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“This Situation Is Driving Me Crazy”: Mom Vents Online About The Unfair Way She And Her Toddler Were Treated At Her Sister’s Home, Receives Backlash Instead
“This Situation Is Driving Me Crazy”: Mom Vents Online About The Unfair Way She And Her Toddler Were Treated At Her Sister’s Home, Receives Backlash Instead
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“This Situation Is Driving Me Crazy”: Mom Vents Online About The Unfair Way She And Her Toddler Were Treated At Her Sister’s Home, Receives Backlash Instead

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C’mon in, the water’s fine! There’s only a wee bit of urine in it!

For adults and children alike, swimming can be one of the best parts of summer. But taking the time to stop and think about what’s lurking in that public pool or water park might lead you to some gross realizations…

According to this mother, however, a little pee should be no big deal! After her three-year-old son, who’s still potty training, was informed he wouldn’t be allowed to swim in his aunt’s pool, family drama ensued. Below, you’ll find the full story that was recently shared on the “Am I the [Jerk]?” subreddit, as well as some responses invested readers left.

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    According to this mother, a little pee in a swimming pool never hurt anyone

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    So after her three-year-old son was informed that he couldn’t swim in his aunt’s pool, family drama ensued

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    Unfortunately, it’s incredibly common for swimmers to urinate in pools

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    If you’re anything like me, pandas, you wait all year until swimming pools are finally warm enough to enjoy, and once you’re in one, there’s no coming out any time soon! Swimming is relaxing, makes for a great workout and is fun for people of all ages. But when it comes to public pools, it is an unfortunate fact that there’s always urine lurking in the water. Despite how often we try to pretend it’s not happening, studies have found that up to 40% of swimmers will admit to having peed in a pool. In fact, one study even found that one 220,000-gallon, commercial-sized swimming pool contains nearly 20 gallons of urine. Does that make you think twice about jumping into your neighborhood’s pool? 

    According to the CDC, the average pool goer brings about a cup of urine into the water with them. And while there are chemicals, such as chlorine, in the pool to decontaminate the water, the CDC says that those are necessary for cleaning all of the inevitable dirt, sweat, gunk, etc. that we have on our bodies, so we shouldn’t rely on them to clean up urine as well. In fact, experts say that once someone has peed in your pool, the only surefire way of getting rid of it is by changing the water, which many pool owners go years without doing. And if that chemical smell that you notice when entering a pool gives you some peace of mind, it probably shouldn’t. The Cleveland Clinic explains that a clean pool actually shouldn’t give off much odor, and when we do notice the smell of chemicals, it’s because they’re working hard to attempt to eliminate chloramines, urine and other byproducts.

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    But that doesn’t make it any less disgusting or dangerous

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    Aside from simply being disgusting, urinating in pools can actually be dangerous as well. “When urine combines with chlorine, it forms chemical compounds that can be harmful to your eyes, skin and respiratory system,” urologist Neel Parekh, MD, told the Cleveland Clinic. The more we pee in pools, the more chloramines there will be present, which can have dangerous effects on our health and may even impact our ability to breathe the air around a pool. “Let’s avoid turning our pools into a biochemistry experiment gone wrong by using the designated restroom facilities, practicing good hygiene and not urinating in pools,” Dr. Parekh says.

    So if your little ones aren’t fully potty trained but will still be planning on taking a dip this summer, it’s important to minimize their risk of relieving themselves in the pool. As the mother mentioned in this post, swim diapers are not meant to hold urine, so parents should not expect a swim diaper to keep a pool hygienic. They will keep a baby’s solid waste in until they have time to exit the pool and get changed, but they are not intended to hold any waste for very long so parents must keep a close eye when swimming with their little ones.  

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    It’s important to take precautions, especially with small children, to keep swimming pools as hygienic as possible

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    Swim diapers are a must for any children who aren’t completely potty trained, but they’re not a bad idea for all kids who might have an accident in water, even if they wouldn’t have one in normal life. Being submerged in water makes many people feel the urge to urinate, even if they just did before getting in, so it may be challenging for young children to be able to control their bladders. According to US Masters Swimming, the temperature and pressure of water in a pool might make you more inclined to need a bathroom break.

    The cold water in a pool can raise your blood pressure, signal your kidneys that your body’s fluid balance is “out of whack,” and increase your urge to pee. Our kidneys have a similar reaction when we’re submerged under water and the hydrostatic pressure increases our blood pressure yet again. So when it comes to preventing accidents with our kids in the pool, it’s better to take every precaution and be safe, rather than sorry.

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    We would love to hear your thoughts on this story in the comments below, pandas. Do you think this mother was right to get upset with her sister, or would you have let her toddler swim in the pool? Feel free to share, and then if you’re interested in reading another Bored Panda article discussing swimming pool drama, look no further than right here!

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    Some readers were quick to inform the mother that she was in the wrong

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    While others thought all parties could have handled the situation better

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    Some assured the mom that she was right to stand up for her son

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    And others decided that no one was at fault

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    Adelaide May Ross

    Adelaide May Ross

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    Howdy, I'm Adelaide! I'm originally from Texas, but after graduating from university with an acting degree, I relocated to sunny Los Angeles for a while. I then got a serious bite from the travel bug and found myself moving to Sweden and England before settling in Lithuania about three years ago. I'm passionate about animal welfare, sustainability and eating delicious food. But as you can see, I cover a wide range of topics including drama, internet trends and hilarious memes. I can easily be won over with a Seinfeld reference, vegan pastry or glass of fresh cold brew. And during my free time, I can usually be seen strolling through a park, playing tennis or baking something tasty.

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    Adelaide May Ross

    Adelaide May Ross

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    Howdy, I'm Adelaide! I'm originally from Texas, but after graduating from university with an acting degree, I relocated to sunny Los Angeles for a while. I then got a serious bite from the travel bug and found myself moving to Sweden and England before settling in Lithuania about three years ago. I'm passionate about animal welfare, sustainability and eating delicious food. But as you can see, I cover a wide range of topics including drama, internet trends and hilarious memes. I can easily be won over with a Seinfeld reference, vegan pastry or glass of fresh cold brew. And during my free time, I can usually be seen strolling through a park, playing tennis or baking something tasty.

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    Seabeast
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know where this myth that "Lots of people pee in the pool" started, but it's simply not true. Most people will go before they swim and get out to use the toilet if they start to feel the urge while in the pool.

    Anyone-for-tea?
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes! I remember learning to swim better a lot later in life, when I was in a swim session with my friend who has competitively swam, he was bemused by me getting up and out of the pool halfway through, I said I needed the loo, he told me to go in the pool as “everyone does it”! It’s so gross. Also it’s gross when people don’t shower before going in a pool too.

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    Mad Dragon
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ESH The owner of the pool can absolutely make any rules they wish about who is allowed to swim in it. But she should have communicated that in the invitation ("We're having a barbecue and swim party, but just a heads-up that we have a no-one-in-diapers rule for our pool in order to keep it clean."). OP could then have decided if she wanted to bring her son or turn down the invite.

    Becky Scherer
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed. Unless it was specifically stated I would assume that as long as little had a swim diaper they would be allowed in the pool. From the title I thought maybe that was the reason - no swim diaper at all. So ESH a little, but I'm leaning towards the sister who should have stated at the invite that they would prefer only potty trained kiddos in the pool so mom could be prepared and skipped out if necessary.

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    Id row
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Forget the kid, I wouldn't let her in my pool since she thinks it's one, big communal toilet. How entitled do you have to be to think you have a right to go to the bathroom in someone's pool? I mean, that's like mentally ill levels of entitlement.

    rob
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    YTA Their pool so they can decide the rules of use. If not potty trained you don't want the risk of them making a mess of someones private pool. Not everything revolves around your kid and what they want. Perfectly fine to draw a line some where.

    ConstantlyJon
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They can decide what the rules of their pool are, but she should have communicated those rules ahead of time. She said that the kids could swim, but then singled out the 3yo day-of. If that was the rule, she should have communicated better.

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    LH25
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pool filters will not filter out pee. I grew up with a swimming pool, and keeping it clean and keeping the chemicals in balance is tough. I feel for the kid, it would be hard to not be able to go in, but I get the OPs point as well. As the youngest, he will have to watch his sibs do things he's not old enough too. I think communication and maybe a small kiddie pool would have been good.

    CP
    Community Member
    2 years ago

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    Then don't own a pool!

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    A girl
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Everyone" does not pee in the pool. Savages. We have a kiddy pool for pre-pottytrained tots. Easy to dump and refill and safe/fun.

    Tyranamar Seuss
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    These comments clearly show A LOT of people do pee in the pool. That's just reality. If it freaks you out or it's disgusting DO NOT go in a pool with kids in it. Trust me, it has pee in it.

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    Meh
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Say you pee in pools without saying it

    Pandapoo
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I guess some people love drama. I would have just run out a bought a kiddie pool for him. Those things are pretty inexpensive.

    Bookworm(she/her)
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think YTA. It's a reasonable request and OP was getting entitled

    DarkViolet
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    YTA. "Everyone pees in the pool" is a p**s-poor excuse for allowing your non potty-trained child in a pool. Save it for your kiddie pool at home, not someone else's pool at someone else's house. Kids (and slovenly adults, for that matter) quite accidentally do unattractive things in a pool. Those excretions will end up in an open wound or mucous membranes. The result: e.coli infection, hepatitis, just to name a few. How would you feel about YOUR precious bundle of joy being the lucky recipient of one or more of the aforementioned gifts. A preschooler's immune system isn't that well-developed yet. Think about it, long and hard.

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    Seabeast
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know where this myth that "Lots of people pee in the pool" started, but it's simply not true. Most people will go before they swim and get out to use the toilet if they start to feel the urge while in the pool.

    Anyone-for-tea?
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes! I remember learning to swim better a lot later in life, when I was in a swim session with my friend who has competitively swam, he was bemused by me getting up and out of the pool halfway through, I said I needed the loo, he told me to go in the pool as “everyone does it”! It’s so gross. Also it’s gross when people don’t shower before going in a pool too.

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    Mad Dragon
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ESH The owner of the pool can absolutely make any rules they wish about who is allowed to swim in it. But she should have communicated that in the invitation ("We're having a barbecue and swim party, but just a heads-up that we have a no-one-in-diapers rule for our pool in order to keep it clean."). OP could then have decided if she wanted to bring her son or turn down the invite.

    Becky Scherer
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed. Unless it was specifically stated I would assume that as long as little had a swim diaper they would be allowed in the pool. From the title I thought maybe that was the reason - no swim diaper at all. So ESH a little, but I'm leaning towards the sister who should have stated at the invite that they would prefer only potty trained kiddos in the pool so mom could be prepared and skipped out if necessary.

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    Id row
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Forget the kid, I wouldn't let her in my pool since she thinks it's one, big communal toilet. How entitled do you have to be to think you have a right to go to the bathroom in someone's pool? I mean, that's like mentally ill levels of entitlement.

    rob
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    YTA Their pool so they can decide the rules of use. If not potty trained you don't want the risk of them making a mess of someones private pool. Not everything revolves around your kid and what they want. Perfectly fine to draw a line some where.

    ConstantlyJon
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They can decide what the rules of their pool are, but she should have communicated those rules ahead of time. She said that the kids could swim, but then singled out the 3yo day-of. If that was the rule, she should have communicated better.

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    LH25
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pool filters will not filter out pee. I grew up with a swimming pool, and keeping it clean and keeping the chemicals in balance is tough. I feel for the kid, it would be hard to not be able to go in, but I get the OPs point as well. As the youngest, he will have to watch his sibs do things he's not old enough too. I think communication and maybe a small kiddie pool would have been good.

    CP
    Community Member
    2 years ago

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    Then don't own a pool!

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    A girl
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Everyone" does not pee in the pool. Savages. We have a kiddy pool for pre-pottytrained tots. Easy to dump and refill and safe/fun.

    Tyranamar Seuss
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    These comments clearly show A LOT of people do pee in the pool. That's just reality. If it freaks you out or it's disgusting DO NOT go in a pool with kids in it. Trust me, it has pee in it.

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    Meh
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Say you pee in pools without saying it

    Pandapoo
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I guess some people love drama. I would have just run out a bought a kiddie pool for him. Those things are pretty inexpensive.

    Bookworm(she/her)
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think YTA. It's a reasonable request and OP was getting entitled

    DarkViolet
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    YTA. "Everyone pees in the pool" is a p**s-poor excuse for allowing your non potty-trained child in a pool. Save it for your kiddie pool at home, not someone else's pool at someone else's house. Kids (and slovenly adults, for that matter) quite accidentally do unattractive things in a pool. Those excretions will end up in an open wound or mucous membranes. The result: e.coli infection, hepatitis, just to name a few. How would you feel about YOUR precious bundle of joy being the lucky recipient of one or more of the aforementioned gifts. A preschooler's immune system isn't that well-developed yet. Think about it, long and hard.

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