“How Very 1950s Of You”: Woman Gets A Reality Check After Taking Husband’s First Class Seat And Making Him Fly Coach
Recently, a 32-year-old woman asked the AITA community to figure out if she was right or wrong in a conflict she had with her husband.
“My husband’s (33m) company recently chose him to attend a conference in Miami. They chose just him and a few of his co-workers out of a ton of candidates so it was quite the honor,” the woman wrote. Turns out, the attendees were allowed to bring spouses and partners, but they had to buy tickets for themselves.
At this point, the author realized she would have to fly coach, while her husband had a first-class seat provided by the company. This didn’t sit well with her, so she went on to pressure her husband to give up his seat for her like “a gentleman.”
Read on for the full story below and be sure to share your thoughts in the comments!
Woman wonders if she was wrong to pressure her husband into giving up his ‘earned’ first-class seat for her and fly coach on his work trip
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Whether flying coach or first class, airline tickets seem to be more expensive than ever. Data released by the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics’ Consumer Price Index recently showed that there was an 18.6% increase in airfare from March to April 2022 – the largest one-month jump in recorded history.
Moreover, airfare is up 33% in 2022 when compared to this time last year. That means that Americans are paying a third more for flights than they did a year ago. Higher fuel costs and enormous post-pandemic travel demand are among the factors to blame.
With the biggest planes packed to the max, it’s no wonder that customer satisfaction with airlines over the past year is at an all-time low, according to a J.D. Power survey published recently. The same survey showed that customer satisfaction dropped among travelers across all the ticket classes, coach, business and first class included.
Many people thought that the author was wrong to take her husband’s first-class ticket that his company provided for him
I like the part where a commenter mentioned that if she lives on such gender stereotypes, then she must also bring food for her husband whenever he gets home in a lipstick. Seriously, this woman is entitled AF, and she doesn't even get it. The husband is right to be pissed. And he should be pissed. I hope the woman realizes this soon.
Update from OP who also said she's a preschool teacher (yikes!): "I'm still here. I've read them all. I feel bad and I owe my husband a sincere apology. My thinking was too old-fashioned, but it wasn't born of any sort of evil thought." ETA quotations.
Load More Replies...Wow, this is ALMOST enough to have me go and find this on Reddit to tell her YTA. HIS worked paid for HIS seat as a reward for HIS hard work. HE should have gotten to enjoy it.
🙃 https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/xhctzp/aita_for_making_my_husband_fly_coach_while_i_flew/
Load More Replies...Besides what has already been said here, I would be happy if my husband could fly first class. He is taller and bigger than me, so I would want him to be comfortable.
Yes. That was my thought. My husband is much larger than me. He's tall enough that coach is always uncomfortable. If I had been given the first class ticket from my employer, I would've given it to him because there's an actual reason. It would keep him from being uncomfortable. For me, it would just be a nice luxury. It has nothing to do with one gender being more deserving than another. If he were smaller, I'd be keeping that seat and I wouldn't be peeved if the shoe were on the other foot, either. I want equity. I'm not a privileged princess.
Load More Replies...What kind of wife lives it up in first class while the husband - the actual owner of the seat - has to give it up.
Maybe if she were less entitled brat, he would traded in his first class seat for 2 business class seats. I would've been happy to let my husband fly first class since it was his job.
Yeah, me too, I looked at the bigger picture. I see a trip, we are both arriving on the same plane/time/local. Reconnect at baggage, go onto the hotel. From there have a sweeter adventure made happen by a cheaper tix vs skipping a 'treat' because the $ was spent elsewhere. But that's me.
Load More Replies...My husband would, without a doubt, trade seats with me but we’ve been married for almost forty years and he’s simply the best gentleman in the world. That said, I don’t think I would have suggested the idea. If anything we would have arranged two seats together no matter where we ended up.
What an A** she is. his company paid for him to sit in that seat not her. If it had been my husband, I'd have made him take the seat as he had earnt it. I'd be p***ed at her too.
My wife would be the same way. I'd offer it to her, but she's the type that would insist it was from my company and I earned it. Exactly how I would treat her if the shoe was on the other foot.
Load More Replies...Way there he was supposed to fly first class and the way home in coach. That tells me he was supposed to work either during the flight or direct after. This lady messed up her mans company intentions by being selfish. he needs a better wife..
Or they need to communicate and he needs to explain that info to her if she is ignorant about how big companies work. She is like a daycare worker so she might not get that. I think she has a deep insecurity and they need to talk it out instead of arguing. I think she wanted to be with him and it hurt her feelings so she childishly tested him and guilted him to overcome that insecurity and that needs to stop ASAP as its a bad behavior pattern and we all see that and think that makes her an AH but maybe not. Maybe they both are or neither because they should've worked hard to stay together or voiced their deep feelings before it made the trip bad. They clearly had different perspectives and expectations and that's ok, it happens a lot but must be worked through with communication. Maybe she thought the other plus ones were all in first class but her. That might've made her feel inferior so doesn't mean she is AH it means they need to explore what really went on inside each other
Load More Replies...I fly roughly 10k & 20k alternating every month. Usually full revenue & pretty much Business/First. The novelty wears off fast, flying so much ages me quicker than not and after a while of doing this creature comforts tend to make little difference. For me, the convenience is more about check-in, security, the wait and boarding. I have excellent mile status, but save those as perks for personal travel with others. With that said: if I can use miles to bump my leisure companion up, I do if they’re not a frequent flyer. Often my expensed tix is 1st/business and theirs is coach. Typically, I offer my up seat to someone from coach who could make better use of it. Active duty, first responders, bereavement pax, older or differently abled. There’s always someone with the weight of the world on their shoulders who could use the comfort & attention. In OPs case, he earned it. Yet, when in doubt to fairness, give it to someone struggling, at least with flying. Then enjoy the journey with your partner in the back of the plane.
YTA-He earned the seat from his work. He should've sat up there not you. If you want to sit up there buy yourself a ticket
what kind of a couple they even are? first class or not they should fly together and enjoy the flight together. if he was seated with his colleagues then he should definitely keep the seat and she could buy extra first class but it doesnt seem the company picked the seats. so they either both go by first class or both fly in the coach or whatever it is called. i would not fly alone and my husband would not fly without me either. as for the being a gentleman: a lady doesnt demand others to be gentlemen if they are not behaving like ones. it is not ladylike
Everyone is missing what should have been the solution. Their marriage is a partnership. They have chosen to spend their lives together and share the ups and the downs. Rather than allow something like a first class ride to separate them, both of them should have declined the upgraded seat and flown together in coach. They would have had even more fun and strengthened their marriage as a result.
I thought the same thing. I would want to sit with my SO regardless of which cabin we are in.
Load More Replies...YTA, and I advise him to leave your entitled, manipulative a** home next time.
There was another one like this where the man got upgraded to first class and left his wife behind in coach. All I got to say about both situations is that both my husband and I would insist the other person gets 1st class, then figure it out together.
I think you hit the nail in the head...you know how to do it together and she freaked because he didn't seem to care about being together as much as she did then she tested him in a sort of childish way. It's bigger than she wanted first class. That much is clear and they both have to be really honest TOGETHER about what deep issues were triggered to get past this and it not pop up again...
Load More Replies...I don't get it. Both are assholes. Because both are completely ok with separate travelling. As long as "someone" gets to enjoy "business class ". If I was travelling with my SO, I'd want to sit next to them during the flight. So either both coach or both business.
I think you and the others who said should've figured out how to stay together really are onto something! This was maybe the OPs original reason for being very bothered and she just didn't realize it due to youth and not aware of deep feelings. I think this goes to expectations and if people treat marriage a partnership or a friends/ roomies with benefits thing. I think if the flight was long they'd want to do whatever to be together and the idea he wasn't willing to do it made her pressure him to give up the nicer seat due to hitting that together nerve and some insecurities she has. It's easier to make it an argument about a seat than it is to explore the possibility you two have totally different expectations and ideas about marriage relationship is the vibe I'm getting and maybe they are not self aware or mature enough to see it? Maybe just him showing effort to be together would've been enough to settle that insecurity and he didn't so she guilted him. Both?
Load More Replies...Yep STA. I would have been so glad to fly coach while my husband flies First class. He earned that seat and I would have been really happy for him. Oiiii I wonder how she is on a day to day basis honestly. My BIL's fiancé has this type of entitlement. Just be glad that you're husband could afford to take you on this trip. Not everyone can afford to do this.
I would like to see her reaction to all these YTA comments, how she feels now. Does she see what she did or does she insist that she's still right?
Update from OP who also said she's a preschool teacher (yikes!): "I'm still here. I've read them all. I feel bad and I owe my husband a sincere apology. My thinking was too old-fashioned, but it wasn't born of any sort of evil thought."
Load More Replies...I haven't seen 1 single person comment in support of her actions. I find that hilarious! 😂
Wow. This lady sounds entitled and annoying. What kind of wife takes something that her husband earned and whines about it? She had no right to take his seat away from him and he has every right to be annoyed about it. The company paid for HIM to sit in first class, not HER. If I was the husband I would never invite her anywhere ever again.
Wow... entitled much? Not only are you the a*****e, but you're also a f*****g c**t. You go from saying yes it's a big deal for him, and yes, you want to go, but then argue and guilt him into giving you his prize. That HE earned. First, it's yeah, it's too expensive. Then it's we probably could have found the money, but it would still have been too expensive. Then you pretty much jump to... if he loved you enough, he'd just pay for it. But first and foremost... you believe that you deserve the prize that he worked hard for and earned for himself. Holy smokes! I truly hope, for the sake of your husband (the one YOU called a 'baby'?), that whining and guilting him into giving you what ever you want is not an ongoing--let alone, ever again--thing with you. I'm assuming that you think you're pretty too, but you are not very bright.
She sounds like a walking red flag. Couldn't even be happy and proud of your husband for his achievement? That speaks volumes! I can't tell you how many people I come in contact with on a daily basis who have this entitled attitude even over the most insignificant things. It almost seems worse since covid lockdowns. Nobody owes anyone anything but you are more likely to get your way if you are kind and respectful. Seems as though the "common" things, like common courtesy and common sense, are going extinct.
Not even like she's pregnant/disabled/injured. In those cases I'd be more understanding and I'd expect him to offer. She didn't even ask him to let her sit there for an hour of the flight she insisted it had to be her seat
Clearly there is a truck load of information we're not getting. 1) What company sends their employees first class? 2) Did husband secretly spend his travel budget on himself instead of buying two coach tickets? 3) Where are they traveling from? Is all this about a two hour flight? Honestly, I don't think this is a real post.
1) A lot of companies do because they get a big corporate discount (my mother was a corporate travel agent at a company she worked for) 2) It doesn't work like that...the agent books all the flights for the employees...he could request it after it's booked through the airline on his own, but she sounds like she ruined that option 3) I'm sure it's real... my mom dealt with pissy spouses all the time demanding that she book their flights for them too when it wasn't her job to handle their travel arrangements.
Load More Replies...This would have been awkward no matter what because they didn't share the same view of the value/expense of sitting together and splurging on the trip. This trip was mainly to attend a conference, with how much free time? Did the other co-workers bring someone, and if so, where did they sit? If the conference was for just a certain number of days and the remaining days were open, maybe she could have caught a later flight, or they could have had this just be a solo business trip, and then make plans to return to Florida together another time. No judgment on either of them. I hope they're able to see each other's perspective and make amends.
Wasn't it possible to trade in the first class ticket and put the money toward two regular tickets?
I can’t believe he let her tell him what to do. He never should have given her the seat. That’s just ridiculous! Be a man and b—chslap her across the face then tell her that just for her insolence she doesn’t get to go at all! Stop letting these b—chy women run your lives! Stand up for yourselves! She needs him, he doesn’t need her.
First thought: was she going to be the ONLY one in coach and it made her feel some deep childhood wound because she said it really bothered her but didn't delve deep and that IS the Crux of the why this bad situation/ drama ensued. Was it that the other workers and their plus ones were all going to be together in first class and she has a history of feeling second rate OR that he was, in her mind, implying she wasn't worth the first class ticket/only worth coach OR was she afraid he would be next to someone specifically and she would be away in coach? I mean if all the others paid first class for their significant others and were "living it up" without her then I could see a bit more of why it would bother her but if that's not the case then she has to really look at past Insecurities AND understand people dont know etiquette anymore. If you invite someone on a trip and the accommodations are not equal it is proper manners whether man or woman to give the Guest the Best. More info pls
I'm torn. Her point, I think, is more that he should have offered her his seat ONLY BECAUSE he insisted they should not pay for the second First Class seat for her. It should have been a nice splurge since it sounds like it might be their first experience with First Class, and who knows if they will have the opportunity again. However, it is more for BOTH to consider the $$ impact on would have on being able to splurge at their destination--I'll bet they were able to enjoy even more things BECAUSE 'they' chose Coach. I would have agreed at the expense and made it fun by flipping a coin for Coach or First Class. But, I definitely would have let his First Class be HIS.
(1) So the company flies the husband first class to Florida, but only coach on the trip back? Huh? (2) When her husband told her about the flight arrangements, she should not have complained or argued. She should just have said "Fine". All husbands know and fear the meaning of that.
Paper Rocks Scissors would have been the appropriate solution to this conundrum.
When is it ever appropriate to take someone' reward? Plus the company made it clear they are not paying for a plane ticket for spouses, much less a first class ticket, yet that is exactly what the wife forced the company to do. This is inappropriate.
Load More Replies...If I was the husband, it wouldn't have been an issue because I would've made one of 2 choices: 1) both fly first class, or 2) both fly coach. If I want my wife to accompany me on the trip and we can't afford the upgrade of the 2nd ticket to first class, then I'd ask the company to downgrade my ticket to coach and apply the additional funds to the second seat. A few hours of coach isn't going to break me, but an enjoyable trip with my spouse... totally worth the downgrade to be with her.
Not only are YTA, you're an entitled b*tch. So, YOUR comfort is more important than his? HE is the one who EARNED that 1st class ticket, not you. AND - he most certainly didn't have to invite you along. WOW. I can't believe having to be married to you.
I can imagine her going on and on about how excited she was to be flying first class while waiting to board, and then went on and on about what a great experience it was after they landed. What an AH. She doesn't deserve this man
YTA! I concede it would be different if the couple purchased both tickets. THAT'S the 1950s stereotype. This is COMPLETELY different and that makes you an entitled brat. He deserves better.
Yta. He earned that seat. He didn't need to invite you. Personally, it sounds like he should have left you at home. Next time, let him enjoy what HE earned
When airplane tickets are purchased a named is assigned to that specific seat. Technically, she wasn't listed on the ticket for that seat.
I would have been happy to be able to come and would have been understanding that I'd have to sit in Coach. She seems very entitled, it's his job so he should have the seat they payed for him to have. She also sounds jealous.
All pre school teacher thinks that they are entitled. They only chose this job because they can feel powerful by commanding kids to do what they like. Once they retire, they will be depressed because they can't get what that want in real life(unlike what they have gotten through kids). I've experience real life incidents with such people especially pre school teachers. They will justkeep manipulating you their kids their husband, etc. This post proves this point again. Yta entitled c*nt. Wish people like you suffer longer and painful before you die
Well, you can thank the women's lib groups for what's going on. Women want equal everything, pay, take me out on a date and the men are still expected to pay. Women have been told theyre better than men you know, the typical BS these days. Yet what's disturbing, men are still expected to be gentlemen in every aspect and this guy shouldn't regardless of being married give up his seat. Women stink period.
Wow, the selfishness of this young woman is unbelievable. He should leave her at home next time and any other time he is rewarded with a trip. She literally took his reward as hers. She needs to grow up.
One thing not mentioned: Were there other members of company in first class on same flight? If so, the entitled brat caused an even bigger issue because her husband lost chance to build or strengthen business relationships that could help his future. These are the kind of women i warn my brothers, male friends and cousins about, but they get suckered in because this type of woman attracts them by the whole "you are my knight in shing armor" routine that makes them feel like manly men until too late. I am allowed to say this because I am a woman myself and livid these (fill in word) make the rest of us look terrible.
Selfish. I'd have been upset too. If you didn't pay for something that you work your a*s off to get and then you're forced to give it away. I would have just been like nope you're sitting in coach both ways. You want to fly first class then you better find a different company and work your a*s off
Maybe this is an unpopular opinion, but if I was dragged along like an inconvenient suitcase I'd be hurt too. Leaving all the stupid 1950's BS aside, if I were the husband I would have paid for a firsr class ticket or ridden coach. Why? Because I like my partner and want to spend time with them. If I'm so full of myself that I "earned" first class, doesn't my partner who supports me also have "earned" similar accommodation? Why even invite someone along if you're not interested in spending time with them? The husband should have gotten what he apparently wanted: to be alone.
I wonder if she also sat in for him at the work conference too. Doubtful, because it's equally as ridiculous, and not the fun part of the trip. Guess who's not coming on the next work conference trip? That's right, the seat stealing AH.
Don't be like her. Like I know envy and jealousy can sometimes get best of us, but still. He did earn it and while yes, ideally both would fly first class, stuff often aren't ideal and if money is tight, economic class isn't that bad. Plus he did work hard to earn first class and she should have respilected that, leaving him first class seat. And marriage always should be two people supporting each other, being happy for each other and so on... Not this childish "but he got that, why can't I have it". And here it really isn't case of unfair treatment.
When you have to ask if YTA chances are that in fact YTA! Since the trip was a couple of hours, you couldn't let him enjoy his earned first class seat?! He didn't have to ask you to go, he asked because he wanted you to celebrate with him, but instead you made him feel guilty for wanting to enjoy something that he worked hard for. YTA.
As a gentleman myself, I would merely find someone in coach class and offer to swap my first class ticket with theirs so we could sit together and it's doing something nice for a stranger. She shouldn't have insisted so much.
YTA .. his work paid for that seat as appreciation for his work, I am surprised that you were allowed to swap the seat as it was not purchased for you. I would have left you at home !
Personally, I think ESH. Wife was an AH for guilting hubby into giving up seat. Hubby was an AH for not upgrading her ticket, so they could sit together. My hubby would. I'm a nervous flyer. I need him next to me. And he would want to be by my side, anyway. We're a package deal, we do almost everything together, and we love it that way. So what if it cuts into the "fun money" a little? You're in Florida. Spend a couple evenings on the beach, instead of going out. You don't have to "do" stuff, to have fun. You just have to enjoy being together. Where there's a will, there's a way.
She should think about this. It would be like if she trained months for a marathon and if as soon as she crossed the line the husband came in, took the trophy, sach, ribbon, money prize, etc. I bet she would've thrown a fit. That could've also given the chance to talk about the race with others. What if he was discussing something with colleagues but couldn't because she took his seat? He worked for the company, she's just with him. Definitely the AH.
You are selfish and made yourself look like an entitled spoilt brat. This was a work trip and you should’ve stayed at home, but you decided to take first class treat away for doing absolutely nothing. Oh that’s right… you showed his colleagues how much of an a**e you are and created a bitter sweet memory for hubby with your childish demands. Three guesses who will not be getting invited anywhere know. Get a job with your own perks and stop being a kill joy!
If there was truly no way to book seats together why not take turns?
I think she's right. She's just being rewarded by all the training and time she had to put in in order to turn her husband into a perfect SiMP. Kudos to her!. I mean, If you're a person who earned that reward, who really think you deserved and wanted to enjoy it with your teamnmates but you're married to a woman who doesn't give a F about that and it's only concern about her comfort, what does it say about you? You must have really messed up in the past, sucks as husband or have a really a very low self steem. Blink 3X if you need help.
She needs to apologize to her husband. Some husbands wouldn't have even told their wives and just gone alone. You should have been happy to sit wherever since he took you! Apologize and take him out for a special date night.
Y’all won’t this is funny but in my family it is. I was treating my newly pregnant daughter and her husband to a Caribbean vacation. At the last my ticket got upgraded. As I sat in first class my son in law passed me and then I saw my daughter and she had a smirk on her face and I knew she was going to be a smart a*s. Just as she walked by me she said “don’t worry about the pregnant woman, she’ll just sit in the back”. The people around me must of thought I was a jackass but I knew she was just teasing me and that she wanted to sit with her husband.
YTA does not do it justice. YAC is more like it. (you're a c*#t). Her move was completely selfish, unforgiving, and deplorable. It seems if the world doesn't revolve around her, then she will destroy it.
They're both assholes. Hubby should have opened the piggy bank a little more and gotten a 2nd first~class ticket. His cheapness is what got him a coach seat. SHE should have squeaked LOUDLY about it and made him buy her a seat next to him. It still comes out to two 1st~class tickets for the price of one.
Yeah, somehow I doubt she's not following the 1950's guidelines of being a wife but holds her husband to those standards. She's sexist and he needs to GTFO.
I think both of you should have given up the first class to seat next to your wife in coach. And give the seat to the lucky guy.. this would have changed your relationship for better. You are willing to sacrifice comfort to be next to your wife. Or just bought the first class first hand...
I agree with most people on here but for a different reason. She should be doing what she can to be supportive of her husband. He needs 100% support at home to do his very best in what is a competitive field. Ultimately the success of one is success for both. She's too obsessed with herself to see she just cucked her husband in front of his co-workers.
Karen? Entitled much? She should have been in coach, the ticket for first class was for her husband.
100% YTA what kind of marriage is this? He gave up his seat because OP made it clear she’d make his life miserable. That’s actually emotionally abusive. 1st Class seat was a perk of HIS JOB & he was bullied into giving it up. I can’t find one redeeming piece to this that justifies her behavior. She’s getting a free vacation for cost of airfare. If they really couldn’t comfortably afford a 2nd 1st Class ticket then one G-word comes to mind and it’s not gentleman it’s GRATITUDE. I have a strong feeling that had this shoe been on the other foot she wouldn’t have given up her 1st Class Tix & IF he bullied her the way she did I could hear her making Divorce Threats.
The kind who brings home the bacon. That's rich...he's being a baby?
I would rather fly in coach with my wife than fly first class without her. I also would've offered her the seat and she would of turned it down, and then we would of argued about it.
Total a*****e. 1 he earned it, you didn't. 2 you are a whiny a nag. 3 I'm pretty sure you're a feminist UNTIL it doesnt benefit you.
She must have felt some form of entitled. With that said, she got the lesser end of the trip in her mind. But why take her husband's seat? That's the embarssing and mind-bottling part.
Load More Replies...If the tables were turned, the husband would most likely want his wife to enjoy the 1st class seat SHE earned, but, obviously the wife doesn't feel the same way. A very selfish, me me , me woman, he should have left her ungrateful behind home This man has a right to be upset!
Really? You couldn't be like "can I sit there for a little bit to see what it's like?" You had to have it full time even though it was a present from his work for the work he, not you, he put in? I'm sure he would have been absolutely fine letting you try his gift out, but you had to be perfectly even or take his... Your husband is a gentleman and I applaud him for giving up his seat for you after you had a tantrum and for sticking with you after you apparently called him a baby for it afterwards. Also "should put his wife's comfort ahead of his own" is what takes our equality and pushes it back into the dark ages... It's not 'pick'n'choose' equality. Finally, by the sounds of it he wasn't being cheap, he just wasn't being frivolous with your money. A bump from economy to first class is like buying a small diamond ring. Coach to first class is on average a 5-10 times difference so screw your "he was being cheap" c**p.
Definitely YTA That some entitled bish s**t. I would have left your a*s home.
I think unless my husband really wanted me to come, I'd just let him go alone. Not for any other reason than money is tight, and I'm not a necessity. Though if he wanted me to come more than a passing thought, I'd figure it out. Hell, I'd go a day or two early and just take a Greyhound lol
YTA and you are also selfish. He should also divorce you. You have shown your true colors. You did not earn that ticket, he did. I'd you weren't ok with flying coach, you shouldn't have went at all. He now knows what he has to look forward to and put up with for the rest of his life, a whiny, entitled, brat. You should do him a favor and grant him a divorce, asking for nothing, immediately. If you truly love him, set him free.
So what if you are a preschool teacher ... the trip was for employees whom permission was given to bring along spouses... what you did was ... he ran the race but you want to accept the gold medal ... you were supportive for which he is grateful I am sure... so they announce Mŕ Name and you get up ... take the walk of achievement for his prize ...nooooooo ....wrong wrong wrong .... if you wanted to be there to celebrate with... you could have suggested half and half ... but men don't usually announce that they are broke... he is very happy to receive the minor increase in salary so you can continue living in your bubble.... it was not about you ... it was about him...very mean.
She obviously isn't looking towards the future. You think he's going to offer this trip to her should the situation ever arise again? I doubt it.
Yeah, op is TA. No two ways about it. Yes. The gentlemanly thing to do would be either fly with your wife or give her your ticket. HOWEVER the ladylike thing to do would be to NOT flip your sh!t about it.
If finances were so tight, why didn't they ask the company to give them the difference back and both fly coach?
Chivalry is dead. I am attracted to men that take care of their woman. Sure he earned it but it still wouldn't change the fact that he didn't want to put his wife first. Didnt want to sacrifice his seat or budget to love her and respect her. I already have to do gender based responsibilities, basically everything but earn money. Which I earn money as well. I make the same as my husband but work less hours. This is why woman leave men at higher rates. We can't help but want protection and to be our husband's 1st priority. It might not be fair to men in certain situations, but it is not always fair for the woman in a family role.
He earned his first class seat, at the most I might of asked to trade seats on the return trip so I could enjoy a first class seat if it would be a once in a lifetime thing. But definitely, YTA for taking his Golden ticket.
My husband would not be ok with us sitting separately. No if and or but about that. He would not consider even going without me. My problem with this story is that it was the husband insisting on purchasing his wife a coach ticket. Not asking if she’d like to fly coach so they could spend more on the trip. Why not both fly coach? I’m sure the airline would have accommodated this request. It’s also pretty passive aggressive to agree to trade for coach then complain about it. My husband often gives me his work gifts. True they have been things like hydro flasks, insulated shopping bags, tee shirts, jackets, ect. with the company logo. And I’ve always brought him on company trips (it was allowed and fully paid for), and offered him my company gifts. Maybe the real question is, if this is truly a reward, how could the company NOT provide two anointing seats for the employee and guest? Also how is she taking his hard earned reward? Is she walking up and accepting the plaque? No, she just switching seats on the flight. Which is just plain stupid imo. Would you rather sit next to strangers or your spouse on a long flight? If you pick strangers you got more serious problems.
Warning.... Warning... Level 49 Karen... Threat level RED
Why would any person be so selfish to take a persons hard earned work related seat away from the person who worked for it. Wife or not, this was paid for by the company he worked for and that was bought for him and not her. Technically he should have been in first class with his cohorts which more than likely would have been talking work which you through a wrench in. Next time leave her home and keep her away from all work related activities. Sadly, this woman is self absorbed, spoiled and very disrespectful of her husband and his company. This is not a 1950 or 2022 problem this is straight up a work situation turned into a wife who bullied her husband. Wake up everyone. The company paid for the ticket. The man works for the company and he was to sit there. Not her!!!
She is a b***h for making the dude give up his seat, that is a given. But as a husband, I would never offer to take my wife on a business trip knowing I cannot afford her the same treatment as I do get. In this instance, since I have decided to invite her, I would have either paid up for her to be with me in first class or ask the boss if I can get a coach because I want to fly with my wife and cannot afford first class. Plus, if I get to enjoy a stupid thing like first class and cannot share it with my soulmate, I simply don't want it.
Let’s stop pointing fingers and compromise. When you find these things out call the airline and ask for their help. Maybe they will convert his ticket to business class and use part of that to cover your cost. There is usually a creative spoliation. Your both assholes for not trying to get a better solution to pointing fingers and being upset with each other.
If she at least came up with a compromise like "I pay the other half of the first class ticket" or "you get the ticket and I will finance the Trip in Miami", this wouldn't have been such a clear YTA. But gos is she entitled.
YTA he earned the trip in first class with his coworkers in first class. You should have been proud of him and let him have his special moment. Instead you guilted him into giving it to you. How selfish. That's just not right at all. You owe him something wonderful. You better make it right. First apologies and then do something entirely for him all weekend. You owe him big for taking away his special reward for hard work.
Obviously the lady doesn’t know what a healthy marriage relation is. You are a team, you are supposed to cheer your husband every time he is successful, as well as him to you. You were not supposed to take his invitation to HIS trip in a thankful manner. You’re too selfish to realize how much he loves you, and respects you that you still thinking he is wrong to be mad at you. Start thinking what you should be feeling if he ask you to do the same. Stop being a spoiled little selfish girl and grow up giving respect and admiration to that great husband by your side.
I'm seeing comments on reddit that say "OP" and are very much against the woman in the post so i feel like this is fake.
I know everyone agrees that YTA so I can't add much to the comments but really I think it just can't be said enough so please add my YTA comment! LOL
What's wrong with sharing first class down and back? He should have flown down in first class and his wife could have flown back in first class. That way he could speak with his co-workers on the way down and also relax a bit more before the conference. Either that, or he could have cajoled his fellow conferencees to all switch so all the spouses could fly in first class both ways. Personally, i blame the company for saying spouses could come but they would have to buy their own ticket. C'mon, the entire thing is a tax write off for the company and would have increased the company's PR.
I believe they were both flying coach on the way back. You're not allowed to trade halfway through the flight, are you? I've obviously never flown first class.
Load More Replies...Almost all of my flights have been 12+ hours long. I wouldn't be mad at all if my husband had the first class seat during the flight, especially if his work paid for it! I'd be jealous but not in a negative way. I'd just want him to bring me back some good snacks or something!
Neither me nor my my partner are large people. He would definitely offer the seat to me, though, knowing him. I'd personally pay for the upgrade so we could have fun together. Or he'd pay for it, or we would split. If that couldn't happen, we would both be happy to find a tall legged person and make their day so the two of us could sit together.
They both should be wanting to give the seat the the other. But yta. But both ta, too? I don't know.
I’m sure she could have survived for a 3 hour plane ride, honestly. And isn’t coach “better” than where the regular unwashed masses like myself sit anyhow?
Coach IS where the regular unwashed masses like us sit.
Load More Replies...I'm in the minority to think ESH. The wife was rude to ask for his seat. However, if you invite someone on a trip with you, then the polite thing to do is offer that person the same or better seat. It's rude to invite someone on a trip and then insist that he/she sit in a lower class. The polite action would be to sit together in coach or sit together in first class.
He invited her on a work trip, paid for by his job. This wasn't a personal trip where he paid for a FC seat for himself and then dumped her in coach. The FC seat was also a reward for work he had done. She took away his reward from his company for his hard work. If the situation was reversed, she absolutely would have kept her first class seat. The easiest way to prevent her from possibly sitting in a worse seat than him is to just never invite her on another work trip. She got a free trip to Miami through his hard work and they couldn't afford a FC ticket for her, so she should have sat in her coach seat and been grateful for this trip.
Load More Replies...This is why you don't get married fellas. It's female nature to be selfish. Me, me, me. This trip was about her husband. Something that HE earned. But if course he funky butt things she deserves it. You can't make this stuff up He's goofy though. You never bring the wife to Miami in the first place😂😂😂
I hope you realize you're doing the exact same thing she does in reverse.
Load More Replies...I like the part where a commenter mentioned that if she lives on such gender stereotypes, then she must also bring food for her husband whenever he gets home in a lipstick. Seriously, this woman is entitled AF, and she doesn't even get it. The husband is right to be pissed. And he should be pissed. I hope the woman realizes this soon.
Update from OP who also said she's a preschool teacher (yikes!): "I'm still here. I've read them all. I feel bad and I owe my husband a sincere apology. My thinking was too old-fashioned, but it wasn't born of any sort of evil thought." ETA quotations.
Load More Replies...Wow, this is ALMOST enough to have me go and find this on Reddit to tell her YTA. HIS worked paid for HIS seat as a reward for HIS hard work. HE should have gotten to enjoy it.
🙃 https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/xhctzp/aita_for_making_my_husband_fly_coach_while_i_flew/
Load More Replies...Besides what has already been said here, I would be happy if my husband could fly first class. He is taller and bigger than me, so I would want him to be comfortable.
Yes. That was my thought. My husband is much larger than me. He's tall enough that coach is always uncomfortable. If I had been given the first class ticket from my employer, I would've given it to him because there's an actual reason. It would keep him from being uncomfortable. For me, it would just be a nice luxury. It has nothing to do with one gender being more deserving than another. If he were smaller, I'd be keeping that seat and I wouldn't be peeved if the shoe were on the other foot, either. I want equity. I'm not a privileged princess.
Load More Replies...What kind of wife lives it up in first class while the husband - the actual owner of the seat - has to give it up.
Maybe if she were less entitled brat, he would traded in his first class seat for 2 business class seats. I would've been happy to let my husband fly first class since it was his job.
Yeah, me too, I looked at the bigger picture. I see a trip, we are both arriving on the same plane/time/local. Reconnect at baggage, go onto the hotel. From there have a sweeter adventure made happen by a cheaper tix vs skipping a 'treat' because the $ was spent elsewhere. But that's me.
Load More Replies...My husband would, without a doubt, trade seats with me but we’ve been married for almost forty years and he’s simply the best gentleman in the world. That said, I don’t think I would have suggested the idea. If anything we would have arranged two seats together no matter where we ended up.
What an A** she is. his company paid for him to sit in that seat not her. If it had been my husband, I'd have made him take the seat as he had earnt it. I'd be p***ed at her too.
My wife would be the same way. I'd offer it to her, but she's the type that would insist it was from my company and I earned it. Exactly how I would treat her if the shoe was on the other foot.
Load More Replies...Way there he was supposed to fly first class and the way home in coach. That tells me he was supposed to work either during the flight or direct after. This lady messed up her mans company intentions by being selfish. he needs a better wife..
Or they need to communicate and he needs to explain that info to her if she is ignorant about how big companies work. She is like a daycare worker so she might not get that. I think she has a deep insecurity and they need to talk it out instead of arguing. I think she wanted to be with him and it hurt her feelings so she childishly tested him and guilted him to overcome that insecurity and that needs to stop ASAP as its a bad behavior pattern and we all see that and think that makes her an AH but maybe not. Maybe they both are or neither because they should've worked hard to stay together or voiced their deep feelings before it made the trip bad. They clearly had different perspectives and expectations and that's ok, it happens a lot but must be worked through with communication. Maybe she thought the other plus ones were all in first class but her. That might've made her feel inferior so doesn't mean she is AH it means they need to explore what really went on inside each other
Load More Replies...I fly roughly 10k & 20k alternating every month. Usually full revenue & pretty much Business/First. The novelty wears off fast, flying so much ages me quicker than not and after a while of doing this creature comforts tend to make little difference. For me, the convenience is more about check-in, security, the wait and boarding. I have excellent mile status, but save those as perks for personal travel with others. With that said: if I can use miles to bump my leisure companion up, I do if they’re not a frequent flyer. Often my expensed tix is 1st/business and theirs is coach. Typically, I offer my up seat to someone from coach who could make better use of it. Active duty, first responders, bereavement pax, older or differently abled. There’s always someone with the weight of the world on their shoulders who could use the comfort & attention. In OPs case, he earned it. Yet, when in doubt to fairness, give it to someone struggling, at least with flying. Then enjoy the journey with your partner in the back of the plane.
YTA-He earned the seat from his work. He should've sat up there not you. If you want to sit up there buy yourself a ticket
what kind of a couple they even are? first class or not they should fly together and enjoy the flight together. if he was seated with his colleagues then he should definitely keep the seat and she could buy extra first class but it doesnt seem the company picked the seats. so they either both go by first class or both fly in the coach or whatever it is called. i would not fly alone and my husband would not fly without me either. as for the being a gentleman: a lady doesnt demand others to be gentlemen if they are not behaving like ones. it is not ladylike
Everyone is missing what should have been the solution. Their marriage is a partnership. They have chosen to spend their lives together and share the ups and the downs. Rather than allow something like a first class ride to separate them, both of them should have declined the upgraded seat and flown together in coach. They would have had even more fun and strengthened their marriage as a result.
I thought the same thing. I would want to sit with my SO regardless of which cabin we are in.
Load More Replies...YTA, and I advise him to leave your entitled, manipulative a** home next time.
There was another one like this where the man got upgraded to first class and left his wife behind in coach. All I got to say about both situations is that both my husband and I would insist the other person gets 1st class, then figure it out together.
I think you hit the nail in the head...you know how to do it together and she freaked because he didn't seem to care about being together as much as she did then she tested him in a sort of childish way. It's bigger than she wanted first class. That much is clear and they both have to be really honest TOGETHER about what deep issues were triggered to get past this and it not pop up again...
Load More Replies...I don't get it. Both are assholes. Because both are completely ok with separate travelling. As long as "someone" gets to enjoy "business class ". If I was travelling with my SO, I'd want to sit next to them during the flight. So either both coach or both business.
I think you and the others who said should've figured out how to stay together really are onto something! This was maybe the OPs original reason for being very bothered and she just didn't realize it due to youth and not aware of deep feelings. I think this goes to expectations and if people treat marriage a partnership or a friends/ roomies with benefits thing. I think if the flight was long they'd want to do whatever to be together and the idea he wasn't willing to do it made her pressure him to give up the nicer seat due to hitting that together nerve and some insecurities she has. It's easier to make it an argument about a seat than it is to explore the possibility you two have totally different expectations and ideas about marriage relationship is the vibe I'm getting and maybe they are not self aware or mature enough to see it? Maybe just him showing effort to be together would've been enough to settle that insecurity and he didn't so she guilted him. Both?
Load More Replies...Yep STA. I would have been so glad to fly coach while my husband flies First class. He earned that seat and I would have been really happy for him. Oiiii I wonder how she is on a day to day basis honestly. My BIL's fiancé has this type of entitlement. Just be glad that you're husband could afford to take you on this trip. Not everyone can afford to do this.
I would like to see her reaction to all these YTA comments, how she feels now. Does she see what she did or does she insist that she's still right?
Update from OP who also said she's a preschool teacher (yikes!): "I'm still here. I've read them all. I feel bad and I owe my husband a sincere apology. My thinking was too old-fashioned, but it wasn't born of any sort of evil thought."
Load More Replies...I haven't seen 1 single person comment in support of her actions. I find that hilarious! 😂
Wow. This lady sounds entitled and annoying. What kind of wife takes something that her husband earned and whines about it? She had no right to take his seat away from him and he has every right to be annoyed about it. The company paid for HIM to sit in first class, not HER. If I was the husband I would never invite her anywhere ever again.
Wow... entitled much? Not only are you the a*****e, but you're also a f*****g c**t. You go from saying yes it's a big deal for him, and yes, you want to go, but then argue and guilt him into giving you his prize. That HE earned. First, it's yeah, it's too expensive. Then it's we probably could have found the money, but it would still have been too expensive. Then you pretty much jump to... if he loved you enough, he'd just pay for it. But first and foremost... you believe that you deserve the prize that he worked hard for and earned for himself. Holy smokes! I truly hope, for the sake of your husband (the one YOU called a 'baby'?), that whining and guilting him into giving you what ever you want is not an ongoing--let alone, ever again--thing with you. I'm assuming that you think you're pretty too, but you are not very bright.
She sounds like a walking red flag. Couldn't even be happy and proud of your husband for his achievement? That speaks volumes! I can't tell you how many people I come in contact with on a daily basis who have this entitled attitude even over the most insignificant things. It almost seems worse since covid lockdowns. Nobody owes anyone anything but you are more likely to get your way if you are kind and respectful. Seems as though the "common" things, like common courtesy and common sense, are going extinct.
Not even like she's pregnant/disabled/injured. In those cases I'd be more understanding and I'd expect him to offer. She didn't even ask him to let her sit there for an hour of the flight she insisted it had to be her seat
Clearly there is a truck load of information we're not getting. 1) What company sends their employees first class? 2) Did husband secretly spend his travel budget on himself instead of buying two coach tickets? 3) Where are they traveling from? Is all this about a two hour flight? Honestly, I don't think this is a real post.
1) A lot of companies do because they get a big corporate discount (my mother was a corporate travel agent at a company she worked for) 2) It doesn't work like that...the agent books all the flights for the employees...he could request it after it's booked through the airline on his own, but she sounds like she ruined that option 3) I'm sure it's real... my mom dealt with pissy spouses all the time demanding that she book their flights for them too when it wasn't her job to handle their travel arrangements.
Load More Replies...This would have been awkward no matter what because they didn't share the same view of the value/expense of sitting together and splurging on the trip. This trip was mainly to attend a conference, with how much free time? Did the other co-workers bring someone, and if so, where did they sit? If the conference was for just a certain number of days and the remaining days were open, maybe she could have caught a later flight, or they could have had this just be a solo business trip, and then make plans to return to Florida together another time. No judgment on either of them. I hope they're able to see each other's perspective and make amends.
Wasn't it possible to trade in the first class ticket and put the money toward two regular tickets?
I can’t believe he let her tell him what to do. He never should have given her the seat. That’s just ridiculous! Be a man and b—chslap her across the face then tell her that just for her insolence she doesn’t get to go at all! Stop letting these b—chy women run your lives! Stand up for yourselves! She needs him, he doesn’t need her.
First thought: was she going to be the ONLY one in coach and it made her feel some deep childhood wound because she said it really bothered her but didn't delve deep and that IS the Crux of the why this bad situation/ drama ensued. Was it that the other workers and their plus ones were all going to be together in first class and she has a history of feeling second rate OR that he was, in her mind, implying she wasn't worth the first class ticket/only worth coach OR was she afraid he would be next to someone specifically and she would be away in coach? I mean if all the others paid first class for their significant others and were "living it up" without her then I could see a bit more of why it would bother her but if that's not the case then she has to really look at past Insecurities AND understand people dont know etiquette anymore. If you invite someone on a trip and the accommodations are not equal it is proper manners whether man or woman to give the Guest the Best. More info pls
I'm torn. Her point, I think, is more that he should have offered her his seat ONLY BECAUSE he insisted they should not pay for the second First Class seat for her. It should have been a nice splurge since it sounds like it might be their first experience with First Class, and who knows if they will have the opportunity again. However, it is more for BOTH to consider the $$ impact on would have on being able to splurge at their destination--I'll bet they were able to enjoy even more things BECAUSE 'they' chose Coach. I would have agreed at the expense and made it fun by flipping a coin for Coach or First Class. But, I definitely would have let his First Class be HIS.
(1) So the company flies the husband first class to Florida, but only coach on the trip back? Huh? (2) When her husband told her about the flight arrangements, she should not have complained or argued. She should just have said "Fine". All husbands know and fear the meaning of that.
Paper Rocks Scissors would have been the appropriate solution to this conundrum.
When is it ever appropriate to take someone' reward? Plus the company made it clear they are not paying for a plane ticket for spouses, much less a first class ticket, yet that is exactly what the wife forced the company to do. This is inappropriate.
Load More Replies...If I was the husband, it wouldn't have been an issue because I would've made one of 2 choices: 1) both fly first class, or 2) both fly coach. If I want my wife to accompany me on the trip and we can't afford the upgrade of the 2nd ticket to first class, then I'd ask the company to downgrade my ticket to coach and apply the additional funds to the second seat. A few hours of coach isn't going to break me, but an enjoyable trip with my spouse... totally worth the downgrade to be with her.
Not only are YTA, you're an entitled b*tch. So, YOUR comfort is more important than his? HE is the one who EARNED that 1st class ticket, not you. AND - he most certainly didn't have to invite you along. WOW. I can't believe having to be married to you.
I can imagine her going on and on about how excited she was to be flying first class while waiting to board, and then went on and on about what a great experience it was after they landed. What an AH. She doesn't deserve this man
YTA! I concede it would be different if the couple purchased both tickets. THAT'S the 1950s stereotype. This is COMPLETELY different and that makes you an entitled brat. He deserves better.
Yta. He earned that seat. He didn't need to invite you. Personally, it sounds like he should have left you at home. Next time, let him enjoy what HE earned
When airplane tickets are purchased a named is assigned to that specific seat. Technically, she wasn't listed on the ticket for that seat.
I would have been happy to be able to come and would have been understanding that I'd have to sit in Coach. She seems very entitled, it's his job so he should have the seat they payed for him to have. She also sounds jealous.
All pre school teacher thinks that they are entitled. They only chose this job because they can feel powerful by commanding kids to do what they like. Once they retire, they will be depressed because they can't get what that want in real life(unlike what they have gotten through kids). I've experience real life incidents with such people especially pre school teachers. They will justkeep manipulating you their kids their husband, etc. This post proves this point again. Yta entitled c*nt. Wish people like you suffer longer and painful before you die
Well, you can thank the women's lib groups for what's going on. Women want equal everything, pay, take me out on a date and the men are still expected to pay. Women have been told theyre better than men you know, the typical BS these days. Yet what's disturbing, men are still expected to be gentlemen in every aspect and this guy shouldn't regardless of being married give up his seat. Women stink period.
Wow, the selfishness of this young woman is unbelievable. He should leave her at home next time and any other time he is rewarded with a trip. She literally took his reward as hers. She needs to grow up.
One thing not mentioned: Were there other members of company in first class on same flight? If so, the entitled brat caused an even bigger issue because her husband lost chance to build or strengthen business relationships that could help his future. These are the kind of women i warn my brothers, male friends and cousins about, but they get suckered in because this type of woman attracts them by the whole "you are my knight in shing armor" routine that makes them feel like manly men until too late. I am allowed to say this because I am a woman myself and livid these (fill in word) make the rest of us look terrible.
Selfish. I'd have been upset too. If you didn't pay for something that you work your a*s off to get and then you're forced to give it away. I would have just been like nope you're sitting in coach both ways. You want to fly first class then you better find a different company and work your a*s off
Maybe this is an unpopular opinion, but if I was dragged along like an inconvenient suitcase I'd be hurt too. Leaving all the stupid 1950's BS aside, if I were the husband I would have paid for a firsr class ticket or ridden coach. Why? Because I like my partner and want to spend time with them. If I'm so full of myself that I "earned" first class, doesn't my partner who supports me also have "earned" similar accommodation? Why even invite someone along if you're not interested in spending time with them? The husband should have gotten what he apparently wanted: to be alone.
I wonder if she also sat in for him at the work conference too. Doubtful, because it's equally as ridiculous, and not the fun part of the trip. Guess who's not coming on the next work conference trip? That's right, the seat stealing AH.
Don't be like her. Like I know envy and jealousy can sometimes get best of us, but still. He did earn it and while yes, ideally both would fly first class, stuff often aren't ideal and if money is tight, economic class isn't that bad. Plus he did work hard to earn first class and she should have respilected that, leaving him first class seat. And marriage always should be two people supporting each other, being happy for each other and so on... Not this childish "but he got that, why can't I have it". And here it really isn't case of unfair treatment.
When you have to ask if YTA chances are that in fact YTA! Since the trip was a couple of hours, you couldn't let him enjoy his earned first class seat?! He didn't have to ask you to go, he asked because he wanted you to celebrate with him, but instead you made him feel guilty for wanting to enjoy something that he worked hard for. YTA.
As a gentleman myself, I would merely find someone in coach class and offer to swap my first class ticket with theirs so we could sit together and it's doing something nice for a stranger. She shouldn't have insisted so much.
YTA .. his work paid for that seat as appreciation for his work, I am surprised that you were allowed to swap the seat as it was not purchased for you. I would have left you at home !
Personally, I think ESH. Wife was an AH for guilting hubby into giving up seat. Hubby was an AH for not upgrading her ticket, so they could sit together. My hubby would. I'm a nervous flyer. I need him next to me. And he would want to be by my side, anyway. We're a package deal, we do almost everything together, and we love it that way. So what if it cuts into the "fun money" a little? You're in Florida. Spend a couple evenings on the beach, instead of going out. You don't have to "do" stuff, to have fun. You just have to enjoy being together. Where there's a will, there's a way.
She should think about this. It would be like if she trained months for a marathon and if as soon as she crossed the line the husband came in, took the trophy, sach, ribbon, money prize, etc. I bet she would've thrown a fit. That could've also given the chance to talk about the race with others. What if he was discussing something with colleagues but couldn't because she took his seat? He worked for the company, she's just with him. Definitely the AH.
You are selfish and made yourself look like an entitled spoilt brat. This was a work trip and you should’ve stayed at home, but you decided to take first class treat away for doing absolutely nothing. Oh that’s right… you showed his colleagues how much of an a**e you are and created a bitter sweet memory for hubby with your childish demands. Three guesses who will not be getting invited anywhere know. Get a job with your own perks and stop being a kill joy!
If there was truly no way to book seats together why not take turns?
I think she's right. She's just being rewarded by all the training and time she had to put in in order to turn her husband into a perfect SiMP. Kudos to her!. I mean, If you're a person who earned that reward, who really think you deserved and wanted to enjoy it with your teamnmates but you're married to a woman who doesn't give a F about that and it's only concern about her comfort, what does it say about you? You must have really messed up in the past, sucks as husband or have a really a very low self steem. Blink 3X if you need help.
She needs to apologize to her husband. Some husbands wouldn't have even told their wives and just gone alone. You should have been happy to sit wherever since he took you! Apologize and take him out for a special date night.
Y’all won’t this is funny but in my family it is. I was treating my newly pregnant daughter and her husband to a Caribbean vacation. At the last my ticket got upgraded. As I sat in first class my son in law passed me and then I saw my daughter and she had a smirk on her face and I knew she was going to be a smart a*s. Just as she walked by me she said “don’t worry about the pregnant woman, she’ll just sit in the back”. The people around me must of thought I was a jackass but I knew she was just teasing me and that she wanted to sit with her husband.
YTA does not do it justice. YAC is more like it. (you're a c*#t). Her move was completely selfish, unforgiving, and deplorable. It seems if the world doesn't revolve around her, then she will destroy it.
They're both assholes. Hubby should have opened the piggy bank a little more and gotten a 2nd first~class ticket. His cheapness is what got him a coach seat. SHE should have squeaked LOUDLY about it and made him buy her a seat next to him. It still comes out to two 1st~class tickets for the price of one.
Yeah, somehow I doubt she's not following the 1950's guidelines of being a wife but holds her husband to those standards. She's sexist and he needs to GTFO.
I think both of you should have given up the first class to seat next to your wife in coach. And give the seat to the lucky guy.. this would have changed your relationship for better. You are willing to sacrifice comfort to be next to your wife. Or just bought the first class first hand...
I agree with most people on here but for a different reason. She should be doing what she can to be supportive of her husband. He needs 100% support at home to do his very best in what is a competitive field. Ultimately the success of one is success for both. She's too obsessed with herself to see she just cucked her husband in front of his co-workers.
Karen? Entitled much? She should have been in coach, the ticket for first class was for her husband.
100% YTA what kind of marriage is this? He gave up his seat because OP made it clear she’d make his life miserable. That’s actually emotionally abusive. 1st Class seat was a perk of HIS JOB & he was bullied into giving it up. I can’t find one redeeming piece to this that justifies her behavior. She’s getting a free vacation for cost of airfare. If they really couldn’t comfortably afford a 2nd 1st Class ticket then one G-word comes to mind and it’s not gentleman it’s GRATITUDE. I have a strong feeling that had this shoe been on the other foot she wouldn’t have given up her 1st Class Tix & IF he bullied her the way she did I could hear her making Divorce Threats.
The kind who brings home the bacon. That's rich...he's being a baby?
I would rather fly in coach with my wife than fly first class without her. I also would've offered her the seat and she would of turned it down, and then we would of argued about it.
Total a*****e. 1 he earned it, you didn't. 2 you are a whiny a nag. 3 I'm pretty sure you're a feminist UNTIL it doesnt benefit you.
She must have felt some form of entitled. With that said, she got the lesser end of the trip in her mind. But why take her husband's seat? That's the embarssing and mind-bottling part.
Load More Replies...If the tables were turned, the husband would most likely want his wife to enjoy the 1st class seat SHE earned, but, obviously the wife doesn't feel the same way. A very selfish, me me , me woman, he should have left her ungrateful behind home This man has a right to be upset!
Really? You couldn't be like "can I sit there for a little bit to see what it's like?" You had to have it full time even though it was a present from his work for the work he, not you, he put in? I'm sure he would have been absolutely fine letting you try his gift out, but you had to be perfectly even or take his... Your husband is a gentleman and I applaud him for giving up his seat for you after you had a tantrum and for sticking with you after you apparently called him a baby for it afterwards. Also "should put his wife's comfort ahead of his own" is what takes our equality and pushes it back into the dark ages... It's not 'pick'n'choose' equality. Finally, by the sounds of it he wasn't being cheap, he just wasn't being frivolous with your money. A bump from economy to first class is like buying a small diamond ring. Coach to first class is on average a 5-10 times difference so screw your "he was being cheap" c**p.
Definitely YTA That some entitled bish s**t. I would have left your a*s home.
I think unless my husband really wanted me to come, I'd just let him go alone. Not for any other reason than money is tight, and I'm not a necessity. Though if he wanted me to come more than a passing thought, I'd figure it out. Hell, I'd go a day or two early and just take a Greyhound lol
YTA and you are also selfish. He should also divorce you. You have shown your true colors. You did not earn that ticket, he did. I'd you weren't ok with flying coach, you shouldn't have went at all. He now knows what he has to look forward to and put up with for the rest of his life, a whiny, entitled, brat. You should do him a favor and grant him a divorce, asking for nothing, immediately. If you truly love him, set him free.
So what if you are a preschool teacher ... the trip was for employees whom permission was given to bring along spouses... what you did was ... he ran the race but you want to accept the gold medal ... you were supportive for which he is grateful I am sure... so they announce Mŕ Name and you get up ... take the walk of achievement for his prize ...nooooooo ....wrong wrong wrong .... if you wanted to be there to celebrate with... you could have suggested half and half ... but men don't usually announce that they are broke... he is very happy to receive the minor increase in salary so you can continue living in your bubble.... it was not about you ... it was about him...very mean.
She obviously isn't looking towards the future. You think he's going to offer this trip to her should the situation ever arise again? I doubt it.
Yeah, op is TA. No two ways about it. Yes. The gentlemanly thing to do would be either fly with your wife or give her your ticket. HOWEVER the ladylike thing to do would be to NOT flip your sh!t about it.
If finances were so tight, why didn't they ask the company to give them the difference back and both fly coach?
Chivalry is dead. I am attracted to men that take care of their woman. Sure he earned it but it still wouldn't change the fact that he didn't want to put his wife first. Didnt want to sacrifice his seat or budget to love her and respect her. I already have to do gender based responsibilities, basically everything but earn money. Which I earn money as well. I make the same as my husband but work less hours. This is why woman leave men at higher rates. We can't help but want protection and to be our husband's 1st priority. It might not be fair to men in certain situations, but it is not always fair for the woman in a family role.
He earned his first class seat, at the most I might of asked to trade seats on the return trip so I could enjoy a first class seat if it would be a once in a lifetime thing. But definitely, YTA for taking his Golden ticket.
My husband would not be ok with us sitting separately. No if and or but about that. He would not consider even going without me. My problem with this story is that it was the husband insisting on purchasing his wife a coach ticket. Not asking if she’d like to fly coach so they could spend more on the trip. Why not both fly coach? I’m sure the airline would have accommodated this request. It’s also pretty passive aggressive to agree to trade for coach then complain about it. My husband often gives me his work gifts. True they have been things like hydro flasks, insulated shopping bags, tee shirts, jackets, ect. with the company logo. And I’ve always brought him on company trips (it was allowed and fully paid for), and offered him my company gifts. Maybe the real question is, if this is truly a reward, how could the company NOT provide two anointing seats for the employee and guest? Also how is she taking his hard earned reward? Is she walking up and accepting the plaque? No, she just switching seats on the flight. Which is just plain stupid imo. Would you rather sit next to strangers or your spouse on a long flight? If you pick strangers you got more serious problems.
Warning.... Warning... Level 49 Karen... Threat level RED
Why would any person be so selfish to take a persons hard earned work related seat away from the person who worked for it. Wife or not, this was paid for by the company he worked for and that was bought for him and not her. Technically he should have been in first class with his cohorts which more than likely would have been talking work which you through a wrench in. Next time leave her home and keep her away from all work related activities. Sadly, this woman is self absorbed, spoiled and very disrespectful of her husband and his company. This is not a 1950 or 2022 problem this is straight up a work situation turned into a wife who bullied her husband. Wake up everyone. The company paid for the ticket. The man works for the company and he was to sit there. Not her!!!
She is a b***h for making the dude give up his seat, that is a given. But as a husband, I would never offer to take my wife on a business trip knowing I cannot afford her the same treatment as I do get. In this instance, since I have decided to invite her, I would have either paid up for her to be with me in first class or ask the boss if I can get a coach because I want to fly with my wife and cannot afford first class. Plus, if I get to enjoy a stupid thing like first class and cannot share it with my soulmate, I simply don't want it.
Let’s stop pointing fingers and compromise. When you find these things out call the airline and ask for their help. Maybe they will convert his ticket to business class and use part of that to cover your cost. There is usually a creative spoliation. Your both assholes for not trying to get a better solution to pointing fingers and being upset with each other.
If she at least came up with a compromise like "I pay the other half of the first class ticket" or "you get the ticket and I will finance the Trip in Miami", this wouldn't have been such a clear YTA. But gos is she entitled.
YTA he earned the trip in first class with his coworkers in first class. You should have been proud of him and let him have his special moment. Instead you guilted him into giving it to you. How selfish. That's just not right at all. You owe him something wonderful. You better make it right. First apologies and then do something entirely for him all weekend. You owe him big for taking away his special reward for hard work.
Obviously the lady doesn’t know what a healthy marriage relation is. You are a team, you are supposed to cheer your husband every time he is successful, as well as him to you. You were not supposed to take his invitation to HIS trip in a thankful manner. You’re too selfish to realize how much he loves you, and respects you that you still thinking he is wrong to be mad at you. Start thinking what you should be feeling if he ask you to do the same. Stop being a spoiled little selfish girl and grow up giving respect and admiration to that great husband by your side.
I'm seeing comments on reddit that say "OP" and are very much against the woman in the post so i feel like this is fake.
I know everyone agrees that YTA so I can't add much to the comments but really I think it just can't be said enough so please add my YTA comment! LOL
What's wrong with sharing first class down and back? He should have flown down in first class and his wife could have flown back in first class. That way he could speak with his co-workers on the way down and also relax a bit more before the conference. Either that, or he could have cajoled his fellow conferencees to all switch so all the spouses could fly in first class both ways. Personally, i blame the company for saying spouses could come but they would have to buy their own ticket. C'mon, the entire thing is a tax write off for the company and would have increased the company's PR.
I believe they were both flying coach on the way back. You're not allowed to trade halfway through the flight, are you? I've obviously never flown first class.
Load More Replies...Almost all of my flights have been 12+ hours long. I wouldn't be mad at all if my husband had the first class seat during the flight, especially if his work paid for it! I'd be jealous but not in a negative way. I'd just want him to bring me back some good snacks or something!
Neither me nor my my partner are large people. He would definitely offer the seat to me, though, knowing him. I'd personally pay for the upgrade so we could have fun together. Or he'd pay for it, or we would split. If that couldn't happen, we would both be happy to find a tall legged person and make their day so the two of us could sit together.
They both should be wanting to give the seat the the other. But yta. But both ta, too? I don't know.
I’m sure she could have survived for a 3 hour plane ride, honestly. And isn’t coach “better” than where the regular unwashed masses like myself sit anyhow?
Coach IS where the regular unwashed masses like us sit.
Load More Replies...I'm in the minority to think ESH. The wife was rude to ask for his seat. However, if you invite someone on a trip with you, then the polite thing to do is offer that person the same or better seat. It's rude to invite someone on a trip and then insist that he/she sit in a lower class. The polite action would be to sit together in coach or sit together in first class.
He invited her on a work trip, paid for by his job. This wasn't a personal trip where he paid for a FC seat for himself and then dumped her in coach. The FC seat was also a reward for work he had done. She took away his reward from his company for his hard work. If the situation was reversed, she absolutely would have kept her first class seat. The easiest way to prevent her from possibly sitting in a worse seat than him is to just never invite her on another work trip. She got a free trip to Miami through his hard work and they couldn't afford a FC ticket for her, so she should have sat in her coach seat and been grateful for this trip.
Load More Replies...This is why you don't get married fellas. It's female nature to be selfish. Me, me, me. This trip was about her husband. Something that HE earned. But if course he funky butt things she deserves it. You can't make this stuff up He's goofy though. You never bring the wife to Miami in the first place😂😂😂
I hope you realize you're doing the exact same thing she does in reverse.
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