Wife Struggles With Relationship Due To Husband’s Gross Behaviors In Last 18 Months, Asks For Advice

It’s easy for two people to get on each other’s nerves, especially if they’ve been living together for a while. When folks drop their guard around their significant other, it’s usually a good sign because it means they feel comfortable being themselves. 

In some cases, it can prove to be a problem, especially if it involves off-putting habits or behaviors. This is what happened to one woman whose husband kept groaning and moaning throughout the day. She couldn’t stand his sloppy behavior any longer.

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It is wonderful to be completely open with one’s partner, but sometimes, people can end up going too far and behaving in a way that puts their loved one off

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The poster said that in the last 18 months, her 45-year-old husband had started loudly groaning, moaning, sneezing, burping, and clearing his throat all the time

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She explained that her husband’s gross behaviors had started giving her the “ick,” and it made her feel like she was living with an elderly man

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Even though she asked him to stop making such sounds or doing it in front of their kids, he didn’t listen and called her “uptight” for even suggesting it

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The woman couldn’t stand her husband’s constant loud noises anymore and felt nauseated even thinking about his behavior

It seems like the woman’s relationship with her husband has always been slightly rocky because she also told netizens that he would often get angry with her or minimize her feelings. He only started making loud sounds in the last 18 months, and hearing that all the time had made things unbearable for her.

The OP mentioned that she got the ick from her partner and didn’t know what to do about it. Unfortunately, these things are quite common in long-term relationships. The cute habits and quirks people used to find adorable suddenly turn into annoyances. People need to understand the root cause of such feelings so that they know how to cope better with the emotions.

This can be done by reviewing your relationship and seeing if there’s anything else your partner is doing that’s affecting your mood. Sometimes, people might be resentful of their significant other or have unmet needs, which then spill over into the other areas of their lives and come out as annoyance.

In some extreme cases, people might develop something called sudden repulsion syndrome. This is when everything their partner or loved one does gives them a visceral negative reaction, and they cannot stand it at all. In such cases, people might benefit from going to therapy with their partner and trying to find better coping strategies.

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The woman did feel put off by her husband but tried to find a compromise that would not hurt his feelings. She told him that he should at least stop burping or making such loud noises in front of the kids. Despite knowing that she was trying her best to get on board with his behavior, the man still threw a tantrum and called her uptight.

It’s not bad or wrong to have feelings of disgust for something your partner did. The important thing is to openly communicate your thoughts in a calm and loving manner. Explain how the behavior affects you, and suggest alternatives or a compromise. Sometimes, it’s also important to challenge yourself and question why this particular thing is bringing up such a reaction in you.

Although your partner might be defensive at first, validating their emotions will also help them open up more. A good thing to do would be to prioritize the romance in your relationship and suggest bonding activities, dates, or short trips. This might bring back the passion and could even impact the way your partner shows up for you.

It is tough to suddenly experience such negative emotions toward one’s partner, but with a little bit of self-awareness, communication, and bonding, all of this can be made better. The woman might feel exasperated by her husband’s gross behavior, but if she really wants their relationship to thrive she needs to bring all her feelings out into the open.

Do you have any tips for the woman or advice on how she can handle the situation? Share your thoughts in the comments.

Many folks sided with the wife and agreed that her husband’s behavior was off-putting, but some questioned whether he had possibly developed a health issue

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