Niece Tells Uncle He’s Got Another Thing Coming After He Tries To Move Into Her House, Wife In Tow

Most people like traveling. Exotic destinations, different cultures, the thrill of escape. But absolutely nobody enjoys going on a guilt trip. Still, some folks hand them out like free brochures and, when it’s family, things get even trickier because you’re pretty much expected to go the extra mile.

That’s the exact situation one woman found herself facing after her uncle, the black sheep of the family, tried to shamelessly turn her house into his retirement home… with his wife in tow. Things escalated fast when she literally laughed in his face, though. Now the whole family is getting involved.

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You’re pretty much expected to go the extra mile for family, but there have still got to be some limits, or you’ll soon be taken advantage of

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One woman, who houses her frail mom rent free, couldn’t believe it when her uncle sent her mom a text asking to move in with his wife in tow

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It seemed the entitled uncle wanted to “cut costs” and expected the woman to be his sort-of retirement plan

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When the woman laughed him off, he hit back, calling her cruel and roping in other family members to try and guilt trip her

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Now her family is telling her she should have handled the situation better, so she turned to netizens to ask if her reaction makes her a jerk

The original poster (OP,) in her forties, owns a two-bedroom house where her mother, in her sixties, lives rent free. She also supports her mom financially due to serious health issues and a retirement on minimum wage. Living far away, OP visits twice a year, leaving her old bedroom empty most of the time.

Things went sideways, though, when OP’s uncle, in his seventies, casually texted her mom asking her if he (and his wife) could move in with her to avoid rent. The message triggered a panic attack in OP’s mom, so she stepped in to handle things.

When she confronted her uncle, he insisted he needed “family support” and refused financial advice. He bluntly explained he wanted to “cut costs” by moving into a home where everything was paid for. OP literally laughed at him in disbelief, saying she couldn’t be his retirement plan; that’s when he tried dragging his late son into things.

The scandalous backstory made his request even more absurd. Turns out he was an absent father, estranged from the son he now invoked. Still, the extended family sided with him, even though none of them could help, either. Now OP’s wondering if her reaction was that out of line, or simply honest self-preservation in tough economic times.

We think it’s fair to say OP’s uncle is a real piece of work, and an entitled one at that.  No wonder OP could only laugh. But what’s the best way to deal with someone who thinks the world owes them a favor? And how can OP sidestep her uncle’s guilt tripping?

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The experts over at VeryWellMind say relationships with entitled people can seriously spike stress levels and even wear down your own sense of self-worth. The best way to respond is by being crystal clear about your boundaries, following through with consequences if they’re crossed, practicing saying “No”, and encouraging the entitled person to problem solve.

In her article for SPSP, Emily Zitek points out that, when an entitled person makes an unreasonable demand, don’t cave; giving in could make them even surer their demands are justified. It also really helps to explain to them why saying no is fair. Seems like OP’s uncle needs a reality check, right?

The pros from Calm say guilt-tripping often shows up in close relationships. The person doing the guilt-tripping may not always be aware of their behavior, but it can cause big-time emotional and psychological harm to absolutely everyone caught in the mix. 

So, what’s the best way to deal with a guilt trip? First off, recognize the signs early; keep an ear out for common guilt-tripping phrases and tactics. Staying calm is also key; it’s way better to respond and not just react. Finally, respond with empathy, but don’t abandon your boundaries at any cost.  

While OP might be facing uphill from her family, the bottom line is that her answer had to be no, and her uncle’s tantrums won’t change that. This is why you plan for retirement, after all.

What’s your take? Do you think OP was too blunt, or was this wake-up call exactly what her manipulative uncle needed? Drop your thoughts in the comments!   

In the comments, readers empathized with the woman but agreed she should put her mom first and be the villain of the family if she had to

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