This Mom’s Desperate Plea To Husband For Help Is What Too Many Women Are Going Through Right Now
Celeste Yvonne, 38, is a mother of two, with a 4-year-old boy and a baby to constantly keep her eyes on. And even though Celeste would probably like to stay in the kid-raising game without a substitution, naturally, sometimes it drains her energy so much, she needs help. Sometimes, however, the mom feels like her husband isn’t willing to step up. After nearly losing it the last time, Celeste has decided to write him an open letter.
“My husband and I talk about this topic fairly regularly,” Yvonne, who also runs a parenting blog called And What A Mom, told Bored Panda. “The reason I wrote an open letter is because I know lots of women facing similar issues. I discuss this topic all the time with my friends. I wanted to put it out there to start a larger discussion. I wanted women to feel encouraged to ask for help. I wanted husbands to know we need more help.” And it worked; moms all over the internet started relating to the emotional text.
Since her story went viral, people have been wondering about Celeste’s husband’s take on the situation. “He understands the bigger picture,” she added. “He doesn’t love the attention directed towards him, but he knows my concerns and we work on that daily.” Scroll down to check out the letter that started it all and let us know your thoughts about it in the comments.
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Celeste Yvonne, a mom of two, has been struggling to keep up with her new baby
With two little devils, you can get your hands full pretty fast
And as she felt alone in the struggle, Celeste has decided to speak out on Facebook
“My husband expresses gratitude so much more now”
“We communicate better about our needs and try to keep frustrations from building up inside us”
“Talk to your Partner. Tell them you need more help. Chances are, they’re eager to up their game”
Instantly, mothers all over the internet started relating to Celeste
Some, however, tend to disagree
Nothing says "I love you" like airing your dirty laundry on Facebook.
Absofuckinglutely right!
No doubt!
While I understand the sentiment, wouldn't it have been better if she had just given this to him as a personal letter/message? I get that writing it down may help and have more impact than speaking sometimes, but posting of facebook seems a bit too much. I completely understand how important this message is for her, I just think she could have given it to her husband directly instead of making it public...
I recently asked my husband to friend me from his facebook account. He looked at me, befuddled. "Why would I do that? If I want to tell you something, I walk to the room you are in and tell you?" Our adult working life was as a team of tag-team parenting/shift work. We both did all that was required during our shift at home. Worked really well, very effective method of birth control. ;)
She would not get attention she is seeking, then. And she does not seem like a loving person, either, by doing that.
What makes you think she hasn't done that a thousand times already?
The issue is the word "help". Dads should not "help". The parental etc. duties are on both sides equaly, none of the parents should only provide "help" to the other. Sure, men can't breasfeed. But that's it! They capable of covering all of the rest, so why don't they? I hate to see families, when both parents work full time, but the whole house and children are handled by the mom and the dad only awaits the dinner and then sits with beer watching TV, because they are tired... WTF?! Even if the mom does not work - I can't believe, that so many people, even other women, think othat housewifes do nothing all day long. Ugh...
Exactly. It's even worse when it gets referred to as babysitting.Oh the dad is babysitting the kids today everyone congratulate him. No it's called parenting and if you're not capable of doing it you shouldn't be having kids.
I cringe when I hear women saying that. My husband gets so pissed off he's sidelined in this way. It really is unfair for all the great dads out there to be labelled mere babysitters.
"They capable of covering all of the rest, so why don't they?" They do. This isn't 1970.
Nothing says "I love you" like airing your dirty laundry on Facebook.
Absofuckinglutely right!
No doubt!
While I understand the sentiment, wouldn't it have been better if she had just given this to him as a personal letter/message? I get that writing it down may help and have more impact than speaking sometimes, but posting of facebook seems a bit too much. I completely understand how important this message is for her, I just think she could have given it to her husband directly instead of making it public...
I recently asked my husband to friend me from his facebook account. He looked at me, befuddled. "Why would I do that? If I want to tell you something, I walk to the room you are in and tell you?" Our adult working life was as a team of tag-team parenting/shift work. We both did all that was required during our shift at home. Worked really well, very effective method of birth control. ;)
She would not get attention she is seeking, then. And she does not seem like a loving person, either, by doing that.
What makes you think she hasn't done that a thousand times already?
The issue is the word "help". Dads should not "help". The parental etc. duties are on both sides equaly, none of the parents should only provide "help" to the other. Sure, men can't breasfeed. But that's it! They capable of covering all of the rest, so why don't they? I hate to see families, when both parents work full time, but the whole house and children are handled by the mom and the dad only awaits the dinner and then sits with beer watching TV, because they are tired... WTF?! Even if the mom does not work - I can't believe, that so many people, even other women, think othat housewifes do nothing all day long. Ugh...
Exactly. It's even worse when it gets referred to as babysitting.Oh the dad is babysitting the kids today everyone congratulate him. No it's called parenting and if you're not capable of doing it you shouldn't be having kids.
I cringe when I hear women saying that. My husband gets so pissed off he's sidelined in this way. It really is unfair for all the great dads out there to be labelled mere babysitters.
"They capable of covering all of the rest, so why don't they?" They do. This isn't 1970.