“So Heavy. So Fatty. This Is Death”: Guy Is Sick And Tired Of Wife’s Food Complaints

Being a parent comes with a lot of responsibility. You’re the one tasked with shaping a little person into the best version of themselves they can possibly be. Your most important job is keeping your child alive. And part of this means making sure they are well fed. It’s not always easy, especially if they’re a picky eater.

One dad shared how he was winning at the feeding game until his wife’s bad habits started negatively impacting their 6-year-old daughter. Now, the child refuses her dinner and makes gagging sounds every time her father cooks. He sought help online about how to deal with the situation appropriately and ensure his wife’s food aversions don’t rub off on their daughter.

Many people, like this dad, find cooking therapeutic and enjoyable

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But no matter how much love he puts into his meals, he’s met with snide remarks and gagging at the dinner table

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A parent’s anxieties about food can play a part in a child becoming a picky eater

Eating is a big part of daily life and something that should be enjoyed by families. But sometimes, instead of a peaceful meal and bonding time, dinner turns into a dreaded disaster and a breeding ground for battles.

“When conflicts develop around food, that tension can sadly create a very negative impact on the child’s relationship with food, and their enjoyment of joining the family to eat,” says psychosynthesis counselor and parenting instructor Genevieve Simperingham. “If those tensions continue, there is the risk of the child later developing an eating disorder.”

Simperingham says how parents manage their own feelings around food and their child’s eating is the single most important factor in determining whether a bigger problem develops or not. “With about 95% of the parents who have sought my help with their child’s eating habits, it has come to light that they themselves have had quite big emotional issues around food, diet and body image,” she revealed.

The founder of the Peaceful Parent Institute cautions that parents should watch their words when it comes to establishing a healthy relationship with food. “Making a commitment to avoid words or actions that make your child feel forced, coerced, blamed and rejected relating to their food choices can be a big step in the right direction,” advised Simperingham. She says parents won’t change their child’s mind until they help them change their feelings.

Ironically, one of the tactics the expert suggests when dealing with picky eaters is for parents to pretend to be picky themselves. The expert says when an adult playfully takes the less powerful role, children feel less powerless about being told what to do.

“Bringing some humour and goofiness to the table can be hugely relieving and fun!” said Simperingham. “You could, for instance, try slouching down at the table and dramatically and childishly protest about the ‘yucky’ food on the table. It shouldn’t take long before your child gets into it and will likely tell you to ‘eat up and don’t complain’ with a pointing finger and big giggles!”

But unfortunately for the dad, his wife isn’t just pretending to be picky. She truly dislikes his food… And her not-so-funny behavior is rubbing off on their daughter.

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The man provided more info in the comments

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Many netizens took the dad’s side, voicing concerns over his daughter’s future eating habits

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“Heart attack on a plate”: some people were conflicted about the dad’s meal choices

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