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Women Claim That If Men Do These 28 Things, They Are Bad People
Article created by: Ieva Pečiulytė
Dating can be pretty hard for women nowadays. One 2024 study found that single women tend to be happier than single men. What's more, the number of women who are dating is steadily decreasing. A 2023 Pew survey revealed that in 2019, 38% of single American women were looking for dates. In 2022, that number dropped to 35%.
For some gals, it's about safety; they just don't feel comfortable going on dates with strangers. In a couple of threads online, women have been sharing what behaviors might signal that it's not entirely safe to go back to the guy's place after a date. Others also shared their thoughts about what generally might signal that a man is dangerous.
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#1
Destroying things in anger. People get mad, it happens. I don't care if someone yells or swears to let off some steam. But if you smash your TV because of a video game or your sports team loses, I don't want to be around you.
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#2
Wanting you to not maintain close relationships with others- friends and family. This tends mean that they're try to isolate you and control every aspect of your life.
#3
Animals don’t like him, consistently flinch away. It usually means they sense the predator in him or are being abused themselves in secret.
#4
Im a man, but I would like to tell you some warning signs to look out for straight from the horses mouth. If he has an issue with women making more money than him, or doesn't like it when you contact friends or family that's a major warning sign. Trust me, it WILL get worse over time. If they keep trying to get you alone, when you said you don't want to you need to run. This last one will seem obvious, but if he shows irritation when you put a coaster or something over your drink, he's definitely dangerous.
#6
Pay attention to how he treats people who he has nothing to gain from or have less social status/money. Make sure it isn't performative. He doesn't see you as an equal either and that will show up in ugly and unexpected ways.
#7
Any attempts of intimidation whether physical or mental. Hitting a wall near your face, pushing you shaking you, trying to scare you with mental tactics.
#8
Rigidity.
He has to have everything his way and to his specs and be right and be the good guy all the time, no exceptions.
It's the men who can't handle even minor emotional discomfort who get overwhelmed and last out physically when there's a real conflict.
#9
Legitimately, right wing or even moderate political beliefs. I'm transgender, and I'm a woman; I can't be safe with anyone who thinks my rights or validity are up for debate.
#10
Yelling to make a point instead of discussing things.
In those instances I know he’s trying to scare me into shutting up. It works. I also don’t want to talk to him anymore.
#11
Not respecting your boundaries. Someone that shows they don’t respect boundaries you set around small things (topics of conversation; how personal you’re comfortable getting; touch; etc) is not going to respect larger boundaries. If you say no to anything and they push you on it, bye.
#12
He refers to his exes as "crazy".
#13
Actions and speech do not align. Actions and attitude do not align.
I know a lot of people say "anger issues" but some men don't even get angry before they verbally or physically attack you. They do it with a smile on their face.
#15
A quite small thing to notice, but a huge red flag I’ve experienced is if the guy constantly walks in front of you, or talks over you every time you say something. If you’re walking together, and he never walks beside you, and leaves you behind- run. It’s a very subtle thing to notice, but guys who do that tend to have ego issues, or don’t respect women imo. And the talking over you, is quite an obvious sign.
#16
Rampant jealousy over the smallest things. Interrogates you every time you go somewhere without him.
#17
If you get that weird sinking feeling when near him. As humans we still have many instincts, and may be picking up tyings subconsciously.
Breaking stuff when angry
The look sometimes (the way he looks at you I mean). Idk how to explain it. But the way someone looks at you sometimes it's just unsettling. Happened to me once and I had to pretend to change trains in the subway because something felt just too off.
Gaslighting.
Just off the top of my head.
#18
Selfishness, anger issues (one of my exes very nearly destroyed all my make up, I was not thrilled), they insult you or berate you, become aggressive over minor disagreements, they attempt to isolate you from friends and family, men who say all of their exes are crazy, if they encourage their friends in bad behaviour instead of calling them out, and too many white lies about dumb things.
the list is so big, but this is what I can think of from the top of my head.
#19
Making sexual remarks very early on and not changing tact even when I've made clear that the remarks are offensive.
#22
Consistently feels the need to tell you he’s a “good guy”.
Also how he treats people, such as waiters.
#25
When they make sexist (or other type of discrimination) jokes with their friends or brag about how many women they have been with.
Also when they are nice with you but rude to service workers or other people in general.
#27
Boundary pushing. If they can't take no for an answer, or get upset at no, that is a big problem. I actually think that it's wise to say no to something early on in a relationship, whether that's just " no, I don't feel like Mexican tonight. What I'd really like to eat is Thai food. " Or, " sorry, I can't see you this Friday. What about Sunday?"
If they take your no as an opportunity to negotiate, that's not a good sign. If they take your no around being alone, letting them drive somewhere, we're going to their house when you're not ready for it, actually run girl.
#28
Contempt.
People can be entirely incapable of empathy and still not be dangerous. Somebody who feels contempt has no empathy AND they have decided that you are unworthy of basic human respect, or dignity.
Contempt is associated with a specific facial expression, where one side of the mouth is pulled up higher than the other (google image search for tons of examples). You might only see it for a split second, but when a person feels contempt it is very difficult for them to hide this expression. If you see it, be careful; you may be in danger.
Other than that, do they have anger problems? Do they respect your boundaries? Do they hold you responsible for their problems?
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