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Guy Left In Tears After Trying To Grope Woman, But Not Everyone Agrees She Has Right To Fight Back Like That
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Guy Left In Tears After Trying To Grope Woman, But Not Everyone Agrees She Has Right To Fight Back Like That

Ladies, too many of us have been there. We’re just having a drink at the bar, or dancing at the club, and some jerk comes over and starts putting his hands wherever he pleases. It just happened to Krystal Olsen, a bartender from New York who works in Arizona, but the way she handled it is something we all need to take notes on.

In the aftermath of the incident, the creep ended up arrested and, hilariously, crying on the ground. His impromptu phone camera mugshot has gone insanely viral on Twitter, with almost 80 thousand retweets and over 355 thousand likes. Though some negative reactions have rolled in from people who clearly don’t understand the meaning of sexual assault, Krystal has been overwhelmingly praised, and her experience is highly teachable.

It’s horrible and shameful that women in 2017 still live with the constant threat of sexual assault, but it’s a reality we don’t have to accept quietly. Learning to defend ourselves is an indispensable skill that can stop attackers in their tracks, and these 5 simple moves are a great place to start. Find out what Krystal did below, read the Internet’s reactions, then add yours at the end!

This NY woman bartending in Arizona had a rough Saturday night, and the result of it has gone viral

The overwhelming majority of the Twittersphere gave her a well-deserved standing ovation…

… But some people were a little unclear on the definition of sexual assault, and had other thoughts

With sexual assault still a top concern for women in 2017, self-defense is more necessary than ever

What do you think? Was she right to fight back, or did she go too far? Tell us in the comments!

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Michel M. Prins
Community Member
5 years ago

Got what he deserved. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

Not My Name
Community Member
5 years ago

I love that response!!!

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Dan H
Community Member
5 years ago

Did she have a right? I think she had a right, then a left, followed by a quick right-left combo.

Morganna
Community Member
5 years ago

Love your comment! :D

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Sijan Kolay
Community Member
5 years ago

what she did was right!!

Valentina
Community Member
5 years ago

Indeed! It is called "self defense".She has the right to defend her PRIVATE parts. She has also avoided the typical "misunderstanding" according to which speaking the word "no" is not enough to stop an unwanted behavior. No one would argue about her reaction had he tried to steal her wallet. She has the right to protect her body and preserve her well-being, she could do it by herself and I hope the moron sitting on the sidewalk has learned a lesson.

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Iris Jans
Community Member
5 years ago

A guy grabbed my ass last week and when I called him out on it he said it was my fault because when girls go out, they should expect to be slapped on the ass. In hindsight I wish i would've gone all terminator on him.

Ágnes Királyházi
Community Member
5 years ago

What's wrong with these people???? Expect to be slapped on the ass????? wtf

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Wezbie
Community Member
5 years ago

Maybe it seems imbalanced but enough is enough. Even if she used a chokehold, she is doing it for all the other poor girls that have been groped by him. All the men thinking it is an extreme reaction - Well I wonder how they would react with another man groping his junk. I can tell you its a pretty horrific feeling.

Nanette Cordell
Community Member
5 years ago

Perfect comment.... for those guys who say its only a grope... WWYD if a guy grabbed your junk... just slap him and say don't touch me? bwahaha... yeah right.....

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Petra Christovová
Community Member
5 years ago

Serves him right. I totally do not get this modern comprehension and sympathy with criminals and perverts. Thumbs up, Krystal

Lynn Donovan
Community Member
5 years ago

He will probably never do that again = she did right! I am so sick of people saying that we should just accept the fact that our asses/boobs are there for other people to grab. I was riding the metro on New Year's Eve. It was full of people. A guy tried to put his finger up my assh*le. No kidding. His f*cking finger up my assh*le. "Lucky for me" (and i HATE saying that) I was wearing pants so he didn't succeed. When I confronted him, he genuinely didn't understand what was wrong with his behaviour. He just stood there, smiling like an idiot, saying "it was just for fun". And I did nothing except yelling at him in front of everybody. The worst part is that when people asks me if I've ever been sexually assaulted, the first thing I say is "Never have been" because I genuinely forget that it happened, and that what happened is a serious offence.

zef rose
Community Member
5 years ago

If we call groping like it is -- and it IS -- sexual assault, then I have been sexually assaulted hundreds of times in my life. If women begin to answer that question honestly (instead of assuming that "sexual assault" only means forced penetration, which has its own word: rape), the statistics will begin to show it, which may lead to some real education for boys in school. Because groping can certainly lead to rape, as "locker room talk" leads to groping. It is a matter of teaching men respect while they are still boys. And women (and girls) should definitely be encouraged to fight back.

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Ed Mo
Community Member
5 years ago

It is all about consent. Without it you're a criminal, it's that simple. This is one thing that is perfectly black or white, there is no gray area.

Jenna Bois
Community Member
5 years ago

"The difference between boxing and physical assault is consent"

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Becca hill
Community Member
5 years ago

I'm a barmaid and I've had men grab my ass, look down my top wen I'm cleaning tables and making me purposely get the item on the lowest shelf soo I'll bend over! I've had inappropriate things sed to me and wen I've challenged these people I'm told I'm the one wit the problem cause it's jus banter or that it's what I brought on myself cause I was nice while serving them or smiled and laughed at them! Even tho its part of my job! It's sexual assault wen u put ur hands on someone without permission n it's not ur problem it's the person doing it! Everyone should respect others personal boundaries! I personally think this guy had what he deserved! Women r not playthings r asshole men who believe they can get away everything! Good on her i say

Candice Goddard
Community Member
5 years ago

Ok so there was a restaurant in Scotland where the waiters used to wear kilts. Women kept going there and lifting up the men's kilts to get a look at what lurked beneath because they believed that the men weren't wearing any underwear. The women claimed all the things you say men said to you and eventually the waiters uniforms were changed. So long as you agree that men aren't playthings either and that the waiters would have had the same right to violently retaliate against the women who had sexually assaulted them then you and I are on the same page. So do you agree?

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Denali Kincaid
Community Member
5 years ago

Choose the behavior you choose the consequences. He chose unwisely.

Craig Reynolds
Community Member
5 years ago

I don't care who the parties involved are. You do NOT grab, fondle, rub or otherwise inappropriately touch another person without permission. If you do then you deserve whatever happens to you.

Ibuki Ootsuka
Community Member
5 years ago

I guarantee if the roles were reversed ie he put her in a choke hold after she grabbed his ass HE would be getting arrested !

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Batya Livni
Community Member
5 years ago

Here in Israel, people are constantly advised to take Krav-Maga lessons. While it's meant more often as a measure of defense against terrorists, we are also taught not to be gentle with perverts, either. I encourage all women to learn self-defence. It can no only prevent rape, it can save lives.

Leni
Community Member
5 years ago

I want to take krav-maga lessons but I'm pretty flimsy lol I'll probably end up hurting myself.

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Michael Miller Jr
Community Member
5 years ago

"Did she go too far???" Honestly, I find that to be rather a stupid question (and yes, I get that it's intended to incite discussion). Only if she put him in the hospital with his life on the line. If ALL he did was grope her, that's going too far. But by simply responding and giving him a whooping? No, not too far at all. I would have approved his getting knocked out cold.

Raducan Dragos
Community Member
5 years ago

What if the genders were reversed? I'm guessing you would have the same opinion, right? I mean... equality and all. If you are able to chokehold a person like that you are not afraid for your safety, you're just doing it because you're pissed. The guy is garbage yea, but she overreacted. You do realize there are limits to self defence, right? Again, if the genders were reversed the guy would still be the one arrested.

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Shana
Community Member
5 years ago

There was a news article about the Tour de France, where several hostesses came out talking about being groped and treated horrible by the people there. Several of the reactions on the article were "If you can't handle being touched, get another job." or "They probably asked for it by the way they dress." There's a very big difference between an accidental touch, or actually grabbing someone boobs or butt. Seriously, there seems to be this sickening trend on blaming the victims here. Serves this guy right though. Men like him should learn that you don't grope women (or men!). Even if someone is naked, that doesn't give anyone the right to touch them.

Adrijana Radosevic
Community Member
5 years ago

I wonder if anyone's been grabbing the cyclists's dicks, see as they are asking for it judging by how they dress...

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Katinka Min
Community Member
5 years ago

It's the year 2017 and we are discussing if a woman has a right to defend herself when a man wants to grab her ass. :-(

Jacqueline Esther
Community Member
5 years ago

IKR it's ridiculous.

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Olga Śmiełowska
Community Member
5 years ago

that is sexual assault. period. the guy who said that "he only touched you once" should be stabbed. once. it;s not a crime it it only happened one time right?

Ben Bout
Community Member
5 years ago

It is a crime, but should you commit a crime in response?

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Not My Name
Community Member
5 years ago

What she did was what every woman should do. If a guy doesn't know the definition of sexual assault he will by the end of that response. And maybe the dumb ass won't sexually assault someone again.

John Billigmeier
Community Member
5 years ago

In "stand your ground" states, she could have killed him. I think she showed remarkable restraint.

Mina Dugener
Community Member
5 years ago

All the comments that she went too far to defend herself... No. She didn't. Not even close. He. Sexually. Assaulted. Her. She defended herself. When he didn't take the hint that his bullshit was not tolerated and instead escalated the situation by SLAMMING HER INTO A WALL. He got arrested. He. Got. What. He. Deserved. And he is damn lucky the bouncer didn't get hold of him or he'd be even worse off. NO Man is allowed to just help himself to a woman's body. At Best that is assault. At worst it can be Rape. So No. She didn't go too far. If anything she was cool under pressure and did not actually hurt him. But he sure did when he slammed her into a wall like an immature little sex offender didn't he?

Sheralyn
Community Member
5 years ago

Serious question for the guys: Would you prefer being in a chokehold, or a hard knee to the balls?

Sheralyn
Community Member
5 years ago

If you were forced to choose that is.

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Ken Bateman
Community Member
5 years ago

So Lil Bobby Blade if I come grab your wife's ass,that's ok then is it.Send us a pic of her so I can see what she looks like,just to see if it's worth me coming over to the states.Dumbass.

Sarah Lennie
Community Member
5 years ago

Wish I have of had the guts to do that to the guy who put his hand up my skirt when I was 22 & at a bar. Sometimes pushing away isn't enough

Joyce Lyle
Community Member
5 years ago

Of course he deserved it! I bet the only people who said he didn't are guilty of doing the same thing to other people.

Teija
Community Member
5 years ago

I bet he will think twice before doing that again!

Ray Lebowski
Community Member
5 years ago

You assume that he can think.

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Lyndsey Konya
Community Member
5 years ago

It was wholly appropriate and the same would be for females who grab males, sexual assault on anyone is NEVER okay!

Rich McCormick
Community Member
5 years ago

Straight dudes, gay dudes... it's all the same game.. they see something they like and their hands do the talking sometimes. I've been groped myself in gay bars. When I was young horny all the time it was fine but as I matured I would just either give them shade or I'd say "my body and your not invited" and they would look at me like there was something wrong with me. NOPE, you have the problem. Woman or man, gay or straight, you keep your hands to yourself unless your invited too touch. PERIOD! Dude got what he deserved, choke hold and the arrest .... tears of one that knows he wasn't on the right side of history with his groping hands. Embarrassed? GOOD, learn you lesson BOY!

Chris Heller
Community Member
5 years ago

Can't do the time? Then don't do the crime! How about the guy just takes responsibility Foa a change!

Leni
Community Member
5 years ago

All you guys asking if it would've been ok if the roles were reversed don't understand what it's like to feel threatened by a man.

Daniel Real
Community Member
5 years ago

The simple fact that she managed to put him in a chokehold, clearly shows that the guy wasn’t a threat. He grabbed her ass, but it’s not like if he was about to rape her or something (this deserved a slap or a kick in the balls in my opinion). But the point is that it’s you who doesn’t understand the situation: there was no threat, the guy’s strength wasn’t even something to worry about; and yes, it shows a huge double standard that you think this is ok and that reversing the roles requires a completely different measurement.

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Bernadette Walter
Community Member
5 years ago

Serves the prick right, gets away with it once he'll do it again and push it further and further until one day he will full on rape a woman. Slappinging a guy does nothing and for the 2 particular males in this story that commented and obviously think rape culture is ok, I'll shove my hand up your ass and I won't deserve to be jailed because come on I only touched you once. F**king scumbags.

ADHORTATOR
Community Member
5 years ago

Well done! My daughter is 14 years old and I am very happy that she is this kind of Girl too!

José Alejandro Díaz Bravo
Community Member
5 years ago

Men are told all the time (in media, in school, with their pairs) that they deserve to have a woman, like women are things that you can HAVE. That's the origin of this behavior... sad but true...

Robyn Rizzi
Community Member
5 years ago

In the 80s this happened to me ... the first "grab" got a look and a warning not to do it again. The second grab got him a broken nose. Unless you are invited to do so, do not touch the breasts or ass! 'Nuff said.

Martin Forbes
Community Member
5 years ago

Unwanted, touching on private body parts is wrong. However, instead of just simply fighting back against the attackers, why isn't there more education on why its wrong, what it does to the other person, how it make them feel and would they like it done to members of their own family ? All this talk of only fighting back just misses the point - people do this because they believe it's a harmless bit of fun and there's no victim because they feel it's not a crime. Well educate the beliefs and you'll get better results. Hopefully.

Nymiko Choi
Community Member
5 years ago

There should be more education on why its wrong. No one is minimizing the necessity of that. What we're discussing here is if she was in the right fighting back or not.

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ivett cser
Community Member
5 years ago

How this was handled is a bit rough and sudden for sure. However, it is hard to understand if you rarely if ever experience it. Its happened to loads to of times personally even when I am with my amle buds. But then again, I learned very quickly how to shut these individuals down with words. She did good, extreme but good.

Jeannette Jarrar
Community Member
5 years ago

You say this is extreme okay but extreme. Then you go on to say this has happened to you loads of times, even with male friends present, but you have learned to shut them down with words. Tell me if your words are so effective, why is it happening loads of times, even with other men present?

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Danny Wade
Community Member
5 years ago

Imagine it's an action movie and she's a big, sweaty guy, and the grabber walks up and just pokes him in the chest with a finger while making a smart remark. Grabber gets his throat ripped out, audience feels satisfied. Nobody says, "All he did was poke you and use some words."

Ben Bout
Community Member
5 years ago

though, that would be fiction

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Mary Alagna
Community Member
5 years ago

Because, guys, let's face it... if some random guy grabbed your ass, you'd defend your right to punch him with your last breath.

Ben Bout
Community Member
5 years ago

that would definitely not be my first reaction

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Patricia Rix
Community Member
5 years ago

Way to go, girl! When my daughter was 7 she began having trouble with a boy in her class trying to choke her & kiss her at the same time. I thought about what I would do if this boy's dad did that to me, and told her what my reaction would be. Next day I asked, How did it go with [that boy] today, and she replied confidently, "I did what you said. I belted him." Don't mess with my girls!

Cynthia McCarver
Community Member
5 years ago

All heroes don't wear capes. I LOVE THIS WOMAN!!!

Wendy Hooker
Community Member
5 years ago

Thirty years ago, I was assaulted in a subway station on my way to work, in broad daylight, : the guy came up behind me and put a hand over my mouth and dragged me behind a pillar. I left him bleeding, doubled over, and crying like a bitch. Did I feel good about it? No, I threw up. But I'd do it again, and again, and again. She did what she had to do, good for her.

Trevor Hill
Community Member
5 years ago

Excellent, well done. It isn't nice, though, is it? I hate violence, not least because I get mad at someone for making me resort to it. Stay safe.

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Andrew Cas
Community Member
5 years ago

I agree she should kick his ask but what about when I met my girlfriends Nanna, when we met she hugged me gropped my ass and looked at my girlfriend and said you've got a cute one here! Should I have gone hulk on Nanna?

Sven Thomalla
Community Member
5 years ago

Did he have the right to grope her ass? No. Did she have the right to defend herself? Sure. Could it be argued that there is a thin line between defending yourself and going on the assault? Probably. BUT: Is it ok, to take a picture of a guy against his will and post it all over the internet? Certainly NO. I even think a bit less of Bored Panda now for taking part in violating his personal rights that way. He doesn't lose those because he groped someone's ass.

Sven Thomalla
Community Member
5 years ago

And come on people, don't tell me you don't get that she's very proud of how she humiliated him. That goes waayyy beyond "Pew, I'm glad I could defend myself."

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Allen Ryther
Community Member
5 years ago

While I think this kid is a piece of shit, let's spin this 180. If a woman grabs my ass in a bar, do I have the right to put her in a choke hold, and drag her outside? If you think I have that right, who do you think will be arrested when the police arrive? Don't even give me the "Oh, you wouldn't mind", or "women don't do that" bullshit. I've worked in bars off and on for the better part of my adult life. Nasty, skanky, drunk bitches do this shit, and guys don't want them to touch them, at all. It's not a big problem, but it happens. So who is going to stand up and say, "You are within your rights, and are morally correct, if you grab a woman in a choke hold, and drag her outside, for touching your ass."?

Evie Heaven
Community Member
5 years ago

Well, most woman would be psychically weaker and there might be no need to get them in choke hold. It might be enough to hold their hands to physically prevent groping. The level of power she used most likely is related with difference between their physical sizes and strength. However, if other ways fail, I would accept that you have a right to protect yourself as you need (e.g., if she starts fighting you while you hold her hands, or if she goes for attach after you release her hands and tell her now - get the choke hold by any means...).

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Charles Carlies
Community Member
5 years ago

He deserves to get his teeth knocked out.

Andi Ramsey
Community Member
5 years ago

Hey he groped...she responded. Karma. His parents should have raised him better, her parents raised her right. He should be happy she decided to leave him 'intact', shows restraint on her part.

Danny Wade
Community Member
5 years ago

If everything else was the same but she was a big, sweaty guy from an action movie, nobody'd bat an eye if she throat-punched him into an intensive care unit.

Suze VIolet
Community Member
5 years ago

Love this. Let me tell u my story. 1982. Freshman in college visiting my bf at osu. He's on crutches from knee surgery. We r on high st in a bar as we walk in I get a full hand on my ass from a guy who says "it's my bday". I go right to my bf and say " get me outta here". He knows something is wrong by my demeanor. We followed me toward the exit. The guy that grabbed me says "there's the bitch". My bf hears him and clocks him. Needless to say after the cops arrived from the altercation I did knee him I'm the groin. Longer story but you get it

David Blackmore
Community Member
5 years ago

Damn right. Cry baby. Looks like he wet his pants too.

Charity Van Ausdle
Community Member
5 years ago

Have you ever seen the reaction a straight man has when a guy grabs his ass? So guys if you don't

Walt Rowen
Community Member
5 years ago

I have seen females groping other females without consent, do they deserve to get chocked out and publicly shamed? Seems harsh.

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Patrick McKenna
Community Member
5 years ago

well, a bouncer would have did the same thing, no? I kind of hate violence unless no choice in the matter, and there was a choice here. no wonder I don't go in gin mills.

Bernadette Walter
Community Member
5 years ago

Yeah there was a choice, he had a choice not to grab her and show what little rapist piece of shit he is. Sexual assault is violence and a way for a man to have power over someone else be it man or woman, if he had a groped a guy no one would have said anything about how an extreme reaction it was, but women are expected to be weak, accepting little things. Well fuck that a guy ever gropes me he'll end up on life support where he belongs.

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Karen Keen
Community Member
5 years ago

A woman absolutely has the right to defend herself. To address Ibuki's concern; if a woman makes it up, she needs to be charged and punished.

Donna Williams
Community Member
5 years ago

Protecting oneself from unwanted touching is absolutely a must. I am martial arts trained in self-defense. A man actually grabbed my arm when I was walking across a lobby..my guy was waiting across the lobby for me. I looked across to my guy and shook my head at him. I quietly said the man who had my arm...see that man over there? That is my man and he is an ex-police officer but it is not him you have to worry about...it is me. Now, I can put you on the floor and embarrass you in front of all these people or you can let go of my arm and let me go on my way. I think it was my calmness...he looked at my guy and then looked at me and released my arm. I told him to think twice next time before grabbing a strange woman...she might not be as nice as me and then told him to have a nice evening.

Ray Lebowski
Community Member
5 years ago

Nice handling of the situation. One of my former girlfriends (nice girl, married one of my good friends) used to respond to unwanted contact by grabbing the guy's finger--"How far I bend this back depends on what you say next". Very effective.

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serge volders
Community Member
5 years ago

As a father I already have shown my 10 year old daughter on how to deal with people like that. He was lucky, my daughter would have poked an eye out. Well done, ignorant people need to shown where the line is.

Marti Ashby
Community Member
5 years ago

When I was 20 years old (this was in the 60s), a man came up behind me and grabbed my ass. Then he blantantly sauntered in front of me, and I kicked the shit out of him in his ass. It was such a lovely visual, and remains imprinted in my brain, to see him lifted in the air a bit.

Liz dJ
Community Member
5 years ago

There is no reaction without action. If he didn't act, she wouldn't have to react. Serves him right.

Elaine N Eads
Community Member
5 years ago

Don't touch me I won't choke you.Enough said.Have a nice day.

Chris Meadows
Community Member
5 years ago

"Ok so there was a restaurant in Scotland where the waiters used to wear kilts. Women kept going there and lifting up the men's kilts to get a look at what lurked beneath because they believed that the men weren't wearing any underwear. The women claimed all the things you say men said to you and eventually the waiters uniforms were changed. So long as you agree that men aren't playthings either and that the waiters would have had the same right to violently retaliate against the women who had sexually assaulted them then you and I are on the same page. So do you agree?" -Candice Goddard 2 hours ago I like where this lady is coming from. So, I have had my butt grabbed, pinched and even my front junk groped before by random females. Would that give me the right to escalate things to a physical confrontation??? In this one way "equal rights" society we are living in, hell no. If I was to do so, I most definitely would have been the one going to jail instead of the handsy ladies.

Candice Goddard
Community Member
5 years ago

I think a back hand around his face would have been enough in the first instance because I have to wonder how twitter would react if a man threw a woman into a choke hold for lifting up his kilt, grabbing his arse or even his genitals. Men get sexually assaulted by women too and it's almost socially acceptable, they're even taught to never hit back. There should be one standard for everyone, that's equality.

Abby Rexroth
Community Member
5 years ago

He's lucky she just went for the throat, could've been the nut sack!

Ray Lebowski
Community Member
5 years ago

She didn't have her microscope with her.

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Kenny Duff
Community Member
5 years ago

I had my ass grabbed by chicks on a hen night, i wonder how Twitter might react if i had put the future bride in a chokehold and dragged her outside?

Sheralyn
Community Member
5 years ago

Why don't you give it a try and let us know how it goes?

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ildisiri
Community Member
5 years ago

There is something called REASONABLE FORCE, you idiots. You cannot kill someone if he punches you, claiming self-defense. She pushed it too far, you don't torture or humiliate someone that way for any reason whatsoever, that's sadistic at least. You crazy people please stay in the comment section.

Evie Heaven
Community Member
5 years ago

How do you know that she was not way smaller and lighter, and could not use different way to defend, or if he did not assault her with words before?

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William Turner
Community Member
5 years ago

NOT ENDER SPECIFIC, BUT IF YOU MRSS WITH THE BULL YOULL GET THE HORNS. CANT SAY I BLAME HER MY DAUGHTER HAD THE SAME THING HAPPEN WHEN SHE WAS 9 MONTHS PREGNANT AND SHE COLD-COCKED THE GUY ANDS LAID HIM OUT LIKE A STONE SLAB. GOOD FOR YOU YOUNG LADY.

rachel smith
Community Member
5 years ago

What am I supposed to do if a guy does this? Do i call 911, does it even count as an emergency? If the guy runs off is there anything they can/will do?

Kim Lorton
Community Member
5 years ago

If that ever happens to me, I'd like to think I'd wait, hen wait for him to look at me, and then say to him, ok, my turn, go for his nuts and twist and pull down. No more acorns for him.

Nancy Massi
Community Member
5 years ago

Kudos to you! Men, you do NOT have the right to put your hands wherever you want.

Danny Root
Community Member
5 years ago

Nobody does, not just men.

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Jan Smith
Community Member
5 years ago

he got off light! ask the soldier that touched me once! couldn't work for a week! go girls!

daniellabob
Community Member
5 years ago

I bet this guy will think twice before doing it again with an other.I say great if he learned his lesson and it stops the behaviour if not he is sick and eventually will fall for it.

Abderrahman Ghouli
Community Member
5 years ago

i think only perverse and sick people Defends a sick like him let him go to jail and be a A lesson for those who consider

Janelle Collard
Community Member
5 years ago

So if a guy grabs my ass I can grab his d*ck & twist it off?

Walt Rowen
Community Member
5 years ago

So if a girl grabbed my ass, I can shove a glass jar up her, and break it?!? (hypothetical) Seems kind of harsh...

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Izabela Zanardi Moraes
Community Member
5 years ago

He'll think twice before touch someone again. LOL

Ray Lebowski
Community Member
5 years ago

I doubt it. Thinking is probably outside his skill set.

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Joe Smith
Community Member
5 years ago

A sexual assault to his nuts would have been more appropriate.

Lisa Fortier
Community Member
5 years ago

That should make him think twice next time he decides to grab a lady where aught not to hehe

Kimberly Worsham
Community Member
5 years ago

Yeah she had a right! He assaulted her. Not her fault the police agreed it was assault and arrested him...

Iapetos
Community Member
5 years ago

His crying doesn't surprise me...

Jim
Community Member
5 years ago

Assault an employee while they are working and they should have the right to bounce the idiot, regardless of sex. I'm proud if her though, I've never agreed with the "weaker sex" logic of the past and I hope my daughter always stands up for herself as well.

Jin Tran
Community Member
5 years ago

Karma! I punched a girl in the gut once, because she slapped my ass in da club. Bitch had it coming.

Bernadette Walter
Community Member
5 years ago

Agreed you didn't want it and she didn't ask, it's sexual assault.

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Jayson Merrill
Community Member
5 years ago

he touched her and she touched him back. sounds fair to me

Danielle
Community Member
5 years ago

So maybe I've misread, but it seems to me like this girl is a bartender and was working at the time. In trying to see this from a different angle, I am going to disregard the sexual assault, and genders involved. As a bartender, you absolutely have the right to physically restrain and remove any individual who is acting inappropriately. Regardless of your gender/the offenders gender, it is part of your job as a bartender to maintain a safe (as safe as possible) environment for the rest of your patrons. If she was indeed working at the time of the incident, I would have expected her to do the exact same thing if she had even witnessed this man groping one of her patrons. I am a female and was a bartender for almost 5 years. I have physically restrained and removed many individuals, both male and female, for less than groping.

Ray Lebowski
Community Member
5 years ago

About four years ago--I'm having dinner with the niece of one of my friends. Strictly platonic (sad to say--she's terrific), I was helping her with a tax problem her ex-husband had created. We're waiting for our table, standing in the bar area. Some yuppie scum type grabs her rear. Definitely intentional--out of the corner of my eye I'd seen him move his beer from one hand to the other right before he groped her. Doesn't know she's a brown belt in karate. She disarms him quickly. He's on the ground, looks at me, and has the nerve to say, "Aren't you going to do anything about her?" So I looked at her and said, "Attagirl!" and told him, "Be glad you're in one piece". She just got married again to a great guy who knows she can kick his a**.

Jakob Kaine
Community Member
5 years ago

The pindick asswipes complaining that she was in the wrong are most likely spouting this crap because they're now scared of not being able to get away with groping women in bars ... the only contact they can manage with females.

MrFocus503
Community Member
5 years ago

If you intentionally touch a person you don't know in a bar, consider yourself lucky if you leave with only an ass kicking.

Terry Melvin
Community Member
5 years ago

Dude, you learned a hard lesson. You can't go putting your hands on someone's ass. That's her body, not yours. She would've been justified in grabbing you by the balls in a death squeeze, so consider yourself lucky. To the other jerks who think grabbing someone is cool without his/her permission..remember what happened to this idiot.

Terry Melvin
Community Member
5 years ago

The dude learned a hard lesson..you can't just put your hands on someone's ass just because you feel like it. You would've deserved it if she went for your balls in a vise-grip.

Mary Thompson-Smith
Community Member
5 years ago

AWESOME!! Way to go Girl, don't blame you one bit and if More women would react that way these "Stupid Idiots" might really think of their consequences Before they pull the BS!! No Honest Man that Honestly Respects Women would pull the bs, because they Don't want any female family members treated like that!! I would have ROFLMBO If She Tazzed the sack of crap after the choke hold, yes just so he would "Wiz" on himself"

Sheila Adams
Community Member
5 years ago

Glad she kicked the crap out of him. Choke hold was awesome. Bet he will think twice before he tries that on another woman. Cuddos to you. Yes send his button to jail and see if he likes being grabbed at...don't drop the soap!

Maureen Juarez
Community Member
5 years ago

Smart girl!!! Hope my daughter reacts the same if ever needed. I'm not very big, about 5'2", had to take down a guy a foot taller and nearly 3x my weight once. Throat punch and knee to the groin and he was done.

Thérèse Desrosiers
Community Member
5 years ago

She had every right to defend herself very aggressively. If she didn't, all the naysayers would be complainingthat she wasn't clear about NOT wanting his hands on her butt. Don't touch uninvited and you won't risk a punch in the mouth.

San Dee
Community Member
5 years ago

Good for his ass. Bet he won't do that shit again...You can look Mothersucka, but don't touch.

Ray Lebowski
Community Member
5 years ago

I think you're giving him credit for intelligence he does not possess. Odds are, he'll think he didn't do anything wrong and that he has the right to grope women.

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Jennifer Smith
Community Member
5 years ago

He touched her without her explicit permission, and it looks like the only things injured were his feelings and maybe his sense of masculinity. And for the people in the story saying they didn't why he had to go to jail? He touched someone without their consent, that is assault, pure and simple. Commit assault go to jail, period.

Karen Peltier
Community Member
5 years ago

I think she was in her right to defend herself. What upset me the most about this discussion yesterday morning was the comment Gretchen gave. She "implied" that because of the ''situation'', ( a woman drinking in a bar?), that it is an expected behavior. I'm sorry. Not all women are at a bar having a drink to pick up men or get groped for that matter. As a woman, I found this comment offensive. That is almost like saying a woman deserved to be raped because of the way she was dressed and ''asked for it." ANY physical "sexual" contact is assault. I would have done the same thing and teach my daughters to act as well! Gretchen should be ashamed of herself for comment. As a woman. As a mother. As a human being!

Tara Ray
Community Member
5 years ago

This is awesome! From personal experience, if you don't MAKE them stop, they will continue!

serge volders
Community Member
5 years ago

As a father I have taught my 10 year old daughter how to defend herself from people like that. He was lucky, my daughter would have poked his eyes out and left him like a blind eunuch, never seeing where to grope again. Well done. Respect!

Francisco Montoya
Community Member
5 years ago

Slapping him would have given him a chance to retaliate. She did as Sensei Kreese told his students on the Karate Kid. "Sweep The Leg. No Mercy". :) I don't understand when people make excuses or try to defend people like this. This is NOT okay and I'm not sure why that line is so blurry to people.

Allyson Engle
Community Member
5 years ago

To all the people posting something along the lines of "Oh, but is it okay for women to do it to men?" Two wrongs don't make a right. Sexual assault is defined as any type of sexual contact or behavior that occurs without the explicit consent of the recipient. That happens to men, and it's wrong, because it's sexual contact towards the man without his consent. Anyone of any gender who has sexual contact occur without their consent has been sexually assaulted.

Kate Baxter
Community Member
5 years ago

What do you suppose these men like Little Bobby Blade who think she overreacted would say if a guy casually reached over and grabbed their 'package'. Would they just 'move away' 'tell him to stop groping them' or punch the living crap out of them?? Would they think that it was too harsh to send him to jail just for touching him?

David Bullock
Community Member
5 years ago

I just wish several of the women sexually assaulted by Trump had done this, then he'd have a criminal record which might have kept him from getting where he is! - ruining the country and embarrassing himself daily (and us).

Brett Gieger
Community Member
5 years ago

Ok, so I'm ready for the ridicule but I just gotta say...turn this around and a girl grabs a guys *ss and he'd take the same action?! Big problems for the dude...what he did wasn't right but he'd be facing jail time and we are praising her?! Just doesn't sound like equality to me...

Jade Tara
Community Member
5 years ago

It may seem a bit extreme but I fully agree with it, firstly, it IS sexual assault and this woman knows full well she can defend herself any way she feels necessary, therefore she should. And secondly, the reason most men do this is that either they don't realise it's actually sexual assault, or they know most women will not defend themselves with anything more than a slap, if more women defend themselves in the extreme way this woman did, then maybe more men will think again before they touch us without our permission.

Wyndmere
Community Member
5 years ago

I would do the same, and more. No man has any right to touch a woman just because he wants to. This is absolute disrespect and shall not be tolerated.

Natasha Forchione
Community Member
5 years ago

Don't touch anyone without their consent or suffer the consequences. He learned this the hard way.

Babeswillbebabes
Community Member
5 years ago

I would've done a lot worse to the dude.

Doreen Ball
Community Member
5 years ago

He decided to put his hands on her the way he wanted to - and she responded in kind.

Ben Bout
Community Member
5 years ago

I'm still not exactly sure what she did. What he did obviously wasn't right, but I don't have enough information to know if what she did was right or not..

Marie Ramsey
Community Member
5 years ago

Slap a Tiger on the ass and see what happens!!! If she'd have just slapped him, individuals would be crying about that too. Now, I believe that he got off lucky. Because, if he'd have touched my wife or daughter like this he would also have a few knots in his head!!! Good job young lady. I've been teaching my daughters the same principles. Someone touches you inappropriately, pound the crap out of them. That is the only response that these idiots understand.

Ray Lebowski
Community Member
5 years ago

You give them too much credit for understanding. They SHOULD understand, but then again, they SHOULDN'T indulge in that kind of behavior in the first place. An obvious lesson--is wasted on those who need to learn it the most.

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Carl Collins
Community Member
5 years ago

If a female touches a male inappropriately it's fine for him to do the choke hold thing too?

MrFocus503
Community Member
5 years ago

If any person intentionally touches a stranger in a public place, they should consider themselves lucky that an ass beating is all they get.

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Annemarie Elshout
Community Member
5 years ago

I feel like people here on bored panda are american. Just react wuth violence....eye for an eye.... its better to teach en prevent than just self defence in a hard way. In play grounds we teach our children to say " stop it i do not like that" and then try to explain why...teach!! In a non violent way. Yes she can defend herself ...but there is more sides to a story... maybe they where danceng / twerking in front of him, to him, and he smacked her ass... always need to hear both sides of the story! I live in the netherlands. I am a woman. I have girlfriends and we are all touched on the ass ... and no we did not try to choke the boys/men. We just say : stop, no, go away! Never felt the need for using violence. And yes many times we have got an sorry. Sometimes we liked it... 2 sides of the story..... we do not no the setting ... i can only say it is an american way of defending/re-acting

Anabelle Marquis
Community Member
5 years ago

That was her decision her body not yours

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James Wright
Community Member
5 years ago

I've had my ass groped by women many times, does that mean I could had put them in a chokehold?

StealTheFruit
Community Member
3 years ago

Yes.

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Annemarie Elshout
Community Member
5 years ago

1. Turn around and say to him you do not like that...1 chance for apoligize....2 if he does not say sorry... than explain it....3. Still no sorry.... than action.... man must be teached ...they are stupid....

Charles Lupula
Community Member
5 years ago

I can guarantee you the guy saying "he only groped her once" is probably a groper himself. It's the only reason why anyone would defend a sack of garbage like that.

Miriam Schwan
Community Member
5 years ago

What the fuck? We get asked why we don't defend ourselves, and then asked why we DO defend ourselves? This asshole has heard the word "no" 400 times and never respected it, it´s time to speak HIS language then.

Joyce Pike
Community Member
5 years ago

Of course she had a right to take him out. Unwanted touching deserves a quick and sharp response, either verbal or physical. This guy got his just desserts and I hope (but I doubt) he learned something from it.

Cpt_Justice
Community Member
5 years ago

Thrilled to see so many positive responses!

Chris Whitehouse
Community Member
5 years ago

So. . . .if a woman were to grope a man the same way, we can choke hold her and slam her into a wall too?

Trish Hannah
Community Member
5 years ago

If he can't stand the heat, he should have stayed out of her kitchen. :)

Louise Chiffonade Brescia
Community Member
5 years ago

She had every right to do whatever it took to get that guy's hands off her ass. He should be grateful she didn't know krav maga.

Annie Ciaraldi
Community Member
5 years ago

Yes!! She did exactly what she should have done! He had no right grabbing her ass or anything else...he got what he deserved!! She was awesome and I hope my daughter would react in the same manner!

Matthew Huntington
Community Member
5 years ago

You probably shouldn't have killed him. I understand the self-defense angle from when he slammed you against the wall, but still, taking a person's life was going too far... Wait, you didn't kill him? You just punched him a few times? Why the heck would anybody complain about that? I wouldn't mind if you'd cracked his skull with your elbow or kicked him so hard in the 'nads he threw up. Someone attacks you without cause or warning, you have a right to defend yourself, period. The only bad part about this is that he's likely only going to get probation for this.

Kenny Duff
Community Member
5 years ago

I have had girls grab my ass, i remember a hen do in a bar opposite my old place of work, each time i passed them they all had a grab, i wonder what the reaction would have been if i as a guy put on of them in a chokehold and dragged her outside, you know just for equality.

Peggy Lynn
Community Member
5 years ago

I agree it was assault and she had every right to defend herself. I'd like to know how the justice system handles this case. its the general lack of formal consequences in such situations that lead men to think its no big deal.

Emma Williams
Community Member
5 years ago

Damn right that serves him. Had a guy inappropriately grab my ass and refuse to let go even when I said I had a boyfriend. Said something along the lines of "Sure you do." Even if I didn't he should've let go. So because he didn't I threatened to break his finger.

Blue Cicada
Community Member
5 years ago

Statistically, this was NOT his first time assaulting a woman. She reacted correctly to his criminal (illegal) behavior.

Bunzilla
Community Member
5 years ago

This guy most likely won't do it again, so I think it was the appropriate response. Men need to start treating women as fellow human beings, and not as objects here for their personal titillation. Women have to deal with this shit all their lives, starting from a young age. It's gotta stop.

Jacqueline Perreault
Community Member
5 years ago

did anyone else noticed that the people that do not agree with the way this woman defended herself are men?...lol

Sergio Bicerra Descalzi
Community Member
5 years ago

This human being (cannot call him a man) got what he deserved, and hope the girl got an appology.

Susan Allen
Community Member
5 years ago

As a young teenager, I and several other girls my age had to put up with this very behavior from boys in school. It was a game to them - walk up behind us while we were walking down the hall and grab a handful of backside or worse, stick their hand between our legs from behind and grab us there. School administrators would do *nothing* - "boys will be boys, don't do it again" was the usual response. I started carrying a heavily loaded backpack full of books everywhere I went, and more than one boy felt the full weight of it against their head as I swung it at them with all my might when they grabbed me. This young woman did not deserve to be groped without consent and her reaction may seem over the top to some, but I think she taught him a sorely-needed lesson.

Christina White
Community Member
5 years ago

he tried to play victim looks like and got more than he bargained for, if it was me i prob would of done worse, its self defense, thank god she defended herself!

Robyn Kern
Community Member
5 years ago

She had every right to punch him, choke hold him what ever it took, he should not have grabbed her ass, or any part of her PERIOD!

endelbendel
Community Member
5 years ago

Perfect response. Frotteurists have little resilience.

Nikita Lloyddean
Community Member
5 years ago

Well done girl. I'd have done the same. And probably kicked him where it hurts too.

Sandra Woodman
Community Member
5 years ago

Trump's hero. Sickening.

Yashica Sadam
Community Member
5 years ago

You go, girl! For all the people out there who said she overreacted, c'mon. Nobody would be saying that if he'd tried to grab her wallet. But he grabbed something worse- her body. She had a right to protect herself, and to be honest, she probably said no at first, but he didn't listen. So what did he expect?

Debby Morris
Community Member
5 years ago

Good on her! Whup his ass! If he had groped another guy and got his ass kicked, no one would say a word.

Laura DiGiacomo
Community Member
5 years ago

He presented the invitation She simply responded in kind.

Mario DiGianni
Community Member
5 years ago

You F@#$%k'n anal whores make it a big deal because you all think you're goddesses. To guy's it's just a way of playing around, similar to when a girl touches a guy's chest or arms. If she attempted to do this to me she would have her tits kicked in.

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BobbyK
Community Member
5 years ago

Every man at that bar will know NOT to grope another woman in case.....

Kathie Trevino
Community Member
5 years ago

He needs to learn to keep his hands to himself......

Ehsan Es
Community Member
5 years ago

Once I was waiting in a tram station and this gay dude came standing very close to me. I kept moving and he kept following and just before getting in the tram he came running and grabbed my butt. Didn't even get in. Obviously I was asking for it wearing a purple shirt. Next time anyone who touches me unwantedly, male or female I'll make sure to beat the shit out of them!

Damien McDallydally
Community Member
5 years ago

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Quant
Community Member
5 years ago

He seems to still have all of his teeth... I feel that she was in her right to take at least a couple of them as souvenirs...

Ray Lebowski
Community Member
5 years ago

I disagree. Unlike what you see on TV or in movies, hitting someone in the head is a great way to hurt your hand.

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Le Faiseux
Community Member
5 years ago

Just wondering if I could go full Chokehold if a girl grabs my ass without my consent?? I mean... equal rights, no?

Sheralyn
Community Member
5 years ago

Theoretically, yes I suppose. Has a girl grabbed your ass without your consent?

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Charity Van Ausdle
Community Member
5 years ago

Want someone your not attracted to grabbing yours stay away from ours. Unless invited.

Pauline Okwosha
Community Member
4 years ago

lol.. at some of these comments. He groped her ass, she 'groped' his neck very firmly! I think that's a fair deal. Everyone wants her to dish out a slap like a "girl"..lol Better be careful dear assaulting men.. you never know whose grown balls outta nowhere

Junk Mail
Community Member
4 years ago

If a man grabbed another mans penis and got knocked out, would anyone wonder why?

Junk Mail
Community Member
4 years ago

If a man grabbed a mans penis and he got knocked out, no one would wonder why

Celestia
Community Member
4 years ago

I kinda feel sad for the guy but, I guess if I was her, I would've been severely sexual assaulted .

Jeannene Vandenberg
Community Member
4 years ago

Maybe if enough guys get whatever they got coming to them, after grabbing a women or girl, maybe just maybe "they" will stop, cause they don't want it done to them and wind up on FB or some other social media.....Men( or boys) need to keep hands off unless told otherwise!

Howard Ball
Community Member
4 years ago

I'm PROUD of you , I'm a Hubby , Dad & Grandpa of ladies , I've taught them all good moves & hope they never have to use them , but they , like you , will stand their ground .

Muriel Burrows
Community Member
4 years ago

I made my daughter take a self-defense course before she started dating for just such a time as this.

Rick Santana
Community Member
5 years ago

If a guy had his manly package grabbed by a stranger im sure he would feel the same, he was just sexually assaulted. The idiots that dont get you cant grope a female [or any stranger] without consent is indeed sexual assault are also e same baboons that go around groping women and tting choked out.