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“I Feel Sorry For Your Daughter”: Parents Put Theater Above Pregnant Daughter’s Pleas To Be Near
When someone becomes a mom for the first time, it can be an exciting but also nerve-wracking experience because of how much there is to do. That’s why pregnant women often need to lean on their partners, friends, and family for support.
Unfortunately, in this situation, even though a single mom expected her parents to be by her side in case she went into labor, they refused as they didn’t want to cancel their evening at the theatre. Neither the pregnant woman nor her parents could see eye to eye on the matter at all.
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The poster shared that since her pregnant daughter was abandoned by her partner and had to live alone again, she was anxious about going into labor on her own
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The poster and her husband agreed to take their 36-week pregnant daughter to the hospital if she went into labor before her scheduled C-section
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Unfortunately, the couple had tickets to a theatre show and didn’t want to cancel, even though their daughter was anxious about randomly going into labor
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Despite his pregnant daughter’s anxiety, the man didn’t want to cancel his tickets, while the poster was on the fence about it
It’s clear that the OP and her husband were upset about the fact that their daughter had ended up being a single mom, and they knew that she’d require extra support. Since the pregnant woman had also moved back to her own home, she probably had to manage everything on her own, which must have been tough.
According to motherhood experts, single moms often experience much more anxiety and stress because of the amount of responsibilities they have to manage. They might also worry about the future and how to do everything on their own, because they may not always have the support of their loved ones.
The poster’s daughter also probably felt alone, which is why she had reached out to her parents for help. Even though she was scheduled for a C-section, she worried about suddenly going into labor and not having anyone to take her to the hospital. Luckily, her parents had agreed to be there for her if that were to happen.
It’s good that the woman had asked her parents to drive her to the hospital in case of premature labor, as professionals state that pregnant women shouldn’t drive themselves or take public transportation. In case the person going into labor has no support, they should hire a private car or taxi service to get them to the hospital.
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Even though the OP and her husband knew how anxious their daughter was about her pregnancy, they still wanted to drive an hour away to the theatre for a show. They also felt that since she was 36 weeks pregnant and due for a C-section, the chances of her suddenly going into labor were slim.
However, medical professionals state that babies can arrive at 36 weeks as well, which is known as a late preterm delivery. This can happen spontaneously, and that’s why moms have to be prepared with their hospital kit and loved ones on speed dial. It’s exactly why the pregnant woman didn’t want her parents to travel an hour away to the theatre when she was so close to her due date.
The poster understood her daughter’s point of view, but she felt like she had to go along with her husband’s theatre idea since he didn’t want to cancel their tickets. The reason he was so adamant about going ahead with their plan was that he felt their daughter was in her thirties, and she could look after herself easily.
The problem is that, since the pregnant woman had been abandoned by her partner, she needed more support from her parents and loved ones. Even parenting advisors state that pregnancy is a major life event, and it’s important for the family to simply show up and be a source of love and care for the person having the baby.
Hopefully, the woman and her parents are able to come to a compromise on this matter, otherwise it could definitely lead to some family drama. Whose side are you on in this situation? Let us know your honest thoughts in the comments below.
People were divided on the issue, with some thinking the parents should go to the theatre and others feeling like they should stay behind with their daughter
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Marnie 3 months ago
There is nothing wrong with saying "unfortunately pregnant" if the mother is not in a good position right now. It doesn't mean she won't love the baby. Just means bad timing.
Tabitha 3 months ago
Agreed. They know their child better than we do, and there’s probably a really good reason for that slip. It’s possible the parents could tell the relationship wasn’t going to last and that the boyfriend was never going to step up and commit to the relationship, and be a good and responsible father. They probably wish their daughter had waited to have a child with a much better man who would stick around and be both a good husband/partner to her and good father to their (daughter and partner) child, instead of jumping on the first pregnancy with the first guy with strong swimmers, even though he’s a total deadbeat in every other department. Or maybe OP and husband are just a couple entitled a******s. We don’t know because we aren’t a part of their household.
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Apatheist Account2 3 months ago
Glad we have the 111 service on the NHS. They've been helpful for me on a couple of occasions. FYI it's like an emergency service, but they put you in touch with someone who can help over the phone, or mobilise others if need be.
Norfolk and good 3 months ago (edited)
I love 111. A lot of people don't realise that 111 can often access your GP booking system and make you an emergency appointment. I got my mum an emergency prescription sent straight to the pharmacy on a Saturday evening by calling 111, because there was no way she could wait until Monday morning and the only other alternative would have been to take her to A+E.
Load More Replies... FreeTheUnicorn 3 months ago
You don't need to go to the hospital before the second contraction, if everything else is normal. But call your OB if labor starts, get advice. If you don't have an OB you can call on a Saturday night, call the ER or emergency services they will be able to advise you. And if something is going wrong, like hemorrhaging, you need an ambulance anyway. It's ok to be nervous but be reasonable.
Tyke 3 months ago
If I'd gone into labour on a Saturday I had no-one to call. You can't necessarily just ring up your midwife or GP on a weekend. I don't think OP is being reasonable at all. She's heavily pregnant with her first child, navigating being single and doing this alone - and simply wants her parents to be there for her.
Load More Replies... Marnie 3 months ago
There is nothing wrong with saying "unfortunately pregnant" if the mother is not in a good position right now. It doesn't mean she won't love the baby. Just means bad timing.
Tabitha 3 months ago
Agreed. They know their child better than we do, and there’s probably a really good reason for that slip. It’s possible the parents could tell the relationship wasn’t going to last and that the boyfriend was never going to step up and commit to the relationship, and be a good and responsible father. They probably wish their daughter had waited to have a child with a much better man who would stick around and be both a good husband/partner to her and good father to their (daughter and partner) child, instead of jumping on the first pregnancy with the first guy with strong swimmers, even though he’s a total deadbeat in every other department. Or maybe OP and husband are just a couple entitled a******s. We don’t know because we aren’t a part of their household.
Load More Replies... Apatheist Account2 3 months ago
Glad we have the 111 service on the NHS. They've been helpful for me on a couple of occasions. FYI it's like an emergency service, but they put you in touch with someone who can help over the phone, or mobilise others if need be.
Norfolk and good 3 months ago (edited)
I love 111. A lot of people don't realise that 111 can often access your GP booking system and make you an emergency appointment. I got my mum an emergency prescription sent straight to the pharmacy on a Saturday evening by calling 111, because there was no way she could wait until Monday morning and the only other alternative would have been to take her to A+E.
Load More Replies... FreeTheUnicorn 3 months ago
You don't need to go to the hospital before the second contraction, if everything else is normal. But call your OB if labor starts, get advice. If you don't have an OB you can call on a Saturday night, call the ER or emergency services they will be able to advise you. And if something is going wrong, like hemorrhaging, you need an ambulance anyway. It's ok to be nervous but be reasonable.
Tyke 3 months ago
If I'd gone into labour on a Saturday I had no-one to call. You can't necessarily just ring up your midwife or GP on a weekend. I don't think OP is being reasonable at all. She's heavily pregnant with her first child, navigating being single and doing this alone - and simply wants her parents to be there for her.
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