the light, makeup and hair?
I'm a photographer... it's the lighting and could also be makeup, but primarily lighting. AND, focus is sharper. Probably a different lens.
Load More Replies...To me the photo on my left side is more sexy. On the right side one, woman looks older and more exhausted ... like the cat that was gone for two weeks and now she is back ... slimmer, and her hair is in mess ...
In summary, no facial changes, they all look the same. However, instead of their faces, it's their pussy that sure has changed.
"Raising kids is a deep experience, filled with joy, pain, exhaustion, and love," she said. "When a woman becomes a mom, she really feels her inner energy; her intuition becomes stronger, and her wisdom reaches new heights."
Vaida has gone through these changes herself. "Before my firstborn, my idea of motherhood was very different," she told Bored Panda. "To be honest, I didn't feel the motherhood instinct when I first took him into my arms. I've learned everything along the way, including ignoring old know-it-all's and growing the courage to trust my own decisions."
Fresh Cut, Fresh Perspective
She does, doesn’t she? I can relate with a colicky baby for the first 6-8 weeks. I never knew what true exhaustion felt like until I had children.
Load More Replies...The before picture she looks almost confused, or uncertain, and in the after image, she may be tired, but also looks more focused and grounded into life.
She does look tired in pic on the right, however her face itself looks fuller and more relaxed than on the left. In the left one she looks as if she is perhaps...a bit too serious/almost angry.
Amazing how the hair change seems to change the shape of her jaw....
I think you're right. She has a softer look in her eyes and her mouth shows a little bit of a smile.
Load More Replies...In the picture on the right, she's very sweet, and she has an air of self-confidence and assurance. She has inner strength. I fell in love with her.
"I came up with the idea for this project when meeting people who thought of a newborn as some sort of obstacle to the parents," the photographer said. "I wanted to show that it's possible to continue living in harmony even after having a baby." Vaida knew this from her own experience as she managed to get a Master's degree while raising two kids.
Vaida said it was really interesting seeing all of the little details that changed in just a few months. "In a way, with these beautiful photos, I ended up healing myself. Looking directly into these women's eyes, I relived giving birth to my first son. All of the traumas and fears that I locked somewhere inside myself came back, only to vanish in the process. I realized the journey I've been on as a mother. The fruits that I'm reaping today now that my boys are almost all grown up."
Before and After Mood Shift
"I took my time before making this project public," she added. "I would turn on these photos every day, however, it felt like it wasn't the right time. It was as if the series was waiting for its own birth. I had to stop criticizing myself over it. This period was a lot like the time when you're waiting for someone to be born. And it was over the same way, too: you can't control it, you just have to let go and believe that it will happen when it needs to."
Double Take Dilemma
This is how curly my hair used to be. Then I had a few Brazilian Blowouts and now my hair grows straight. I miss my curls!
Idk if any of y'all know Julie Murphy, the book character, but this is always how I pictured her <3
Vaida is very grateful to all of the participants. Especially for their patience. The 33 women that stood in front of her camera gave birth to 36 children, including three pairs of twins. In total, 20 boys and 16 girls. Some of them have already celebrated their first birthday.
Seeing Double Trouble
I also asked this question. Child is with one colour :)
Load More Replies...Beautiful eyes, but I find many mothers looking much older after a baby.
The question is: when were both photo's taken. How old was the child at the after photo? Two months, two years, twelve years?
Load More Replies...IMO...She just looks young/light/carefree in left photo...'tho her hairstyle may add to that. On the right...she appears more settled/self-confident/self-assured! She is very attractive in both photos, esp w/her beautiful, unique eyes.
After she released the project, a few people criticized it for its post production. They said it's what makes the photos differ from one another. And while Vaida agrees it contributed to the overall effect, it was just a small part of it. "At first, I was worried about the lighting. I took the before and after photos in different studios (I used whatever spaces I could get) and even thought I could've faked the first batch of portraits, I didn't want to do it. For this project, I used only natural lighting and because of my lack of experience I forgot that the angle of sunlight in summer and winter are different. Also, things like reflections and the number of windows came into play. I retouched only very little details in post production, though. Now, if I could do it all over again, I'd use artificial lighting, trying to maintain the same conditions for every shoot." The photographer said she welcomes every comment that can help her get better.
Two Sides, One Story
From all of these I gather Lithuania is the land of stunning eyes. Is what I learned.
I am Lithuanian and my eyes are a stunning light green.
Load More Replies...Subtle Shifts, Big Vibes
Weight gain. Plus bags under her eyes. Doesn't matter in any other way bar it's being presented as something it isn't.
Load More Replies...Can't make comparisons when you keep changing the light. Notice the highlight on the left cheek in the second photo... utterly flat light on the first. This whole thing is badly done.
Curly vs. Straight Showdown
This just means she doesn't have any time to do her hair anymore lmao
Load More Replies...Maybe she doesn’t have the time to curl it anymore
Load More Replies...Spotted the Difference?
She just died her hair. She doesn't look like a before and after picture.
Natural Glow Shift
bar the wider parting from hairloss. common problem unfortunately.
Load More Replies...Smiling in both but yet looks happier and healthier in the second one.
again... blurr filter in first and contrast filter in second picture...
Glow Up Goals
Having a baby makes our hair grow healthy and strong. It gives our hair shine.
Almost every one of these women look more grounded and present as Moms.
She looks so much happier in the one on the left and her eyes are brighter. :)
Double Take Vibes
blurr and contrast filter lol wtf this photo serie is absolute b******t
Subtle Glow Up
Amazing how lighting can chanche the faces. I wonder if they use the same lipstick before and after or if it's a light effect as well.
That lipstick is definitely the same in both. It just looks different in contrast to her foundation which is darker/not highlighted in the Before pic
Load More Replies...It is unfortunately. Having a baby is extremely hard on the body. Both during the pregnancy and for a very long time after!
Load More Replies...Oh Dear! She lost her hair and that happens sometimes when pregnant.
I meant more of an internal light - not a reflection. You know when people say "your smile goes all the way to your eyes"? Like that.😊
That's a difference in lighting. You can see the reflection and intensity of the lighting change. I actually find this entire post to be misleading partly because of that.
Load More Replies...Mood Switch Up
Lighting and smiling. Both are easily achieved regardless of babies. This post is such rubbish.
Load More Replies...They've matured at least about ~9 months, so... 😅
Load More Replies...the one on the left looks sad and depressed, while the one on the right looks full of life and happy
Double Take Duo
It's because she has one eye that's slightly less open than the other- I have the same thing- most people think I'm pissed off all the time but it's just the structure of the face. I try to make up for it by being extra kind ( and I have a good sense of humor) but it's honestly caused me to have many stupid misunderstandings in my life. Could be worse
Load More Replies...She has such pretty eyes! I really don't get the negative comments, even if her one eye looks slightly narrowed, her eyes themselves have a kind look about them.
this one looks like she is angry with the world, I am sure she isn't but that's what I see
Subtle Changes, Big Differences
She is beautiful. In the 2nd picture her face is softer and happier. You would think she would look at least a little more tired after baby but she doesn't.
Two Shades of Thought
this woman looks older in the one on the left and much more happier in the one on the right
Faces of Subtle Change
Now here is a picture of a real mom! On the right exhausted, unkempt, and needs a nap.
These photos have different light. The one on the left is more fuzzy (less focus) and the lighting is very different. In all of them
Subtle Shades of Expression
I don't think women who haven't undergone pregnancy are less feminine and beautiful compared to if they (or other women) had...also as many knowledgeable people in the comments have pointed out, these photos have been taken under misleadingly different conditions, skewing the comparison to serve the photographer's intended message
Load More Replies...Before and After Magic
I agree. On the right her face looks brighter and her cheeks look pinker. The new hair color softens everything!!
Yes, in both but the colour on the right suits her skin tone better. Although that might be the lighting as well, but I don't think so.
Load More Replies...Same Face, New Vibes
I'm not saying this to be mean, but she looks a bit cross-eyed in the second picture. Strange.
Two Sides, One Story
less makeup, more of her natural features. I actually like that trend...seeing less makeup and such.
Load More Replies...Glow Up Goals
Fresh Look, Same Confidence
Two Sides of the Same Story
Fresh Cut, Fresh Vibes
Subtle Shifts in Expression
You can totally tell she has gone through a life changing experience such as birthing a child. Oh no wait she changed her hair.
For a moment I thought you were serious with that bollocks!
Load More Replies...This is an interesting project, all of your models have a different look to them. It’s the people that comment that I find irritating as they are either trying to be funny or so conditioned to focusing on the superficial that they don’t see the difference.
Two Sides, One Story
Subtle Changes, Big Impact
Fresh Faces, Same Vibes
I think it's a bad dye job - looks dull and dry and the colour doesn't really go with her skin tone in the second photo. That or the baby robbed her hair of it's sheen.
Load More Replies...1. Natural Glow Upgrade 2. From Blank to Bright 3. Subtle Power Shift 4. Light Touch Magic 5. Fresh Face, Who’s This? 6. Glow That Speaks Volumes 7. Effortlessly Refined 8. The Soft Transformation
It's harder work than people realise - but does look nice when behaving itself!!
Load More Replies...Very Sarah Jessica Parker! I am so envious of her curls! My hair is so straight and boring.
I have long curly hair and I could teach her how to add the curls from the top as well.
Seeing Double Trouble
Seeing Double, Different Vibes
Yep, I checked and bp is going to personally email you as soon as the last woman has her third to fourth child.
Load More Replies...Is there more research material? Where I can find more such a research?
are black women not real women? i’m not even a race baiter but we are routinely forgotten, as if we’re a separate category of woman.
This is from Lithuania. Would you say that about a japanese project with only asian women?
Load More Replies...All I looked at were their eyes. U can see it in their eyes...the joy and pride shine thru! Our kid turned out to be the most sweet, kind and tender hearted kid I know. She got the best of both of us.
The only difference I see is that they purposely put less contrast in the pictures on the left. Either that or lighting conditions are very different between pictures making this entire project pretty worthless.
Maybe this is just me, but I don't see any difference at all. What are we supposed to be seeing?
Most of them, have a more relaxed demeanor and seem more genuinely soft.
Load More Replies...I don't understand, their faces look no different basically. Their faces and skin look flawless, I had ny baby almost 10 months ago and still have bad rosacea on my face and my face is still fuller. During my pregnancy and when I had her my face was much fatter. I don't think these are true, with all those women none of them have minor imperfections from pregnancy? I don't think so.
Not No One - Re the rosacea try Azelaic Acid. It reduces redness and inflammation. It can help acne too Marketa.
Load More Replies...Sooo... long story short for those who didn't read the text: the amateur photographer taking the portraits used different studios AND different lighting for the before and after pics — hence the differences (albeit minor). Ridiculous post.
Basically giving birth gives you a fancier hairstyle, better makeup and the hue around you (including the backdrop) gets warmer and softer. Wow - amazing 😅
Deceptive, bad Photoshop/LightRoom editing. The photographer deliberately kept contrast and sharpness low on the left, and added contrast and sharpness to the right, especially around the eyes. This contrast also provides more saturated appearance. What a sad and petty thing to do to attempt to fool an audience.
It would be interesting to offer these same photos as a Before-and-After guessing game to see what answers people would come up with. What was the event in the middle? Graduated college? Changed marital status? Got a new job? Cancer survivor? Nothing really? Can you spot the phonies? Etc., etc. ... Just because you’re told what the difference was and you believe it, are you perhaps reading something into their faces that isn’t really there?
The only difference I see is that they purposely put less contrast in the pictures on the left. Either that or lighting conditions are very different between pictures making this entire project pretty worthless.
Maybe this is just me, but I don't see any difference at all. What are we supposed to be seeing?
Most of them, have a more relaxed demeanor and seem more genuinely soft.
Load More Replies...I don't understand, their faces look no different basically. Their faces and skin look flawless, I had ny baby almost 10 months ago and still have bad rosacea on my face and my face is still fuller. During my pregnancy and when I had her my face was much fatter. I don't think these are true, with all those women none of them have minor imperfections from pregnancy? I don't think so.
Not No One - Re the rosacea try Azelaic Acid. It reduces redness and inflammation. It can help acne too Marketa.
Load More Replies...Sooo... long story short for those who didn't read the text: the amateur photographer taking the portraits used different studios AND different lighting for the before and after pics — hence the differences (albeit minor). Ridiculous post.
Basically giving birth gives you a fancier hairstyle, better makeup and the hue around you (including the backdrop) gets warmer and softer. Wow - amazing 😅
Deceptive, bad Photoshop/LightRoom editing. The photographer deliberately kept contrast and sharpness low on the left, and added contrast and sharpness to the right, especially around the eyes. This contrast also provides more saturated appearance. What a sad and petty thing to do to attempt to fool an audience.
It would be interesting to offer these same photos as a Before-and-After guessing game to see what answers people would come up with. What was the event in the middle? Graduated college? Changed marital status? Got a new job? Cancer survivor? Nothing really? Can you spot the phonies? Etc., etc. ... Just because you’re told what the difference was and you believe it, are you perhaps reading something into their faces that isn’t really there?
