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Kid Gets Herself Banned From Future Trips With Aunt And Uncle, Her Mom Throws A Fit
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Kid Gets Herself Banned From Future Trips With Aunt And Uncle, Her Mom Throws A Fit

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Quality family time for kids doesn’t only mean time with parents. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins – they’re all important, so it’s great if the little ones get to spend time with different family members.

This redditor wanted to make sure that she and her husband spend plenty of quality time with their nieces and nephews. That’s why she took her brother’s and her sister’s kids on an overnight trip, to see if they were ready for longer trips away from their parents. And while the brother’s kids showed that they were, for the OP’s sister’s child, it likely was the last outing with aunt and uncle for a while.

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    Quality time with nieces and nephews is important

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    But after a weekend getaway together, this woman said she will not be taking her sister’s kid on any more outings

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    In close-knit families, aunts and uncles tend to play a rather significant role

    How close or distant one is with their aunts and uncles—or any other relative, for that matter—depends on numerous factors. However, one that plays a rather significant role is the relationship between the aunts and uncles and their siblings.

    Studies suggest that when adult siblings have a close relationship, they are more likely to have a close relationship with each other’s children, too. And it’s not difficult to see why: when a parent has a good relationship with their sibling(s), they set a good example for forming and maintaining family connections. In addition to that, a close sibling bond often also means the family spending time together, which is a key element in most relationships.

    Writing for Psychology Today, Professor Emeritus of Family Relations at the University of Maine and author of The Forgotten Kin: Aunts and Uncles, Dr. Robert Milardo noted that the relationship between adults and their siblings’ children changes and adapts, depending on the children’s age and the needs of their parents. During infancy and early childhood, for instance, they might help out more by providing child care, while during the adolescent years, they can ease or mediate conflicts between the youngsters and their parents, provide much-needed support, or serve as “testing grounds for the identity development” of their nieces and nephews.

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    Family rituals can positively influence their members

    Bearing in mind the significant roles aunts and uncles play when they maintain a close relationship with their siblings, it’s evident that the time they spend with their nieces and nephews is extremely important, too. Even more so if it becomes a ritual of some sort, be it an ice cream date every other Sunday or a weekend getaway every summer. Studies suggest that family rituals and routines can have a positive impact on adults’ marital satisfaction, adolescents’ sense of personal identity, children’s health, academic achievement, and stronger family relationships.

    However, for the OP, creating a ritual with all of her siblings’ kids wasn’t an easy task. She found it difficult to deal with her 10-year-old niece’s outbursts and difficult behavior, so she set a clear boundary, which her sister wasn’t too happy about. After reading her story, some netizens sided with the redditor, saying that her refusing to take her niece on trips didn’t make her a jerk. Others, however, shared a different opinion.

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    Many netizens didn’t think the woman was being a jerk in the situation

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    Some people, however, sided with the girl’s mother

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    Miglė Miliūtė

    Miglė Miliūtė

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    A writer here at Bored Panda, I am a lover of good music, good food, and good company, which makes food-related topics and feel-good stories my favorite ones to cover. Passionate about traveling and concerts, I constantly seek occasions to visit places yet personally unexplored. I also enjoy spending free time outdoors, trying out different sports—even if I don’t look too graceful at it—or socializing over a cup of coffee.

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    Miglė Miliūtė

    Miglė Miliūtė

    Writer, Community member

    A writer here at Bored Panda, I am a lover of good music, good food, and good company, which makes food-related topics and feel-good stories my favorite ones to cover. Passionate about traveling and concerts, I constantly seek occasions to visit places yet personally unexplored. I also enjoy spending free time outdoors, trying out different sports—even if I don’t look too graceful at it—or socializing over a cup of coffee.

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    Orysha
    Community Member
    9 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope all the ytas don't have children. If Kelly behaves this way with her aunt I would love to see her behaviour with her parents, that should be way worse.You don't reward bad behaviour, it needs to be stopped and if the parents can't or don't want to do that, other people will

    Zoe Vokes
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel sorry for her cousins if they had to be around Kelly for a whole week. Even if OP and husband could put up with Kelly in the hope she behaved, it wouldn’t be fair on the other kids to have their holiday potentially ruined. She already did her best to ruin the weekend trip away together, there is every chance that behaviour would continue. And OP isn’t saying no forever, just this year when she has shown recent bad behaviour.

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    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There seems to be a lot of confusion between, we are t taking her for a one week trip this year because she won't behave and we are shunning our niece and she can never redeem herself. She's not ready for a long trip, but there's no indication they will treat her differently to before. OP isn't refusing to spend time with her, isn't cutting ties. This is just recognising a week-long trip isn't the best way to spend time with her. Presumably if the others misbehaved, they wouldn't go on a longer trip either.

    Funhog
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed. Also to point out: Kelly's mother told OP that she is out of line for punishing Kelly.. but, OP isn't punishing her at all; she simply isn't rewarding her.

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    Beth Wheeler
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NTA. Kelly sounds like an entitled brat that gets her way. She's not to old to have her a*s torn up over her behavior. If the parents don't start making her behave ank knock off the temper tantrums that she is way to old for they better get ready for their hellion in the making. Stop letting her be the little princess b***h they are raising her to be!

    Zoe Vokes
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can understand some of her behaviour, like not wanting to share the TV because she’s used to being the only child and usually picking what she wants to watch. But the rest of her behaviour is bad character - having a meltdown because she was asked to pick just one item from the gift shop, demanding that they get ice cream immediately, being rude to the waitress… it shows she’s really used to getting what she wants or she throws a tantrum.

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    Orysha
    Community Member
    9 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope all the ytas don't have children. If Kelly behaves this way with her aunt I would love to see her behaviour with her parents, that should be way worse.You don't reward bad behaviour, it needs to be stopped and if the parents can't or don't want to do that, other people will

    Zoe Vokes
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel sorry for her cousins if they had to be around Kelly for a whole week. Even if OP and husband could put up with Kelly in the hope she behaved, it wouldn’t be fair on the other kids to have their holiday potentially ruined. She already did her best to ruin the weekend trip away together, there is every chance that behaviour would continue. And OP isn’t saying no forever, just this year when she has shown recent bad behaviour.

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    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There seems to be a lot of confusion between, we are t taking her for a one week trip this year because she won't behave and we are shunning our niece and she can never redeem herself. She's not ready for a long trip, but there's no indication they will treat her differently to before. OP isn't refusing to spend time with her, isn't cutting ties. This is just recognising a week-long trip isn't the best way to spend time with her. Presumably if the others misbehaved, they wouldn't go on a longer trip either.

    Funhog
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed. Also to point out: Kelly's mother told OP that she is out of line for punishing Kelly.. but, OP isn't punishing her at all; she simply isn't rewarding her.

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    Beth Wheeler
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NTA. Kelly sounds like an entitled brat that gets her way. She's not to old to have her a*s torn up over her behavior. If the parents don't start making her behave ank knock off the temper tantrums that she is way to old for they better get ready for their hellion in the making. Stop letting her be the little princess b***h they are raising her to be!

    Zoe Vokes
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can understand some of her behaviour, like not wanting to share the TV because she’s used to being the only child and usually picking what she wants to watch. But the rest of her behaviour is bad character - having a meltdown because she was asked to pick just one item from the gift shop, demanding that they get ice cream immediately, being rude to the waitress… it shows she’s really used to getting what she wants or she throws a tantrum.

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