The Way This Pub Owner Responds To A Dad Asking If His Disabled Son Can Enter Is Going Viral
Discrimination is a huge problem in our society, and it truly affects people with various disabilities. We often forget their needs and ignore the fact that they too want to be fully functioning society members. Well, a pub owner in Sheffield, England proved that we all need is to be a little more caring and understanding when it comes to disabled people and their needs. Recently, Steph Tate took to social media to share a heartbreaking experience that happened at her pub.
The Barrel Chapeltown’s owner wrote a post telling how a father and son entered her pub and since the kid was wheelchair-bound, they weren’t sure if they would be welcome. Tate was shocked at the idea of them even asking for permission to enter the pub, since it is a public place and everyone is of course welcome! She wrote a post, explaining that it shouldn’t even be a question.
In an interview with Bored Panda, Matthew’s mother Leila Adams told us how she feels about the discrimination of disabled people in the public places, “In terms of disability it’s such a wide range of differences or ‘issues’ that people don’t want to think about or need a lot of education about. People might understand that a wheelchair user needs a wide enough path to get through, but not why an autistic person has a meltdown in a public area. Or they might see a person with learning difficulties needing extra time with things, but not why a physically disabled person needs other accommodations.” She finished by saying “I think an emphasis on ‘treat others as you would wish to be treated’ type mentality needs to become the norm across all of society and age ranges.”
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Steph Tate is an owner of a pub called The Barrel Chapeltown in Sheffield, England
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Steven Adams, a father of Matthew’s, tried to enter the pub but before doing so he asked the owner if they can come in since Matthew is disabled and can often act erratically
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But Steph Tate was not having it, she took social media to tell people that everybody is welcome in their pub, and their disabilities have no impact on that
The post quickly received a lot of attention since it spread a very important message about tolerance
Image credits: Steven Adams
The most beautiful part of this story was people’s reaction to this post
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I have left restaurants/stores where there were noisy kids/people/employees because the racket got on my last damn nerve. I certainly didn't let on why, blame anybody or act like an a**e. They had every right and reason to be there. The "issue" was mine and I responded as such. Little kids on planes is a special kind of hell. If they had child free flights I'd damn sure pay extra to be on that one. Until that is an option I will simply have to STFU and endure mild irritation of my own making. I mean who the hell goes into a public space, let alone a privately owned business and starts declaring who can do what and where? Unhappy or irritated? Politely GTFO.
Side note, there are times when it's impossible to hide why you're leaving. If you take 15 seconds to make eye contact and smile or make a cordial gesture you can take responsibility and (percieved) animosity out of the situation. A lot of times parents will apologize. Just smile and say "you're fine" or some variation of that or interact with the kids. You don't have kids and not
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It's hard. It really is. To go to some places with your loved one and have people staring at them just because they act a bit different. My sister has autism. And sometimes she makes noises or movements, or goes from one place to another, or wants to see someone's face, eye color, bag, book, or anything they have that made her curious about... and my family and I have had to suffer the annoying stares, the rude comments, or exaggerated reactions treating my sister like a pest, from ignorant, intolerant people. Just treat people with disabilities or special aid like any other person, like a normal person. That's all we (the person in question and the family) want. Please.
I took my teen autistic son to a local grocery store. He was standing in front of the doors for the milk cold case when a man walked up to him and shouted "Get the f*** out of the way!" And then I heard him say "r****d" under his breath as he went back to his cart. My son was terrified. But an employee saw what happened and called the manager. The manager approached the man and said he will not tolerate anyone in his store mistreating a disabled person. He told the man to leave his cart, leave the store and that he was hereby notified that he was banned from the store. As the man walked out, other shoppers that heard what happened applauded the manager. The manager asked if my son would be ok. I said he was shaken but he'd be fine. I was just worried he wouldn't want to come back to the store after this. The manager noticed my son wearing a Mountain Dew hat and promptly returned with a free bottle of the soda for my son. My son smiled all the way home.
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When I was in school those with special needs were in their portion of the school which was in the basement near the cafeteria. I had a teacher whose classroom was also in the basement, just down the hall from the special needs wing say how terrible it was that the special needs students were hidden away from the rest of the school because it didn't teach tolerance. I fully agreed when I was in school and still do. A lot of how people react to people that have special needs is simply because there is no exposure therefore don't know how to tolerate their differences. Honestly, I'd much rather listen to someone with special needs have a minor outburst of loud laughter than some a$$hole boasting about themselves. I'm grateful my son's school treats special needs students better than my school did, but we still have a long way to come as a society.
I have left restaurants/stores where there were noisy kids/people/employees because the racket got on my last damn nerve. I certainly didn't let on why, blame anybody or act like an a**e. They had every right and reason to be there. The "issue" was mine and I responded as such. Little kids on planes is a special kind of hell. If they had child free flights I'd damn sure pay extra to be on that one. Until that is an option I will simply have to STFU and endure mild irritation of my own making. I mean who the hell goes into a public space, let alone a privately owned business and starts declaring who can do what and where? Unhappy or irritated? Politely GTFO.
Side note, there are times when it's impossible to hide why you're leaving. If you take 15 seconds to make eye contact and smile or make a cordial gesture you can take responsibility and (percieved) animosity out of the situation. A lot of times parents will apologize. Just smile and say "you're fine" or some variation of that or interact with the kids. You don't have kids and not
Load More Replies... It's hard. It really is. To go to some places with your loved one and have people staring at them just because they act a bit different. My sister has autism. And sometimes she makes noises or movements, or goes from one place to another, or wants to see someone's face, eye color, bag, book, or anything they have that made her curious about... and my family and I have had to suffer the annoying stares, the rude comments, or exaggerated reactions treating my sister like a pest, from ignorant, intolerant people. Just treat people with disabilities or special aid like any other person, like a normal person. That's all we (the person in question and the family) want. Please.
I took my teen autistic son to a local grocery store. He was standing in front of the doors for the milk cold case when a man walked up to him and shouted "Get the f*** out of the way!" And then I heard him say "r****d" under his breath as he went back to his cart. My son was terrified. But an employee saw what happened and called the manager. The manager approached the man and said he will not tolerate anyone in his store mistreating a disabled person. He told the man to leave his cart, leave the store and that he was hereby notified that he was banned from the store. As the man walked out, other shoppers that heard what happened applauded the manager. The manager asked if my son would be ok. I said he was shaken but he'd be fine. I was just worried he wouldn't want to come back to the store after this. The manager noticed my son wearing a Mountain Dew hat and promptly returned with a free bottle of the soda for my son. My son smiled all the way home.
Load More Replies... When I was in school those with special needs were in their portion of the school which was in the basement near the cafeteria. I had a teacher whose classroom was also in the basement, just down the hall from the special needs wing say how terrible it was that the special needs students were hidden away from the rest of the school because it didn't teach tolerance. I fully agreed when I was in school and still do. A lot of how people react to people that have special needs is simply because there is no exposure therefore don't know how to tolerate their differences. Honestly, I'd much rather listen to someone with special needs have a minor outburst of loud laughter than some a$$hole boasting about themselves. I'm grateful my son's school treats special needs students better than my school did, but we still have a long way to come as a society.
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