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Inheritance Drama Ensues After Mom Abandons Daughter For 25 Yrs And Leaves Everything To Neighbor
Interview With AuthorFamily estrangement is pretty common among LGBTQ+ people. In fact, 31% of LGBTQ+ young adults say they worry that their parents or guardians wouldn’t accept them. Some may come around later in life, some may not; but they still might feel some right to their parents’ possessions when they pass away.
Recently, one woman shared a story of how she inherited her neighbor’s estate, but the deceased woman’s estranged gay daughter complicated the situation. After she refused to share the money with the daughter and got some harshly-worded texts, she started to wonder: would she be the bad guy in this situation if she didn’t give her anything?
Bored Panda reached out to the woman who inherited her neighbor’s estate, and she kindly agreed to have a chat with us. Read our short conversation with u/CharacterQuality5429 below!
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But the deceased woman’s gay estranged daughter demanded a portion of the money
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“It wasn’t like she was some withered old lady,” the author tells Bored Panda
The author tells Bored Panda that she didn’t expect her neighbor Valorie to leave her everything in her will. “I was surprised. I didn’t expect it at all and wasn’t quite sure how to feel about it,” she tells us.
At that moment, she didn’t worry about her neighbor’s daughter possibly wanting her share of the inheritance. “Sam never entered my mind when I first found out because she had never responded to Valorie,” the Redditor explains.
u/CharacterQuality5429 hasn’t yet met with a lawyer but is planning to do so later this week. She says she will probably post an update on Reddit if there are any interesting developments. The Redditor hasn’t talked to Sam yet either. “I haven’t responded to [her] yet, because I wanted to talk to the lawyer first. She’s stopped sending messages, though,” she adds.
Unlike some commenters, u/CharacterQuality5429 doesn’t vilify Valorie. “I knew her has a kind and good human,” she reiterates. “We bonded over gardening. We saw each other, at least in passing, almost every day and would hang out for like 3-4 hours at least once a week. We were close friends.”
She also notes that Valorie didn’t seem to have serious health problems and her passing was unexpected. “It wasn’t like she was some withered old lady. Her death was sudden and surprising,” the Redditor tells us.
“If it had happened on a Saturday and I had been home, she might have survived because medical care would have gotten to her sooner.”
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Estranged children can contest their parent’s will, but it can be a long and hard process
There seems to be a deepening rift between parents and adult children. A study in 2022 reported that one in 10 adults say they’re estranged at least from one parent. And while 81% of estrangements with mothers end in reconciliation, the feud can continue even after the parent’s deceased.
Legal experts say that whether a family member is estranged has no impact on their capacity to contest a will. If the deceased person had no spouse, adult children are the next of kin, and, therefore, direct heirs.
However, most experts warn that contesting a will can be a long and difficult process. If the child is named in the will as a partial beneficiary already, they might lose their assets if their challenge of the will fails.
But if they really are set on contesting, they would need to prove there are enough grounds to change the will. The experts from the California-based Keystone Law Group point out seven reasons that could be successful when contesting a will:
- Undue influence;
- Lack of capacity;
- Fraud,
- Forgery,
- Lack of due execution;
- Mistake,
- And revocation.
The attorneys also warn that the success rate of contesting wills is usually low. Courts tend to uphold the wishes of the deceased in most cases unless the contestant can provide really strong evidence.
The experts at Obenshain Law, on the other hand, note that in the cases of parental estrangement, wills get overturned more often. “Perhaps the source of your estrangement is isolation by a caretaker or adverse sibling,” they suggest. Medical conditions, such as dementia, can also play a role, as the parent might not be thinking clearly or misled by a person close to them.
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Parents should always be the ones to make first contact with an estranged child
The commenters divided themselves into two camps: some thought “Valorie” was a terrible parent for kicking out and then not contacting her gay daughter for years. Others thought “Sam” was wrong to harbor a grudge for so long and refuse to reconnect with her mother.
When it comes to queer children and parents repairing their relationships, parents should be the ones to reach out. That’s what licensed psychologist Nathan Brandon, Psy.D., told Bored Panda in a previous interview.
“The onus of repairing a strained relationship ideally lies on both parties,” he explained to us back then. “However, in cases where parents reject their child’s identity, the primary responsibility should be with the parents to overcome their prejudices.”
“It’s essential to understand that the rejection and the pain inflicted by it are not the responsibility of the queer person. An individual should never be made to feel they need to change their fundamental identity to be accepted by their family.”
But there is a caveat: if the parents are willing to reconnect and are sorry for their past actions, reconciliation would make sense. “Reconciliation is a personal decision that should be made with the well-being of the queer individual at the forefront,” Brandon emphasized.
Some netizens blamed the neighbor, not the author: “Valorie was a bad parent”
Others thought the daughter had valid reasons to be mad and deserved a portion of the inheritance
After her post went viral, the woman provided more details about Valorie and her daughter’s relationship
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Panda Kicki 9 months ago (edited)
A pride flag but dont try to fix what she broke so badly. She worked with family law, if she wanted to she could have tracked Sam long before. Chances are Sam deleted first message without reding. Also, is it even possible to write 4-5 pages on a fb message? I have to split them if they get to long. And she could have given Sam her inheritance along with a last apology letter. She owes Sam so much.
BlackestDawn 9 months ago
Yeah, The Click read this one on his stream last night and the consensus was basically that Valorie had f****d up. She never tried to reach out to Sam, not even after Garry's death. She didn't leave anything to Sam, didn't even seem to think about it as a possibility. Valorie had time and opportunity to make amends but never initiated anything until OP helped, and at that point it was probably "too little, too late" in the eyes of Sam.
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Earonn - 9 months ago
What doesn't sit right with me is that the mother apparently told the story that she was "too shocked to react" when the father kicked the girl out, but in her "heartfelt message" wrote that "her views had changed". That looks like she DID think like the father. Doesn't mean that the daughter has a claim, but I'd try to find out more, and if the daughter was refused by both parents, maybe let her have something.
Ka Se 9 months ago
It seems to me that Sam is deeply offended and disappointed. She's probably bitter and hasn't been able to come to terms with her experiences, which is probably why she hasn't replied to her mum and probably gets emotional at the thought of her parents. It would probably be worth trying to sit down and talk to her calmly. If you can get through the wall that Sam has probably built up and which is expressed in the angry comments. You could talk about how you perceived and got to know Valorie. However, you have to reckon with Sam getting angry because a mother who was looking to make amends probably doesn't fit in with her idea and perhaps also makes her regret that she didn't get in touch. Difficult in any case. Incidentally, depending on the country you live in, it is often very difficult or even impossible to disinherit your children completely.
Panda Kicki 9 months ago (edited)
A pride flag but dont try to fix what she broke so badly. She worked with family law, if she wanted to she could have tracked Sam long before. Chances are Sam deleted first message without reding. Also, is it even possible to write 4-5 pages on a fb message? I have to split them if they get to long. And she could have given Sam her inheritance along with a last apology letter. She owes Sam so much.
BlackestDawn 9 months ago
Yeah, The Click read this one on his stream last night and the consensus was basically that Valorie had f****d up. She never tried to reach out to Sam, not even after Garry's death. She didn't leave anything to Sam, didn't even seem to think about it as a possibility. Valorie had time and opportunity to make amends but never initiated anything until OP helped, and at that point it was probably "too little, too late" in the eyes of Sam.
Load More Replies... Earonn - 9 months ago
What doesn't sit right with me is that the mother apparently told the story that she was "too shocked to react" when the father kicked the girl out, but in her "heartfelt message" wrote that "her views had changed". That looks like she DID think like the father. Doesn't mean that the daughter has a claim, but I'd try to find out more, and if the daughter was refused by both parents, maybe let her have something.
Ka Se 9 months ago
It seems to me that Sam is deeply offended and disappointed. She's probably bitter and hasn't been able to come to terms with her experiences, which is probably why she hasn't replied to her mum and probably gets emotional at the thought of her parents. It would probably be worth trying to sit down and talk to her calmly. If you can get through the wall that Sam has probably built up and which is expressed in the angry comments. You could talk about how you perceived and got to know Valorie. However, you have to reckon with Sam getting angry because a mother who was looking to make amends probably doesn't fit in with her idea and perhaps also makes her regret that she didn't get in touch. Difficult in any case. Incidentally, depending on the country you live in, it is often very difficult or even impossible to disinherit your children completely.
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