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“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs
If you’re a person who dates men, what’s the first thing that catches your eye in a potential suitor? Is it how they can make you laugh without even trying, how they surprise you with coffee or flowers for no reason other than to make you smile, how they never fail to ask you about your day and actually listen to how you’re feeling, or how they have an extremely large and expensive collection of sneakers in their closet that no one is allowed to touch? Chances are, it’s not the latter.
But for some reason, men often have a warped sense of what others actually find attractive and impressive. From bragging about being a workaholic to boasting about their video game skills, women on Reddit have recently been sharing the things men think will impress them that tend to have the opposite effect. Below, we’ve gathered a list of these unappealing tendencies, so be sure to upvote the ones that make your roll your eyes as well.
Keep reading to also find an interview with dating coach Hayley Quinn to hear her thoughts on the topic, and then, if you’re interested in checking out a Bored Panda article discussing things men have no reason to feel insecure about when dating, you can find that right here!
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#1
The d**k pic. They expect us to be impressed, actually it just makes us run away and block.
To gain some insight on this topic from an expert, we reached out to UK-based dating coach Hayley Quinn, who was kind enough to have a chat with us about why it’s so common for men to say the wrong thing when trying to impress women. “One of the most common dating questions men might have is, ‘How do I impress her?’,” Hayley told Bored Panda. “Men often enter into the world of dating believing that women need to do certain things to make women like them: Whether that's having a witty story to share, taking her on the perfect date, or driving a fast car.”
“We are all consumers, and often the stories we are told through the media about what romance is all about, don't tally up with people's experience of it in real life,” she explained. “Ironically, trying to impress often comes across as try hard and insecure. If a guy's tried to impress you in a way that's had the opposite effect (provided he hasn't said anything that's inappropriate or offensive), try to look past that initial faux pas to his intention, which is often to build a connection with you.”
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#2
Please drop the “alpha male” shtick. It’s exhausting.
Vix Spiderthrust 3 years ago
And based on science so bad that the guy who published the paper has retracted his findings.
#3
Driving like a lunatic while you're in the car, Yeah you are so hot when you could potentially kill us both...Not!!
But we can’t completely blame men for accidentally saying the wrong things, because none of us are immune to it. “Trying too hard, in the wrong ways, to impress someone isn't just something heterosexual men do,” Hayley says. “We can all be guilty of wanting someone to like us so much that we're no longer authentic with them. If you're a woman dating a man, be mindful of when you also might be going into ‘performance mode’. Are you spending too much time trying to show him why he should choose you, instead of experiencing the relationship and also working out if he's good for you?”
#4
Gym selfies.
Any kind of macho posturing. I like secure men. Not ones who have to make a point of how "alpha" they are.
InvincibleRodent 3 years ago
Additionally, referring to oneself as an "alpha"/"sigma"/any letter of the Greek alphabet.
#5
Being an "expert" on anything and everything, while simultaneously never admitting they don't know something.
Just admit when you don't know something! I won't think less of you! Quite the contrary.
#6
Talking about their skills in bed. Those who are good at things don’t need to brag about them.
When it comes to things men can do or say that might actually impress women, Hayley says, “Often the most impressive qualities are candor and authenticity. Rather than hiding behind overly elaborate gestures, or a chat up line you've been rehearsing, share your truth. If you can be open with someone it builds emotional intimacy with them.”
“Just be mindful to keep your conversations playful, and light, in the early stages of getting to know someone,” she added. “This signals to the woman you're dating that you're not that emotionally invested yet, until you get to know her better. By demonstrating to her that you also have high standards for the women you interact with, and that you haven't chosen her yet, you do a lot to present yourself as a man who is self confident, and attractive.”
#8
Telling me how to do things I already know how to do.
Hotdogking 3 years ago
Oh god this just reminded me of one time this guy in my sister’s class tried to mansplain periods to her. Yes, you read that right. F*****g. PERIODS!! 😬😬
#9
Owning a surplus of weapons
RafCo (he/him) 3 years ago
IDK. I don't own any firearms myself, but I could see legitimate reasons for owning one. I have a cousin that lives in the country, and he keeps a shotgun in his home in case of wild pigs. They have been known to attack his chickens and even his children. He also gets poisonous snakes and giant centipedes. Both can be dangerous animals. Hunting is also used in his community to supplement food sources.
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WindySwede 3 years ago (edited)
♫ "I've got a feeling that it's gonna be a wonderful day" ♫ /jk
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Inclusion2020 3 years ago
Disagree with this one. Hunting and self-defense are totally acceptable given that safety procedures are followed and the person knows how to build and take apart their weapon backwards and forwards. However, if they’ve got a store of guns that they barely touch and talk about nonstop. Now that’s an issue.
DeoManus Argentem 3 years ago
My girlfriend is the one who got me into firearms! In fact, one of our first dates was to a gun safety and concealed carry class! I had never fired one before in my life (I was around 35)! I only own five, and certainly don't show them off - but we've all heard of people who own hundreds. Some people just like collecting stuff. It's not like hundreds (if properly secured) are any more dangerous than one - you can only wield one at a time - just like owning multiple cars are no more dangerous than owning one.
Kate Jones 3 years ago
I have no problem with gun ownership. But I expect responsible ownership. I have a gun that I am trained to use and it's in a fingerprint locked box. It opens incredibly fast and the gun is loaded and ready to go. It is bolted to the wall near my bed so no one can take it. I'm a responsible owner. I'm a victim of assault and having it has helped me. But I don't understand these people who have teenagers in their house and guns that are easily attained. I also don't know why you need an assault rifle and m16. The response is always 'I have the right to defend myself against a militia or the government'. Lol do you think you're going to be able to defend yourself against a tank? If we're at the point that the gov't is coming to take our houses, your dumb as$ doesn't have a chance I don't are how many guns you have. You don't need 30 assault rifles, not even to hunt. And you're an idiot if you have them in a house with kids/teens.
S. M. Dougherty 3 years ago
I agree with responsible gun ownership. I also agree with having enough weapons to make anyone think twice about a commiting a transgression against you. Personally, I keep a pistol in every room of the house and two in the master bath; one next to the toilet and one in the shower. Also, one in each vehicle. Additionally, the second amendment was put into place not as a deterrent against crime ( though it really applies nowadays) but to protect our citizenry against our government when all legal systems fail us. Remember that Adolf Hitler was quoted to have said "the first step to conquer a nation is to first disarm its citizens." Remember that quote. Per capita, there are roughly 127 guns for every 100 Americans. Could we defeat a tank? No, probably not but our government would not be able to roll over it's citizens as easily as some foreign governments have. It would be terribly bloody across the board. America's armed citizens are, essentially, the deterrent force within
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Paul Sanders 3 years ago
I own none but don't see any issues with those that like to collect. Why care if someone likes guns that is mentally and emotionally stable?
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
To all the people who downvoted the comments below, believe it or not, MOST of the planet thinks that owning a gun is either a bad thing, makes you a risk of violence, or at risk of being targeted by violence. Look at the stats. Owning a gun makes you 8x more likely to self-unalive. https://med.stanford.edu/news/all-news/2020/06/handgun-ownership-associated-with-much-higher-suicide-risk.html
Scott Rackley 3 years ago
Wow, suicidal people buy guns at a higher rate of off themselves. Truly groundbreaking statistical analysis.
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Jonathan Taunton 3 years ago
Unpopular opinion I'm sure but here goes. Owning a surplus of guns is no more ridiculous than owning a surplus of shoes. Personal security is your responsibility not anyone elses and the police aren't guaranteed to show up on time. Granted I'm a gun enthusiast, not a hunter, not a prepper, 8 years of active duty military service. I punch holes in paper. I do have more than a few. Most are kept locked up, a few are wall decorations. No children to be concerned about. I have an every day carry pistol and a license to carry it. If guns turn you off that's fine, I have actually dated a woman that was repulsed by guns, but she was dating me and not my guns. They are are part of my makeup but don't define who I am
David 3 years ago
Unless you really know them pretty well I think a bigger put off is that you know about their weapons. Guns have never been a date topic for me. Like why would I talk about that?
Freindly Neighborhood Spider-Man 3 years ago (edited)
Being able to protect your wife is a turn-off🤦🏽♂️
Some rando dude 3 years ago
Ehh. There are legitimate reasons for owning a gun. Self-defense and hunting. And I won't lie, maybe it's the dude in me, but I admire a gun collection. I just also expect you to be responsible and safe.
Bored foof 3 years ago
Depends wholly on their attitude. Idc if you have weapons, as long as you treat their destructive power with the respect and care it calls for.
Runs with scissors 3 years ago
Weapons for self protection? Yes. An excessive arsenal, no, especially when combined with paranoia or doomsday ideology.
Florence O'Grady 3 years ago
What does surplus mean? Do you mean the surplus the government doesn't want gun owners to have because they may one day need to protect themselves, their family, their relatives, their neighbors, their pets, their property, etcetera, from that same government that wants all of what I just mentioned?
Silviu Leibovici 2 years ago
Unless you're a hobby collector, shooting range for hobby, professional in military, living close to a wild life area.... More than 2 is just pointless in America. Rest of the world, we like nerf and water guns mostly ...
Steven Meyer 3 years ago
I own 3 hand guns, a sporting rifle and a shotgun- none have ever fired on their own
ktmcandog 3 years ago
So can fists. Theres plenty of legit and legal reasons for owning firearms along with sport shooting and like controlling predators and farming not to mention possibly saving ones life. Its a issue for me looking at a woman as possibly anti, closed mind and having a simple view of solving firearm violence.
Cierra Nope 3 years ago
I feel safer having a means to protect myself. I keep pepper spray and a large pocket knife all the time just in case etc
gerald jauernig 3 years ago
Most people own weapons for protection just as much as pleasure. If you have a problem with me wanting to protect myself and my family then you aren't for me anyway.
Christina Hill 3 years ago
Or really just owning a surplus or anything unnecessary that is often unused. If it brings you joy or is useful great but keeping things for years simply because you were into it once and it might be worth something one day is just a waste of space. And energy if you have to move.
Jared Slocum 3 years ago
This one is f*****g r******d and just an option... There are many women that enjoy firearms just as much as the opposite sex you know since firearms aren't gender based.
TrippyBanana 3 years ago
I know many in rural areas who hunt because it's cheaper than buying beef or other meats at the grocery stores. I'm also understanding of protecting your property. I'm not understanding of the need for assault weapons made for the military.
Brenda White 3 years ago
If Americans were not historically able to own guns our country would have gone down long ago. People who refuse to understand what the founders of our nation set forth, and why,will be the downfall of our country. We're heading that way now. Open boarders, massive drug trafficking, sex trafficking, no bail for career criminals, apathy and ignorance so long as your belly is full. Take a listen to what Henry Kissinger said on January 17th 2023. This is the future the elites want for us serfs. Owning a gun is one of the few things keeping our country free now. Biden very recently said once they outlaw weapons nothing will stop the government from implementing fundamental change
Tamra 3 years ago
"Owning a gun is one of the few things keeping our country free"...what?! How? We've had thirty-nine mass shootings in January alone - and the month isn't even over yet! How, EXACTLY, are guns keeping us "free"? How free do the parents of every child gunned down in a school feel?
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Jessica N 3 years ago (edited)
I own 3 handguns, 2 assault rifles, 3 hunting rifles, 2 shotguns and a crossbow. I definitely do not consider this a surplus and would find anyone with similar interests attractive. Being able to hunt and process your own deer is sexy to me. Shrug
whiterabbit 3 years ago
You own two a rapid-fire, magazine-fed automatic rifle designed for infantry use? Will you people please learn the different between a semi-auto rifle and an assault rifle.
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Ponyo (they/them) 3 years ago
@guys who own many weapons but think it should be illegal for women to carry pepper spray when they’re walking alone at night
parajared 3 years ago
Even though I'm a 4-armed demigod I still find it difficult to hold more than one assault rifle at at time because of how hard it is to aim down sights.
Dekker451 3 years ago
Why do you have pliers, a screwdriver and multiple wrenches in your toolbox if you only have two hands? Because they're for different jobs.
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wyngerd 3 years ago
One gun in a house is a surplus. Exception, police officer or Forrest ranger.
M O'Connell 3 years ago
Or a hunter. Different game require different weapons. One of my uncles is an avid hunter and trapper who eats everything he hunts.
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Cassi Lyris 3 years ago
And talking about how fun it is to go outside and play with them while you're drinking. Irresponsibility is not a turn on. You're not a bad boy, just an irresponsible man-child.
Tris Hunt 3 years ago
Being the daughter of a cop, I do agree that guns have been misused for too long. If I ever got one, it would only be used for target practice at a shooting range, or in the case of a burglary, but I wouldn't have any bullets in it to kill someone, and safety on too. Or that part could just need a paintball gun.
Ann-Marie Bentley 3 years ago
This is massive red flag 🚩 unless they are in the police or something.
Finally, we asked Hayley if men should be given the benefit of the doubt when they say these unappealing things, or if they should be taken as red flags that women should steer clear of. “A lot of men might make a misguided comment or two in the early stages of dating. Provided he hasn't leapt over your personal boundaries, I would be empathetic to a little bit of humble bragging, or trying too hard on a first date,” Hayley says. “As he relaxes more, he may become more confident with you.”
“However, do be careful of any behaviors that could be love bombing,” she warns. “Love bombing is when a potential date, or a guy you've only known for a short period of time, tries to sweep you off your feet with elaborate gestures and gifts. Whilst this might feel romantic, remember that he hasn't actually had time to get to know who you really are, and these sweet gestures could be a facade for his desire to control you.”
If you’d like to learn more dating advice or reach out to Hayley for help in your own love-life, be sure to visit her website right here!
#10
Telling me any story where you slide in details about how some girl was flirting with you or otherwise wanted you “so bad”….
#11
The size of their p***s, the size of their bank account, the size of their house ... the size of basically friggin' anything.
#12
Trying to low key assert how wealthy they are. I went on a date with this guy one time who kept hinting at things he could afford and kept mentioning how lucky he was to have such a good salary. On top of that he didn’t ask me anything about myself. It just felt icky to be honest. I want to form a genuine connection dude.
scag$y 3 years ago
I'm just theorising so please don't downvote me to hell. But I think young lads are embarrassed to discuss their feelings about the opposite sex, in case they get ridiculed. They see James Bond, Stormzy or David Beckham with all their designer clothes, fancy watches and supercars, and think that's how to be attractive to women. So that's how they approach dating. They keep getting rejected but can't understand why. Eventually, they meet a girl who likes that stuff too, and they get married, become influencers and spend their shallow little lives wondering why nobody likes them.
#13
Big muscles. I think other men are often attracted to them though.
Headless Roach 3 years ago
Big muscles and too small t-shirts look absolutely ridiculous, contrary to the expectations 🙃
#14
Talking about fights he had gotten in. I once went on a date with a guy who brought up fights he had gotten in in the past at least 5 separate times, I felt like I was on a date with a high schooler but he was mid-20s.
#15
Doing something dangerous or reckless. You’re an adult! Please do not drive like a getaway driver or an F1 racer! I don’t want to die on the highway because you need to impress me with your driving skills! I’m not impressed - I’m terrified, angry, and (assuming I survive this) taking a Lyft home.
This goes for whatever other dumb s**t guys do that could result in loss of life or limb or catastrophic property damage.
Hotdogking 3 years ago
In fairness, we don’t always do that stuff to impress women. At least in the case of me and my mates, we do stupid and dangerous stuff because we think, “Oh, this’ll be a laugh” or, more commonly, “hold me beer and watch this”. By the time the thught of, “this may cause us some great injury,” we’re already doing it. I could probably fill a “Why women live longer than men” list all by myself lol
#16
Trying to talk to you about something you're knowledgeable in and they are not but they spew this surface level b******t as if it should be impressive. They're explaining to you/mansplaining your area of expertise. They don't ask you more because they want to know more, they often quiz you " wow, you actually know something" or the compliments are backhanded or patronizing (like that's impressive for A GIRL)
Completely different than trying to relate/convey your mutual like of a subject. You don't have to be on the same level to talk about a subject, but it comes with a tone that respects your thoughts also and isn't abkut showmanship.
#17
Any kind of uninvited intimate contact... like that time at the fitness park, I was throwing myself at the climbing wall on my 7th circuit, and out of nowhere, I felt hands on my a*s *helping* me over the wall and he actually had the balls to walk around the wall to offer to train me
#18
Talking about themselves 24/7. Anything and everything. For crying out loud, ask a question.
#19
B**ching about their Ex. Honey, No. You're telling on yourself.
One-upping me. I sometimes do comedy and if they find out they tend to try to "tell me this one you can use on stage" and sweetheart your recycled Dad joke only gets a laugh when I'm telling my mates how sad you are.
#20
Massive compliments although you barely know each other, without any actions what so ever. Talk is cheap. I'm not sold.
#21
Revving their engine at a stop light.
#22
That they read a book or watched a movie written/directed by a woman - and liked it! - so now they are an expert on women’s issues. Substitute in any marginalized group and it’s just as cringey.
Groundcontroltomajortom 3 years ago
At least this is misguided ignorance rather than full blown ignorance. They're trying which is more than some!
#23
Body counts for how many women they've slept with.
#24
If they want to explain my feelings to me, when I haven’t asked for it, then it’s over lol
#25
Cars. I prefer the reliable beater that screams “I’m paid off!” and “he’s financially sound!” Anything flashy or expensive and I’m not looking twice… especially if it’s a big truck.
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
Big truck = republican. If I were a woman I'd never date a guy with a pickup truck. I find them invariably patronising, patriarchal, and racist.
#26
Money. It's really transparent and just unattractive to me in general when someone constantly talks about money.
#27
I went on a first date with a university professor who brought out his positive end-of-term eval scores. Spent a good 15 or so minutes reading some of them to me and explaining that he got first or second highest in his dept. before asking me to rate him on his first date skills.
I was enjoying a good buzz and couldn’t help but find it amusing. We also got into how his dad never gave him validation growing up
Headless Roach 3 years ago
"asking me to rate him on his first date skills"... oh boy, he asked for it.
#28
Working all the time or staying up all night for projects. I like sleep and balance
Megan Curl 3 years ago
This could be a red flag, or it could also be situational, but if it bothers you, moving on is the best choice.
#29
Talking about partying and girls. Like "look at all the girls I've gotten!" Nothing makes me lose interest faster.
#30
Not something specific, but I am not super impressed by general bragging - humble or otherwise. Being genuinely humble is much more impressive to me!
Mickysixxx 3 years ago
Me neither, I never brag. Actually some of my friends say I'm the most humble person they know............
#31
Shouting into the streets how much they're into you. When I see it in movies now I shudder. Protip: they will shout into the streets that they hate you when you break up - and since they can't regulate their emotions that is ~scary~.
#32
Locker room-type talk. I've been out with dudes that didn't know how to talk to a woman. I'm sure this sort of convo would impress their dude-bro friends, but not a woman. This mostly happened when I was younger.
#33
Being "funny". A natural sense of humor is very attractive but I've been on too many dates with guys who tried to awkwardly cram their tight five into casual conversation. You start to feel like a captive audience more than an active participate on the date and the non-stop riffing bulldozes any chance at a genuine connection.
Hotdogking 3 years ago
Allow me to play the Devil’s advocate and say that they could be using it as a coping mechanism to calm their nerves. Don’t get me wrong that does sound really annoying, but don’t immediately assume their doing to impress you. Although, that kind of only applies to meeting them for the first time upon further inspection
#34
Bragging about how many followers they have on Instagram or how their friends are Instagram famous.
#35
When they say they have no red flags. Stupid me
#36
Acting like sexual attraction to someone is somehow soooo flattering. Dude, please.
#37
Calling themselves a feminist or a "good guy." Texting that they just got back from the gym.
JoyfulZebra 3 years ago (edited)
Just trying understand: is this person saying that guys can't be feminist, or are they talking about guys who talk about how "feminist" they are while being sexist?
#38
Talking about their 'very sophisticated' wine/liquor/beer/food standards, or any monologue that paints them as the arbiter of good taste or worthwhile interests/hobbies. Also, treating other people's otherwise wholesome interests as stupid or basic or something.
#39
Their car, fancy clothes, trying to show off their “knowledge” and “intellect” by mansplaining things to me and giving unsolicited advice, being too “generous” or as I’d like to call it “flippant with money”… basically anything showboaty. I do not want to eat at a tapas restaurant which will cost us $70 each for potatoes and sardines and cocktails PRE-COVID. Like dude we work in the same industry I know approx how much you earn. Leasing that $55k car just tells me that you 1) live with your parents and 2) are not saving as much money as I am with those spending habits. Clearly I had a guy in mind lol.
#40
Bragging about the other girls you’re dating and what you’re doing with them.
Pink Aesthetic 3 years ago
It's such a red flag, treating women like they're something you own
#41
Putting down other men, although I am encountering that a lot less as I get older.
RafCo (he/him) 3 years ago
Probably because as the men you date get older, they find it hard to pick the other men up in the first place. The idea of it is already hurting my back.
#42
Virtue signaling - so transparent
#43
Acting entitled to admiration for having a home, a car, and a job. Like, congrats? You are an adult. Having basic adult responsibilities does not make you “successful.”
#44
Talking really loud about how amazing you are.
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
Er... I can think of a demographic which does this and it comprises about 150 million people.
#45
Providing a quasi highlights reel about their career.
foryouwhynot IB 3 years ago
Now, if it’s a first-date and you’re getting to know someone, the question about work will obviously come up…maybe they’re just over sharing?
#46
Giving one-sided detailed explanations of things, which I believe is supposed to show how knowledgeable or intelligent they are, but it just shows me they spend enough time alone to have lost basic social awareness and social skills, and probably spend quite a lot of time navel-gazing and thinking about social interaction theoretically, e.g.,"I will talk about this subject and then the conversation will be interesting".
#47
S**t that impresses them. Since they don't even try to think about the other person's perspective
#48
Buying me flowers through instacart. I don't want flowers a complete stranger picked out for me.
Ches Yamada 3 years ago (edited)
So do you not want flowers from a delivery service, either? Because that's how they all work. This one is a little picky. I'd be happy to get flowers (if it was in a pot, that is).
What do you think ?
WhiteClawOfDeath 3 years ago
I'm a bit tired of these posts. Worse than your averace womens magasine.
TheDag 3 years ago
Holy c**p BoredPanda I get it I'm a guy, I should feel bad for being a guy XD
Squishy 3 years ago
no you shouldn't lol. even if any of these do apply to you, why should you feel bad about being a guy lol, being "attractive" to anyone shouldnt determine your worth
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Ausrine Ciapaite 3 years ago
The biggest turn on is when the guy cleans the house, cooks nice meal, gives you a message...
Richard Wilcox 3 years ago
Pretty much don't be a narcissist guys. All 45 items are in some way narcissistic. And to be clear, you can have a negative NPD diagnosis and still be narcissistic. Each of these points by themselves would not be enough to qualify you for an NPD diagnosis.
Thetruthhurts 3 years ago
Lol, most of these things aren't exclusive to men. But hey, I guess it is reeealy attractive when women make 2000 selfies, talk about money, show of their wealth or think they know everything...This turned into a toxic and xenophobic "10 things" site. It used to be about beautiful and interesting art many years ago. Now it is mostly about some social or first world problems copied from some idiotic subreddit.
Dre Mosley 3 years ago
Yep, how many men critical posts does this site need?
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rob kneepkens 3 years ago
If you look at this topic and add it all together then you get no smart guys (who talk about a topic), gym guys, rich guys, guys who talk about themselves, guys who are famous on Instagram, guys who show sexual interest or give compliments, no flowers, no trying to be funny, no high standards in alcohol or whatever, no partying, no expensive clothes and accessories, no guys who work a lot of overtime. In the end what is left. Super average guys? Just saying if you look at all 40 comments in this topic it just all seems a bit silly.
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
I think you are exaggerating slightly. Smart guys (who don't brag about how smart they are or drone on about it.). Rich guys (who don't brag about how rich they are). Gym guys (who wear loose shirts). Guys who are not overly pushy (reduce the sex/compliments/lovebombing). Flowers (if hand-picked). Funny (but not over the top). Well-dressed ( (who don't brag about how expensive it was). Etc. It's QUALIFIED exclusions.
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Nessbit the Russian Spy 3 years ago
This is unfair to the guys tbh. They think “ im sure this beautiful girl has dated so many other men, I need to do something special or different to attract her/ keep her interested.” So they either compliment her a lot (media says girls love romantics and compliments) or they try to be really muscly, or if they are insecure they’ll brag about the things they have. It’s not to be a jerk, it’s because they want to impress the girl and they want her to think “wow that guy sure is cool!” Cut the poor guys some slack (Yes I realize there are some genuinely jerky guys but not as much as you think)
Richard Wilcox 3 years ago (edited)
Turnoff #46: expecting some reward for not matching any of bored panda's top 45 turnoffs for women. Just kidding bro. I'll give you a shout out right here for matching 0 of 45. (That #46 tho...) 😉
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Luca Giordano 3 years ago
basically anything that is over the top or toom much is a no go. You can talk about your house, or your gym program or whatever... just don't make it into an endless monologue about how fantastic you are...be proud of who you are, what you do, know or even own.... but don't overdo it in displaying it. It becomes annoying or uncredible.
Frozen Pasta 3 years ago
Most of these are bragging and showing off... Just about over half of over and over not to mention women do this especially the Instagram and dating other guys at the same time like they're an employer. 😂
Bill Roberts 3 years ago
Basically..anything that comes out of a man's mouth is toxic. C heck k, Got it. But yall don't like the silent type, just abusers. Got that too.
E Hall 3 years ago
Hey Bored Panda! Post an article like this about women. I dare you. Watch how fast these same hypocrites start screaming CANCEL! Let the down votes begin. ✌
Disinforminationalistically U 3 years ago
I've tried this too. The down votes will (predictably) come.
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Jody Whitmarsh 3 years ago
The one I get a lot of is the notion that his attraction to me entitles him attention or affection from me. Like, no dude, just cause you think I'm pretty, doesn't mean I'm obligated to be with you
Disinforminationalistically U 3 years ago
Hello everybody, join the Panda and I in the latest round of man bashing. Come, vent your righteous indignation on silly stereotypes. Fun for feminists of all ages.
Danielle Ocasio Fast 3 years ago
Loud exhaust on a vehicle is an "interest killer" for me. My apartment doesn't need to shake when you drive by 🤪
PigSquatch 3 years ago
What gets me is most if not all the women wonder why they are single and their friends have husbands. Most of this list is superficial garbage. He has a big truck, he has a nice car, he has a house and talks about it. Hate to say it yeah he is an adult but you are not in any way. It's damned hard to talk to some one you do not know and takes time to get to know some one. Heartfelt talks do not happen on first dates hate to tell these people.
KBT 3 years ago
No woman is wondering why she is single. Single women are happier than married women, that is well documented. Stop asking women to lower their standards because she ought to be unhappy being single because that is not reality.
Load More Replies... censorshipsucks 3 years ago
I can see why all these are unpleasant. Anyone who is one-sided and drones on about just one thing is a bore, be it money, gym, their car, who they have banged or how many they have banged, their clothes, etc etc. For me I can tolerate this kind of stuff. For me a much bigger red flag is unkindness, followed by religiosity. Becasue the latter - you won't have a moment's peace. They will just push you continuously to join their specific cult.
Danish Susanne 2 years ago (edited)
I think that for a man inviting me out to eat is a very nice way of introducing himself. But at first I don't want to go to a very expensive place because I would fear, that he might feel that I was owing him something. But a nice cosy place with reasonable prices and hopefully good food. And quiet so that we could talk over the food.
tamara 3 years ago
i don’t think men are doing many of these things simply to “impress women..?” just guys being dudes? nothing wrong with gym culture and the selfies therein.. My bf has a “sports car” that literally makes his life happier, let ppl spend money however they want. Uninteresting list overall!!
Tunk 3 years ago
Ha ha lot of dudes getting triggered here. If you are not sending d**k pics, being a tool, showing off your weaponry, or just one of those dudes who uses ick words like 'panties' then what is your problem? If these less then attractive traits don't apply to you, isn't that a win? Comments seem to be confirming fragile masculinity. Oh the irony.
Lory Jones 3 years ago
Hate to tell ya, but most men are like this. It's a testosterone thing. Men who don't do these are typically beta--easy to live with, but ho-hum in the sack. Such is life.
simfan all day every day 3 years ago
So confused as a single 30 year old trying to get into dating, I constantly experience women making decisive efforts to get into a relationship with these men for these reasons, but this article basically says to me you want the guy to be rich, handsome, etc, and just not talk at all. This is such silly b.s from this article I a 33 year old male who is relatively intelligent compared to most, not a "gym body" and has a steady income for the rest of my life as I am disabled with m.s should be getting more attention then I am on dating sites and in real life... News flash if I tried to pick up one of you or actually paid attention and showed interest, I am immediately thought of as weird, gay, or both. So please clear this up with a paragraph of what your looking for?
Vivian Ashe 3 years ago
This could apply to either men or women, but I find it very off-putting when a person is condescending, rude, or overly demanding with restaurant staff or other service industry workers. I think they're trying to come across like some kind of VIP, but they really just seem inconsiderate and entitled.
Scott L 3 years ago
Guys reading this: don't do things for women. Do them for yourself and your family. If a specific person responds poorly to your personality or achievement, don't feel the need to change for them. Don't give people (not just women) the power to make you act a certain way. It's your life, not theirs, but there are people out there more than willing to try to convince you otherwise.
KBT 3 years ago
Women reading this: Always remember that single women are always happier than married women. Single women live longer than married women. For the love of God, don't literally throw your life away for a man who won't change for you; You are literally better off without him. Males need women more than women need males, don't forget it. 💖
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Geoffrey Osterfield 3 years ago
i mean girls to the exact same! just change the title of the page
PaxScientia 3 years ago (edited)
Based on these, I think some women don't like to be honest about what they think is attractive. Maybe they're worried about being perceived as basic. "I hate men who are financially stable and in good physical shape!" Sure, you do, Becky.
Imjust jim 3 years ago (edited)
Scrolled through quickly but did not see "Spends money on me but not nearly enough". And yeah, had a friend whose fiance made him sell his genuinely valuable baseball card collection to get her a worthy ring - and he did - and well, you can guess the rest. Then again, there's always, so you got a car, so you're a rocket scientist, etc.
ngdemus 3 years ago (edited)
Haha before reading the stuff I got myself pen and paper and wanted to take notes, but most of the stuff is just ridiculous. Maybe such behavior is more common in the USA ? Or it’s because I’m an introvert ? Latter would be nice, only problem is I don’t go to dates, cause nobody ever asked me and I’m too shy. But for the women on here maybe try looking for shy or foreign guys.
XenoMurph 3 years ago (edited)
A lot of these are signs of serious insecurity. They should be pitied and shown compassion, if they allow it. Sadly many of these guys come from hyper masculine cultures, which is the cause and symptom of the insecurity. So they'll never allow it, until after the mid-life crisis. Which is too late for a lot of things.
Stacey Rae 3 years ago
Nah, no pity. Any guy who is so focused on himself that he forgot there was another person present doesn't need compassion. Any guy the talks down to his date, manspains, or doesn't include the date in his monolog can date himself.
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WhiteClawOfDeath 3 years ago
I'm a bit tired of these posts. Worse than your averace womens magasine.
TheDag 3 years ago
Holy c**p BoredPanda I get it I'm a guy, I should feel bad for being a guy XD
Squishy 3 years ago
no you shouldn't lol. even if any of these do apply to you, why should you feel bad about being a guy lol, being "attractive" to anyone shouldnt determine your worth
Load More Replies... Ausrine Ciapaite 3 years ago
The biggest turn on is when the guy cleans the house, cooks nice meal, gives you a message...
Richard Wilcox 3 years ago
Pretty much don't be a narcissist guys. All 45 items are in some way narcissistic. And to be clear, you can have a negative NPD diagnosis and still be narcissistic. Each of these points by themselves would not be enough to qualify you for an NPD diagnosis.
Thetruthhurts 3 years ago
Lol, most of these things aren't exclusive to men. But hey, I guess it is reeealy attractive when women make 2000 selfies, talk about money, show of their wealth or think they know everything...This turned into a toxic and xenophobic "10 things" site. It used to be about beautiful and interesting art many years ago. Now it is mostly about some social or first world problems copied from some idiotic subreddit.
Dre Mosley 3 years ago
Yep, how many men critical posts does this site need?
Load More Replies... rob kneepkens 3 years ago
If you look at this topic and add it all together then you get no smart guys (who talk about a topic), gym guys, rich guys, guys who talk about themselves, guys who are famous on Instagram, guys who show sexual interest or give compliments, no flowers, no trying to be funny, no high standards in alcohol or whatever, no partying, no expensive clothes and accessories, no guys who work a lot of overtime. In the end what is left. Super average guys? Just saying if you look at all 40 comments in this topic it just all seems a bit silly.
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
I think you are exaggerating slightly. Smart guys (who don't brag about how smart they are or drone on about it.). Rich guys (who don't brag about how rich they are). Gym guys (who wear loose shirts). Guys who are not overly pushy (reduce the sex/compliments/lovebombing). Flowers (if hand-picked). Funny (but not over the top). Well-dressed ( (who don't brag about how expensive it was). Etc. It's QUALIFIED exclusions.
Load More Replies... Nessbit the Russian Spy 3 years ago
This is unfair to the guys tbh. They think “ im sure this beautiful girl has dated so many other men, I need to do something special or different to attract her/ keep her interested.” So they either compliment her a lot (media says girls love romantics and compliments) or they try to be really muscly, or if they are insecure they’ll brag about the things they have. It’s not to be a jerk, it’s because they want to impress the girl and they want her to think “wow that guy sure is cool!” Cut the poor guys some slack (Yes I realize there are some genuinely jerky guys but not as much as you think)
Richard Wilcox 3 years ago (edited)
Turnoff #46: expecting some reward for not matching any of bored panda's top 45 turnoffs for women. Just kidding bro. I'll give you a shout out right here for matching 0 of 45. (That #46 tho...) 😉
Load More Replies... Luca Giordano 3 years ago
basically anything that is over the top or toom much is a no go. You can talk about your house, or your gym program or whatever... just don't make it into an endless monologue about how fantastic you are...be proud of who you are, what you do, know or even own.... but don't overdo it in displaying it. It becomes annoying or uncredible.
Frozen Pasta 3 years ago
Most of these are bragging and showing off... Just about over half of over and over not to mention women do this especially the Instagram and dating other guys at the same time like they're an employer. 😂
Bill Roberts 3 years ago
Basically..anything that comes out of a man's mouth is toxic. C heck k, Got it. But yall don't like the silent type, just abusers. Got that too.
E Hall 3 years ago
Hey Bored Panda! Post an article like this about women. I dare you. Watch how fast these same hypocrites start screaming CANCEL! Let the down votes begin. ✌
Disinforminationalistically U 3 years ago
I've tried this too. The down votes will (predictably) come.
Load More Replies... Jody Whitmarsh 3 years ago
The one I get a lot of is the notion that his attraction to me entitles him attention or affection from me. Like, no dude, just cause you think I'm pretty, doesn't mean I'm obligated to be with you
Disinforminationalistically U 3 years ago
Hello everybody, join the Panda and I in the latest round of man bashing. Come, vent your righteous indignation on silly stereotypes. Fun for feminists of all ages.
Danielle Ocasio Fast 3 years ago
Loud exhaust on a vehicle is an "interest killer" for me. My apartment doesn't need to shake when you drive by 🤪
PigSquatch 3 years ago
What gets me is most if not all the women wonder why they are single and their friends have husbands. Most of this list is superficial garbage. He has a big truck, he has a nice car, he has a house and talks about it. Hate to say it yeah he is an adult but you are not in any way. It's damned hard to talk to some one you do not know and takes time to get to know some one. Heartfelt talks do not happen on first dates hate to tell these people.
KBT 3 years ago
No woman is wondering why she is single. Single women are happier than married women, that is well documented. Stop asking women to lower their standards because she ought to be unhappy being single because that is not reality.
Load More Replies... censorshipsucks 3 years ago
I can see why all these are unpleasant. Anyone who is one-sided and drones on about just one thing is a bore, be it money, gym, their car, who they have banged or how many they have banged, their clothes, etc etc. For me I can tolerate this kind of stuff. For me a much bigger red flag is unkindness, followed by religiosity. Becasue the latter - you won't have a moment's peace. They will just push you continuously to join their specific cult.
Danish Susanne 2 years ago (edited)
I think that for a man inviting me out to eat is a very nice way of introducing himself. But at first I don't want to go to a very expensive place because I would fear, that he might feel that I was owing him something. But a nice cosy place with reasonable prices and hopefully good food. And quiet so that we could talk over the food.
tamara 3 years ago
i don’t think men are doing many of these things simply to “impress women..?” just guys being dudes? nothing wrong with gym culture and the selfies therein.. My bf has a “sports car” that literally makes his life happier, let ppl spend money however they want. Uninteresting list overall!!
Tunk 3 years ago
Ha ha lot of dudes getting triggered here. If you are not sending d**k pics, being a tool, showing off your weaponry, or just one of those dudes who uses ick words like 'panties' then what is your problem? If these less then attractive traits don't apply to you, isn't that a win? Comments seem to be confirming fragile masculinity. Oh the irony.
Lory Jones 3 years ago
Hate to tell ya, but most men are like this. It's a testosterone thing. Men who don't do these are typically beta--easy to live with, but ho-hum in the sack. Such is life.
simfan all day every day 3 years ago
So confused as a single 30 year old trying to get into dating, I constantly experience women making decisive efforts to get into a relationship with these men for these reasons, but this article basically says to me you want the guy to be rich, handsome, etc, and just not talk at all. This is such silly b.s from this article I a 33 year old male who is relatively intelligent compared to most, not a "gym body" and has a steady income for the rest of my life as I am disabled with m.s should be getting more attention then I am on dating sites and in real life... News flash if I tried to pick up one of you or actually paid attention and showed interest, I am immediately thought of as weird, gay, or both. So please clear this up with a paragraph of what your looking for?
Vivian Ashe 3 years ago
This could apply to either men or women, but I find it very off-putting when a person is condescending, rude, or overly demanding with restaurant staff or other service industry workers. I think they're trying to come across like some kind of VIP, but they really just seem inconsiderate and entitled.
Scott L 3 years ago
Guys reading this: don't do things for women. Do them for yourself and your family. If a specific person responds poorly to your personality or achievement, don't feel the need to change for them. Don't give people (not just women) the power to make you act a certain way. It's your life, not theirs, but there are people out there more than willing to try to convince you otherwise.
KBT 3 years ago
Women reading this: Always remember that single women are always happier than married women. Single women live longer than married women. For the love of God, don't literally throw your life away for a man who won't change for you; You are literally better off without him. Males need women more than women need males, don't forget it. 💖
Load More Replies... Geoffrey Osterfield 3 years ago
i mean girls to the exact same! just change the title of the page
PaxScientia 3 years ago (edited)
Based on these, I think some women don't like to be honest about what they think is attractive. Maybe they're worried about being perceived as basic. "I hate men who are financially stable and in good physical shape!" Sure, you do, Becky.
Imjust jim 3 years ago (edited)
Scrolled through quickly but did not see "Spends money on me but not nearly enough". And yeah, had a friend whose fiance made him sell his genuinely valuable baseball card collection to get her a worthy ring - and he did - and well, you can guess the rest. Then again, there's always, so you got a car, so you're a rocket scientist, etc.
ngdemus 3 years ago (edited)
Haha before reading the stuff I got myself pen and paper and wanted to take notes, but most of the stuff is just ridiculous. Maybe such behavior is more common in the USA ? Or it’s because I’m an introvert ? Latter would be nice, only problem is I don’t go to dates, cause nobody ever asked me and I’m too shy. But for the women on here maybe try looking for shy or foreign guys.
XenoMurph 3 years ago (edited)
A lot of these are signs of serious insecurity. They should be pitied and shown compassion, if they allow it. Sadly many of these guys come from hyper masculine cultures, which is the cause and symptom of the insecurity. So they'll never allow it, until after the mid-life crisis. Which is too late for a lot of things.
Stacey Rae 3 years ago
Nah, no pity. Any guy who is so focused on himself that he forgot there was another person present doesn't need compassion. Any guy the talks down to his date, manspains, or doesn't include the date in his monolog can date himself.
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