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“Creepy And Cringe”: Woman’s ‘Feminist’ Tattoo Rule For Every Man She Sleeps With Divides The Internet
Harriet Richardson, a 30-year-old content creator known for building entire “performance pieces” out of her dating life, has unveiled her most recent stunt: tattooing the names of every ex-lover’s mother onto her torso.
The revelation came during an interview after Richardson spent months quietly preparing the piece, titled Temporary.
Highlights
- The artist says the tattoo merges “disposable” and “revered” womanhood in a single performance piece.
- The project sparked backlash, with critics calling it obsessive, self-centered, and ethically questionable.
- Richardson now uses the tattoo as a dating filter, requiring future partners to give their mother’s name up front.
According to her, the tattoos are meant to represent the tension between women who are revered, such as mothers, and women who are not, such as, in her words, “wh*res.”
By inscribing the name of every “mother-in-law” she’s ever had, she’s placing those women on a pedestal while casting herself in the role of the “disposable” one.
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Richardson says the idea took shape during her first Edinburgh Fringe, one of the world’s largest arts festivals, where she found herself surrounded by male comedians.
While she never specified what any of them actually did to trigger her, their mere existence irritated her, and, as is consistent with her brand, she used that irritation as creative inspiration.
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“I have genuinely started to believe that God put them on the earth to annoy ideas out of me,” she said, picturing the men as divine-given tools existing for the sole purpose of inspiring her.
From there, her thinking veered into what she calls the “Madonna-Wh*re complex:” women she believes men treat as disposable versus women they place on pedestals.
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The idea led her to the next step: assigning her own body to the “disposable” category and elevating her ex-lovers’ mothers to the “revered” role.
She then decided to “merge” the two by tattooing the mothers’ names onto herself.
Richardson selected fourteen names, covering every relationship she counts as significant, “all the way from her first teenage boyfriend to her most recent break-up.”
“I was very conscious not to use men’s names,” she said. “The people that are, arguably, more important to me than the men. The women who raised them.”
Richardson resorted to online stalking and even hiring private investigators to get the full names of all of the mothers
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Finding the names became its own fixation. Twelve came easily from memory and old diaries, for the rest she resorted to less conventional methods.
Two came from stalking the social media of her exes, and two from hiring a private investigator, a decision she defended.
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“It’s open access information and free will,” she said. “It’s not invasive. You can’t say it’s unethical. Or at least, it’s no more unethical than having s*x with me and then not speaking to me again.”
She even used an excuse from a man who had ghosted her, claiming he’d forgotten a date because of his dad’s birthday, to extract both parents’ names. “As soon as he said it, I went and wrote the name down in, like, 10 places.”
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Richardson then reframed the tattoo from a record of past partners into a tool for “screening” future ones.
Any man who wants to date her must give his mother’s name upfront, fully aware of what she intends to do with it. If they end up sleeping together, she said she will go straight to a tattoo studio the next morning and have the name permanently added to the list.
“It’s a hard boundary that I now have to exercise,” she explained. “It means they see the real me very quickly. They can’t have s*x with me unless they know me.”
The rest of the influencer’s content range from suggestive photos, to exaggerated claims about her love life
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Richardson, who describes herself as a feminist and someone “addicted” to intimacy, dismissed critics who questioned the tattoos as self-objectification.
“I feel like I’m taking control and power back. I don’t really have much else to say apart from: it was my choice. There’s nothing more feminist than a woman making a choice about her own body.”
Six months later, she says she has grown attached to the list. She jokes about imagining the mothers all “squished together” with her in the shower or running with her at the gym.
“None of them chose to be connected,” she said. “But now they are.”
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Beyond the tattoos, the rest of Richardson’s career revolves around exaggerated, self-centered stories.
These include claims such as going on “100 dates in a day,” “yearning for 1000 men in 24 hours,” announcing sudden celibacy, or even fabricating a fake romance with Mark Zuckerberg.
Every project has one thing in common: she’s at the center of the narrative. Perhaps most emblematic of her brand is an image in which she’s seen making out with herself.
“Cringe.” Netizens took to social media to share their thoughts on Richardson’s tattoo
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Shoopyfloop Roundbird 3 weeks ago
Ok so what happenes when two dude's mom have the same name? Is she getting mary added to the list twice or maybe just making tally marks next to it?
Skogsrået 3 weeks ago (edited)
Not saying yes or no to this but i noticed that alot of people are bringing up the example of imagine sleeping with someone and they did something like this. But that was not the case here, she is basing this on relationships she has had that were meaningful to her. Not one night stands. And what happend with my body my choice? I find it weirder that couples get matching tattoos after knowing each other a week.
Beef Brisket 2 weeks ago
It's a list of 14 men and their moms who are now thanking their lucky stars.
nottheactualphoto 3 weeks ago
And wouldn't she be so much prettier if she did! (Sarcasm, in case it's not obvious)
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Gebidozo 2 weeks ago (edited)
I don’t think this is art, and there is a definite cringe factor here, but there is also something interesting in the idea. Madonna / w***e complex is indeed a terrible psychological remnant of patriarchy, which is still greatly damaging women and men alike. It’s a good thing to be thought-provoking about it, even in such a strange way.
Cla Ida 2 weeks ago
"self-centered", well, it IS her body. It's even less self-centered than a vast number of tattoos, since she did it partly to honor those women above herself. While I don't appreciate the esthetics of it, it can be thought-provoking to conflate the permanent and temporary. I think it can be interesting to wonder sometimes "is this relevant enough for me to intricate the name of the most permanent of my relationships with this situation". Also a MUCH better performance art than bothering people in public places to be the center of attention, she's frankly making a lowkey, non-invasive point. Body performance was once HUGE, she's using this media in a much more palatable way than Gina Pane for instance (although I preferred the latter). With that being said, it's not ground-breaking for me, I mean, the theory of the mom and the w***e has been around for a long time so I will probably forget her name in a few days.
StretcherBearer 3 weeks ago
It's art I love performance art when executed well. This is done well. I personally don't like it, but the concept and e*******n is done well. All artists have a bit of self centered qualities because art is showing your intimate self with people who are going to react and much of that is going to be critical to downright violent hatred. She's just a little more on the body art exhibition spectrum where I hide behind anonymity but we're sharing our selves with an often indifferent world. But hey we chose this.
StretcherBearer 3 weeks ago
E x ecution! Ya know done real good. Ugh broad strokes censorship makes gives me angry diarrhea.
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Lee Gilliland 3 weeks ago
Self-centeredness sells art, though. I don't think she's gonna make it though, not original enough.
TheWickedOne 2 weeks ago
Two things... 1) They are not evenly spaced and they look stupid. 2) I wonder what the comments would be if this was male and tattooed his lover's mother's names on him.. I am betting they wouldn't be "so artistic", "art in its truest form"... lmao. What a PSYCHO!!
Bookworm 2 weeks ago (edited)
What strikes me is the fact that she doesn't get consent from these women to use their names this way. It's one thing if you simply like the name. It's another when it's specifically for an actual person. You need their consent for that. And what's to prevent a guy from giving you a fake name? Personally if someone told me they wanted a parents name as "a test" to tattoo on themselves I'd give a fake name and once they show it to me break up with them. Nice when the red flags announce themselves up front.
Jean Jacket 2 weeks ago
Absolutely insane which makes it even more powerful. Loving the men that are creeped out by this. The women seem to get it.
Gordon 3 weeks ago
So, let's put this shoe on the other foot...if a Man tattoed a Woman's Fathers name on him in honor of him shagging her, Women, worldwide would call for legislation to outlaw the pratice. BUT a so-called activist does it, it automatically gets called "art" and gets celebrated. Hypocrisy at it's finest.
Shoopyfloop Roundbird 3 weeks ago
Ok so what happenes when two dude's mom have the same name? Is she getting mary added to the list twice or maybe just making tally marks next to it?
Skogsrået 3 weeks ago (edited)
Not saying yes or no to this but i noticed that alot of people are bringing up the example of imagine sleeping with someone and they did something like this. But that was not the case here, she is basing this on relationships she has had that were meaningful to her. Not one night stands. And what happend with my body my choice? I find it weirder that couples get matching tattoos after knowing each other a week.
Beef Brisket 2 weeks ago
It's a list of 14 men and their moms who are now thanking their lucky stars.
nottheactualphoto 3 weeks ago
And wouldn't she be so much prettier if she did! (Sarcasm, in case it's not obvious)
Load More Replies... Gebidozo 2 weeks ago (edited)
I don’t think this is art, and there is a definite cringe factor here, but there is also something interesting in the idea. Madonna / w***e complex is indeed a terrible psychological remnant of patriarchy, which is still greatly damaging women and men alike. It’s a good thing to be thought-provoking about it, even in such a strange way.
Cla Ida 2 weeks ago
"self-centered", well, it IS her body. It's even less self-centered than a vast number of tattoos, since she did it partly to honor those women above herself. While I don't appreciate the esthetics of it, it can be thought-provoking to conflate the permanent and temporary. I think it can be interesting to wonder sometimes "is this relevant enough for me to intricate the name of the most permanent of my relationships with this situation". Also a MUCH better performance art than bothering people in public places to be the center of attention, she's frankly making a lowkey, non-invasive point. Body performance was once HUGE, she's using this media in a much more palatable way than Gina Pane for instance (although I preferred the latter). With that being said, it's not ground-breaking for me, I mean, the theory of the mom and the w***e has been around for a long time so I will probably forget her name in a few days.
StretcherBearer 3 weeks ago
It's art I love performance art when executed well. This is done well. I personally don't like it, but the concept and e*******n is done well. All artists have a bit of self centered qualities because art is showing your intimate self with people who are going to react and much of that is going to be critical to downright violent hatred. She's just a little more on the body art exhibition spectrum where I hide behind anonymity but we're sharing our selves with an often indifferent world. But hey we chose this.
StretcherBearer 3 weeks ago
E x ecution! Ya know done real good. Ugh broad strokes censorship makes gives me angry diarrhea.
Load More Replies... Lee Gilliland 3 weeks ago
Self-centeredness sells art, though. I don't think she's gonna make it though, not original enough.
TheWickedOne 2 weeks ago
Two things... 1) They are not evenly spaced and they look stupid. 2) I wonder what the comments would be if this was male and tattooed his lover's mother's names on him.. I am betting they wouldn't be "so artistic", "art in its truest form"... lmao. What a PSYCHO!!
Bookworm 2 weeks ago (edited)
What strikes me is the fact that she doesn't get consent from these women to use their names this way. It's one thing if you simply like the name. It's another when it's specifically for an actual person. You need their consent for that. And what's to prevent a guy from giving you a fake name? Personally if someone told me they wanted a parents name as "a test" to tattoo on themselves I'd give a fake name and once they show it to me break up with them. Nice when the red flags announce themselves up front.
Jean Jacket 2 weeks ago
Absolutely insane which makes it even more powerful. Loving the men that are creeped out by this. The women seem to get it.
Gordon 3 weeks ago
So, let's put this shoe on the other foot...if a Man tattoed a Woman's Fathers name on him in honor of him shagging her, Women, worldwide would call for legislation to outlaw the pratice. BUT a so-called activist does it, it automatically gets called "art" and gets celebrated. Hypocrisy at it's finest.
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