Weddings remain one of those often discussed topics precisely because we all love a little bit of drama. After all, where else can you combine what is basically a big party with so much intrigue, angst and bad decisions? Of course, these sorts of stories often also include marriages that are doomed from the start or just never get off the ground.
Someone asked “Has anyone ever attended a wedding that got called off on the altar?” and people shared their most shocking stories. So get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote your favorites and be sure to share your own thoughts and stories in the comments section below.
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I was a bridesmaid. All of her friends (including myself), her parents, and anyone else with half a brain had been telling her to get rid of him all along, and to definitely not marry him (no job, physically and verbally abusive). We'd given up by the time of her wedding, and I was trying to be happy for her. Instead of saying 'I do,' she was just looking around the room and then ran back down the aisle. We were all dumbfounded, except for her father who yelled a variation of what we were all thinking, "Thank You, Jesus Christ.".
Good for her but why do they always wait to the very last minute to call it off?
It would be great if they always called it off last min. Unfortunately, a great many of them go through with it and endure years of abuse. Some get out eventually and others never do.
Load More Replies...Humans have a unique knack for procrastination that's less about seeking the spotlight and more about engaging in a psychological form of fine-tuning their decision-making process. When everyone around them has long been waving red flags, there is this weird, deep-seated attraction to the transformative power of “final deadline clarity.” This phenomenon, where the critical moment of decision is reserved until the eleventh hour, allows individuals to weigh their options under the duress of urgency, as if they’re waiting for a profound epiphany that only pressure can induce. It's a self-delusion of sorts, where the last-minute decision is perceived as a final act of courageous resolve rather than the predictable outcome of a delayed process.
I don’t think this is procrastination. I think this is more denial ain’t just a river in egypt
Load More Replies...Tried to tell my youngest not to get involved with either of his wives. They've got kids this time though so he's stuck for the next 18 years. First one took everything including some personal items he had long before they even met and items that didn't belong to either of them. She even tried to take his car and bike. Good luck with that since my name is on the title to both. She also used 100% of his pay the 3 years they were married to pay off as much as she could so she ended up with her truck paid in full and only about 20k left owed on the house. At least this one won't begetting the house if/when things go south, it's in mine and my wifes names. The first one is now a traveling nurse and has a known d**g problem. I hope some day she ends up somewhere that d**g tests medical personnel.
Went to a wedding in Tuscany, the couple was from San Francisco, but both had family from around Europe and the East Coast, so Italy was a good centiral location. They rented a villa to have the wedding at, around 100 guest, gorgeous setting, impeccably catered, but the bride got cold feet and disappeared about an hour before the ceremony. The groom gave a very eloquent speech, thanking everyone for coming, explained what had happened and really put everyone at ease, and we had a great party. He got pretty smashed afterwards, but the social grace with which he handled it was remarkable.
If it was the other way around there would be Facebook groups and three lifetime movies already.
I have a lot of respect for anyone who can handle a situation like that with so much grace.
Load More Replies...At least they continue with the party. The guy handled that with class.
This is actually kinda stupid, but during an Indian ceremony, when the bride and groom stood up to start their ceremony, the bride's skirt fell. The groom had a fit and stopped the wedding because of it. Apparently it was disrespectful on her part. They never ended up getting married later (pretty sure it was arranged though, so, good on her?).
Was he really outraged, or did he jump on that excuse to cancel an arranged marriage he didn't want?
Maybe planned by both. I'll have this wardrobe malfunction and you scream outage and wedding gets canceled. Brilliant
Load More Replies...No she couldn’t say a sari as a sari does not have a skirt. She was wearing a lehenga, which is the traditional wedding attire and it has a skirt and a blouse as per the photograph. A sari wouldn’t fall off like a skirt as it’s a long piece of fabric twisted around your body.
Load More Replies...man I hate the arranged marriage trend in our country
Load More Replies...Well, she obviously cheapened the value of the goods he was buying by letting anyone else see them. Man was clearly intending to marry only a vagina, not a human being.
That's wild that you just objectified the woman in this situation so easily.
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At my friends' wedding, everyone stood as the bride started her walk down the aisle...everyone expect the groom's great grandmother, who had died suddenly and quietly just moments before. The wedding was stopped and everyone disbanded so that the families could deal with the tragedy.
They held a (non-fatal) wedding a few months later that included many tributes to the great grandmum and, 10 years later, are happily married.
Nothing like a good fundation, and a little trauma-bonding. edit spelling again
FYI, trauma bonding doesn't mean bonding because of shared trauma. It is part of an abusive relationship.
Load More Replies...Soon to be on Reddit: My Great Grandmother had the audacity to die on MY day! There i was, walking up the aisle, and I looked fine! Everyone stood up to admire my beautiful dress, and there the old woman sits, all dead and everything! On MY day! WIBTA if I crash her funeral and get married on HER day?
Some people have to be the center of attention.
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So close. Couple of co-workers got married on a Saturday. At the reception, with at least a few drinks in him, the husband told his wife, "You know you weren't my first choice."
Monday morning, we found our wedding gifts on our desks.
If I'd been the bride, I'd kept the gifts as parting gifts. She earned them.
A good friend of mine was getting married to a guy we all liked. He was a strict Catholic, refused to have sex before marriage, always went to confession. I was a bridesmaid and my husband was Best Man. When the priest said, "Is there anyone who objects to this wedding? Speak now," everyone giggled because the guy's mom was giving the stink eye to the crowd, daring someone to speak up. The priest chuckled and began to talk again.
"We come together not to mark the start of a relationship, but to recognize a bond that..."
"SCREW THEIR BOND! She's pregnant with my baby!"
Turns out my ex-friend was having sex with the groom's cousin. She was, in fact, pregnant by him and was hoping to trick her fiance into thinking it was his. Her fiance was livid. In the end, he forced her to pay his family back half the money they spent of their $75,000 wedding.
And this story wonderfully highlights the reasons that even in the modern age, the tradition for a wedding ceremony to call on friends, family, facebook followers, random neighbors, and weird creepy ex's, all to "object now or forever hold your peace".....remains a valid and important part of the marriage process.
I love how some are more outraged by the amount spent on the wedding. HAHA! It IS a lot but I was left gasping at the revelation. The shock of the money came later. ha!
I've been at a wedding that got called off. The chick's ex-boyfriend came up and punched the groom in the face. It was a pretty bad altarcation.
My mum's ex punched my dad in the face for "stealing my girlfriend", though fortunately not at the wedding! There wasn't any cheating involved; the guy was just a jerk.
One thing I've learned about weddings is the brides best friend (male) won't come and the grooms best friend (female) won't come. The grooms best friend (Male) and the brides best friend (female) however will both drop everything to be there. And I've seen so many times where the opposite sex friends could've been the one but turned down the opportunity.
My mom was engaged to a guy before my Dad, and stood him up at the altar. About a week before the wedding, this guy she was engaged to started to grow a beard, with plans to shave it off before the wedding. Apparently, it had a very red tint to it, and she refused to possibly have kids with red hair.
She left the man at the alter day of the wedding, never walked down the aisle and just walked out.
Mom left a guy heartbroken because she wouldn't have a ginger kid.
Then I married a ginger.
The worst part is that I have a red-tinged beard but my hair is dark brown. I shave my head tho so nobody knows that anymore. Beards just reflect light differently
Load More Replies...Agreed - though in hindsight he dodged a bullet (or the bullet dodged him). Trash takin' itself out and all that...
Load More Replies...*offers the ginger a turn with Orange Mousie*
Load More Replies...I just lost my dad this week and this story brings a tear to my eye because he had brown hair and a bright red mustache my entire life. I miss him.
I'm so sorry. I'm sure he was a wonderful man and very proud of you.
Load More Replies...Yupp . But in this case I'm sure he learned to live with it - and better than living with *her*.
Load More Replies...Honestly... mother of my nephew has a similar aversion to ginger hair. She even hates (European) squirrels, which ... dude! She said ginger hair is "disgusting". Which is bs, ginger hair is often stunning! (picture of cute ginger squirrel) EichhC3B6r...alnuss.jpg
I've been to one wedding where the bride bolted about 20 min before the ceremony. She asked everyone to leave the room she was getting ready in, saying she needed a minute. So, family thought she was being super spiritual and talking to god, but in fact decided to do some blow and decided "f**k this marriage s**t" and left.
And another one where in the middle of the vows, the guy stopped the priest and said "i can't do this" and literally ran out of the place. From what I found out later, he hid on the resort's property in some bushes until his mother (who hated the almost bride) happened to walk by. He had her retrieve his cellphone and keys from his room. The groom also went on the honeymoon trip with his mom.. sooooo.. yeah.
Groom dodged a bullet in the first one I take it then?
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Honeymoon with your mom, it sounds like it's the almost bride who should have bolted!
#1, he could definitely do better and I hope he did. #2, there's no way that guy was ready for marriage if he thinks taking his MOM on what would have been a honeymoon isn't just a lot creepy.
I have a friend whose fiancee ran his car off the road on the way to the wedding. Hey may have been trying to k*ll himself. Turned out he's gay and hadn't been dealing with it very well.
Off topic and genuine question: is there (where?) a place on earth where "fiancee" ( with two "e") as in this post means MALE future husband? Or is it just written in a hurry? English is only my 3rd foreign language, but I only knew "fiancee" is (female) future wife, and "fiance" would be the (male) future husband? Thanks in advance, it was the same in another post and now it really bugs me. PS: Poor guy indeed.
'Hadn't been dealing with it very well' is a heck of an understatement for someone who was on his way to a marriage to a person of the wrong gender and tried to kill himself.
I look forward to a day when people can be who they are and not be shamed for who they love.
My friend was in a long relationship, got engaged, set up the date, started planning wedding. A few weeks before the wedding his bride to be announced she’s been cheating with a woman and realized she’s been lesbian all along. They were both in late 30’s and he kind of gave up on relationships after that.
I was not there, but my wife was (before we were married). One of the gifts was a set of nice new white sheets for the marriage night, so they do not ruin the bedsheets on their first time. During the reception post ceremony, the bride comes back and tells everybody to go home and take back their gifts, except the white sheets. They were used by her husband and sister.
From the time that the bloodied sheets were hung outside for everyone to see.
Load More Replies...Again, doesn't sound very likely. Bit of a play on the old blood on the sheets as proof of brides virginity being taken story.
The white sheets thing still happened in Armenia as recently as the 90s
Load More Replies... Two friends of mine were getting married. They planned to tie the know in Edinburgh and had booked a church, hotel, reception etc. About 70 people flew over to be there, most from Dublin, but some from as far away as Tokyo, New York and Dubai.
On the morning of the wedding the groom said he didn't want to be married and he did a runner after the bride (understandably) got a bit ~~angry~~ bats**t insane with rage.
Basically, he liked being single. He would get home, play his computer games, go and watch some GAA games at the weekend. He was happy doing his own thing and didn't want that to change.
He dissapeared the morning of the wedding and hasn't been seen since, that was two years ago. We know from speaking to mutual freinds that he is Okay, he's just living the life he wanted to. He has never apologised for what he did.
What made the bride so angry is not being jilted, it was the fact that he waited to the morning of the wedding to pull out. He admitted he had felt that way for some months, but didn't have the guts to tell her. A lot of money had been spent by a lot of people to get to the wedding and she had to do all the apologising.
Still, it turned out Okay. The bride calmed down after a few hours after realising she dodged a bullet and we all had quite a bender in Edinburgh that Saturday night.
She was quite the trooper to have a party with family and friends after that; he was a serious pooper for waiting so long. Cowardly of him.
My mother owns a wedding photography business and she has personally shot well over 1000 weddings. She has so many stories that would go great in this thread. One of my favorite being when the groom put photos of his fiance cheating on him under everyone's chair and when the ceremony was about to begin he told everyone to grab the picture, called her a cheating wh*re and walked out leaving her father with the bill.
My only problem with this is that the father was stuck with the bill when he wasn't the one that cheated. If you know ahead of time, you should just walk away, rather than being dramatic and causing hassles for people other that your fiancée.
Well, if the father owns a set, he'll tell his daughter she owes him $$$. He's no victim in this.
Load More Replies...This is such lying b******t. I've debunked this story on here only a week or two ago. It's an urban legend first told to me in the 1980s so goes back even further. Gets trotted out regularly by liars.
Groom was an AH of the highest order. He knew enough in advance that he was being cheated on and rather than be an adult, he pulled a stunt like that just to be the center of attention.
It could be hyperbole and/or her mother could be in her 60s and started shooting in her teens so could realistically have been shooting weddings coming up to 40 years.
Load More Replies... My girlfriend at the time's best friend, Sara, was supposed to get married this past summer, and my gf was going to the maid of honor. At 8 AM on the *day of the wedding* gf gets a call from Sara, who is hysterical, saying that Tim, the groom, disappeared the night before and no one can find him (it is implied that his parents know where he is, but they've always hated Sara for absolutely no reason and so they claim ignorance). We wait around for hours just waiting to hear something, but we're getting tons of conflicting information, from "Tim just went out for a little bachelor hell-raising" to "literally no one knows where he is."
So gf and I end up heading to Jean's house, who was supposed to be the other bridesmaid, to wait around anxiously. Finally, Sara and her mother arrive, and Tim FINALLY calls Sara (after ignoring about 30 of her calls/texts). They have an obviously tense conversation outside, and Sara comes back in to announce to everyone there that Tim has decided not to go through with it (presumably because his (truly evil) parents have finally persuaded him not to be with her anymore). It is now 2 PM. The ceremony was supposed to be at 3 PM.
So we all get dressed up fancy anyway (except the 'bride' just goes in jeans, because, as she summarized so eloquently, "f**k it") and just go to the reception, since, as the mother of the bride stated to her daughter, "we paid for all that food and booze and it is NOT going to waste. let's go get smashed and say good riddance, baby." So we got fabulously drunk on the open bar and danced around with her little 3-year-old nephew and shared all the things we'd never liked about Tim.
The real kicker though? Tim was in the army, so the two of them were already on-paper married so that she could be deployed with him. The ceremony meant *nothing* legally - it was just the worst way that he could ever have ended the relationship. AND, by the time this happened, it had been more than 6 months, so they couldn't do a simple annulment. She's still wading through the divorce BS, but at least her dad is a Marine and he can get this scumbag guy in craploads of trouble for what he did. His (deadbeat groom's) CO was NOT HAPPY about having to reverse all the deployment paperwork and get the jilted bride's stuff back out of shipment to goddamn Germany. All in all, epic fallout that he deserved, thankfully. It was quite the day.
This reminds me of a sad story. One of my employees convinced his fiancee to sign up for the army since he was going to, and right before they were going in they would get married. He chickened out on both counts. The day before the wedding he told her he did not want to marry, and turned out he never signed up either. This poor girl went into the army by herself, after having been jilted.
Oof. On the bright side,she could use her military training to kick his traitorous a*s.
Load More Replies...Pissing off Superiors usually results in you being deployed in some c**p hole, out of the way station somewhere. IE Friend was stationed in Alaska. On base was a guy awaiting dishonorable discharge. He'd been sent there because he was a California boy so he's freezing his nuts off while they lollygag his discharge through the system. A general passing through got in his face because he wasn't dressed correctly, was smoking (while refueling planes) and didn't salute. General quickly found out this guy was already in the worst possible place he could be, someone before him had done their homework.
A few years ago, a friend of ours was working as a waiter at a big venue where they host receptions for huge weddings.
Huge crowd in attendance - then the groom has a heart attack and dies right in the middle of the reception. They give him CPR in front of everyone but he died right there.
It was hugely traumatic (obviously) - a lot of the waiting staff had to have trauma counselling.
We all learnt to appreciate life better after that night.
Of course it was traumatic for the wait staff, but, um, maybe some mention of the bride's and families' loss might have been appropriate in this post?
Since the post was second hand from a staff’ pov, they could only report what happened to their friend and their coworkers?
Load More Replies...Oh, how terrible and I'm sure the yearly reminder when the date comes around. Truly sad for the family, waitstaff and everyone.
Had to comment on this one. That is so sad and difficult for the bride, I’m sure. I once attended a wedding where a guest had a heart attack and died on the dance floor. My date’s niece attempted CPR and was traumatized to learn he had passed. My date’s poor mother didn’t speak a word of English and didn’t have a clue what was happening. I did my best to explain in my limited Italian. That big, fat, Italian wedding came to a screeching halt.
Pretty sure they were already married at this point. New bride is now a widow
Load More Replies...If someone jumps in front of a train the drivers and staff get trauma counselling. Don’t have to be related to that person but 100% on the job trauma counselling should be given even if not a relative of that person involved
Load More Replies... A friend of my family had been together with his lady for 7 years and decided to have a lavish destination wedding. We're from Australia and they wanted to have a Las Vegas wedding. If you wanted to attend you had to pay the ridiculous amount to fly over to America, and for most of the family it took a lot of saving. Apparently, for months before the wedding the sister of the bride had been saying to the bride spiteful things about marriage and about not going through with the wedding.
The big day came, everyone had spent a lot of money getting to their dream destination and the ceremony was beautiful. However, when it came to sign the documents and make it legal the spiteful sister decided to have one last "joke" about marriage being forever. The bride then proceeded to freak out and didnt sign the paper, she just said "I can't do this" and ran out. The sister and the bride ended up taking the honeymoon and the groom just wandered around the hotel for hours in a daze.
Needless to say everyone was pissseeddd that the bride insisted on a lavish overseas wedding that most family members couldnt afford and didnt end up going through with it.
I can’t understand why a Las Vegas wedding would be anybody’s “dream wedding” if it’s a family wedding. I understand if you want to have a party wedding with your friends (gambling, drinking and having fun) but there must be a ton of nice places to go to in Australia with a style you”d like without needing international travel.
Yeah that seems so weird to me too. As an American what comes to mind when I think "Las Vegas Wedding" is tacky elopements, not lavish destination wedding. I mean I know there are plenty of high end hotels that probably do have very fancy weddings, but what comes to mind is drive through wedding chapels and Elvis impersonator officiants.
Load More Replies...Las Vegas is where you go to get married when you can't think of anywhere better...
I hope poor jilted groom didn't have to pay for the honeymoon that SHE took with her sister!
I hope some of those that had flown in sued her for the price of the journey.
Yes. I was at a wedding of a close friend in Manchester, UK. Everything was going on as planned - ish, when the police came in and arrested the couple. 'Someone' had notified the police that an 'illegal' (sham) wedding was taking place. Lots of people from both familes explained that they have known the couple for 2-3 years - not a f**k was given by the police. The case went to the court, and the CPS (crown prosecution service) got some bollocking. My friend and his then fiance (now wife) were compensated - £22.50!
Probably only got the cost of the license refunded.
Load More Replies...WOW! Arrested for an "illegal" wedding, with no proof? How can you have someone arrested in the UK on someone's word?
Wow this is so crazy it was posted today. I was supposed to be in a wedding yesterday that got called off three hours prior. (a lot of us were glad.)
The bride was crazy. Threw lighter fluid on her fiancé and had a lighter in hand. Threw household objects at his head. Tried to slash his tires with a huge butcher knife.
Then she put on Facebook that she hoped God had no mercy on his worthless soul.
She has no sense. Gladly he came to his.
Excuse me, what?! Did I just read she threatened to set him on fire? She needs jail time and intense therapy.
Good heavens. Just call off the wedding, woman! It's not worth a jail sentence.
I was not in attendance because I was like 2 at the time, but a cousin of my Dad was on the altar ready to go, then the groomsmen showed up with the groom still f****d up from the night before. Groom threw up on the altar when he got up there. Wedding called off and the two never married. Great-grandfather prevented everyone from eating all the food at the reception and everyone just kinda went home.
Wedding in Niagara, groom and groomsmen show up for the photos HAMMERED. They r so rude and horrible that the bride storms off saying she "just can't do this". Then the would-have-been mother in law reams out the a*****e groom. He flips out, tears his tuxedo off of his arms and body in a fit of rage, and runs in to the woods to escape.
True story. Happened this summer.
Wait. I thought it was David Banner? I /am/ 51 though, havent seen the show since I was a little girl so I could be wrong? Yay brain fog......
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I was to be married March 4, 2003. At my fiances bachelorette she ended up cheating on me with a guy from out of state, someone she had never even layed eyes on before in her life. We had everything paid for already. The night before the wedding I received a call from our good friend, (also the person to marry us) who told me everything that went down at her party. I guess to make a long story short, I went with her dad to the venue to let them know that there would be no wedding shortly after I broke the news to her.
tldr; We shot the cake that night.
While you're at it, it was also missing the apostrophe.
Load More Replies...I agree. The cake didn't deserve to die!
Load More Replies...No, but a friend was in a wedding that ended up getting called off just before the ceremony. The groom refused to sign a pre-nup, so the father of the bride comes out and tells the guests that the wedding is off, the folks on the bride's side can stay for the reception (this was at some country club), but the groom's side can f**k off.
Smart bride and father of the bride. Though I lack more facts, my gut feeling says they were about to be living *not* in a decrepit hut with one rickety bed and two pans.
But the timing is bad. *If* they really surprised him that morning with the pre-nup I can understand his being písssed off. Nobody likes being steam rolled. (I do realize he may have tried putting it off, promising to sign and never doing it)
Load More Replies...I feel like telling the grooms family to f**k off was an a*****e move. They didn’t get to decide whether or not the groom went through with it
Maybe the guy was a weasel, but if not, I blame Hollywood. Movies and series are almost always the same: portraying pre-nups as a bad start to a marriage because it shows lack of trust. Which is ridiculous.
I'm surprised it never came up. It seems like they waited until the last minute to pressure the groom into signing it. Good on the groom.
The groom might as well have been dragging his feet until the very day of the ceremony and the bride's father acted sensibly. If you're not a gold digger prenups aren't an issue.
Load More Replies...Again, mirroring many other people's opinions, why isn't this s**t figured out way before??
A prenup forced to be signed the very day of the wedding is controversial, legally speaking
They should have signed it, since it dosnt count anyway. They are easy to throw out when its under duress, eighter from stort time frame before the wedding or preassure. At least that is what day time TV has taught me
Except the family lawyers would have sure it was legally correct and would probably win any later divorce arguments. If one side can afford expensive lawyers and one side can’t then it tends to go one way.
Load More Replies...My roommate was a bass player in a wedding band for 11 years. At one classy wedding, the groom's father caught the bride and the best man f*****g before the ceremony. The two families got into a huge brawl, the police came, and the band never even got to play. After the commotion died down, the bride's father paid the band anyway.
Perhaps thinking "This is my last chance for a fling, before I promise not to."
Load More Replies...WOW! just don't get married, people! Never understood cheating. Just leave the current relationship. Good Gravy.
I'm starting to think that women should have a coming-out party instead. This way they can dress up like the princess they think they are, have a party, get drunk and high and dance their as**es off, eat their faces off and the next day it's over with no trouble or hurt feelings or broken marriages. I believe they called them debutante balls in the past. They should come back into favor.
I have a brother who is about ten years older than me. This happened when I was fourteen at the time, and didn't learn about the full extent of the events that happened until a few years later, when I was older and had a better understanding of things.
My brother was one of the groomsmen at a friend's wedding. Typical college sweetheat story, the bride and groom had dated all through college and he had proposed on their graduation day. Everything was all set for a beautiful summer wedding.
However, the bride to be was having doubts. She had only ever had sex with one man, her fiance, and knew that the groom to be was in the same situation. One lover his whole life, his fiance. Apparently she had been reading a lot "Sex and your Marriage" self help books and she had come to the conclusion that lack of sexual experience was the number one destroyer of marriages.
So she came to my brother's friend (the groom to be) with this idea that they participate in a foursome, or a partner-swap with the best man and maid of honor, their two best friends, the night before the wedding.
Brilliant, right? I swear you can't make this s**t up. The groom to be fights the idea for a while, but his fiance threatens to call off the wedding if he doesn't go through with this. He talks with his best friend, he reluctantly agrees. She talks with her best friend, she reluctantly agrees. Everybody's in (no pun intended).
So the night before the wedding comes, and the four are getting plastered at the happy couple-to-be's apartment. Here's where s**t goes down. Apparently the groom drinks too much and can't get it up (at least that's what he says happened) and what essentially occurs that night is a threesome between the maid of honor, the bride to be, and the best man.
The groom to be, humiliated and distraught, leaves the apartment in the middle of the trio's lovemaking and drunk drives his car straight into a freeway median.
The wedding's called off due to the accident, and the groom ends up paralyzed from the waist down.
Great guy, the paralyzed wood-be groom. My brother and I play pick up with him once or twice a month at the local rec center. My brother was not the best man, FYI. The paralyzed groom doesn't like to talk about anything that happened, and I'm pretty sure he and his would be best man don't talk anymore. I saw the bride at an xmas party my parents threw a few years ago, her parents are family friends. I think she's married and has shat out a kid or two.
tl;dr Couple planned foursome night prior to getting hitched, didn't work out as planned, groom got in car accident and is paralyzed. Wedding was called off, bride ended up marrying someone else, still see groom from time to time.
Ive had a wedding were the husband jokingly said no at the altar, the clerk from the local authority was a bit of an old school dude accepted that anwser... They married 2 weeks later.
I think it's a rule or something that they have to stop if you decline. Even in a joking matter. When we were getting our marriage license the clerk reiterated that if we don't say I do then we have to wait 10 plus days to refile. Don't joke during times that should be serious. It's not cute.
Pretty sure there are laws in some places where they're not actually allowed to continue if someone says no, even if they say it was just a joke
Yep I have heard this before. It cannot continue if someone objects.
Load More Replies...That's a pretty crappy joke and I would leave a man who found it funny to say during a moment that is supposed to be loving.
Surprised the bride didn't just permanently dump the child's a*s.
Some men are just plain dumb, like the person who told the personnel at the airport, as a joke mind you, that he had a bomb in his bag. He was really surprised, I heard, that he didn't get on the plane.
Wonder what the (officiator) would do if you said yes but shook your head no?
Have you tried to do that? It is really hard to do.
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My own wedding got called off mid-ceremony. I had just finished saying my own vows before being arrested by local police on a assault/domestic-violence charge. (I beat up my *almost* brother-in-law for stealing my car. FWIW, he punched me in the face first but that doesn't matter in my state.) Police didn't care what was going on, I got carried out in handcuffs in front of ALL of my family.
There are many negative consequences to having your wedding day ending like that beyond the obvious. Have never been able to repair my relationship with her family.
TL,DR; got arrested at the alter.
So you're not allowed to defend yourself in OP's state? I'm guessing we aren't getting the whole story.
Beating someone for stealing your car is not self defense.
Load More Replies...I smell BS. He stole your car, and you defended yourself, but you got arrested?!
Wow what a day to remember. I'm assuming they ended up being married anyways. I wonder how the bride reacted to it all.
Wedding photographer here. I've never seen one called off during the ceremony, but before I started at the studio I'm at now my boss apparently showed up for a wedding and the bride was nowhere to be seen. Everybody was a little confused and eventually they were told, by one of the bridesmaids I believe, that the previous night the bride had slept with one of the groomsmen and that they had run away together.
Why are so many of these about cheating the night before or the day of? If you don't want to get married, just say so FFS.
I expect people don't know till they're staring down the barrel of one lover, forever
Load More Replies...Getting married usually means you spent more than a little time getting to know the person you were marrying. Then trying to walk to the altar knowing that you are marrying a regular Stanley Robinson,.....while prince charming, the fantastical healer of all woes, guarantor of dreams, fulfiller of life purpose, sexual tyrannosaur, and defendor against all malady.....is standing just outside the door waiting for you to run to him and take you away to your fairy princess palace.... Well that's a really hard jackpot to turn down for many folks.
My Dad stood my Mom up at the altar. I had already been born (about 2 yo), the wedding was in mid swing at my God Parents home, guests in their seats and all, Dad just never showed up. Parents stayed together for another six years, separated when I was 8.
I wonder what reason is so good you stay with someone after they stood you up like that
Some people buy into the "children need two parents" c**p...
Load More Replies... I myself wasn't there but about 15 years ago, a female cousin on my dad's side of the family was stood up at the altar.
The only thing of this wedding that I've seen are old pictures of the event on facebook. A caption under one picture in which she is dressed in her wedding gown, complete with veil, is "I thought I was going to get married. Oh, well, it was a good thought at the time.".
I was at a wedding where the grooms father spit on the bride. A 6 minute-long fist fight ensued.
Apparently she slept around on the groom and the groom couldn't believe it. His father was traditional Portuguese. The bigger surprise is why it was the grooms dad and not the mother that did the spitting.
Why is that the bigger surprise? A little context goes a long way.
Portuguese mothers are usually fiestier? Just spit spit balling here............
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Groom was waiting on the altar, and bride-to-be was in some side room down a hall in the church. Was taking a REALLY long time, so long that the groom went down the hall to make sure she was alright.
The following was heard:
* door opening* Groom: "What the hell?"
Bride: "It was the last time!"
*Shouts, voice of another man*
Six dull thuds as the groom pulped the other guy.
He and the rest of his family, and even most of her family walked out. Priest called an ambulance.
Not called of at the alter but right before they walked down the aisle. Mother of the bride walked in on the bride having sex with a groomsman in the church basement. Very Awkward when the mother ran down the aisle to explain to the people waiting for the wedding to start that there were "complications" and the weddings is cancelled.
Not me but my grandfather. When my grandfather was a teenager he was with his family at a friend of his parent's wedding. When the preacher said the whole "if there's anyone present who has a reason this couple should not be joined in holy matrimony, speak now or forever hold your peace" bit, the father of the bride stood up and said, "I do," at which point he, the bride and groom, and the preacher left to have a private discussion. They came back about ten minutes later and called the wedding off. My grandfather and I used to enjoy hypothesizing about what the father of the bride could have said.
Here's a story my wife tells, from the trenches of wedding photography. She wasn't at this job, but it sure left a mark on everyone who was there: the father of the bride walked his lil' punkin' down the aisle, to the alter, then turned, went back down the aisle, out the door of the church, to the parking lot, got in his truck and blew his head off with a shotgun.
I'm really shocked by this one. I wonder what was going on for the poor man.
I have a feeling it was something nefarious, like ill*gal and scummy if you catch my drift 😩
Load More Replies...What a horrific thing to do to his 'punkin' on her wedding day. She'll never remember that day with any joy or be able to celebrate it because that selfish f*ck had to off himself at exactly that time. Maybe in his sick mind he was doing the right thing by walking her down the aisle first, and I'm sure he was in a lot of pain, but what loving parent would choose to make their daughter's wedding day all about their suic*de?
I worked at a wedding chapel for about a year as a sound tech so I've seen quite a few weddings and I can say that not once did I hear the old stereotypical speak now or forever hold your peace line. Nothing of the sort. I think it's probably because who would want to give someone else a chance to wreck their wedding ceremony.
As for the declaring love for the bride or groom... When one of my roommates' wedding was just a couple weeks away, one of our old roommates' professed his love for the bride and told her not to marry him. He was the second guy to do so in a week's time. I knew there was a reason I was never comfortable around the guy, other than having a reputation for being the biggest c*ck block that was too much of a p*ssy to close the deal himself.
Then while I was working a wedding a friend of a friend's fiance got all butt hurt about her hanging out with a guy friend and basically made an ultimatum that she refuse to keep in contact with any guy friends and basically let him rule her life. Yeah, that didn't happen. So her side went to the reception at all the food, drank all the booze and celebrated her dodging a bullet. Then they sued his ass for breaking off the engagement with less than a day left and got all of her money back for the wedding that didn't happen. So yeah, receptions often do still happen because sometimes it's too late to cancel everything and it's best not to let it go to waste.
One of the 4th grade teachers at my elementary school got left at the altar on the day of the wedding. Apparently the groom just didn't show up. I wasn't there because I was in a different 4th grade class, but she invited her class, so a lot of my friends were there and it was a little awkward the next Monday (for me. I imagine it was mortifying for her).
She's happily married now though.
It used to be ? traditional ? that teachers couldn't be married. Also in my Mom's Nursing school, they couldn't be married and in my Granpa's Seminary School they couldn't be married, and he & my Gramma eloped so he had to finish his schooling by taking night classes while working part-time, it took him a couple of more years.
My best friend my freshman year was getting married to his high school sweetheart. They show up together a couple hours before the ceremony. People shuffle in, my friend and the rest of the party is at the front of the chapel, music starts playing... and the officiant comes out and tells my friend "Son, I've got bad news. You're not getting married today." Bride totally left everyone, didn't tell even her bridesmaids - she just up and left. Called him two weeks later apologizing.
That was eight years ago, and he's still screwed up over it.
This may get buried under all the comments, but many years ago I was working as a waiter at a fancy banquet hall. During one weekend shift, just prior to the dinner, the manager called a quick staff meeting for those waiting on our main dining hall.
He proceeded to tell us that for tonight, basically whatever the groom wanted, he was to get. Before anyone could ask, he explained that the bride had called the wedding off that day, and they were now having a VERY expensive party.
I don't know if it was as dramatic as her calling it off right at the altar or not, but it was certainly the closest thing to it that I have ever experienced.
Needless to say, that particular groom did not stay sober very long that night.
Poor guy ☹️ very nice of the manager and wait staff to look after him, tho
I went to a wedding that was packed out with 300 people - 20 minutes beforehand it turned out they hadn't booked a registrar so they couldn't do the ceremony. The vicar bloke gave them a blessing, we all got shi**aced and they re-arranged for the next month.
I was hired as a photographer for an old high school friend's wedding. Up early, photographed the run through, and the girls getting their hair done. There was some tension between between the bride and groom at the reception site I noticed, but thought of it as just jitters. Took pictures of the girls getting ready. We arrived at the chapel site, no guys, so we set up the girls for the bride and bridesmaids pictures. Finally the guys arrive, and I direct them around for groomsmen and entire wedding party pictures. More tension between the bride and groom, the groom getting irritated with the number of pictures I was taking.
The time for vows draws near, the chapel fills up with people. Time the wedding is suppose to start rolls around and nothing. The bride and groom are in a separate building from the chapel. I'm running through my route for shooting in the dimly lit chapel when the pastor and the groom walk into the chapel, down the aisle to stand at the alter. They face the family and friends in the pews and the groom announces that his heart isn't into it. The pastor falters for words, the groom is tearing up and the bride is bawling, while I have a couple hundred pictures that I have no idea what to do with now.
TL;DR Photographed a wedding where the groom called it off at the alter and I was stuck with obsolete pictures.
This was posted so long ago that the OP is quite possibly retired at this point, lol. It's a 13 year old post.
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One of my good friends was dumped through a text message 3 hours before the wedding; some Pentecostal prophets told that girl they weren't right for each other couple a of months before the wedding. imagine waking up for the big day at 9 AM and your iPhone screen saying something like: I don't think we are made for each other , i don't have divine guidance.( after 13 months of relationship) now she had divine guidance for dating his friend
Yeah, because atheists are all rational people ... try keeping your stupid comments to yourself.
Load More Replies...It never quite made it to the altar. The bride was getting ready at the church while waiting for the groom to arrive. The groom never showed. Groom eventually called bride's dad and had dad come into the room where we were all getting ready to break the news to her. Weirdly enough, she didn't see all that upset. They barely knew each other and I think she knew it was probably not going to happen one way or another.
I had an awful history teacher in high school who used to brag how he left a woman at the alter. He was a short, angry, troll of a man. Would cover the windows so no sunlight would come into the room, and make us put all of our backpack against the wall. Would then publicly mock anyone who had to get up and retrieve something from their backpack during class.
He said that he went up to her and told her it wasn't worth it. And then went home to have a beer. Ugh, he was so smug about it, made me feel sick.
If i wasn't do insecure in high school, I would have complained about him. He made all the pretty girls who wore short skirts sit in the front row. Fav saying was " if this was war, we'd all be dead." He'd made my whole row stay 15 min. after class because one day I didn't feel like saying the pledge (had a cold, stood but didn't talk).
Unless you went to high school before 1943, that was completely illegal.
Was not in attendance, but my photography teacher in high school was left at the altar. She missed a lot of school because of it and hasn't been right since.
My boyfriend and I barely knew the bride and groom, but felt obligated to go because he met them through work. Although the wedding was called off, we stayed and celebrated her birthday instead. It was the most awkward experience, ever.
Friends of my parents were supposed to get married and the bride panicked an hour before the ceremony, left a note and disappeared for a few days. They did get married a year or so later. I was too young to really understand the situation but I remember the frenzied atmosphere.
My dad left a lady at the alter. My mom refers to her as "dad's trashy days".
My uncle escaped two times from his wedding, then the third time he actually got married with the same person, they stayed married until a couple of years ago when he died.
I didnt attend his weddings, only his funeral.
Unlike weddings, funerals rarely get called off, despite the undoubted presence of cold feet..
I once sang for a wedding in WI. The procession went off without a hitch, but when the bride got up to the alter they realized the judge (it was an outside wedding) wasn't even there yet. He had been given the wrong time. The bride ran into the house, locked the door and refused to come out for two hours. That was an afternoon I wish I had back.
I went to a wedding where the celebrant didn't show. Fortunately one of the guests was an ordained minister. So they filled in and just winged it, having no idea how the ceremony was planned.
Yes.
I was **invited** to, and later **asked to conduct** (I'm with Universal Life Church) a wedding called off at the alter.
Father of the bride had a far away look that reminded me of Falling Down.
He kept saying
"$15,000...That was my retirement. I guess I'll go back to work".
The professionals involved had never seen it in 30 years.
At least I got to read the sweet ceremony I wrote the night before at the rehearsal.
I took a bunch of pictures with Star Wars action figures to make the bride feel better.
Sad part is it's such a small town she's moving away because of it.
Maybe 15 years ago I worked with a girl who did this. Short story is she was married and divorced at a young age. I think married at 18 and divorced a year later or something. Then at late 20's/early 30's she decides to marry a guy but a couple hours before her second wedding she decides she doesn't want to be married again.
She had invited a handful of people from work who found out about it while waiting outside the church. After the groomsmen had kept everyone outside of the church saying there was a delay... eventually the maid of honour comes out and told everyone the bride is very sick and not able to do the ceremony today and gives apologies she isn't well enough to thank everyone for coming etc.
She was supposed to be off for 2 weeks after the wedding. That turned into maybe a month or two. Then, I got called into my bosses office and was asked to not talk/ask the bride about her wedding or boyfriend when she comes back. Everyone got this 'sit me down'... to one degree or another.
When she came back she was very quiet and kept to herself for the most part. She did open up and tell a couple of girls about what happened, that gets into the gossip circles and soon everyone knew she basically "just didn't want to be married". She was kinda weird but in a nice way but after that I think everyone just thought she was mentally unstable. Really that simple as I understood it.
Maybe 2ish months later we were told she quit. I really don't think she quit. I think they packaged her off being she was a negative vibe, depressed and everyone kind of walked on eggshells around her. She also worked in sales so my guess is her numbers went to c**p.
My 8th grade US History teacher was left at the altar before. She was large and in charge...She would get flashbacks from that moment she was left at the altar during class and turn from chill to c**t in a matter of seconds. She even had photos of the two of them with his face scratched off and whatnot in the classroom and she would always reference him and talk about throwing him off a building or something similar of the sort. Long story short, I got a B in that class.
A friend of mine rapidly developed relationship with a girl. She was ok - just proposing and marrying 2 months after first meeting seemed way too quick for me. Main idea of the guy was "everyone should marry - why not right now?". I was invited but didn't go to the wedding - I didn't like whole (stupid) idea and friend was way too nervous so I expected some minor f*k ups.
And right when I thought "they must be standing in front of altar now" I heard my friend calling me outside of my house (I live not far from the church). He escaped ceremony right in front of all people - somehow he realized he shouldn't do that. So we went to a bar, got drunk and I feel like the guy was genuinely happy - for the first time during last month.
EDIT: also I remembered another wedding - it went ok but newlywed guy got drunk, passed out and fiancee (wife) f*d half of male guests during followed party - literally everyone who wasn't too drunk to f**k.
I was visiting in a hospital and saw a wedding going on in the chapel there so I popped in. The place was full of family, but I guess it was all the groom's family. Anyway the bride stops in the middle of the ceremony and says she wasn't in love with the groom, she was in love with his brother. She said something about lying to a nurse about being the groom's fiance so she could visit the guy because she'd brought him in unconscious. Damn HIPAA laws.
Anyway, she apologizes to everyone and runs out. A few weeks later, I'm trying to get on a train (this is in Chicago) and there's this family again. They're blocking up the turnstile and the brother goes into her little booth and proposes. I didn't see the original groom, but I missed my train because the family wouldn't get out of the way.
OP is describing a Sandra Bullock film “While You Were Sleeping,” (a film from the 90s). I loved that film when I was younger
Load More Replies... Last year we we all sitting in the church and the father of the bride and pastor came to the front and asked everyone to pray - basically the groom (my friend) called the bride from the limo on the way to the church and backed out.
the bride's friends were invited to the reception. we shotgunned beers with the groom until 4am.
But my old boss' fiance never showed up to the wedding. The best man showed up 2 hours late to say no one was coming. Instead he took the honeymoon tickets and went by himself. My boss ended up getting "15 minutes" of fame for it though.
I once knew a lady who was stood up before her wedding. She was getting all pretty on the day of her wedding, but the guy she was marrying was so f*****g sleazy. The woman was so rich and spoiled, and I guess that's what her groom-to-be wanted of her.
So, this woman is still getting dressed. Her cake was on the table, and it looked like a damn good cake, too. She just put on her shoe, and she gets a note from her guy to be told she got dumped.
She got so upset, she locked herself in her house and hasn't seen anyone since except for her adopted daughter & a couple other people. Mostly relatives after her wealth. The wedding cake is apparently still rotting in her house and she hasn't seen the sun in years. Plus, she's only wearing *one shoe*.
Heard she set herself on fire, though. Shame.
I think its amusing when stories are told like this -
Load More Replies...So many people cheating ON the actual wedding day? Even at the church? What the hell is wrong with people?
I think it's the panic of suddenly realizing you're only supposed to sleep with this one person for the rest of your life, and somebody else might be better. Didn't happen to me
Load More Replies...Just for the records: Fiancée = Bride to be || Fiancé = Groom to be. Thank you for your attention.
I give up on many of these stories because I can't work out who they're talking about half the time.
Load More Replies...Too many people depend on auto-incorrect to cover their lack of vocabulary or literacy.
Load More Replies...So I have one that *wasnt* cheating or cold feet... guy I went to college with, super sweet, would give you the shirt off his back, but not great with remembering things like dates/times. He thought his fiancee had left him, because he couldn't get ahold of her (early 2000s, so cell phones weren't ubiquitous), and actually passed out drunk on his couch/cried himself to sleep because he didn't know what he'd do without her. We did have someone who was supposed to remind him that today was his wedding day, but I ended up going into labor/almost dying (I was more than a month early, so it was a very big deal), and my backup claims they "didn't know." (I called b******t on him because he'd already been by to visit me at the hospital, so he knew it was his responsibility.) Basically just a huge f**k up from a guy whose brain works a bit differently. They're still married, 22 years later! They just got married a day later than they planned so (almost - I was in the hospital) everyone saw!
So many people cheating ON the actual wedding day? Even at the church? What the hell is wrong with people?
I think it's the panic of suddenly realizing you're only supposed to sleep with this one person for the rest of your life, and somebody else might be better. Didn't happen to me
Load More Replies...Just for the records: Fiancée = Bride to be || Fiancé = Groom to be. Thank you for your attention.
I give up on many of these stories because I can't work out who they're talking about half the time.
Load More Replies...Too many people depend on auto-incorrect to cover their lack of vocabulary or literacy.
Load More Replies...So I have one that *wasnt* cheating or cold feet... guy I went to college with, super sweet, would give you the shirt off his back, but not great with remembering things like dates/times. He thought his fiancee had left him, because he couldn't get ahold of her (early 2000s, so cell phones weren't ubiquitous), and actually passed out drunk on his couch/cried himself to sleep because he didn't know what he'd do without her. We did have someone who was supposed to remind him that today was his wedding day, but I ended up going into labor/almost dying (I was more than a month early, so it was a very big deal), and my backup claims they "didn't know." (I called b******t on him because he'd already been by to visit me at the hospital, so he knew it was his responsibility.) Basically just a huge f**k up from a guy whose brain works a bit differently. They're still married, 22 years later! They just got married a day later than they planned so (almost - I was in the hospital) everyone saw!
