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“Relentlessly Pursued By Someone”: 46 Things That Look Awesome In Movies But Are Terrible In Real Life
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Those who saw the first Karate Kid film likely remember the scene where Mr. Miyagi jumped a fence and singlehandedly took on five Cobra Kai goons to save Daniel LaRusso. If you saw this as a kid, it likely made many of you believe that knowing Karate was pretty much a superpower that could save you in a similar situation.
The reality is that street fights are ugly. It could land a person in jail, in the hospital, or worse. People will bite, headbutt, strike the groin, maybe even have a weapon involved that can instantly nullify your Karate.
This misrepresentation of hand-to-hand combat is just one of the many responses to a Reddit thread from a while back. People also shared how they felt Hollywood romanticized high school life, being in the military, and the physical act of love, among many others.
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#1
Kissing someone without their consent. This goes for both genders not just men. They just push them against the wall and start kissing them. I feel like it teaches young people that this is romantic and not potentially sexual harassment. It happens a lot on tv shows like Grey’s Anatomy for example. You really shouldn’t kiss someone like that without their consent.
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#2
Moving. In the movies, there’s just the fun of unpacking important keepsakes and placing them on the mantle. In real life, packing up all your s**t and carting elsewhere sucks.
#3
Being relentlessly pursued by someone you keep telling you are not interested.
It's not romantic or comedic, it's just a mixture of stalking and harassment if you keep showing up in their life and/or throwing romantic gestures their way.
Maybe you can try again at a later date if you feel your initial approach or the timing might have been off. But really leave the other person alone until then. Truly alone - no following them in real life or on social media - even if they don't find out (they will), you will inevitably let something slip when you do reconnect and that will be very bad.
Dealing with grief is one of the many facets of life that Hollywood romanticizes. According to Joseph Castranova-Monceleano III, founder and CEO of Resting Rainbow Pet Memorials and Cremation, movies that depict dramatic crying scenes followed by characters moving on with their lives, claiming they have been “transformed and healed,” are a distortion of reality.
“Real grief doesn't follow Hollywood timelines or neat emotional arcs. (It is) messy, urgent, and completely unpredictable,” he told Bored Panda, adding that movies also sell the idea that closure “happens in two hours with a soundtrack.”
#4
Small town living.
Oh, I'll catch hell for it, I'm sure, but I've never been impressed with small towns. Some people really do enjoy living in small communities, but I grew up in one and lived in another for 10 years, and it was awful.
There's a lot of judgment in small towns, especially for people with "those families" - you know, the ones from the wrong side of the tracks. There's also a lot of judgment if you're not a straight, white, Christian. You're going to face a lot of discrimination and gossip.
You'll either be in the small town where everyone knows everyone's business, or the small town where you are frozen out for 10 years because you weren't born there and your family isn't from there. I've lived in both.
dan s 2 months ago
I lived in a town of 500 for a few years in my childhood, and went to a school that serviced a mostly rural area. I hated it. Narrow-minded, racist, stupid and proud, judgmental, and on and on describes 90% of them. There were kids in my school from farms where I suspect their parents gave Mothers and Fathers day gifts to the same people. One kid literally looked like a dog. There were four boys in one family, all intellectually disabled, and just plain odd looking. WTH is going on that that happened? They all stank to high heaven. I was only 12 when we moved but even at that age I hated to think what went on in some of those farmhouses. I'll take city people any day of the week.
#5
Jealousy.
It's not cute or sweet, nor does it mean that this person really loves you. They just see you as a possession and that's disgusting.
#6
Real life might be a stretch, but I heard people often romanticize apocalypse scenarios. This was really prevalent during the zombie fad from the mid to late 2000s.
"It'd be just you and me against the world, baby!!!" Yeah, I'll pass on the constant threat of infection, starvation, shelter, etc, etc. Sounds f*****g awful.
Similarly, movies depict recovery from traumatic life experiences as a “quick fix,” which Intensive Trauma Therapy Retreats owner Dr. Bambi Rattner describes as “dangerous.” She noted that many films depict people having “breakthrough moments,” only to be “cured” by the end credits.
“(It) creates unrealistic expectations that damage real recovery efforts,” he said. “In my intensive retreats, we work for 8+ hours over multiple consecutive days specifically because trauma doesn't follow Hollywood timelines.”
#8
Running as fast as you can, chasing someone, for blocks and blocks, and not winded much.
To show how potentially destructive film depictions of recovery can be, Dr. Rattner mentioned a case involving one of her clients, who almost quit therapy after six months. According to her, movies led individuals to believe that it was enough time to be “fixed.”
“What's particularly harmful is when clients internalize Hollywood's message that they're 'broken' if healing takes time,” Dr. Rattner said.
#10
Hanging out alone in a bar, they always end up having a great conversation or meeting an interesting person, while in reality, you either end up silent and solo or chat with a talkative, annoying fella.
#11
Living "off the grid"
My guess is most people do well for the first few months, then cant handle losing modern conveniences long term.
#12
Losing your job and finding yourself.
Having a “soulmate” is another concept glamorized by Hollywood. It has made many believe that once they found their perfect match, they could understand each other with minimal effort. According to veteran marriage and family therapist Ross Hackerson, it’s a fantasy that “keeps couples from learning actual communication skills.”
“The most damaging romanticization is that passion should be effortless and constant. Real intimacy requires specific skills like validation and emotional attunement, not magical compatibility,” said Hackerson, who referred to the soulmate trope as “the biggest Hollywood lie.”
#13
A guy you're not interested in that won't give up on trying to be your boyfriend.
#14
I feel like tragedy in general is romanticized in movies/books. Like it's the tragedy (of any kind, a death, accident, disaster, fire, illness, etc.) that brings the couple closer or makes their love stronger. In reality, the trauma would be much more complex and wouldn't always bring people closer.
#15
Shooting without ear protection. All these action heroes would be deaf from all the shooting in enclosed spaces they do.
If you’re a fan of romantic thrillers, you’ve likely come across the story that portrays infidelity as a steamy, passionate episode in one’s life. But according to betrayal expert, speaker, and author Lora Cheadle, JD, Cht, real affairs rarely start with passion. They begin with pain.
“An affair is less about finding love and more about escaping what hurts. Like any other unhealthy coping mechanism, it’s a way to numb feelings we don’t know how to name or express,” she said.
#16
Waking up in the morning.
#17
NYC 🤷🏻♀️ sorry but it’s terrible lol.
Cheadle adds that Hollywood sends a message that an affair can “make us feel alive.” But in reality, it creates chaos that involves guilt, shame, secrecy, broken families, and the loss of self-respect.
“When people discover that the fantasy doesn’t deliver — that the passion fades and the consequences remain — they’re left reeling, wondering how they got so far from who they wanted to be,” Cheadle said.
#19
Jumping in piles of leaves.
First you have to rake everything, then you jump into a shockingly not soft pile of dirt and animal feces, then you have to rake it all over again!
#20
'Mr Bond, your plane leaves in one hour'
what! I need three days to prepare clothing, medicin, house/pet/kids-sitter, cancel the giggolo.
#21
Gunfights.
Earonn - 2 months ago
They should be more realistic. Most people seem to think that being shot is just tumbling backwards, crying "aarrgh" (if at all), and that's it. They should see the ripped off arms, the screams, the blood, the brain matter. Maybe then they'd care about school shootings (btw, have you noticed how we never hear about the children who get wounded in school shootings? How do they live with the scars, or the missing limbs? Who paid for the hospital, or making their parents' home wheechair-friendly? How to they deal with the PTSD? Nah, it's all hush-hush, ever wondered why? )
So why does Hollywood have a penchant for giving its audience a warped view of reality? According to actor and film producer Randy Charach, movies are not the replication of life as it happens, but rather, the distillation.
“Life is complicated and winding, but film cuts the fat and creates an enhanced emotional reaction that allows for better audience engagement,” he said.
#22
When someone comes to visit someone, they are asked if they want a drink, they accept, then leave without touching it.
If that happened irl, I’d lose it.
Ace 2 months ago
Yeah, always annoys me. And in many (older?) British cop shows and movies, they'd enter the house, then presumably sit there in deadly silence for the five or ten minutes while the witness is making tea, getting biscuits and whatever. Then they're sitting with said tea in the living room, have a 30 second conversation and get up to leave.
#23
Flying down the highway with the top down at close to 100mph
There's no way she wouldn't be frizzy when they arrived, and you feel like a Saint Bernard with its head out of a window if you try to talk. Also, bugs hit you in the face when they bounce off the windshield.
Charach added that while romanticization is not required for every narrative, it is in the majority of films in some form. He also clarified that Hollywood does it mainly for the entertainment of the audience, who “do not come to watch every boring second.”
“Hollywood plays into romanticization because it takes the mundane and, through conflict, turns it into something larger than ourselves,” he explained.
#25
True crime and podcast based off true crime stories. These stories are the worst moments of someone’s life and we listen to them like entertainment.
Mari 2 months ago
If it is like a documentary, with consent of the victim's family or with respect for the victims, then can I watch or listen to it. But the (Netflix) series about serial killers, I can't watch. Don't make them more famous, their name should be forgotten, their victims names remembered. Worst are the podcasts/videos only about sensation, gruesome facts and repugnant entertainment.
#26
I hate it when people romanticize going to war. They don't know what it's like to live with a vet with PTSD.
#27
Children.
Lila Allen 2 months ago
I do buy the occasional one liners...but there is no way the kids could be left unattended for the amount of time they are without catastrophic consequences.
#28
Take a romantic novel and play out the script in real life. You'll be appalled with the main character's behavior.
dan s 2 months ago
The bodice rippers I sell crack me up. It's never her "p*ssy". It's her womanhood, or her essence or once, her button of desire. It's always "heaving breasts". They heave? Am I doing it wrong? Then it's his manhood, and it's always throbbing(you should get that checked out, pal). The women, both writers and characters, always have names like 80's soap operas. Jessica Hollingsworth, or Sabrina Jeffries. Most of the writers are pseudonyms, and here's the real kicker, some of them are men. Hey, I guess little old lady widows have to get their kicks somehow.
#30
Being in the f*****g military.
#32
Working in the medical field. Saying it “sucks” is maybe too harsh, but I feel it’s often glamorized or even over-dramatized to seem like a more fun job than it actually is. Sometimes it’s super messed up, other times it’s boring and mundane as hell, it can be fun too, but shows/movies get it wrong more often than not.
Lila Allen 2 months ago
Ditto for cop shows. So much more paperwork and so much less action in real life.
#33
Fighting on top of a train.
#34
I'm just going to throw this out there, risking to upset a lot of people😅. But what about having children?
Grumpy old man 2 months ago
There are 8 BILLION people. Can everyone stop having children for 20 years? Thanks
#35
That the love of your life will automatically read your mind just like in the movies. Real life doesn't work like that, you need to make efforts at communicating with each other.
#36
Months and months of hard physical training... the power of "montage" would be the most amazing super power ever lol.
#37
Years ago, I had the privilege of flying in a Navy attack jet. It was an "orientation flight" to see if we wanted to pursue a career flying combat fighters. It was brutal. It convinced me that those guys are crazy, and I wanted nothing to do with it, but I still enjoy watching the Blue Angels at the air show.
Smeghead Tribble Down Under 2 months ago
I'd give my right arm for a flight in a RAAF Super Hornet.
#39
Houses with open floor plans! All the home renovation and home-buying TV shows glamorize them, but there are so many negatives to them!
They can smell bad, as odors from the kitchen waft into other areas.
They are noisy, as sounds reverberate throughout the open area, so if there's a microwave or kettle going, it makes it hard to hear conversations or the TV. Everyone in the home has to put up with whatever is the noisiest activity in the main room, so if one group is having a boisterously fun time playing a board game, another group that's trying to watch a movie will have trouble hearing it.
Unless the home is built with a ton of storage, things can look perpetually messy because there's less space to stow items away, and there are so few walls to prop shelves or cabinets up against. And if you are entertaining, everyone gets to see you cooking and any messes you make while preparing food, adding pressure to wash dishes immediately rather than spending time with your guests and dealing with the dishes and other kitchen messes later.
And they are not at all energy efficient since you have to heat or cool a large room rather than smaller spaces.
#40
Caffeine a*******n. It's always about collecting energy drinks cans, casually drinking 10 gallons of coffee, etc, and never about horrible headaches, blood pressure swings, and heart problems. I literally have a friend younger than me that drinks more than ~6 cans per day and jokes about it, flexing it in her social media, and thinks it wouldn’t affect her much, no matter how often I try to argue with her about it.
Theoretical Empiricist 2 months ago
You'll have to peel my morning quart of coffee from my sluggish and non-nimble hands!
#41
Weddings.
#42
Country life ☹️ a doctor, a medical emergency? No. Is something missing from the fridge? Well done for you. Schooling for kids? They will take the bus for 40 minutes every morning and sometimes it won't even make it because it will snow. Tranquility? Forget. You're too likely to come across a noisy family, a group of messy individuals, a couple who bicker 24 hours a day, old idiots who will scrutinize your every move.
People who hate each other but want to know everything about everyone else's lives. The slightest fact that will give rise to speculation and rumors. Hatred of others, especially if they come from the city.
Honestly, I don't want to go back, it's crazy.
Lila Allen 2 months ago
Every visit to a specialist, trip to pick up clothing, need to go sign documents is a full on 3 hour round trip minimum. It's draining, expensive, and problematic at best. I mean it does have good qualities.. our last meeting re crime was to discuss the kids drawing male anatomy on the playground equipment.
#43
Fall in love.
Eliza Osenbaugh-Stewart 2 months ago
If you really think falling in love isn't a happy event irl I think you must be severely depressed. Not every romantic relationship ends well, but being in love is wonderful.
#44
S*x on a beach.
#45
Serial killers.
Lila Allen 2 months ago
The whole concept of Dexter is really beyond disturbing. I don't care if he's only killing serial killers. It is neither normal nor laudable to enjoy t*****e and I feel like most people have no concept of what t*****e looks like or how horrifying it is to actually witness ( if you have the stomach for it google Bittaker and Norris tapes) TRIGGER WARNING- it's recordings made by two serial killers while they t*****e young girls to death. It is horrific on every level.
#46
Watching street performances. 99% of the time, they’re s**t.
Day Andie 2 months ago
Disagree somewhat with this one. If you're the kind of person that expects street performers, live bands, and impromptu entertainment to be just like...the movies, or like a big hyped-up expensive concert, then you must have some heavy duty expectations. I've had hella fun watching a violinist on a corner, joining a sing-a-long at a club, or doing karaoke, or being in a small town parade. Just being open to the moment and enjoying average people doing a average or even off-key job of things is fun.
#48
Jumping through a glass window.
#49
Being in a relationship with someone leagues above your station.
So many shows and stories make it seem romantic, but it can be incredibly precarious to be with someone who has 10 times more power and money than you do. It can create an extreme power imbalance.
#50
The Notebook.
He threatens to let go from hanging onto a ferris wheel if she turns him down for a date. Meanwhile she's already on a date with someone. He repeatedly doesn't accept her saying no.
Parts are sweet, sure... But there's been too much "no means try harder," for men.
Look at Indiana Jones and even Han Solo with how he was to Leia.
007 in a ton of movies, too.
Grumpy old man 2 months ago
But thats what they tell us, No means try harder/ you dont want it bad enough. Like a woman is the Lombardi trophy after a superbowl win. Most women arent prizes anyway.
#51
Raves.
#52
Driving.
Antoinette the Red 2 months ago
Well, people in movies ALWAYS find a parking spot right in front of the place that they zoomed to (even in NYC!). So, there's that.
#53
Being skinny (not unintentionally but fighting for it every day, while other think you don’t do anything).
#54
Talking to people.
#55
Fixing your broken car in a desert.
Susan Reid Smith 2 months ago
Flats are doable if it is just one tire. We keep our car in good condition, and top off fuel before we leave the main roads no matter how much it costs. Oh yeah, and be prepared to spend the night.
#56
Being a hit man, wouldn’t want to constantly looking over my shoulder or making absolutely sure everything went to as planned or making sure the crime scene was left perfectly clean so I don’t go to prison.
Michael Largey 2 months ago
Politicians and CEOs don't have this worry about their crimes - well, usually.
#58
Bonnie and Clyde.
#63
Road trips.
Susan Reid Smith 2 months ago
It depends on who you are with. Nowadays those have to be planned and reservations for lodgings are needed, even if just a day in advance.
#64
Flying overseas.
What do you think ?
Rose the Cook 2 months ago
Don't know about romanticized but what is with all the huge windows with no blinds or curtains?
Antoinette the Red 2 months ago
I think it's some kind of minimalistic trend. I watch a lot of body cam footage on You Tube, and I've notice a lot of newer homes with no wall decor, no drapes or curtains and ALWAYS the largest TV can can fit on the wall (usually over a fireplace-how does that even work?).
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Rika 2 months ago
Jail. My mom was actually shocked when I told her it's not like it's depicted in movies: you're not put in a cage in the middle of the police station with other people to chat with while you watch the cops move around and they joyfully bring you coffee. In reality, you're alone in a cell with a bulletproof door and a small opening for cops to check on you every hour and make sure you're not dead, they don't hang around to chit-chat and become your best friend.
Rose the Cook 2 months ago
Don't know about romanticized but what is with all the huge windows with no blinds or curtains?
Antoinette the Red 2 months ago
I think it's some kind of minimalistic trend. I watch a lot of body cam footage on You Tube, and I've notice a lot of newer homes with no wall decor, no drapes or curtains and ALWAYS the largest TV can can fit on the wall (usually over a fireplace-how does that even work?).
Load More Replies... Rika 2 months ago
Jail. My mom was actually shocked when I told her it's not like it's depicted in movies: you're not put in a cage in the middle of the police station with other people to chat with while you watch the cops move around and they joyfully bring you coffee. In reality, you're alone in a cell with a bulletproof door and a small opening for cops to check on you every hour and make sure you're not dead, they don't hang around to chit-chat and become your best friend.
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