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Mom Sulks At Family Dinner As Son’s In-Laws Help With Baby, But He Bans His Own Parents From It
Mama bears, more than papa bears, are very protective of their cubs because they are well aware how cruel the world can be. Just like humans, but when kids grow up, parents need to loosen their hold on all their “protective instincts” and let them live, right?
This man felt annoyed about how his mom always acted overprotective even when he turned into an adult. That’s why he didn’t want his parents to be too involved with his kid, but this rule didn’t apply to his wife’s parents. When his mom found this out, it just sparked massive family drama!
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Growing up, the poster’s parents had a lot of difficulty respecting his boundaries as they were extremely overprotective of him
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He found this very annoying, so when he had a baby, he told them point blank that they will only be involved if he needs and to respect his wishes
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Although the same rule didn’t apply to his in-laws, as he thinks they are not overprotective and have more experience when it comes to kids
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During family BBQ, when his mom found out about it, she felt really bad that he was doing this to them, and sulked throughout dinner
Beware, dear readers, for today’s story has already sparked a massive debate among Redditors and might do the same amongst you. The thing is, the original poster (OP) tells us that his parents were overprotective when he was growing up, since he’s their only child. They never even respected his boundaries and his mom had a hard time letting him make mistakes.
This over-involvement and overprotectiveness caused many problems for him and they had many fights over it. He tried to clarify that he’s now an adult and she needs to stop doing that and respect his wishes, but it never seemed to stop. When he had a son, he straight-out told his parents that they need to back off and only help him when he asks for it.
They reluctantly agreed, but he left the decision about his in-laws’ involvement completely up to his wife. He feels that they are not overprotective, and have more experience when it comes to babies since they have 4 children. He found this arrangement fair until they all met for BBQ and his parents noticed how involved his in-laws were with the baby, and confronted him.
He told them the truth, and while his dad took it pretty well, his mom got very hurt by this. She sulked the entire time after that, which made OP feel really guilty about it. Although he still didn’t want her involved in parenting his kid, he didn’t know how to tell her, so he vented online, and boy-oh-boy were netizens divided by his story.
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Many folks felt that the poster was absolutely right to decide who gets to be in his kid’s life, especially if his parents are really as overinvolved as he says. Now, experts suggest that overprotecting kids can actually be bad for their mental health, as it literally robs them of their individuality and makes them overdependent.
It’s obvious that OP doesn’t want the same thing to happen to his child that has already happened to him. Many netizens said that his mom sounds quite problematic as she never understands that she needs to respect his boundaries. They argued that she will act the same way with his son, and it’s her own fault that he’s not letting her help with the kid.
Speaking about the other side of the coin, people felt that he was being extra harsh with his parents, and denying them the joy of their only grandkid. It has been observed that a healthy relationship with grandparents helps in the well-being of children. Folks said that he was taking this away from his own son, while also hurting his parents.
They also expressed that they understood that his mom sounded like a lot to take in, but what his in-laws were doing were basic things, and there was no harm in letting his mom do that. Well, it’s tough picking a side, isn’t it? Do you think there’s any common ground here? Also, if you were in OP’s shoes, what would you do? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below!
His story sparked a massive debate online as netizens were pitched against each other, fighting over whether what he did was right or not
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Nova Rook 3 months ago
I'm with the first reply above - why can the grandma not help with putting the kid down to nap or changing his diaper? What's the problem? he says he wants boundaries of one sort, which seems reasonable, but then it appears the actual boundaries are way too strict for no clear reason.
Jenny 2 months ago
She might be one of those who, when given an inch, will take a mile.
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FreeTheUnicorn 3 months ago
If this situation is really perplexing, OP has a lot of growing up to do and not much time to do it, as he's already a parent. But I don't think he's perplexed, I think he's just being passive aggressive and seeking praise, which is understandable given his upbringing, but also I hope he's not lying to himself or his family as he's lying to the internet or he's going to be an exhausting partner and dad.
Jonas Fisher 3 months ago
I have an issue that none of these comments raised: Why does he feel that he gets no say in his in-laws' relationship and involvement? Yes, they are his wife's parents, but it's still his kid. He's being too harsh with his own parents and too hands-off with his wife's family. It just sounds altogether like he doesn't know what he's doing, why he's doing it, or that he should be responsible for anything.
Nova Rook 3 months ago
I'm with the first reply above - why can the grandma not help with putting the kid down to nap or changing his diaper? What's the problem? he says he wants boundaries of one sort, which seems reasonable, but then it appears the actual boundaries are way too strict for no clear reason.
Jenny 2 months ago
She might be one of those who, when given an inch, will take a mile.
Load More Replies... FreeTheUnicorn 3 months ago
If this situation is really perplexing, OP has a lot of growing up to do and not much time to do it, as he's already a parent. But I don't think he's perplexed, I think he's just being passive aggressive and seeking praise, which is understandable given his upbringing, but also I hope he's not lying to himself or his family as he's lying to the internet or he's going to be an exhausting partner and dad.
Jonas Fisher 3 months ago
I have an issue that none of these comments raised: Why does he feel that he gets no say in his in-laws' relationship and involvement? Yes, they are his wife's parents, but it's still his kid. He's being too harsh with his own parents and too hands-off with his wife's family. It just sounds altogether like he doesn't know what he's doing, why he's doing it, or that he should be responsible for anything.
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