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Mom Notices Both Grandmas Want Alone Time With Baby, Doesn’t Feel Comfortable With It
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When a baby arrives in the family, the excitement isn’t limited to just the parents: grandparents, uncles, aunts, and everyone in between want a piece of the joy. But what happens when that excitement turns into overstepping?
One mother shared how she felt caught in the middle of her manipulative mom and her over-involved mother-in-law, both determined to spend alone time with her baby while bypassing her entirely. She opened up about the emotional tug-of-war, the struggle to protect her child, and the painful task of breaking family cycles of entitlement and boundary violations. Keep reading to see how it all unfolded…
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A woman shared how her mother-in-law constantly gave unsolicited advice and how both her mom and MIL insisted on having alone time with her baby
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Grandparents often go above and beyond when it comes to caring for their grandkids
Becoming a parent is one of life’s most surreal joys. But when you become a grandparent, the emotions double up. It’s a beautiful mix of pride, nostalgia, and pure happiness. Naturally, grandparents often feel like they know the ropes better, they’ve been through sleepless nights, tantrums, and endless bottles already. With that experience comes the urge to jump in, help out, and sometimes even take charge. But here’s the tricky part: just because you’ve “been there, done that” doesn’t mean you get a free pass to rewrite the parenting playbook.
That’s where boundaries come in. As much as grandparents adore their little bundles of joy (and who wouldn’t?!), respecting the wishes of the parents is crucial. After all, every mom and dad deserves the chance to raise their child in their own way. To really understand this balance, we spoke with Warsha Baid, a grandmother to eight who runs a boutique in Jodhpur, Rajasthan. She’s seen the highs and lows of being an excited grandparent and admits she had to learn when to step back.
“I still remember the day my first grandchild was born,” Warsha says with a smile. “It was overwhelming, a mix of joy, pride, and disbelief. Watching your own child hold a baby in their arms…it’s magical, but also emotional. You’re not just celebrating a new life; you’re reliving your own memories of motherhood.” Like many grandparents, she couldn’t resist wanting to share her wisdom right away.
“Of course, I wanted to share my experiences, my stories, and everything I knew about raising children,” she admits. “I thought I was helping my daughter-in-law by guiding her.” And honestly, can we blame her? Generations pass down wisdom for a reason. But as Warsha soon discovered, too much guidance, especially unsolicited, can quickly feel more like interference than support.
“At first, I corrected her every time I thought she was doing something wrong,” Warsha says. “But instead of gratitude, it led to fights. The atmosphere at home became tense, and I realized I wasn’t making things easier for her, I was making them harder.” This is a struggle many families face: the good intentions of grandparents clashing with the need for new parents to find their own way.
Warsha eventually had an important realization: her excitement was overshadowing her daughter-in-law’s joy. “She had just become a mother for the first time,” she explains. “Those first moments, the first hold, the first bath, are things she deserved to experience in her own way. It wasn’t my place to take that away, no matter how much I wanted to help.”
For grandparents, respecting a parent’s boundaries is just as important as showing love
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From that moment on, she made a conscious decision to step back. “I reminded myself that she will make mistakes and learn on her own, just like I did. My role wasn’t to correct her every move but to support her quietly.” This shift wasn’t easy, it meant biting her tongue when she disagreed, but it created a healthier, more loving environment for everyone involved.
“Now, I’ve learned to respect her boundaries,” Warsha says. “Her way of parenting might be different from mine, but different doesn’t mean wrong.” Instead of dictating, she offers gentle suggestions. If her daughter-in-law asks for advice, she shares options, never orders. “I’ll tell her the different choices she has, and then let her decide what works best. That way, she feels supported, not controlled.”
Of course, that doesn’t mean grandparents have to stay silent or uninvolved. It’s about balance. “Communication is key,” Warsha emphasizes. “Our intentions as grandparents may be good, but if we force our opinions, we only create distance. I’ve learned it’s better to listen first, advise only when asked, and always respect the final decision.”
Warsha’s journey is a powerful reminder for all grandparents out there: love your grandkids, share your wisdom, but don’t overshadow the parents. Respect, empathy, and communication keep the family bond strong.
In this particular case, both the mom and the mother-in-law clearly seemed to be overstepping some serious boundaries. Wanting special alone time with the baby is natural, but trying to bypass the parents? That’s a red flag. What do you think, was the author right to put her foot down, or should she have been more flexible? And if you were in her shoes, how would you deal with such tricky family dynamics?
Many readers suggested that the author avoid using any gifts given for the baby
Others shared their own stories of similar challenges with in-laws
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Spencer's slave no longer 1 month ago
These are the types of grandmothers who get babies ears pierced.
Nikole 1 month ago (edited)
I've noticed that my mom can overreach with my nephews (my brother is the dad), like she knows better. Yes, she was a preschool teacher for over 30 years, but I've had to tell her that she's not either of their parents and needs to take a step back. She's the kind of person who *means well*, but can be overbearing... Even now with me as a 45 year old. But I believe this is because she was parentified as a kid, and then my dad was kind of emotionally a***e. I don't know where I was going with this and now I kind of just want to sit silently and stare into space.
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KatSaidThat 1 month ago
I like the idea of leaving the stroller outside but keeping the baby inside.
BarfyCat 1 month ago
This is all so weird to me. I was so happy for my MIL's help when my son was little! He's almost 18 now, and he has such a sweet relationship with her! My mom, on the other hand, had zero interest in my son.
Anne Roberts 1 month ago
My MIL, a retired nurse, was my lifesaver when my first was born. ❤️
Load More Replies... Spencer's slave no longer 1 month ago
These are the types of grandmothers who get babies ears pierced.
Nikole 1 month ago (edited)
I've noticed that my mom can overreach with my nephews (my brother is the dad), like she knows better. Yes, she was a preschool teacher for over 30 years, but I've had to tell her that she's not either of their parents and needs to take a step back. She's the kind of person who *means well*, but can be overbearing... Even now with me as a 45 year old. But I believe this is because she was parentified as a kid, and then my dad was kind of emotionally a***e. I don't know where I was going with this and now I kind of just want to sit silently and stare into space.
Load More Replies... KatSaidThat 1 month ago
I like the idea of leaving the stroller outside but keeping the baby inside.
BarfyCat 1 month ago
This is all so weird to me. I was so happy for my MIL's help when my son was little! He's almost 18 now, and he has such a sweet relationship with her! My mom, on the other hand, had zero interest in my son.
Anne Roberts 1 month ago
My MIL, a retired nurse, was my lifesaver when my first was born. ❤️
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