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“Am I The [Jerk] For Not Giving The ‘Dollhouse’ I Built To My Niece, But To My Wife As A Gift?”
Back in my teenage years, my room was plastered with posters of Leo Messi as I am such a huge fan. When you are a fan of artists, celebrities, or athletes, collecting their merch or things associated with them is probably one of the greatest joys of that fandom.
This original poster’s (OP) wife is a big Swiftie and he decided to surprise her by building the Lover House and gifting it to her. When he told his brother, he insisted that he give this one to his daughter for her birthday, but our guy refused and sparked drama!
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The poster’s wife is a Swiftie and he was secretly building her a replica of the famous Lover House where she can store her little trinkets
Image credits: JustSomeUncleGuy
Image credits: Ron Lach / Pexels (not the actual photo)
When he showed its pic to his brother and his daughter Ava, they immediately insisted that he give it to the kid as she was also a big Swiftie
Image credits: JustSomeUncleGuy
Image credits: user25451090 / Freepik (not the actual photo)
He offered to build a new house with Ava but refused to give this one, but his brother wouldn’t back down and even complained to their mom
Image credits: JustSomeUncleGuy
Image credits: freepik / Freepik (not the actual photo)
They all made it sound like it was ridiculous that his wife wanted a “dollhouse,” and Ava also kept bringing up the subject when he visited them
Image credits: JustSomeUncleGuy
Sick by this harrowing, he told his brother that he was enabling Ava to be manipulative, but he called the poster a bad uncle
In today’s story, Reddit user JustSomeUncleGuy tells us about the sweetest gesture that he is secretly planning for his Swiftie wife: building her the Lover House and surprising her with it. When he showed its picture to his younger brother, he couldn’t understand it, so he showed it to his 13-year-old daughter Ava.
Now Ava is also a Swiftie and said that she wanted one too, so her dad asked the poster whether she could have it for her birthday. Of course, he refused because he had specifically made it for his wife, but he offered to make a new one with Ava to teach her woodworking.
Well, his brother was adamant that he give this one to Ava and build a new one for his wife as he couldn’t understand why an “adult woman needed a dollhouse.” OP tried to explain that it was not a dollhouse, rather more of a shelf, but to no avail, and his brother even complained to their mom who also found the whole thing “stupid.”
When the poster went to their house over the weekend, even Ava broached the subject, asking why his wife needed a dollhouse and saying that she wanted it. Probably frustrated by the pestering, OP told his brother that he was encouraging Ava to be a manipulator, but he retaliated that the poster was being a bad uncle.
This probably rattled him as he didn’t have any kids himself and it was important for him to be a good uncle to Ava who was also a Swiftie. Caught in a fix, he vented online and sought advice from Redditors, who instantly delivered their verdict.
Image credits: Timur Weber / Pexels (not the actual photo)
For all the non-Swifties wondering what’s so special about this “dollhouse,” let us tell you that the much-loved Lover House chronicles Taylor Swift’s career from her 2006 debut album, Taylor Swift, to her most recent, Midnights. Each room in it represents a different album and fans are crazily in love with it.
It’s no wonder that the niece also wanted it, but Redditors said that the way she was demanding it was wrong. They claimed that it must have been her father who said that she could have it and that’s why she was so adamant about it, and even the poster confirmed this in the comments.
It has been observed that children manipulate adults in order to get their desires and also because it has worked in the past. It seems as though Ava is used to manipulating her father and getting things that she wants. Many folks pointed out that her father’s actions were indirectly having an adverse impact on her, and frankly, encouraging manipulation does not sound like a healthy thing.
Many people appreciated that the poster was making so much effort for his wife and also standing up and explaining whenever someone called it a “dollhouse.” They also felt that it would be a weird gift for a niece, and even OP said that it would actually be weird to gift a “Lover” House to Ava.
It does seem like the brother and niece need to back off and consider the fact that OP is willing to build a different house for Ava. If you were in his shoes, what would you have done? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below!
Netizens instantly sided with the poster and claimed that his brother was teaching all the wrong things to his daughter
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Dusty's mom 1 month ago
Brother is manipulative, and niece and mom are as well. OP should take this as a lesson and never share photos of his projects to those mind benders. Hope wife loves it!
Binky Melnik 1 month ago
Not only that, but mom keeps calling it “stupid”? And that’s sposta motivate him to give something stupid to his niece? What the hell is wrong with people? (And even after all these years on BP, I STILL don’t understand GROWN ADULTS running to their mommies and whining, “MAH-AM! Bobby won’t [whatever it is eight-year-olds screech about]!” and then stand back and wait for Ma to straighten the situation out to their advantage as if they’re EIGHT YEARS OLD. As soon as I left the house at 18, that poo STOPPED. No more asking my mother to intercede on my behalf in disagreements with my sister! We’re ALL too old for that c**p! And I can’t even *begin* to imagine saying to a friend who asked how my week went “It was great! My sister and I got into a heated argument but it’s cool now because my mom gave her what-for and I won!” The humiliation and shame would kill me on the spot.
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sweet emotion 1 month ago
At 13, Ava is long past the age where she should have been taught how to deal with the little disappointments in life. OP should continue with the plan to give his creation to his wife, wait a few months, and then offer to work with Ava - if she is still interested - to create her own version. He should also tell his brother to shut up and stop stirring the pot, and tell his mother to butt out.
Binky Melnik 1 month ago
And how many times did poor OP say “It’s not a dollhouse”? I got tense reading the correction over and over and over, yet everyone STILL thinks it’s a “dollhouse”? Brother should really parent here, telling her it’s a STORAGE DEVICE and IT’S NOT HERS, and maybe, if she’s polite about it, she can have a storage device of her own at some future point, but with the lousy mothering they got (and still get!), I spose I’m being unreasonable expecting these people to act their ages. 😕
Load More Replies... GreatWhiteNorth 1 month ago (edited)
A 13 year old wanting a doll house is just as "strange" as an adult woman wanting one. To be honest the teen throwing hints like that and acting like such a manipulative little diva would be a complete turn off. I would not build her a doll house. Or give up the one I made strictly to teach the teen a lesson. If she is like this at 13 imagine her at 20. ( to be clear I do not think it is strange. I actually watch a T.V. show about miniatures built by adults for doll houses) https://gem.cbc.ca/best-in-miniature/s03?cmp=GEM_cbc.ca_homepage_shelfnew
Kelly Scott 1 month ago (edited)
Oh, please. Collecting miniatures is the third biggest hobby in the world after collecting stamps and coins. And you have to have something to keep those miniatures in, so why not a house? There are thousands of adult women, and men too, who collect, build, and decorate dollhouses. I have several myself and no, they're NOT kids' toys. No one under the age of 18 even touches my dollhouses after the hours and hours I've put into them. My current project is turning a chalet dollhouse into a split level 50s house. It involves visualization, working with a jigsaw, interior decoration skills, and the ability to improvise when I have to. It's fun and certainly, for this adult woman, not strange at all.
Load More Replies... Dusty's mom 1 month ago
Brother is manipulative, and niece and mom are as well. OP should take this as a lesson and never share photos of his projects to those mind benders. Hope wife loves it!
Binky Melnik 1 month ago
Not only that, but mom keeps calling it “stupid”? And that’s sposta motivate him to give something stupid to his niece? What the hell is wrong with people? (And even after all these years on BP, I STILL don’t understand GROWN ADULTS running to their mommies and whining, “MAH-AM! Bobby won’t [whatever it is eight-year-olds screech about]!” and then stand back and wait for Ma to straighten the situation out to their advantage as if they’re EIGHT YEARS OLD. As soon as I left the house at 18, that poo STOPPED. No more asking my mother to intercede on my behalf in disagreements with my sister! We’re ALL too old for that c**p! And I can’t even *begin* to imagine saying to a friend who asked how my week went “It was great! My sister and I got into a heated argument but it’s cool now because my mom gave her what-for and I won!” The humiliation and shame would kill me on the spot.
Load More Replies... sweet emotion 1 month ago
At 13, Ava is long past the age where she should have been taught how to deal with the little disappointments in life. OP should continue with the plan to give his creation to his wife, wait a few months, and then offer to work with Ava - if she is still interested - to create her own version. He should also tell his brother to shut up and stop stirring the pot, and tell his mother to butt out.
Binky Melnik 1 month ago
And how many times did poor OP say “It’s not a dollhouse”? I got tense reading the correction over and over and over, yet everyone STILL thinks it’s a “dollhouse”? Brother should really parent here, telling her it’s a STORAGE DEVICE and IT’S NOT HERS, and maybe, if she’s polite about it, she can have a storage device of her own at some future point, but with the lousy mothering they got (and still get!), I spose I’m being unreasonable expecting these people to act their ages. 😕
Load More Replies... GreatWhiteNorth 1 month ago (edited)
A 13 year old wanting a doll house is just as "strange" as an adult woman wanting one. To be honest the teen throwing hints like that and acting like such a manipulative little diva would be a complete turn off. I would not build her a doll house. Or give up the one I made strictly to teach the teen a lesson. If she is like this at 13 imagine her at 20. ( to be clear I do not think it is strange. I actually watch a T.V. show about miniatures built by adults for doll houses) https://gem.cbc.ca/best-in-miniature/s03?cmp=GEM_cbc.ca_homepage_shelfnew
Kelly Scott 1 month ago (edited)
Oh, please. Collecting miniatures is the third biggest hobby in the world after collecting stamps and coins. And you have to have something to keep those miniatures in, so why not a house? There are thousands of adult women, and men too, who collect, build, and decorate dollhouses. I have several myself and no, they're NOT kids' toys. No one under the age of 18 even touches my dollhouses after the hours and hours I've put into them. My current project is turning a chalet dollhouse into a split level 50s house. It involves visualization, working with a jigsaw, interior decoration skills, and the ability to improvise when I have to. It's fun and certainly, for this adult woman, not strange at all.
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