Man Forces His GF Out Of His Home After She Makes His Little Brother Cry And Dumps Her

All the YTA need to take a good long look at themselves, it looked funny sure, but in a cute and they clearly have no idea how they look kinda way. I would have giggled and tucked them in if it was me. Going to perversion and sexuality every time you see adult affection is a big problem for your psyche, affection is firstly affection unless there is an underlying value system you are aware of that gives you the right to suggest otherwise. In this case, he was her boyfriend and she knew they were dealing with the trauma of being orphans and that he was affectionate in his efforts to parent his sibling. If she didn't know this much being his partner, she never gets out of her own head and you can't trust that the feelings of people like that are real and not superficially self serving.

Skin to skin is not an exclusive need for infants, and he just lost hus parents. I think big brother is doing a great job showing him that human connection is natural among close people, even aming men. I have so many pictures of a male friend of mine, asleep in someones arm-nok, and very often other guys. It was and is precious.

She wasn't afraid that her bf was molesting his younger brother, she was afraid the younger brother was a rival. If she was afraid for him she would have talked with the kid in private to be certain he wasn't molested.

She did hurt the brother. Can we just normalize cuddling again.

I come from a family where we do not really hug or cuddle. I dodge anytime someone gets too close to me or want to hug me. I also feel amazed by people who are physically close to their family members. Its lovely but a bit too much for me. Its really not in a judgemental way but only what I am comfortable with or not. However, if I saw something that made me uncomfortable, I would rather keep it to myself or speak to the person. To understand better. Each person grow up differently. I was taken aback once after learning that there are parents still bathing their 10 years old. I really thought it was weird but later learnt that it happens in a lot of families. Im still not comfortable with the idea of it for a number of reasons (Body autonomy etc) but I do understand that the parents are not doing that for the wrong reasons.

-wakes them up- -chooses to yell- -acts like she didn't just reduce an orphan to tears- "I didn't hurt him"

I, also had custody of my youngest brother when I was in my 20s. Sometimes, I'd let him lay with his head on my lap or shoulder while watching something. He was sad a lot, because our parents both chose partners over keeping their children, and I was trying to comfort him. Nobody ever accused me of being a perv. But, I am a woman, and it's less likely for people with dirty minds to immediately think I am doing something bad.

Proud of op for taking care of little bro. Dude fell asleep a like a puppy got the snuggles and comfort from his bro. I don't see anything sexual here. Just op being a bro to his actual bro. So what y'all fell asleep. Glad you got rid of her before she put down the demand for him to live somewhere else than with you. Stay single. Keep bro going through this rough time for you both.

Men and boys can be affectionate without it being creepy!!!

he's 15! Are you all that perverted to think he can't hold his brother.... at 30 my bro {28} will lay his head on my lap and nap when we watch tv, cause he knows I don't care and it's comfy for him, it has no meaning!

Eh, she showed who she is. She is over-reactive, stubborn, and too pig-headed for self reflection or an appropriate apology.

Ok, unpopular opinion maybe, I'm just wondering, but I think we're living in a hypocritical world. A few months ago we judged a mom who jumped and hugged her teen boy for winning a football game and everyone claimed it to be weird and not normal and everything. And now, all circumstances aside, we're normalising a teen boy cuddling his adult brother without a shirt on? What's the difference? Maybe someone can explain.

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I have adult cats that snuggle with and even groom each other. And they have no clothes on at all. I think the situation was unusual, but 100% natural. I do understand that the girlfriend's own experiences could make her spontaneously overreact, but she was given a second chance and chose not to take it. Both of these people are probabll better apart.

So the kids was shirtless I his own home no problem there. And while watching tv they fell asleep. Has no one even seen the friends episode with joey a Ross falling asleep snuggling? Get over yourselves not all physical contact while half naked has to be sexual. They just lost their parents maybe they both felt the need for a comforting hug from famil.

All of the YTA clowns need to get your minds out of the gutter, he's a kid who lost his parents. GF had no right to first, come over unannounced, and to act the way she did, saying she didn't hurt anybody, yet she made the little brother cry nakes her trash.She didnt even tell the poor kid that she was sorry.. He was right to dump her.

Yeah, that's weird behavior. It would raise a lot of concerns. Next to each other, maybe, but on top of each other? No. That's "should I call CPS" territory.

Oh the Horror!!! Men sleeping together and actually making ***GASP*** contact with each other! FFS, I made it a point to hold, hug, arm around their shoulders and even having my sons crash with me while I'm in full recline position in my Super Deluxe Heated Massage Recliner they and my wife gave me for my bday. I was sad when my youngest became too old for it at 12. I tell them I love them, and they me every time we talk or text and even more when one was on combat operations as a Marine, some all 3 of us share, being Marines. I hug them long and hard when I see them, I'vve kissed them on the forehead and tell them they are the best thing I've ever done. Now, at 57 and them in their mid to late 20s, I'd crash on the couch with them in a heartbeat. Words matter, feelings matter and I will let them know how I feel till I'm dust. Its called love and I've never known the type, breadth and depth of love I feel for them and F**k what anyone else has to say about it. She is sick and twisted.

Everyone that says NTA is acting as if the younger brother is like 4 years old. 15 is a teenager, not a kid. That's super weird that a 15 year old boy would be cuddling his older brother without a shirt on, while laying ON TOP of him. The way OP acted toward his girlfriend over this and the "little info" at the end made it feel more creepy to me. The over explaining on how he ended up on top of him... Nah, s**t's weird to me.

Doesn’t matter what anyone thinks INSIDE THEIR OWN HEADS but expressing what they think, especially in a rude manner, when NO ONE ASKED FOR THEIR OPINION, is not only rude it also displays entirely too much self-importance. If something creeps you out that much, then just leave. It’s not appropriate voicing every thought we have. Unless you’ve been asked for your opinion, keep it to yourself. At minimum, you’re hiding the fact you’re a judgmental jerk. If you don’t like a situation, get out of it!

I think it's odd. I have six boys and even as close as they are, they'd be uncomfortable. Definitely NTA, BUT possibly the younger brother needs help to become more independent. I think there's a lot of emotional insecurity that could benefit from therapy. Your lady over-reacted but put yourself in her position. Remember how prevalent inappropriate or abusive behavior is. I'm betting other people would have been surprised or shocked seeing that. Maybe you two can discuss this less dramatically. Even though others will disagree (and I don't care if they do), I still think your brother could benefit from therapy. At 15, he should be emotionally stronger and learning the independence he'll need as an adult in the society he'll inevitably be a part of.