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Fam Visit Ends With Teen’s Sprain And Cracked Ribs, Mom Learns Son’s “Accident” Was No Accident
Family interactions among children often appear lighthearted, full of teasing, wrestling, and playful competition. Yet beneath these seemingly innocent games, aggression can sometimes be masked, emerging in ways that adults might not immediately recognize. What starts as harmless fun can quickly escalate if underlying tensions, rivalries, or frustrations go unchecked.
While today’s Original Poster’s (OP) son and his cousin were known for their playful fighting and teasing, it went too far one day. However, she was shocked when she discovered that nothing about it was “playful”.
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What often looks like harmless play between children whether it’s teasing, wrestling, or joking, around can sometimes conceal underlying aggression
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During a family Sunday gathering, the author’s son and his cousins, normally close, were playfighting and wrestling as usual
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The cousin suddenly screamed and although it was dismissed, he was later found to have a shoulder sprain and two cracked ribs
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Initially thought to be an accident, her son later confessed he intentionally tried to hurt his older cousin after being teased
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This left her in a dilemma about whether to inform the cousin’s mom or handle the matter privately, balancing accountability and the child’s remorse
The OP shared that at a Sunday gathering, her 12-year-old son and his 17-year-old cousin were engaging in their usual roughhousing. In fact, wrestling, playfighting, and teasing were normal for them even though she often warned them to be careful.
As fate would have it, the cousin suddenly screamed during one of their tussles, but everyone assumed it was a minor twist or bump. However, he came out pale, holding his side, and downplaying it. Later, the OP’s sister-in-law took him to minor injuries, only to find out the situation was more serious than expected as he had a shoulder sprain and two cracked ribs.
The family was shocked, but everyone initially assumed it was just an accident. This was until the OP’s son confessed to her that he had intentionally tried to hurt his cousin, though he didn’t expect the injuries to be so severe. Apparently, he had done it because the cousin teased him about being “small” and “immature”.
This left the OP feeling confused and wondering whether to tell her sister-in-law the truth. On one hand, her son was remorseful and clearly didn’t understand the potential consequences. On the other hand, the injury was serious, and she wanted to be honest.
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Research on family dynamics shows that rivalry between siblings and cousins often begins as harmless teasing or playful interactions. According to Psychology Today, if these behaviors are left unchecked, they can escalate into aggression due to power imbalances, unmet emotional needs, or lack of adult intervention.
What starts as innocent fun can spiral into serious conflicts and unintended harm that may affect relationships. Additionally, Handspring Health points out that children are often still developing impulse control and empathy, and that even minor provocations can trigger strong reactions that children may later regret, as they have not yet fully learned to manage their emotions or anticipate the consequences of their actions.
Beyond prevention, research also highlights the importance of addressing the aftermath of such incidents thoughtfully. The Therapist emphasizes that helping children navigate guilt and consequences while maintaining accountability is critical for building emotional resilience and empathy.
They add that parents face the delicate task of balancing honesty, privacy, and trust, particularly when physical harm, hurt feelings, and family relationships are involved. By striking this balance, children can learn from their mistakes while preserving relationships and developing a sense of responsibility.
Netizens emphasized that both boys share some responsibility, and also stressed that roughhousing should stop completely. Others focus on the OP’s son’s intentional actions and the need for him to face consequences.
What would you do if you were in the OP’s shoes? Would you tell the other parent or handle it privately? We would love to know your thoughts!
Netizens were also torn on what the author should do, but they all agreed that the roughhousing should stop completely
What do you think ?
FreeTheUnicorn 2 hours ago
I'd watch and wait, keep talking to son. If it's a pattern if it takes up a lot of his thinking, get him in therapy and if the therapist agrees, tell SIL. But before that, find out more. 12 yo have impulse control issues, and being angry and physically rough, this isn't uncommon. But it's a teaching moment it sounds like sonnscared himself a little and that's a good sign. Lots of kids in sport experience this, a fleeting striking out that they know is wrong but they do it anyway. Thankfully most of the time there's no huge injury. But it isn't normal to back away from that line in a hurry. He may need anger management support. Involving the family, can have lasting damage, and make recovery and self esteem harder, so I wouldn't say anything unless he is likely to do it again. It's good OP is taking this seriously, and that son is able to talk about it. Both good signs
FreeTheUnicorn 2 hours ago
I'd watch and wait, keep talking to son. If it's a pattern if it takes up a lot of his thinking, get him in therapy and if the therapist agrees, tell SIL. But before that, find out more. 12 yo have impulse control issues, and being angry and physically rough, this isn't uncommon. But it's a teaching moment it sounds like sonnscared himself a little and that's a good sign. Lots of kids in sport experience this, a fleeting striking out that they know is wrong but they do it anyway. Thankfully most of the time there's no huge injury. But it isn't normal to back away from that line in a hurry. He may need anger management support. Involving the family, can have lasting damage, and make recovery and self esteem harder, so I wouldn't say anything unless he is likely to do it again. It's good OP is taking this seriously, and that son is able to talk about it. Both good signs
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