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Man Walks Away From Post-Cancer Trip After Finding Out It’ll Be Spent Pleasing Bro’s Picky Kids
Interview With ExpertWho doesn’t like traveling? I know I do. There’s nothing quite like stepping off a plane and instantly getting smacked in the face with the smell of unfamiliar flavors. Traveling isn’t just about ticking off landmarks—it’s about soaking up the culture, getting lost in alleyways, and accidentally ordering something that sets your mouth on fire.
But not everyone’s palate is ready for that. Some folks cross continents only to hunt down chicken nuggets like it’s a global treasure hunt. Just like one Redditor’s niece—so our guy decided to uninvite his brother and his kids from his dream trip to Asia.
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Some trips to a foreign country are meant to feed the soul, while others just feed the kids fries in a different time zone
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One man, going through chemo, uninvited his brother and his nugget-obsessed kids from his dream trip to Asia, choosing soul-healing over fast-food dinners
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The man is planning a culturally rich, once-in-a-lifetime trip to Asia after his chemo treatment. He invited his brother along, but he planned on bringing his young kids
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The man’s niece and nephew don’t eat anything other than fries and nuggets, so he doesn’t want to travel with them
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The man plans to experience the food and culture while in Asia to celebrate defeating cancer, but the trip is not cheap
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The man told his brother he would rather travel with someone else, but was called selfish for getting the kids excited and then backing out from the trip
The OP (original poster) is a 39-year-old man currently going through chemo. But instead of wallowing in hospital gowns, he’s already looking for the light at the end of the tunnel—a soul-refreshing, once-in-a-lifetime foodie adventure somewhere in Asia. I’m talking slurping ramen in Tokyo, chasing bánh mì in Vietnam, and maybe even dodging a live octopus in Seoul. You know, the dream.
Our guy invited his brother to come along. Fun, right? Well, not exactly. His brother immediately said yes, but told the OP his kids would join too. I can almost imagine the collective groan of every street food vendor from Bangkok to Busan. Because, see, the kids (ages 8 and 12) are picky. And not just “no broccoli” picky. I’m talking “I only eat nuggets and fries” level picky.
To be clear, the uncle adores the kids. But this isn’t a Disneyland holiday. This is his bucket list dream trip after his illness. And if every meal ends up being at an international fast-food chain just to avoid tears over tofu, what’s the point? So, he gently told his brother he would rather travel with someone else instead. And all hell broke loose.
OP’s brother accused him of being selfish. The kids were already excited, and they live in different countries and don’t see each other often. How could he back out? So, the OP is wondering if he is a jerk or just a guy who’s simply craving something deeper than chicken nuggets.
In many Asian cultures, food isn’t just food—it’s a full-on love language. In places like Thailand, China, Korea, and Japan, meals are social events meant to be shared, passed around, and devoured with enthusiasm. Rejecting a local dish isn’t just about personal taste—it can come off as rude or disrespectful.
In Japan, slurping noodles is polite; in Vietnam, meals are built around balance, freshness, and bold flavors; and in South Korea, food is practically a national pastime. So, when someone insists on fries over pho, it’s not just a missed meal—it’s a missed cultural moment.
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For someone recovering from a life-threatening illness, experiences that reaffirm life—like trying new things, connecting with other cultures, and making memories—are incredibly therapeutic. Translation: this man isn’t being selfish. He’s doing emotional self-care…with noodles.
Travel isn’t just about racking up passport stamps—it actually rewires your brain in the best way possible. To dive deeper into the mental health perks of travel, Bored Panda spoke with Isaac Kenyon, a professional adventurer and nature advocate who’s no stranger to using exploration as a tool for healing.
We started by asking how traveling to new and unfamiliar destinations affects mental well-being. According to Kenyon, getting out of your usual environment can do wonders for your mental state, reducing stress, and even increasing feelings of happiness. He explained that visiting a new place disrupts the repetitive nature of daily life, offering a much-needed mental reset.
“I definitely feel that novelty and excitement each time I get away, and that feeling can stimulate the brain’s reward system, releasing dopamine and endorphins, which contribute to improved mental well-being,” Kenyon shared.
He also mentioned that interacting with new people while traveling can lead to a sense of connection and belonging, boosting levels of oxytocin. As Kenyon pointed out, both science and personal experience back up the mood-lifting effects of travel.
We were curious about how experiences like tasting unfamiliar foods or engaging in outdoor adventures influence resilience and development. Kenyon emphasized that trying new cuisines isn’t just about food—it’s about being open to a new way of life. Exploring a culture through its food requires adaptability and curiosity, which builds emotional strength.
On the other hand, physically demanding activities like hiking or rafting help sharpen problem-solving skills and boost self-confidence. Every time you overcome a challenge in an unfamiliar setting, you’re growing mentally, and that resilience spills over into other areas of life too.
Finally, we asked if travel could be considered a form of therapy—especially for those recovering from illness. According to Kenyon, travel—especially nature-based experiences—can help reduce stress and promote emotional recovery.
“When I was post-illness, I went travelling, and it felt like a sense of accomplishment, rebuilding self-esteem through small victories like navigating a new place,” Kenyon shared.
Would you travel with picky eaters halfway across the globe, or are nuggets best left at home? Share your thoughts on this story in the comments below!
Netizens side with the man, saying he is not a jerk for refusing to take his brother and his kids on his trip
Planning a trip after a significant life event often involves careful choices about company and experience.
This story reminds me of how important it is to prioritize your own intentions with travel, similar to how someone might choose to spend their own winnings selectively, as discussed in our earlier exploration of personal financial boundaries in relationships when deciding what to fund in a partnership.
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arthbach 7 months ago
Why did the brother think it was okay to invite his children along on the 'post-treatment' trip?! You don't invite others without checking first.
Glen Ellyn 7 months ago
Also, you DON'T mention it to the children until it's a done deal! I despise it when they then try to lay a guilt trip on the person who said no.
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Glen Ellyn 7 months ago
What is it with people who invite themselves into someone else's vacation plans?? And then they get snippy and feel insulted when the answer is no? Yikes.
Ellinor 7 months ago
NTA. Some people don't have kids to maintain a certain freedom, and that's the choice of OP. His brother made the opposite choice so sadly he can't come on the trip. No one is inherently in the wrong, but OP should decide who comes with him.
Binky Melnik 7 months ago
I can’t believe his brother is being a b***h; the guy’s gonna be going through cancer treatment hell, and brother feels he should bring his KIDS?! WTAF?
Load More Replies... arthbach 7 months ago
Why did the brother think it was okay to invite his children along on the 'post-treatment' trip?! You don't invite others without checking first.
Glen Ellyn 7 months ago
Also, you DON'T mention it to the children until it's a done deal! I despise it when they then try to lay a guilt trip on the person who said no.
Load More Replies... Glen Ellyn 7 months ago
What is it with people who invite themselves into someone else's vacation plans?? And then they get snippy and feel insulted when the answer is no? Yikes.
Ellinor 7 months ago
NTA. Some people don't have kids to maintain a certain freedom, and that's the choice of OP. His brother made the opposite choice so sadly he can't come on the trip. No one is inherently in the wrong, but OP should decide who comes with him.
Binky Melnik 7 months ago
I can’t believe his brother is being a b***h; the guy’s gonna be going through cancer treatment hell, and brother feels he should bring his KIDS?! WTAF?
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