Employee Loses It When Coworker Stops Delivering Lunches Because Of Him, Gets Terminated
Interview With ExpertAs children, we were all taught to be kind to one another. What our elders don’t teach us, however, is that kindness has its pitfalls.
Some people may take advantage of the goodwill you show them, as this employee experienced with their coworkers. All of this happened because the person chose to stand up for their moral and religious beliefs.
After enduring harsh bullying, the author had a satisfying ending to their story. Scroll through to find out what happened.
An employee got a raw deal after showing kindness to coworkers
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It began after the person offered to pick up everyone’s lunches from a specific restaurant
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Things got heated after one coworker and the vice president escalated the situation
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Practicing reciprocity can actually create tension, especially with unclear communication
In theory, showing an act of kindness gets you in the good graces of everyone around you. But as we mentioned in our intro, it has its pitfalls, particularly in the concept of reciprocity.
As workplace and career expert Will Steward tells Bored Panda, “reciprocity creep” can create tension, especially when there is no clear communication.
“It turns a one‑off favor into an unwritten rule, and no one clarifies who actually owns the task,” he explained.
“Role ambiguity means the most agreeable person defaults into organizing, while power dynamics make juniors and underrepresented employees more likely to keep saying yes to seem cooperative.”
The employee eventually found themselves in a sticky situation when the “lunch club” grew in size and upper management became involved. Their boundaries were stepped over in the process.
Steward says a mindset shift from “I’m letting the team down” to “I’m protecting a proper break so I can do my job well and share chores fairly” is one way to uphold these boundaries without damaging workplace morale.
But of course, upholding harmony is a collective effort. Steward suggested practical approaches, such as shifting such favors from “nice-to-do” to “fair-to-share,” with a few defaults everyone can see.
“Make logistics opt‑in and time‑boxed, set a rotating organizer so no one does it more than about once a month, use a clear cut‑off time, and default to group payment links so nobody fronts money or chases tips,” he said.
The author provided more information in their story
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Some people sided with the employee
However, others called them out for “imposing their restrictions” on others
The author provided an update
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After things got physical with a coworker at one point, the story ended satisfyingly for them
People didn’t hold back with their reactions after learning how things played out
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For the YTA people out there - OP never had to do this in the first place. They are not policing what people eat, they are not infringing on anyone's rights, they were literally saying, hey, I am willing to go to X restaurant today and if you want something from there, I'll pick it up for you. No one was forced to order!
Surely if anything trying to force OP to go to these restaurants is attempting to infringe on OPs freedom and rights?
Load More Replies...This is a fantasy written by someone on Reddit with far too much time on their hands. It's the same sort of weird and implausible scenario and a conclusion of "I won and someone did something completely unhinged that got them consequences" that is a laughable trope of Reddit stories. People don't go to AITA anymore to actually ask that. They go there to make content. Can make a bingo card out of it.
I agree with you that most of these posts are not about getting people's opinions, they're about getting engagement and making content. Some might have a nugget of truth in them, some might be largely true, and many are totally fake.
Load More Replies...The YTA are sure mentally defective on this one. OP did the right thing.
I suspect the YTAs are the disgruntled coworkers who are to d****d lazy to get —-or bring—-their own d****d lunches.
Load More Replies...Ok, Brit here - have never seen nor eaten at many of the fast food places mentioned, but why is Chick a filet banned? What did they do? Just curious - are they owned by Nestle or something?
They are overly religious and actively anti-gay.
Load More Replies...All the main issues aside, this doesn't make much sense to me: why would anyone eat so much takeout that they had to rely on a colleague bringing food from restaurants each day? This might be a cultural difference but nobody in their right mind would do this where I live. I don't know, is that a norm anywhere? Eating out every day? Have people really stopped cooking and a mail on Saturday makes it impossible for them to have food on Monday? 😳
I've worked at a lot of places where one person does a lunch run for all. One place was a security monitoring company where they could not afford to have more than one person out of the building. You worked through your lunch hour. (They made up for this by by paying you for 8.5 hours working on an 8 hour shift.)
Load More Replies...Is it in your job description that you must fetch lunch? Only doing it out of kindness? Then NTA. You were a nice person and others tried to take advantage of your good nature.
There's always one. Way back the Office Manager (a dour old woman) brought donuts every Friday, It was just a "her" thing. The company sold a couple of times and the last bunch of owners included a silver spooner who was disliked by one and all, but he decided that Laura's donuts didn't include enough variety (gritching). "How about some filled ones, etc. Then he decided, unilaterally, that we would rotate the Friday treats that he seemed to forget on his days. Moral of the story: don't fix what ain't broke.
bigot chicken, lol. love it. the ire over the assumption the boycott was for religious reasons rather than humanitarian ones is... unsurprising.
"Bigot chicken." A new one to add to my ChikFilA lexicon. I stopped putting my money into the bigot pockets of their mgmt years ago. Glad to see others hold it is such low ethical esteem, as well.
I cannot believe that some people think OP is the AH here. She was being really nice, very thoughtful really. Her not wanting to do any business with just 2 restaurants was not forcing the other people from not going to those businesses themselves. What entitled people some people are. I guess there are a lot of AH's out there.
That's amazing coworker would pick a fight on the way out the building after being fired with police presence. Almost unbelievably amazing. He assaulted OP, and then was just allowed to walk away? If someone slaps your paid lunch from your hands, they are giving you explicit permission to break their nose and then press charges. They are practically begging.
I learned to not volunteer anything for anyone. And guess what - you are left alone.
Why do some people avoid this restaurant, Chick’A’Fil?Some political problems?
If i remember correctly, they donate noney towards anti-lgbt organisations, i don't know anything more than that unfortunately
Load More Replies...Yup. All Americans, everywhere, of every demographic.
Load More Replies...So she is supposed to calculate the exact price each person owes plus tax? This is USA based, we don't include tax in our prices. We only include the total tax for the whole purchase on the receipt. And she's doing a favor, it's reasonable to expect a small amount of compensation to account for gas alone. If you think that kind of rule is unfair then don't participate in those programs. But don't trash talk them because it makes you appear very uneducated on the nuance of the issue
Load More Replies...For the YTA people out there - OP never had to do this in the first place. They are not policing what people eat, they are not infringing on anyone's rights, they were literally saying, hey, I am willing to go to X restaurant today and if you want something from there, I'll pick it up for you. No one was forced to order!
Surely if anything trying to force OP to go to these restaurants is attempting to infringe on OPs freedom and rights?
Load More Replies...This is a fantasy written by someone on Reddit with far too much time on their hands. It's the same sort of weird and implausible scenario and a conclusion of "I won and someone did something completely unhinged that got them consequences" that is a laughable trope of Reddit stories. People don't go to AITA anymore to actually ask that. They go there to make content. Can make a bingo card out of it.
I agree with you that most of these posts are not about getting people's opinions, they're about getting engagement and making content. Some might have a nugget of truth in them, some might be largely true, and many are totally fake.
Load More Replies...The YTA are sure mentally defective on this one. OP did the right thing.
I suspect the YTAs are the disgruntled coworkers who are to d****d lazy to get —-or bring—-their own d****d lunches.
Load More Replies...Ok, Brit here - have never seen nor eaten at many of the fast food places mentioned, but why is Chick a filet banned? What did they do? Just curious - are they owned by Nestle or something?
They are overly religious and actively anti-gay.
Load More Replies...All the main issues aside, this doesn't make much sense to me: why would anyone eat so much takeout that they had to rely on a colleague bringing food from restaurants each day? This might be a cultural difference but nobody in their right mind would do this where I live. I don't know, is that a norm anywhere? Eating out every day? Have people really stopped cooking and a mail on Saturday makes it impossible for them to have food on Monday? 😳
I've worked at a lot of places where one person does a lunch run for all. One place was a security monitoring company where they could not afford to have more than one person out of the building. You worked through your lunch hour. (They made up for this by by paying you for 8.5 hours working on an 8 hour shift.)
Load More Replies...Is it in your job description that you must fetch lunch? Only doing it out of kindness? Then NTA. You were a nice person and others tried to take advantage of your good nature.
There's always one. Way back the Office Manager (a dour old woman) brought donuts every Friday, It was just a "her" thing. The company sold a couple of times and the last bunch of owners included a silver spooner who was disliked by one and all, but he decided that Laura's donuts didn't include enough variety (gritching). "How about some filled ones, etc. Then he decided, unilaterally, that we would rotate the Friday treats that he seemed to forget on his days. Moral of the story: don't fix what ain't broke.
bigot chicken, lol. love it. the ire over the assumption the boycott was for religious reasons rather than humanitarian ones is... unsurprising.
"Bigot chicken." A new one to add to my ChikFilA lexicon. I stopped putting my money into the bigot pockets of their mgmt years ago. Glad to see others hold it is such low ethical esteem, as well.
I cannot believe that some people think OP is the AH here. She was being really nice, very thoughtful really. Her not wanting to do any business with just 2 restaurants was not forcing the other people from not going to those businesses themselves. What entitled people some people are. I guess there are a lot of AH's out there.
That's amazing coworker would pick a fight on the way out the building after being fired with police presence. Almost unbelievably amazing. He assaulted OP, and then was just allowed to walk away? If someone slaps your paid lunch from your hands, they are giving you explicit permission to break their nose and then press charges. They are practically begging.
I learned to not volunteer anything for anyone. And guess what - you are left alone.
Why do some people avoid this restaurant, Chick’A’Fil?Some political problems?
If i remember correctly, they donate noney towards anti-lgbt organisations, i don't know anything more than that unfortunately
Load More Replies...Yup. All Americans, everywhere, of every demographic.
Load More Replies...So she is supposed to calculate the exact price each person owes plus tax? This is USA based, we don't include tax in our prices. We only include the total tax for the whole purchase on the receipt. And she's doing a favor, it's reasonable to expect a small amount of compensation to account for gas alone. If you think that kind of rule is unfair then don't participate in those programs. But don't trash talk them because it makes you appear very uneducated on the nuance of the issue
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