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“Tough Conversation”: Woman Refuses To Rebook $18K Trip When Her Sister Calls Begging For Help
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“Tough Conversation”: Woman Refuses To Rebook $18K Trip When Her Sister Calls Begging For Help

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When planning a vacation, it’s hard to think about anything else. Even if the trip is still 274 days away, your mind might start drifting off to a warm Italian beach or the Swiss countryside when you look out the window. And having something to look forward to can get you through the most difficult days at work!

But one woman’s travel plans almost got derailed when her sister begged her to be a last-minute babysitter. Below, you’ll find the full story that was shared on Reddit detailing how this woman stood her ground even though it meant hurting her sister’s feelings, as well as a conversation with parenting expert and Founder of Pregnant Chicken, Amy Morrison. 

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    This woman has been looking forward to her anniversary trip for a year

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    So when her sister called desperately looking for a babysitter, she refused to sacrifice her travel plans

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    Finding reliable and affordable childcare is a challenge for many parents

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    There are many aspects of parenting that make the job challenging, but finding reliable childcare can definitely be one of the hardest parts, at least when your kiddos are young. According to the UK government’s annual survey of parents about “childcare and early years,” 35% of moms and dads feel like there aren’t enough childcare institutions in their area. 21% of parents also reported having trouble finding childcare flexible enough to meet their family’s needs. 

    Cost is an important factor to consider when trying to find childcare as well. 34% of parents with children who are 4 years old or younger find it “difficult” or “very difficult” to cover the cost of childcare. And on average, these families are paying about £100 each week to make sure their kids were looked after.

    Unsurprisingly, this is an issue in the United States as well. NPR reports that 1 in 3 working families struggle to find the childcare they need, and 44% of households with kids have been “facing serious financial problems.” 

    A report from Care.com found that, on average, daycare in the US costs $343 per week, while having a nanny typically costs $827 weekly. Because of this, most parents are spending over a fifth of their household income on childcare. And many admit to spending 29% of their savings on making sure their kids are taken care of.

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    To learn more about this topic, we reached out to parenting expert and Founder of Pregnant Chicken, Amy Morrison. She was kind enough to have a conversation with Bored Panda and explain what can cause parents to be stuck without childcare.

    “It’s important to respect boundaries and recognize that childcare is your issue to solve, not the responsibility of the people supporting you”

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    “Parents often run into unexpected situations that complicate childcare arrangements, such as a child getting sick or a parent suddenly having to work late,” Amy shared. “Surprises like a babysitter canceling at the last minute or family emergencies can leave parents scrambling for childcare.”

    So is there anything moms and dads can do to try to be prepared for these situations?

    “While it’s hard to prepare for unexpected childcare situations, parents can do a few things to create a bit of a safety net,” the expert says. “This includes having a list of alternative babysitters, friends, or family who can lend a hand when needed, as well as utilizing childcare apps for immediate help.”

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    “However, it’s important to consider that expecting family members to be available at the last minute isn’t always fair,” Amy added. “They have their own commitments and shouldn’t be expected to step in at the drop of a hat.”

    If parents suddenly find themselves without childcare, the expert recommends reaching out to friends or family nearby. “Even if their schedules are tight, someone might be able to step in,” Amy told Bored Panda. “Childcare apps are also a good resource for finding local babysitters on short notice if you don’t already have a backup list.”

    “That said, it’s important to respect boundaries and recognize that childcare is your issue to solve, not the responsibility of the people supporting you,” she added.

    We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. Do you think it’s fair for this mother to ask her sister to postpone her vacation to be a babysitter? Then, you can check out another Bored Panda article discussing a similar situation right here

    Later, the author replied to a few comments and shared more details about her situation

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    Many readers agreed that the woman was not obligated to babysit at the last minute

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    However, some thought she was being selfish by refusing to help out in any way

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    Adelaide Ross

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    Howdy, I'm Adelaide! I'm originally from Texas, but after graduating from university with an acting degree, I relocated to sunny Los Angeles for a while. I then got a serious bite from the travel bug and found myself moving to Sweden and England before settling in Lithuania about three years ago. I'm passionate about animal welfare, sustainability and eating delicious food. But as you can see, I cover a wide range of topics including drama, internet trends and hilarious memes. I can easily be won over with a Seinfeld reference, vegan pastry or glass of fresh cold brew. And during my free time, I can usually be seen strolling through a park, playing tennis or baking something tasty.

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    Adelaide Ross

    Adelaide Ross

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    Howdy, I'm Adelaide! I'm originally from Texas, but after graduating from university with an acting degree, I relocated to sunny Los Angeles for a while. I then got a serious bite from the travel bug and found myself moving to Sweden and England before settling in Lithuania about three years ago. I'm passionate about animal welfare, sustainability and eating delicious food. But as you can see, I cover a wide range of topics including drama, internet trends and hilarious memes. I can easily be won over with a Seinfeld reference, vegan pastry or glass of fresh cold brew. And during my free time, I can usually be seen strolling through a park, playing tennis or baking something tasty.

    Gabija Palšytė

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    Gabija is a photo editor at Bored Panda. Before joining the team, she achieved a Professional Bachelor degree in Photography and has been working as a freelance photographer since. She also has a special place in her heart for film photography, movies and nature.

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    Gabija Palšytė

    Gabija Palšytė

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    Gabija is a photo editor at Bored Panda. Before joining the team, she achieved a Professional Bachelor degree in Photography and has been working as a freelance photographer since. She also has a special place in her heart for film photography, movies and nature.

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    LakotaWolf (she/her)
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    1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think all the YTAs never had abusive family members. Sometimes, family are the biggest abusers in your life and they are not owed ANYTHING simply because they're your "family". I feel bad for the innocent children (and it seems OP is helping as she can with that, by helping pay for childcare) but there's no way I agree with the sentiments put forth by the YTA people. OP's sister is the one who lit fire to every single bridge between herself and OP. I'm not going to address OP's parents, because I saw this EXACT situation play out between my ex-bf and his younger sister over the 23 years of our relationship (his sister acts a lot like OP's sister, and their parents are very strict, very traditional Asian parents.) The stereotype IS there, and it IS incredibly harmful for the shunned "non-golden" child, but it sounds like OP's sister did plenty of her own damage to the relationship between the siblings once they were both adults.

    Kare Deter
    Community Member
    1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    oops I opened the door and a little too much of myself poured out. Removing all that trauma dumping now. Carry on!

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    ToGo
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    1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know there comes a point and time in life where you need to accept responsibility for your own problems but I fully blame the parents for this sisters life. Growing up knowing you're your parents least favourite is hard (I know) but it seems like it was made extremely obvious to this girl as soon as OP came along, and then to be shunned and disowned as a teen.. You sink or swim, she sank. Currently she's working 2 jobs and still has her kids so she's doing something right. All of that said, OP shouldn't feel responsible for sisters kids in this circumstance and should go on her trip. I like the idea of her paying for childcare if she can afford it though, it's a nice gesture and could help the innocent children massively.

    sweet emotion
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I see the "family comes first" cultists have dropped a few YTAs. I've come to believe these are the first people who would refuse to interrupt their lives to help family, so they try to guilt others into stepping up.

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    LakotaWolf (she/her)
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    1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think all the YTAs never had abusive family members. Sometimes, family are the biggest abusers in your life and they are not owed ANYTHING simply because they're your "family". I feel bad for the innocent children (and it seems OP is helping as she can with that, by helping pay for childcare) but there's no way I agree with the sentiments put forth by the YTA people. OP's sister is the one who lit fire to every single bridge between herself and OP. I'm not going to address OP's parents, because I saw this EXACT situation play out between my ex-bf and his younger sister over the 23 years of our relationship (his sister acts a lot like OP's sister, and their parents are very strict, very traditional Asian parents.) The stereotype IS there, and it IS incredibly harmful for the shunned "non-golden" child, but it sounds like OP's sister did plenty of her own damage to the relationship between the siblings once they were both adults.

    Kare Deter
    Community Member
    1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    oops I opened the door and a little too much of myself poured out. Removing all that trauma dumping now. Carry on!

    Load More Replies...
    ToGo
    Community Member
    1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know there comes a point and time in life where you need to accept responsibility for your own problems but I fully blame the parents for this sisters life. Growing up knowing you're your parents least favourite is hard (I know) but it seems like it was made extremely obvious to this girl as soon as OP came along, and then to be shunned and disowned as a teen.. You sink or swim, she sank. Currently she's working 2 jobs and still has her kids so she's doing something right. All of that said, OP shouldn't feel responsible for sisters kids in this circumstance and should go on her trip. I like the idea of her paying for childcare if she can afford it though, it's a nice gesture and could help the innocent children massively.

    sweet emotion
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I see the "family comes first" cultists have dropped a few YTAs. I've come to believe these are the first people who would refuse to interrupt their lives to help family, so they try to guilt others into stepping up.

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