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Brother And SIL Crash Man’s Fancy Vacation, Book The Same Hotel And Insist He Babysit Their Kid
Brother And SIL Crash Man’s Fancy Vacation, Book The Same Hotel And Insist He Babysit Their Kid

Brother And SIL Crash Man’s Fancy Vacation, Book The Same Hotel And Insist He Babysit Their Kid

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Partying all night and babysitting don’t really mix, now do they? Vacations are designed to help you relax, let loose, sip mojitos by the pool, and momentarily forget you actually have a life outside of the fancy hotel. Or at least, that’s the plan. But when someone ambushes you with babysitting duties, it’s less partying and more nap time.

One Redditor’s dream escape turned into a potential babysitting gig when his brother and sister-in-law decided to crash his party and book the same hotel, at the same time.

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    One man’s fun getaway took a sharp turn when his brother and sister-in-law crashed the party, demanding he babysit their kid so they could relax

    Text expressing frustration about babysitting on vacation; mentions staying in the same hotel.

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    Text describing a man's weekend trip plans with friends for relaxation and partying.

    Man relaxing by a luxury hotel pool, lounge chair and laptop beside him, enjoying a fancy vacation.

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    The man’s brother books the same hotel for his family, at the same time the man and his friends would be there

    Text revealing plans for a fancy hotel stay shared with brother and sister-in-law.

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    Text about a brother and sister-in-law staying at the same hotel during a vacation.

    Man and child reading on couch, enjoying vacation time together.

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    The brother tells the man how excited he is he will be there to help with babysitting so he and his wife can relax

    Text detailing a man's vacation plans disrupted by brother and SIL booking same hotel, expecting babysitting duties.

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    Babysitting frustration text about vacation with brother and sister-in-law at hotel.

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    The man doesn’t want to babysit his niece while on vacation, as he is looking forward to just partying, drinking, and relaxing with no responsibilities

    The poster of this story (let’s call him Sam) is a 29-year-old who was looking forward to his first weekend off in months. Sam and his friends had meticulously planned a glorious weekend of partying, poolside relaxation, and zero responsibilities.

    The destination? A fancy hotel that’s more about cocktails than milk bottles. For Sam, this was more than just a trip – it was his first break in months, so he was pretty excited for it.

    But weirdly enough, his brother and sister-in-law announced they’d booked the same hotel for a “family getaway” with their four-year-old daughter, at the exact same time Sam would be there. Oh, and they had a tiny request for him – play babysitter for his niece while they relaxed.

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    Wait, what? Sam was floored. Babysitting? On his vacation? The same vacation he’d been looking forward to for months and splurged on? The one that involved pool parties, not playdates? To make matters worse, these entitled people even told Sam that he “doesn’t have anything better to do anyway.” I’d probably be livid at this point, wouldn’t you?

    Sure, Sam adores his niece. But that doesn’t mean he’s ready to swap his margaritas for mac and cheese duty. Plus, his brother and sister-in-law’s “surprise” was less of a happy coincidence and more of a manipulative ambush.

    And our guy admits he struggles to set boundaries. His brother and sister-in-law knew this, which is why they were so confident they could rope him into their plan. So, Sam was stuck in a lose-lose situation: either spend his vacation chasing after a four-year-old or risk being labeled the “bad uncle” who doesn’t love his niece.

    Man in hotel room on phone, holding shirt, during vacation disrupted by unexpected family visit.

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    I get it, it can be difficult saying no to family sometimes, but setting boundaries doesn’t have to be as scary as it sounds. It’s about communicating your needs and sticking to them, even when guilt trips are thrown your way like confetti at a wedding.

    The pros say the trick is staying consistent, firm yet respectful. Start by clearly stating what you can and can’t do, or what you are not willing to do. And remember, saying “no” to unreasonable demands doesn’t mean you love your family any less – it just means you’re prioritizing yourself. Trust me, they’ll survive without you for a weekend. After all, it’s their entitlement that landed them in that situation.

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    Dealing with entitled people is never fun, especially if they’re your family members. Experts say that entitled people are self-centered and show little concern or empathy for how their actions affect others.

    These folks often believe they are deserving of exceptional treatment, for some reason, and they anticipate receiving privileges and favors without considering any justification for such special treatment. So, it’s basically a “The world owes me” type of mentality.

    Yup, I’ve met a few people like that in my life, and I know you can’t change their behavior, so the next best thing is not to feed their sense of entitlement. Stay calm, stand your ground, and don’t engage in their manipulative tactics. If they try to guilt-trip you or play the victim, just call it out politely. Keep it short, sweet, and drama-free. You get bonus points if you can escape the conversation with your cocktail intact.

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    What do you think of this story? Drop your comments below!

    Netizens say the man is not a jerk for not wanting to babysit his niece while on vacation, urging him to set boundaries and tell his brother “no”

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    Reddit post discussing vacation plans and family babysitting expectations.

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    Comment discussing boundary setting on vacation, addressing family babysitting expectations.

    Text exchange about refusing to babysit during vacation, advising no explanations needed.

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    Monica Selvi

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    Hi! I'm Moni. I’m a globetrotting creative with a camera in one hand and a notebook in the other. I’ve lived in 4 different countries, an visited 17, soaking up inspiration wherever I go. A marketer by trade but a writer at heart, I’ve been crafting stories, poems, and songs, and creating quirky characters since I was 7.

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    The Doom Song
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Make sure you always have an alcoholic beverage in your hand the entire time. Then turn around and tell them how irresponsible it would be to leave a 4 year old with an intoxicated person!

    ThisIsMe
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I get the point of the comment, but OP shouldn't have to alter his own behavior on his vacation in order to make his point. Sure, if he wants a drink in hand 24/7, that's fine. But if he doesn't, saying "no" should be sufficient to avoid doing something he already didn't sign up for anyway. Time for SIL to learn to accept "no".

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    Ashlie Benson
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What is it about so many parents now thinking their kids are other people's responsibility?

    V
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's because parents aren't allowed to parentify their older children any more.

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    A S Mora
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You just know they booked this trip after he told them the hotel with the idea that he'll just babysit because he's a history of being a pushover.

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    The Doom Song
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Make sure you always have an alcoholic beverage in your hand the entire time. Then turn around and tell them how irresponsible it would be to leave a 4 year old with an intoxicated person!

    ThisIsMe
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I get the point of the comment, but OP shouldn't have to alter his own behavior on his vacation in order to make his point. Sure, if he wants a drink in hand 24/7, that's fine. But if he doesn't, saying "no" should be sufficient to avoid doing something he already didn't sign up for anyway. Time for SIL to learn to accept "no".

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    Ashlie Benson
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What is it about so many parents now thinking their kids are other people's responsibility?

    V
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's because parents aren't allowed to parentify their older children any more.

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    A S Mora
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You just know they booked this trip after he told them the hotel with the idea that he'll just babysit because he's a history of being a pushover.

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