Stepmother Wants To Name Her Pregnant Stepdaughter’s Baby, Goes Nuclear When She’s Told ‘No’

NTA. Absolutely NTA. The stepmother is a vicious woman. The things she has said and done to that poor young lady is horrible and mean. Nobody has the right to name another's baby. That's up to the parents.

I’ve seen this before. The whole thing was designed to elicit an emotional response from you. Once you got upset with your stepmother, it became all about how awful you were to her and everything she did to get the response gets glossed over. She is doing it on purpose to cause a break with your father. She’s with him everyday and putting incredible pressure in him to choose her side. The same thing happened to my cousin but she was much older. She deals with it by trying to see her dad alone as much as possible and otherwise pretending not to hear when some antagonistic or stupid comes out of her stepmother’s mouth. We all do it - just look off into the distance and then continue the conversation like she never spoke. In your case, she’s too far gone for that - tell your dad that you will only see him without her. It may mean you see him very little or not at all.

Regardless of what the whole story behind this really is, there is no 'right' for grandparents to name their grandchidlren. Where does this idea even come from??? I have never ever heard of this absurdity.

Wow. The step-mother is so ridiculous, that the story seems unrealistic.

Nta what kind of pot does your stepmom smoke holy s**t she's like a living incarnation of the devil you have every right to name your child whatever you want

It's not even her grandchild technically

The stepmother has her own childrens’ children to f**k up if they let her,a nd I hope they won’t. You are NOT her daughter, never were. She treated you like Cinderella’s stepmother treated her, ffs, and now she wants the honor and privilege of naming your child, who is NOT her grandchild, for you? Tell her to get the f**k over herself and get the f**k out of your life. Tell your Dad he’s only welcome if he leaves the b***h at home.

Why even waste time, nerves, and air to continue talking to someone like that? Life's too short to spend on toxic individuals. Also, don't let an emotional vampire feed on you -- feed on them instead! It's much more fun this way, especially since the majority of them do not expect to end up on the receiving end, which makes trolling them a hilarious experience.

The dad's wife sounds like the type who would wear white to her own (step)child's wedding.

NTA! I'm a 'step-mom' and I put that because even my daughter would do the same thing. I may not have given birth to her, and I've never treated her any other way than had I given birth to her. She calls me mom, even around her bio mom, and I refuse to call her by my 'step-daughter'. Age is a HUGE factor here too that makes a difference. My daughter was 5 when I got her (along with my boys whom were 5 & 4 at the time) we added in a little sister not longer after. Now there being a short back story, our oldest daughter is pregnant, & due in September. She told her dad and I first about being pregnant, told me the babies name first. She kept asking me if I liked the name they had chosen. I told my daughter straight as can be, 'Ed, you could name the baby Zzizzex and I wouldn't care. All I care about is you and her making it through the pregnancy.'

100% nta. The stepmom is toxic and abuser and the father is an enabler. Keep them both out of to it life because they will abuse your daughter too if you don't.

Here's hoping that you get along well with your husband's family, because it sounds like you may need to go NC with your dad and stepmom. What it sounds like to me is that stepmom is a true narcissist, and she has your father cowed too much to argue. She is probably making your father's life hell, but he won't admit it, (or argue with her in public.) As another poster said, make sure that your stepmother isn't permitted to visit when you give birth. She's mentally unstable, so keep her at a good distance. And let your dad know that she isn't permitted, and he can do with that what he wants. Good luck!

NTA OP. When you have your honestly time with your dad, you should suggest that she seriously needs to go to therapy. If she won't go herself, they should do marriage counseling. This woman is clearly unstable and needs professional help. Glad you and your husband are taking care of your child even before they are born. Your dad should take note. Good luck, you have already shown what a great mother you will be.

You didn't say why your mom was no longer "in the picture." But, if she has passed or your dad divorced her you should have said "No, we are naming her after my mom. Deal with it."

NTA at all. Your baby your name. She’s a step mom no relation to u and she’s not even nice! Tell her to go shove it. Your dad too he sucks. Haha she said she always knew u were a brat. Ok great so why would she feel so entitled to name ur child? Remind her it’s her step grandchild no blood relation or any kind of relation to her at all. Some people are just really toxic. No need to let her influence your daughter in any way shape or form.

The father has no balls, his wife is toxic and he actually leave her but he can’t because against n he has no balls. Ensure to tell your father you are not going to accept his and hers behaviour.

The stepmother is absolutely toxic and frankly she sounds mentally unwell. Partner and dad should have stepped in. Distance yourself from them, it will likely get worse when the baby arrives.

Where is the op's real mom in all of this I wonder?

Had my exes parents try that with my and I straight up said NO and I'm happy I did...21 years and he and his family did nothing for her. But when we had that argument she said it was tradition and I said it wasn't my tradition and this kids isn't coming out of him. She tried that "I had to do it" thing and I was like "not my problem". Made things super weird and stuck to my guns after she was born and didn't give a c**p what she thought after I left her son.

Bruh these fake aitaposts are out of hand

The only universe in which someone believes they can name someone else's baby is a fictional one. I guess AITA threads are mostly rejected daytime soap scripts?

Stupid, if she has to ask the internet about this she shouldn’t reproduce.