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The day you walk your daughter down the aisle is a significant milestone for many fathers. It can be a bittersweet yet proud moment. But one man’s opportunity to do so has been taken away from him. And he’s regretting the decisions that led to this situation.
The dad has shared how his daughter begged him to let her have her wedding on his property. He was reluctant because he didn’t want his ex-wife and her family at his house. Not only has his daughter now turned against him, but his own parents have stepped in. The father has been completely sidelined, and he feels he’s made the worst mistake of his life.
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The average wedding venue in America costs $12,200, so it pays to host at home
It’s no secret that weddings are ridiculously expensive. Some couples go into debt just to tie the knot and share the experience with their nearest and dearest.
The average American wedding cost $33,000 in 2024, with the reception venue and catering making up around 40% of the budget. Of course, where you choose to get married will affect the price. Unsurprisingly, states with higher average incomes, such as New Jersey, New York, and Massachusetts, generally have higher wedding costs.
“I’m in the Bay Area where there are a lot of tech companies. Weddings here typically fall into the $50,000 range,” says Cassie Dresti, owner of California event production company the Los Gatos DJ Company. Getting hitched in Alaska could cost you $16,000 or less, reveals wedding registry site Zola.
The reception venue is often the biggest wedding expense, so hosting at home or on the property of a friend or family member would save you a pretty penny.
Wedding planning site The Knot reveals that on average, Americans fork out around $12,200 for a venue, but again, it depends on the location. “Typically, couples will spend in the $25,000 range just for the venue,” says Dresti of the weddings in her area.
And what would a wedding be without good food and drinks? So it’s no surprise couples are forking out crazy amounts of money to feed their guests. It’s generally the second-largest wedding expense for most couples. According to Zola, couples spend about 18% of their wedding budget on catering.
“For an average 2024 wedding, that’s about $6,000,” notes Fidelity.com. “But if you need your caterer to provide event rentals—think: tables, chairs, linens, silverware, glasses, and more—because your venue doesn’t offer them, the caterer cost could be higher. In some cases, however, you’ll have to hire a separate rental company and allot more from your budget to pay for it.”
Location is not the only factor that plays a role in venue cost. The day of the week and time of year also make a big difference. Peak seasons like spring and summer weekends typically cost more.
While venue costs are already high, experts say things look set to get even more pricey in the near future. Those getting married in this should anticipate higher overall costs.
“I anticipate venue costs will continue to rise in 2025 due to inflation, increased labor costs, and higher demand for premium experiences,” says Jacqueline Truesdale, General Manager of Beau Truesdale Wedding Venues. “Additionally, supply chain challenges affecting food, decor, and staffing may contribute to increased expenses.”
If you aren’t able to host at your own home or that of friends or family, there are ways to cut costs. An out-of-season wedding is one of them. As is tying the knot on a weekday. Cutting down on your guest list is another. Of course, you could also choose to elope and use the thousands of dollars you save for a honeymoon or your future…
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Robyn is an award-winning journalist who has produced work for several international media outlets. Made in Africa and exported to the world, she is obsessed with travel and the allure of new places. A lover of words and visuals, Robyn is part of the Bored Panda writing team. This Panda has two bamboo tattoos: A map of Africa & the words "Be Like The Bamboo... Bend Never Break."
Robyn is an award-winning journalist who has produced work for several international media outlets. Made in Africa and exported to the world, she is obsessed with travel and the allure of new places. A lover of words and visuals, Robyn is part of the Bored Panda writing team. This Panda has two bamboo tattoos: A map of Africa & the words "Be Like The Bamboo... Bend Never Break."
Not hard to imagine where she got it from either. Very gracious from his now wife, but excluding her would have meant to me I was uninvited, full stop. He gained exactly nothing, and lost 15 grand.
My immediate thought was that if he should have said yes and hired some security to be in the house and keep people away from any private rooms. That would have saved him $15,000 and protected his relationship with his daughter. It was unfair for daughter to be so awful to him but there must have been a lot of underlying resentment built up by his ex being hostile about OP and the fact that step daughter got married there. I’m guessing her mum was filling her head with hatred.
Not hard to imagine where she got it from either. Very gracious from his now wife, but excluding her would have meant to me I was uninvited, full stop. He gained exactly nothing, and lost 15 grand.
My immediate thought was that if he should have said yes and hired some security to be in the house and keep people away from any private rooms. That would have saved him $15,000 and protected his relationship with his daughter. It was unfair for daughter to be so awful to him but there must have been a lot of underlying resentment built up by his ex being hostile about OP and the fact that step daughter got married there. I’m guessing her mum was filling her head with hatred.
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