30 People Share “Social Customs” That Are Outdated, Toxic And Should Be Retired

"Daddy issues" is the most sexist label ever..

As a single mum, I agree wholeheartedly. Some mothers wouldn't let their little angels be friends with my daughter because they thought I would somehow corrupt them.

This has always puzzled me, while single mothers are damned, the fathers carry no blame, stigma, anything.

I think Shaming. is what really needs to end. You don't know why others do what they do

Women claim to want autonomy over their bodies, right up until they get pregnant, then it's an "us" issue. Can't have it both ways, ladies. Autonomy means taking responsibility for your actions. This does NOT apply to women who became pregnant by their husbands because that's a mutual decision with mutual responsibility.

This. Shame the perverts that deserve it, not the girls.

I see what you mean, but my daughter wouldn't wear pants at home until she was at least 6...

We're going backwards. I was born in 1967. My Mom let us run around outside in bikini bottoms and NO TOP until we were 4 or 5. In a yard that the neighbor kids treated like a public park. She was born in the 20s and by no means a particularly "modern" woman. I wore the short-shorts that were in at the time through grade school. I wore tank tops. As a teenager, scant clothing was not particularly popular in the 80s, but I remember wearing short shorts and a cut off T-shirt that let my stomach shoe when I was 14 or so out playing basketball. Neither my dad nor my mom thought anything of it. Things are really, really going backwards.

Perfectly said.

We will nicely ask our daughter to change her shorts sometimes if someone is coming over, the reason if from my own personal experience when my niece/her cousin, was around her age. We were hanging out at my Grandparents house, she had on those soft flimsy athletic shorts, I think maybe running shorts and I think they have a built in undie type liner. She was on the couch across the room and I accidentally caught a glimpse of her hooha. I felt so uncomfortable but I did quietly let her know that she should put a pillow in front of her or put a blanket over her legs, which she did, and she wasn’t upset or anything, maybe a bit embarrassed. She was sitting with her legs bent on the couch in front of her. It was totally accidental. So our daughter knows that story, so even when we are home just the 4 Of us and is wearing shorts like that, she will grab a pillow/blanket when she sits in the family room with us, and she understands why we ask/remind her to change if someone is coming over.

Tipping is Ok as long as it represents your appreciation for how will the server did. It should not be your mandatory contribution to the income of a worker because their boss can't be arsed to pay them a decent wage.

My gf is a waitress for 8 years, just got into being a manager. And ALLL the waitresses will give up their shift of 15 an hour - which is just next to higher skilled and back ground checked jobs - if they wont make a lot of tips and will go home early if its slow. She brings home like 100 - 350 cash. While making a decent wage

Take a poll with waiters and waitresses. Ibet 99% of them will tell you to go to hell for they make more in tips than even a great wage would pay, and no taxes come out of that cash.

I don't know sometimes I would walk out from a shift and make over $25.00 an hour. But then some night I would walk out making only $3.00 an hour. I out my self through college bartenmding and serving, and still do it sometimes. This is justa custom in the US

In Europe no one tips

*insert Archer picture here* "Do you want toxic masculinity? Because this is how you get toxic masculinity"

Absolutely. Men have a full range of emotions and need the same emotional tools women are taught to cultivate. /Everyone/ needs emotional literacy

A family member was told to man up by his father as boys dont cry. He was 5 years old and having an asthma attack. The father is an ex member of the family now.

Thank you!!!

true this was stupid. Males are still humans

I remember as a child my mother whipping me until I was covered in big red welts all over my arms and legs because she was told by a neighbour that I was in a house that was being built with some other kids and we made a big mess. I screamed at that it wasn't me and that I was at another friend's house all afternoon but she wouldn't listen. After she had finished with me I ran out to my friends house and asked her mother to tell my mother that I was with them. She did. She explained that the girl the neighbour saw was the back of another girl who had the same hair as me long and brown and was around the same age. All my mother said was "oh, well that's alright then". She never apologised or said anything else. I was in real pain for days afterwards. But she really didn't care. day

I love my mother a lot and we're really close BUT, when my kids were growing up, I specifically made it a point to apologize to them when I messed up or lost my temper and acted like a jerk because my mom rarely, if ever, did that.

But as a parent, I am never wrong.

If you don't apologise to a child when you're wrong, how can you expect them to ever apologise to someone else?

Is it really a social norm not to apologize to children? Like some rule some people live by? I apologize to children all of the time. Did two days ago when I accidentally gave the pretext for the next unit as the post test for the current one. Totally spaced and said so. Teaching kids that everyone makes mistakes and it's ok to admit it is part of life.

Security stands for 6 hours or more, looks bad to be seen sitting

This is just insane. Where I live, sometimes seniors don't have enough retirement income and supplement by being cashiers. They have to stand all day! Ouch. And for everyone else it just sets you up for a lot of orthopedic issues later on. Crappy pay and wrecking your body.

I've worked many a job on my feet, but the worst is standing in one spot for hours. Torture.

They sit at ALDI

Go to work for Amazon. I did at 66. The first week it was mandatory OT. You get to work your 40 hours with 10 more mandatory 10 hour day. You are NOT allowed to sit down for one second while you are on the clock. You get 2, 15 minute breaks and a 30 minute lunch. My job title was a water spider????? In a 10 hour shift I walked 12-15 miles dragging metal carts filled with up to 500 lbs of packages. Five weeks later I had to go out with injuries to my shoulders and elbows. F**k that job!

Too right.

Wear whatever you damn well please, just don't get bent if folks are staring. I am a morbidly obese late 50's male. I thank you for the free ticket to wear speedo's and flip-flops while walking around the mall.....

What you want to wear is next-to-nothing, which shows an abominable aggressive ignorance about males.

Especially when it comes to dress codes at school

Women need to start accessorizing with a Taser. I'll bet after a zap or two they won't be distracted.

Boys will be boys is meant to be a light-hearted acceptance of boys immediately getting mud all over their new trousers, and stuff like that. Anyone who uses it to excuse boys inappropriate behaviour is an idiot.

Boys will be Boys is just an excuse to justify their irresponsible behavior. A boy pinches a girl's butt. Boys will be boys. No, boys be learning that doing that s**t is acceptable when it's not.