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Sis Babysits Foster Nephew, Dismisses His Choices, Dad Explodes, Saying She’d Be A Terrible Mom
If you’ve ever left your kid with relatives, you probably expect them to give them snacks, maybe sneak in a little extra screen time, and hand them back in one piece. What you don’t expect is to pick them up with a completely new hairstyle and a wardrobe straight out of someone else’s idea of normal.
However, that’s exactly what happened to today’s Original Poster (OP) who came home to find his foster son in tears after an unwanted makeover courtesy of his aunt. It all spiraled when the very opinionated sister thought she knew best, and the OP couldn’t stand it.
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Every parent knows that leaving your child with family should mean snacks and playtime, but what you don’t expect is to pick up your kid with a new look
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The author had been raising a 7-year-old who enjoyed ballet, dolls, pink clothes, and long hair, and he fully supported his son’s choices
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His sister, who had struggled with multiple miscarriages, began disapproving of his son’s interests and kept buying him boy clothes and toys he wouldn’t wear or use
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While babysitting, the sister took the son to a hairdresser for a short haircut and dressed him in “boy” clothes he disliked, leaving him in tears
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He confronted her and banned her from babysitting, but she called him a terrible father, to which he responded in anger that she “would have been an awful mother”
The OP, a single foster parent, had been raising a 7-year-old son as his foster parent since the pandemic and was in the process of adopting him. Now, his son found comfort and joy in what some still label “non-traditional” choices such as ballet, Barbies, dresses, pink clothes, and long hair.
The OP was fully supportive, recognizing that kids should be allowed to explore their identity without judgment. At first, his sister seemed supportive of him fostering the boy, but that changed when his interests didn’t fit her views of appropriate boy behavior. She also began repeatedly buying the son clothes and toys he didn’t like.
However, the real shock came when she was left to babysit him and decided to take things into her own hands, literally. She cut his long hair short and dressed him in boy clothes, which left the boy crying and heartbroken. When the OP came to pick him up, he was mortified at what his sister had done, and he understandably lost his cool.
After sending his son to the car, he told his sister she’d never be allowed to watch him again, but she told him she was doing what was best for him and that he was a terrible father. In response, he told her that she would have been an awful mother. For context, his sister had experienced multiple miscarriages, with the latest one just weeks before.
While some family members felt his outburst was harsh, others sided with him, insisting she had overstepped in a way no caregiver should.
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Relationship expert Terri Cole states that one of the biggest challenges in families is when relatives consistently overstep boundaries because it creates unnecessary stress and conflict. This can happen in many forms, such as intruding on private matters, interfering in sensitive areas like parenting choices or friendships, and believing they know best.
McAtee Psychology builds on this by explaining that overstepping in families often comes from differences in parenting styles, cultural values, and views on parental authority. Relatives like grandparents, in-laws, or even siblings may feel entitled to weigh in on raising children, drawing from their own upbringing or traditions.
This can spark conflicts when their opinions clash with parents’ choices; however, then comes the need for boundaries. Upstream Counselling outlines practical steps for handling family members who overstep. First, they highlight that it’s important to identify your boundaries and know exactly what feels acceptable.
Once clear, they advise communicating them directly to avoid misunderstandings, and then stay consistent in upholding them. They also stress remaining objective, not letting emotions dictate every reaction. However, if the overstepping continues, it may be necessary to limit contact for your own well-being.
Netizens sided firmly with the OP, stressing that his sister’s actions were a major violation of trust. They pointed out that she overstepped by forcing changes on a child, and that this wasn’t just a parenting disagreement, but it was about respecting a child’s autonomy and the OP’s role as the boy’s father.
What do you think about this situation? Do you think the dad went too far with his remark, or was it justified given what his sister did? We would love to know your thoughts!
Netizens praised the author’s supportive parenting style, saying he was doing an amazing job letting his son be himself
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arthbach 2 months ago
The child's aunt needs to learn an important lesson, her views on what is acceptable apply to her children, and not her brother's child. She assaulted the child, and she needs to be made aware of this. Until she realises the seriousness of her actions, and apologises, she is not allowed near the child. Sounds like the child has a kind and loving father, someone who has their corner and will protect them.
Janelle Collard 2 months ago (edited)
Absolutely. Hope OP went NC with sis.
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Tabitha 2 months ago (edited)
I had multiple miscarriages, got too old for pregnancy, and we couldn’t afford IVF or adoption, so we are childless. Even after all that, if OP had brought Andrew over for me to look after, when he got back from his errands, Andrew would be completely unchanged. Andrew would look like, and be, the exact same child he dropped off at my house, except for maybe having some extra cookies in his tummy, and maybe Aunt Tabitha showing them a better way to style their hair while it grew out, because I have decades of experience growing out and cutting bangs, as well as growing out overly layered haircuts I should never have gotten. Multiple miscarriages are NOT an excuse for a b u s i n g a child, just because they don’t conform to your particular idea of what a boy or girl should look and act like. F*****k you for even thinking of doing that. FFS, if you have lost pregnancies—-in other words, the children you wanted to have—-you should be the LAST person who would even have that mindset. If you are inhumane like that, then maybe it’s a good thing you don’t have children, because it is keeping your children from becoming a***e statistics. I applaud OP for protecting Andrew from his wicked witch—-scratch that, B I T C H—-of an aunt. Oh, and Grandma can go F**K herself too, for agreeing with the aunt.
Joe Reaves 2 months ago
Who are the 2% of you who said 'Somewhat understandable given her feelings'? Because her feelings are completely irrelevant. The only people whose feelings are relevant are the child in question and his legal guardian. She's not raising the kid. She was a BABYSITTER. You don't get to impose your views on anything on a child you are watching for a couple of hours.
KatSaidWhat 2 months ago
It's down to 1% now. But yes, you don't get to traumatise a child that is not yours so you feel better.
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arthbach 2 months ago
The child's aunt needs to learn an important lesson, her views on what is acceptable apply to her children, and not her brother's child. She assaulted the child, and she needs to be made aware of this. Until she realises the seriousness of her actions, and apologises, she is not allowed near the child. Sounds like the child has a kind and loving father, someone who has their corner and will protect them.
Janelle Collard 2 months ago (edited)
Absolutely. Hope OP went NC with sis.
Load More Replies... Tabitha 2 months ago (edited)
I had multiple miscarriages, got too old for pregnancy, and we couldn’t afford IVF or adoption, so we are childless. Even after all that, if OP had brought Andrew over for me to look after, when he got back from his errands, Andrew would be completely unchanged. Andrew would look like, and be, the exact same child he dropped off at my house, except for maybe having some extra cookies in his tummy, and maybe Aunt Tabitha showing them a better way to style their hair while it grew out, because I have decades of experience growing out and cutting bangs, as well as growing out overly layered haircuts I should never have gotten. Multiple miscarriages are NOT an excuse for a b u s i n g a child, just because they don’t conform to your particular idea of what a boy or girl should look and act like. F*****k you for even thinking of doing that. FFS, if you have lost pregnancies—-in other words, the children you wanted to have—-you should be the LAST person who would even have that mindset. If you are inhumane like that, then maybe it’s a good thing you don’t have children, because it is keeping your children from becoming a***e statistics. I applaud OP for protecting Andrew from his wicked witch—-scratch that, B I T C H—-of an aunt. Oh, and Grandma can go F**K herself too, for agreeing with the aunt.
Joe Reaves 2 months ago
Who are the 2% of you who said 'Somewhat understandable given her feelings'? Because her feelings are completely irrelevant. The only people whose feelings are relevant are the child in question and his legal guardian. She's not raising the kid. She was a BABYSITTER. You don't get to impose your views on anything on a child you are watching for a couple of hours.
KatSaidWhat 2 months ago
It's down to 1% now. But yes, you don't get to traumatise a child that is not yours so you feel better.
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