Woman Feels Pressured To Visit Single Dad Every Weekend, Stops When She Finds Out He Tracked Her

I'd contact a friend in another country, and post the AirTag between us.

Personally, I would have gone no contact when he refused to reveal its location - that proves ill intent. Then reported it to the police that someone has a tracker the car - I'm sure they would have helped find it then traced the offender. There is no "but its family" card when someone is breaking the law and spying on you.

He's controlling and borderline incestuous like the boy moms. Time to cut the cord. If he gets therapy then maybe we'd talk but until then he should be very lonely

I would've taken the airtag and put it on a bus or a train.

If OP had been 10 years younger I would have said "Eh, still pretty weird, but I can understand a bit." But at 32? Nah.

The airtag is on a magnet? Slap it on a bus heading in the direction of the city you just moved back from, do it after you've gotten into a tiff with him about it. Turn your phone off and go out somewhere for dinner and a movie. Just in case he stops by because you're not answering. Short version: Make him freak out because you "ran away" aka, moved. Extra points if you go to a resort for the whole weekend. Make him freak out thinking you're gone. Once you're back, tell him it's going to be forever if he doesn't back off and stop trying to control you. Personally, I'd go NC permanently.

Place it on your neighbor's car and make your dad wonder where you are going

There'll be other concerning behaviours from this guy. OP feels guilty about leaving. But it's time to leave.

I think this is more than controlling, you are an adult not a child. The scary part is when he refused to tell you where it was He could use some therapy,, but I.am.sure he wouldn't go. Set stricter boundaries This is not child visitation, you do.not need to go every weekend. Maybe once a month, if he follows your rules. Your choices.

This man is doing too much. He knows his daughter is a responsible adult and he just wants to be all up in her business because A he's a pervert or B he's a weirdo. Neither of these are acceptable so go to very low contact is smart and even smarter to go no contact for a period of 6 months to let him know that you mean business. And in that 6 months time he needs to be established with a therapist. I'm so dead...he would know that he needs to knock that weirdness off because it feels disgusting and gross, not fatherly.

I know someone who was given so little privacy as a kid she wasn't even allowed to have a BEDROOM DOOR. You can bet your bippy she's now insanely paranoid about that sort of thing. She refuses to even own a smartphone.

NTA but you need to urge him into therapy....sounds like he is atruggling with abandonment issues. While why he did was VERY wrong...he also sounds like all he his left in his life is you. Maybe consider family therapy as well so you both can work on some stuff

The OP is the way she is because her father is the way he is! She is protective of her privacy, why, I wonder...

I've read of controlling fathers who've kidnapped and held their daughters prisoners for years. With this type of obsessessive behavior, I'd be concerned he might resort to that. I would insist on counseling and make sure a friend is always with me whenever I saw him, if I were her.

For everyone saying "How can a parent be so paranoid about their child in their 30s", I think it's clear that he is way too dependent on her because she's all he has. He doesn't have a wife and she doesn't mention any siblings, so he feels that since she's the only person he has, he has to be overprotective (in her words; I'd say "controlling" is more apt). But guess what? The fact that he feels that way is his problem, not hers. He has no right to make it her problem, and he's driving her away by doing so. Going no or low contact would be good for both of them, because he needs to figure out how to depend less on her. See a therapist, make some friends, get a hobby. At this stage of the parent/child relationship, her life doesn't revolve around him, and he needs to accept that his life can't revolve around her.

If, when caught, he had rapidly confessed he had been stupid and was sorry and told you where it was you would need to contact Reddit and have most people warn you away from a dangerous man. But he made it easier for you.

look if i trusted airtags id put one on my almost 7 non verbal autistic son. but even then i would be upset with myself because he is his own person. as a normal adult (or so i assume) your father should treat you as such. its one thing to do this on a small child who is ill or playing outside without supervision but every different for a healthy adult. its called stalking and controlling. i was kidnap at age 9 in front of a police station. i have issues about knowing where my kids (ages 9 and almost 7) are and i know better than to attempt this level of crazy. talk to a therapist and stop seeing your dad every weekend recommend he see someone. and most importantly tell him if you ever find a tracker on your stuff again you are going to assume you have a stalker and will be going to the police and that you plan to charge whoever is stalking you after the police finish the investigation

I was just waiting for the YTA comments