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Dad Questions Wife’s ‘Feminist’ Values After She Gives Horrifying Dating Advice To Their Teen Daughter
Parents need to agree on core values so that children get a clear message about what their family stands for and against.
For father and Reddit user lost-my-mind-in-LA and his wife, a big part of that had been gender equality—or at least he thought so.
The man uploaded a candid confession to the platform, explaining that he was shocked to learn that she was teaching their teenage daughter to use her boyfriend as a personal ATM.
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This father was fond of his daughter’s boyfriend, and though he was a kind kid
Image credits: Edu Bastidas (not the actual photo)
But his wife saw him as an opportunity to teach the girl how to take advantage of boys financially
Image credits: Getty Images (not the actual photo)
Image source: lost-my-mind-in-la
Many parents are worried about their children’s financial future
The mother’s actions might reflect a deeper worry. A survey from U.S. Bank found that nearly 1 in 4 parents and more than half of Gen X parents worry their children will be financially dependent on them well into adulthood.
However, the results also showed that mothers are less likely to discuss investing in stocks and bonds with their kids than fathers (35% of women vs. 51% of men).
And manipulating others into supporting you might not be the most lucrative career.
Most couples, however, agree on big money questions
Image credits: Getty Images (not the actual photo)
An Ipsos poll conducted on behalf of BMO revealed that one in three (34%) partnered Americans view money as a source of conflict in their relationship.
More than one-third think their partner spends too much money on impulse purchases (37%) and/or admit they are untruthful about money with their spouse (36%).
But big fights over finances when you’re already married and have kids are pretty rare. Despite the occasional argument, the vast majority (84%) of American couples are on the same page with their partner when it comes to finances, with almost nine in ten (87%) indicating that they are comfortable discussing finances with their partner, emphasizing open communication.
This might be because we tend to vet our potential partners pretty quickly. Four in five (79%) Americans think finances should be discussed somewhat early in the relationship – one in ten (9%) think this should happen after the first few dates, two in five (39%) when the relationship becomes official, and about one in three (31%) when the couple is planning on living together.
So it’s interesting that our Redditor and his wife — who, at least according to him, see the world eye to eye — have gotten into such a deep disagreement.
However, instead of attaching derogatory labels to one another, the couple should try to understand each other and engage more than, say, the internet.
“Whether they face a sudden financial hiccup or experience issues related to intimacy, mentally strong couples address their problems head-on,” psychotherapist Amy Morin, LCSW, writes.
“They engage in difficult conversations and confront their issues, regardless of the discomfort it might bring. By working together to find solutions early on, they prevent their problems from escalating.”
People who read the father’s story were just as appalled by his wife’s behavior as he was
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FreeTheUnicorn 9 hours ago
"girls will be girls" is as harmful as "boys will be boys" to building a good relationship. I'd question my marriage to anyone who was setting my daughter up to have an unhealthy first relationship. If you start out with bad habits, it's all the harder to learn the good ones that are required for a good foundation.
roddy 3 hours ago
If she really enjoys his company, she'd be happy to pay her own way. But if she is just dating him for free meals and gifts, this is grifting. Not a good look or a healthy way to relate. She'll end up hunting a rich man to marry, just for the nice house and car.
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KatSaidThat 7 hours ago
Not cool, mom. Teaching your child emotional blackmail is really not cool.
Lucian 37 minutes ago
I ɢᴇᴛ ᴘᴀɪᴅ ᴏᴠᴇʀ $120 ᴘᴇʀ ʜᴏᴜʀ ᴡᴏʀᴋɪɴɢ ғʀᴏᴍ ʜᴏᴍᴇ. I ɴᴇᴠᴇʀ ᴛʜᴏᴜɢʜᴛ ɪ'ᴅ ʙᴇ ᴀʙʟᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴅᴏ ɪᴛ ʙᴜᴛ ᴍʏ ʙᴜᴅᴅʏ ᴍᴀᴋᴇs ᴏᴠᴇʀ $13,453 ᴀ ᴍᴏɴᴛʜ ᴅᴏɪɴɢ ᴛʜɪs ᴀɴᴅ sʜᴇ ᴄᴏɴᴠɪɴᴄᴇᴅ ᴍᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴛʀʏ. sᴛᴀʀᴛ ᴇᴀʀɴɪɴɢ ᴍᴏʀᴇ ᴄᴀsʜ ɪɴ ᴘᴀʀᴛ ᴛɪᴍᴇ ʙʏ ꜰᴏʟʟᴏᴡ ɪɴsᴛʀᴜᴄᴛɪᴏɴs............ 𝗝𝗼𝗯𝗮𝘁𝗵𝗼𝗺𝗲𝟭.𝗖𝗼𝗺
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Argle Bargle 8 hours ago
"Sorry honey, Daddy has to leave because he's just become aware that you and mommy think I'm nothing more than an ATM. No, you can't come and see me"
BeesEelsAndPups 5 hours ago (edited)
I don't think I'd be giving up my daughter so quickly. But I do think she needs a swift kick in the a*s. If I was her dad I probably would tell the boy that his daughter is bragging about using him as an ATM. I'd definitely tell the wife that if a girl is "entitled" to their partners money, than he will feel "entitled" to her body. If she is trading affection for money, then she is a prostitute, and that's a business relationship, not a personal relationship. There's nothing wrong with being a s*x worker, but I doubt that's what her parents want for her future.
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FreeTheUnicorn 9 hours ago
"girls will be girls" is as harmful as "boys will be boys" to building a good relationship. I'd question my marriage to anyone who was setting my daughter up to have an unhealthy first relationship. If you start out with bad habits, it's all the harder to learn the good ones that are required for a good foundation.
roddy 3 hours ago
If she really enjoys his company, she'd be happy to pay her own way. But if she is just dating him for free meals and gifts, this is grifting. Not a good look or a healthy way to relate. She'll end up hunting a rich man to marry, just for the nice house and car.
Load More Replies... KatSaidThat 7 hours ago
Not cool, mom. Teaching your child emotional blackmail is really not cool.
Lucian 37 minutes ago
I ɢᴇᴛ ᴘᴀɪᴅ ᴏᴠᴇʀ $120 ᴘᴇʀ ʜᴏᴜʀ ᴡᴏʀᴋɪɴɢ ғʀᴏᴍ ʜᴏᴍᴇ. I ɴᴇᴠᴇʀ ᴛʜᴏᴜɢʜᴛ ɪ'ᴅ ʙᴇ ᴀʙʟᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴅᴏ ɪᴛ ʙᴜᴛ ᴍʏ ʙᴜᴅᴅʏ ᴍᴀᴋᴇs ᴏᴠᴇʀ $13,453 ᴀ ᴍᴏɴᴛʜ ᴅᴏɪɴɢ ᴛʜɪs ᴀɴᴅ sʜᴇ ᴄᴏɴᴠɪɴᴄᴇᴅ ᴍᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴛʀʏ. sᴛᴀʀᴛ ᴇᴀʀɴɪɴɢ ᴍᴏʀᴇ ᴄᴀsʜ ɪɴ ᴘᴀʀᴛ ᴛɪᴍᴇ ʙʏ ꜰᴏʟʟᴏᴡ ɪɴsᴛʀᴜᴄᴛɪᴏɴs............ 𝗝𝗼𝗯𝗮𝘁𝗵𝗼𝗺𝗲𝟭.𝗖𝗼𝗺
Load More Replies... Argle Bargle 8 hours ago
"Sorry honey, Daddy has to leave because he's just become aware that you and mommy think I'm nothing more than an ATM. No, you can't come and see me"
BeesEelsAndPups 5 hours ago (edited)
I don't think I'd be giving up my daughter so quickly. But I do think she needs a swift kick in the a*s. If I was her dad I probably would tell the boy that his daughter is bragging about using him as an ATM. I'd definitely tell the wife that if a girl is "entitled" to their partners money, than he will feel "entitled" to her body. If she is trading affection for money, then she is a prostitute, and that's a business relationship, not a personal relationship. There's nothing wrong with being a s*x worker, but I doubt that's what her parents want for her future.
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