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Woman Stops Doing Chores, Sees How Long Her Family Will Last Until They Do It Themselves
Woman Stops Doing Chores, Sees How Long Her Family Will Last Until They Do It Themselves

Woman Stops Doing Chores, Sees How Long Her Family Will Last Until They Do It Themselves

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Chores are a sore subject at home even at the best of times. But during the pandemic… well, it can be a real source of tension when you’re seemingly doing everything all by yourself. From working from home while helping the kids study via Zoom and then tidying up the entire home while making dinner. It’s exhausting.

So it’s no wonder that some moms have had enough. One of them is Twitter user Miss Potkin who conducted a fun little experiment at home. She decided that enough is enough and stopped doing chores, hoping to see how long it would be before someone picked up the slack.

It’s fun, it’s educational, and we’d love to get David Attenborough to narrate the entire story below. Have a look, dear Pandas, and be sure to let us know if you plan to do anything similar at your home. Oh, and we’d love to hear which chores you hate and love to do the most (I adore doing the dishes but loathe vacuuming myself).

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    A mom documented how her family reacted after she secretly stopped doing all of the chores at home

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    Her tweets are absolutely hilarious and read like a mini-documentary

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    Her family have resorted to using whatever clean utensils are around

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    Progress, however, was inevitable sooner or later

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    However, there are plenty of other areas where everyone could stand to pitch in a bit more

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    We feel you, Miss Potkin. Empty containers make us anxious, too

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    Unwashed plates being left behind everywhere is a pet peeve of ours, as well as the Twitter user’s

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    It’s taken a while, but it looks like Miss Potkin’s family members have gotten the clue

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    There’s even been some progress in the toilet paper department at home

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    The changes at home have been magnificent. It just took a bit of time

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    Hurray! A wholesome ending to the story!

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    Bored Panda spoke about how to stop arguments over chores from spinning out of control with relationship expert Dan Bacon, the founder of The Modern Man. Dan was upfront that we all need to adjust to the unique situation (i.e. the Covid-19 pandemic that’s been going on for over a year) we’re in.

    Dan approached the topic by pointing out that some guys believe it’s ‘unmanly’ to do chores. However, he put their worries at rest. “If a man isn’t normally at home during the day and his girlfriend or wife does most of the cleaning and chores, but he is now working from home all day and is at home all weekend, it’s not unmanly for him to help out here and there around the house.”

    The relationship expert even opened up about his own living situation. “Personally speaking, I work full-time hours from home every day and my wife does the cooking, cleaning, and takes care of our twin baby girls. Yet, due to the fact that we can’t go out on weekends or catch up with friends during the week due to the Covid-19 lockdown, we are housebound the entire week.”

    He continued: “This means I have a lot more spare time on weekends than usual. As a result, I have done some of the chores when I’ve felt that I had some additional spare time (e.g. occasionally cleaning up the kitchen and lounge room) as well as doing my normal chores of taking out the garbage and feeding our cats.”

    In Dan’s particular situation, his wife never had to ask him to do the extra chores. He’s been chipping in on his own accord because “it doesn’t feel right to be spending all my extra time watching TV, playing video games, or talking to friends on the phone while she works all weekend.”

    The relationship expert said that couples need to adapt to the pandemic and do their best to solve any chore-related issues in a friendly way instead of attacking or blaming one another for not doing enough.

    “If you get into the habit of coming from a place of attacking the other person, the relationship and the love that binds you together will weaken over time,” he said. “Eventually, after many months or years of unhappiness and built-up resentment, the slightest thing can set off a huge argument that leads to a break-up.”

    Here’s how some people reacted to the mom’s thread on Twitter. Not everyone enjoyed the social experiment

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    Meanwhile, in an earlier interview with Bored Panda, Eddy Ng, the James and Elizabeth Freeman Professor of Management at Bucknell University, told us how the pandemic has unfairly affected working women.

    “Women, even those in professional and managerial jobs, continue to take on a second shift (caring for family) after the first shift at the office. We continue to subscribe to gender roles, even in many egalitarian societies,” he explained.

    Professor Ng said that this explains the “persistent pay gap and an underrepresentation of women in senior management and higher-paying jobs.” He added that during the lockdowns, men’s higher-paying careers have been prioritized over women’s which are seen as “supplemental income” even in Western countries.

    “Women reorganize their work around family demands, men often do not. Unequal division of labor is exacerbated when a family could no longer access paid help (COVID restrictions), and women will have to pick up the slack.”

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    Marianne
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some people criticized that she should communicate her needs instead of being passive-agressive. From what she writes, she communicated her needs over and over and her family didn't change their behavior. So what she did was totally justified and also hilarious. Also it should not be her responsibility to carry all the mental load. If there are dishes to be cleaned, she should not have to remind people to load the dishwater and also actually start it!

    Zaza
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yea and wtf is up with her having to ask him for "help"? When tf did chores become her sole responsibility? He can do chores, she doesn't need to ask him

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    Katy F
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For those of you saying she should've just asked the husband instead of doing this. She has probably been asking him for too long and got tired of having to remind him to do these chores all the time. Some moms just want contribution from others in the house without having to remind someone every day.

    Leo Domitrix
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We shouldn't need to remind them. it's EVERYONE's home, ergo everyone chips in ----- my mom taught me that. Never worked on my dad, but she did teach me, at least!

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    Lilith the Demon Panda
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "hey, babe, I'm tired, can you help with the dishes?" are you f*****g kidding me? hell no he can't "help with the *whatever*"... it's HIS dishes too, he's supposed to DO them, not HELP with them... that's the same bullshit as "babysitting your own kids" all over again

    Flopsy
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At first I was annoyed with her approach, but in the end I think it was the best. Her family started cleaning not because she told them to, but because they wanted the stuff clean, which I think will be more sustainable in the long term.

    Ozacoter
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I bet that as soon as she goes back in action they will stop doing the chores.

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    Carol Emory
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To the people that say "Just talk to them about it," when you've talked to them for years and nothing changes, it's time for a little action. Or in this case...doing nothing. When my parents split up when I was 17, I had no problem taking care of the house and doing the cooking because I spent half the day at school while my father worked full time. Fast forward to 19, and I'm going to school at night and working a full time job during the day. My father starts complaining that the dishes aren't getting done and the laundry isn't clean. He said "I work a full time job!" I said "Yep..I work a full time job too AND I go to school. I never eat at home because I don't have the time. All those dirty dishes are yours." He got quiet. "Well I'll do them during the week and you do them on the weekends." Ok. Not only did I get through...he started making breakfast for me so I would at least eat something before heading out the door.

    Hiker Chick
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I tried that strategy once when the kids were baby and toddler, after years of asking for help, making chore charts, and going to marriage counseling. My ex's response? "Make a list" so I don't leave off any areas of the house. Did he ever pick up a toilet brush? Nope. Did he tell me all the time that his mom was a perfect housekeeper? Yes. Divorce is so peaceful.

    Ozacoter
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My partner told me the same. I made a list of everything I did with the time that it takes so we could divide evenly. I let him choose the chores so he would do the ones he wanted. It lasted a week and never lifted a finger after that. We had so many fights about it. Its clear I need to do everything or get out if the house. He wont help.

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    Ozacoter
    Community Member
    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am ill and doing housechores is a nightmare but its still 100% on me. This saturday I fed the pets, gave one medicine, cleaned the mess that my partner did in the kitchen, loaded and unloaded the dishwasher, made TWO dinners, did the laundry and made bread. My partner was playing videogames. His reaction to my hard work was to lecture me about how much electricity I used that day. I swear that I will strangle him one day.

    Ozacoter
    Community Member
    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And before the idiots start critisizing, yes we talked about it for years. Yes I made a list of chores and let him pick. Yes I did stop nagging and leave him be. The last time that I left him do the chores that he picked the bathroom wasnt cleaned in three months... Nowadays women are still unpaid maids in the majority of households. Honestly I think that we should teach our girls about this and tell them to never live with a man.

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    blugeagua
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People need to start teaching their sons to do chores. Too many of them grow up and treat their girlfriends/wives like a second "mommy" who will just do everything for them.

    Ivy Ruonakoski
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh I am, trust. And I've reminded him just because grandma cooks cleans and grandpa does the yard work doesn't mean girls and women of his generation will. Unfortunately laziness runs in the family.

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    Deborah B
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it's showcasing that 'womens work' can be invisible. The rest of the family may think they are doing their share - not realising that the bulk is being done by the woman, and that she is also doing additional social work of monitoring and reminding and nagging for what they do do. This just illustrates how much she really does.

    Mewton’s Third Paw
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s not clear to me from this post but is this woman married / living with a partner? Or is it just her and teenagers / kids? I can’t imagine being attracted to a person who won’t clean up.

    Dilly Millandry
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I got the impression, from my admittedly quick read, that Irish is her partner.

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    Marianne
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some people criticized that she should communicate her needs instead of being passive-agressive. From what she writes, she communicated her needs over and over and her family didn't change their behavior. So what she did was totally justified and also hilarious. Also it should not be her responsibility to carry all the mental load. If there are dishes to be cleaned, she should not have to remind people to load the dishwater and also actually start it!

    Zaza
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yea and wtf is up with her having to ask him for "help"? When tf did chores become her sole responsibility? He can do chores, she doesn't need to ask him

    Load More Replies...
    Katy F
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For those of you saying she should've just asked the husband instead of doing this. She has probably been asking him for too long and got tired of having to remind him to do these chores all the time. Some moms just want contribution from others in the house without having to remind someone every day.

    Leo Domitrix
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We shouldn't need to remind them. it's EVERYONE's home, ergo everyone chips in ----- my mom taught me that. Never worked on my dad, but she did teach me, at least!

    Load More Replies...
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    Lilith the Demon Panda
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "hey, babe, I'm tired, can you help with the dishes?" are you f*****g kidding me? hell no he can't "help with the *whatever*"... it's HIS dishes too, he's supposed to DO them, not HELP with them... that's the same bullshit as "babysitting your own kids" all over again

    Flopsy
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At first I was annoyed with her approach, but in the end I think it was the best. Her family started cleaning not because she told them to, but because they wanted the stuff clean, which I think will be more sustainable in the long term.

    Ozacoter
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I bet that as soon as she goes back in action they will stop doing the chores.

    Load More Replies...
    Carol Emory
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To the people that say "Just talk to them about it," when you've talked to them for years and nothing changes, it's time for a little action. Or in this case...doing nothing. When my parents split up when I was 17, I had no problem taking care of the house and doing the cooking because I spent half the day at school while my father worked full time. Fast forward to 19, and I'm going to school at night and working a full time job during the day. My father starts complaining that the dishes aren't getting done and the laundry isn't clean. He said "I work a full time job!" I said "Yep..I work a full time job too AND I go to school. I never eat at home because I don't have the time. All those dirty dishes are yours." He got quiet. "Well I'll do them during the week and you do them on the weekends." Ok. Not only did I get through...he started making breakfast for me so I would at least eat something before heading out the door.

    Hiker Chick
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I tried that strategy once when the kids were baby and toddler, after years of asking for help, making chore charts, and going to marriage counseling. My ex's response? "Make a list" so I don't leave off any areas of the house. Did he ever pick up a toilet brush? Nope. Did he tell me all the time that his mom was a perfect housekeeper? Yes. Divorce is so peaceful.

    Ozacoter
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My partner told me the same. I made a list of everything I did with the time that it takes so we could divide evenly. I let him choose the chores so he would do the ones he wanted. It lasted a week and never lifted a finger after that. We had so many fights about it. Its clear I need to do everything or get out if the house. He wont help.

    Load More Replies...
    Ozacoter
    Community Member
    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am ill and doing housechores is a nightmare but its still 100% on me. This saturday I fed the pets, gave one medicine, cleaned the mess that my partner did in the kitchen, loaded and unloaded the dishwasher, made TWO dinners, did the laundry and made bread. My partner was playing videogames. His reaction to my hard work was to lecture me about how much electricity I used that day. I swear that I will strangle him one day.

    Ozacoter
    Community Member
    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And before the idiots start critisizing, yes we talked about it for years. Yes I made a list of chores and let him pick. Yes I did stop nagging and leave him be. The last time that I left him do the chores that he picked the bathroom wasnt cleaned in three months... Nowadays women are still unpaid maids in the majority of households. Honestly I think that we should teach our girls about this and tell them to never live with a man.

    Load More Replies...
    blugeagua
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People need to start teaching their sons to do chores. Too many of them grow up and treat their girlfriends/wives like a second "mommy" who will just do everything for them.

    Ivy Ruonakoski
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh I am, trust. And I've reminded him just because grandma cooks cleans and grandpa does the yard work doesn't mean girls and women of his generation will. Unfortunately laziness runs in the family.

    Load More Replies...
    Deborah B
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it's showcasing that 'womens work' can be invisible. The rest of the family may think they are doing their share - not realising that the bulk is being done by the woman, and that she is also doing additional social work of monitoring and reminding and nagging for what they do do. This just illustrates how much she really does.

    Mewton’s Third Paw
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s not clear to me from this post but is this woman married / living with a partner? Or is it just her and teenagers / kids? I can’t imagine being attracted to a person who won’t clean up.

    Dilly Millandry
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I got the impression, from my admittedly quick read, that Irish is her partner.

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