Woman Gets Called Out For Attempting To Outshine The Bride At Her Ex’s Wedding, Takes It Online To Complain But Finds No Support

I was all set to say NTA until I followed the link to the dress. The description literally says "red wedding dress." She wore a wedding dress to her ex-husband's wedding.

There is also this thing about wearing red at a wedding. Supposedly it means you've slept with the groom. Stupid, but I'd still avoid it if I'd dated the groom, unless I'm the bride I guess.

I think anyone who stays at a wedding when told by either bride or groom to leave is AH. Regardless of how trivial the reason. Unless you've paid for and put together the wedding, you don't really have a leg to stand on. And after seeing the dress, she's a major AH and needed to leave.

I love the fact she had a throw away handle called U/closureseekingEx when clearly she wasn't looking for closure she was wanting the ex's attention XD

I’m so embarrassed for you. Great memory for the kids. Garbage parent.

Doesn't a red dress mean that you've slept with the groom and is protesting the wedding? OP is NTA fo attending the wedding and the bride really should have realised that of she sends an invitation the invited person might show up. OP is TAH for wearing that dress

The bride gave her side or the story on reddit too. Really puts things in perspective! https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/105s1ki/my_wedding_was_ruined_by_a_jealous_ex_and_she/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

Am I alone in wondering if the OP didn’t dye the wedding dress she married her ex in red and she’s just not mentioning that “tiny” detail?

So...you showed up in a red lace wedding dress, and insisted on staying after being explicitly asked to leave by the bride...and you wonder if you're an AH. Yes. Yes, you're an a*****e.

Surprised at how generous some comments are here towards the EX wife. One's wedding is a special day where you make memories to share with your future self. It is not called an " accommodation" to let all and sundry do what they want on your special day. How about respecting those that planned and paid for it for THEIR memories. You HAD YOURS with the guy, he's no longer yours. So what if you traveled 100 Miles to drop off the kids, it's their dads 2nd marriage. Go to see a damn movie, take a walk in the park but stay the hell away. I don't care what she wore, invite or no invite, SHE HAD NO PLACE THERE. Yes it's good they all get along for the children, cause it's their duty to do it, not a favour to one another. She still has a torch for her ex husband and zero respect for his new wife. This husband needs to grow a pair and stand up for his new wife. New wife needs to now place solid boundaries to keep THIS EX in her own sandbox and stay in her lane.

To what kind of weddings you go? The ones i attend dresses like that are normal. On the other side in the usa they have total useles bridesmaids... It is all about decoration. Polish, German, Iranian, Romanian wedding that dress would be average.

We've no confirmation when the OP says everything was just great between her and the ex and the new bride. Her behavior definitely shows otherwise. My sister put up with a crazy ex wife for years; this OP shows signs of the same crazy. Being in denial is a big part of this.

Obviously a ploy for people to compare old wive to new wif, and a pathetic grab for attention. "Look what he's missing!" "I'm so hot!"

My ex got married one week ago today. I was invited which I found to be odd despite a fairly amicable co-parenting relationship. I politely declined when I received the invitation. I could not and cannot even fathom having attended that wedding. The OP is TA 110%.

WTF was she thinking? Obviously she has issues with the new stepmother of the children, whether she realizes it or not. In some circles wearing a red dress (wedding dress or not, I'll touch on later) says to the people at the wedding she slept with the groom. I think she WANTED to remind everyone she slept with the groom. Now, to wear that dress (red, black, purple, white, or whatever color) shows she wanted to outshine the bride. The fact that she stayed after the bride asked her to leave adds to my belief that subliminally (maybe) she wanted to ruin the bride's day. The post is vague and there are several questions she should have addressed - did the groom ask her to attend? Did she get an invitation and did she RSVP? Did she just pick that dress from her closet? Will or has the ex ask for custody of kids? Will her ex stay where he is or move away? Has she and her ex talked about life going forward?.... Is she TA? YES. I would add she's a B for what she did.

Girl get over yourself, you're an EX for a reason! Tacky, entitled narcissistic behavior. You were clearly told you weren't wanted there but chose to die on that hill! Selfish b***h!

ESH. Groom should have communicated better. Bride should have not sent the invitation if she wasn't willing for her to come. And OP shouldn't have worn a freaking red wedding dress to her ex's wedding. Literally is saying to everyone there she slept with the groom AND is doing so with her own wedding dress. Just dumb. But had the bride and groom been smarter about this whole thing, she wouldn't have had the opportunity to revenge dress them. The fact that OP is the one who posts this online for validation is laughable.

Granted that she and her ex had an amicable divorce and she likes Stephanie - but, wow! She had the balls to wear that dress, which distinctly states in the description that it's a Wedding dress. She knows what she's doing.

You goofed big time, are you 16 years old. You sure aren't very mature. You have now created a wedge between the bride and you and deliberately caused issues between your ex and his new wife. You said she's been good with the kids, the kids definitely were not important to you when you incited drama at their wedding. You are selfish and not a very nice person. You would do well to apologize and keep a low profile till things cool down, stay out of her way. Let her anger cool down so she can move on gracefully. I hope she's able to be the better person and rise above your childish antics.