Woman Says She Isn’t Hungry, Causes A Scene When Daughter-In-Law “Gobbles” The Food Up
Chances are, you’ve heard tales about difficult in-laws, specifically mothers-in-law, at least once or twice. There are plenty of jokes and movies lambasting women who feel threatened by their son’s partners, and at this point, it truly feels like a common practice.
Perhaps this is due to some of them refusing to acknowledge or understand that their offspring are adults who are capable of making their own decisions without their involvement, or maybe it’s a simple attachment issue – whatever it is, it’s never fun and can, frankly, make your life a living hell.
It’s relatively easy to tackle such obstacles when you and your spouse are on the same page; you might restrict communication or cut off the culprit entirely, but when your loved one sides with their clearly manipulative mother – this is when things can get a little trickier.
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You know what they say: “Sometimes you have to cut some people off to stay on”
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“AITA for not leaving my mother-in-law anything to eat after she said she wasn’t hungry?” – this internet user turned to one of Reddit’s most judgmental communities, asking its members whether she’s indeed a jerk for failing to leave her mother-in-law some food despite her saying that she wasn’t hungry. The post managed to garner over 10K upvotes as well as 1.8K comments discussing the situation.
Woman ponders if she was wrong to not leave her mother-in-law anything to eat after she said she wasn’t hungry
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The woman began her post with a brief introduction and explained that her family practices intermittent fasting, meaning they don’t eat anything after 5 p.m. However, it was then noted that she is not as restrictive during her period because her appetite tends to increase at that time.
Recently, the woman was craving a chicken sandwich, and to be polite, she asked her mother-in-law whether she also wanted one. She declined, and since the author’s husband doesn’t eat at that time, she only made one. After “gobbling” it up in no time, her MIL returned to the kitchen to find the plate empty, and for some reason, the woman thought that it’d be a great idea to hit the post’s creator with a snarky comment.
She exclaimed, “You’re done so fast?!” to which the author, slightly embarrassed, replied that it was her favorite. Some odd mind games took place later, as the author’s mother-in-law decided to berate her for not offering anyone a bite, even though she had clearly told her that she wasn’t hungry earlier.
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The woman continued bashing her poor daughter-in-law for not thinking to store some in the fridge in case someone did get hungry. She offered to make a new one, but quickly remembered that they were all out of chili, so she opted to go and buy some. Needless to say, her MIL said not to bother – however, the author insisted.
She went to several convenience stores and simply couldn’t find any. When the woman phoned her husband to ask what she should do, he advised her to go to a nearby store.
When she finally got home and brought it to her mother-in-law, the woman refused to eat it, claiming that she doesn’t eat takeout. She was adamant that she didn’t want it and that she didn’t want anything else either as she wasn’t hungry. She had just smelled the chili and simply wanted a bite earlier.
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The post’s author told her to let her know if she needed anything and ate that sandwich too.
Surprise, surprise, the next morning the couple woke up to find the MIL gone; she texted the man, saying that she wouldn’t be putting her foot in their house ever again due to the amount of “disrespect” the daughter-in-law showed her. Turns out, the woman did get hungry eventually and went to snack on the sandwich but couldn’t find it.
Weirdly enough, the woman’s husband was furious that she ate that sandwich and even demanded that she apologize. It goes without saying that the author lashed out, resulting in the man grabbing his jacket and leaving.
What do you think about this bizarre situation?
Fellow community members shared their thoughts on this situation
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"And why do you want a separation?" "Because my husband got upset that I ate a sandwich his mother didn't want"
2 sandwiches. Just a few hours apart.
That the MIL said she didn't want both times.
She already explained she has her period and gets hungry at that time of the month.
So? Your point?
MIL sounds like a crusty old b***h just looking for something to be angry about.
Can't the old cow make one herself???
Cut her some slack, maybe the old cow wasn't in the moooood.. :-D
Exactly!
Old cow probably.can't cook and too lazy to try
The Idea Many Have Is That If You're Making Yourself Something, You Automatically Have To Make One For Everyone. I Know The Feeling. They Say They Don't Want Anything Then Eat Your Stuff As Soon As Your Done. Now, You Have To Mentally Prepare Yourself To Go Back And Make Your Own All Over Again, Like I Didn't Already Put All My Love And Special Spice In MY Original Meal!! I'd Rather Not Eat Anything Anymore.
apparently not.
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There was chicken in the fridge but no chili sauce. Therefore there was no possibility of another chicken & chili chicken sandwich.
She went to the store to get more, so it is not like she was being greedy or selfish. Don't make it sound as if she did not even try.
Well, after chasing around multiple convenience stores then going to a takeaway place, I think OP had earnt that second sandwich. And after a response of "I don't eat takeout" and that MIL didn't want to eat the sandwich or anything else, how was OP supposed to anticipate MIL would change her mind a second time? As for saving a bite of the first sandwich, just in case MIL fancied a bit, nah, that is how food wastage happens. It sounds like there was plenty of other non-chilli related food in the house, so MIL was being a baby if nothing else would do when she felt hungry later. NTA.
Yeah, the "I don't eat takeout" definitely implies, "I will never eat that sandwich at any time in the future, either." OP was definitely NTA.
A cold leftover take out sandwich is almost impossible to warm up. It needed to be eaten right then. If she didn't. MIL wouldn't have eaten it and it would have been wasted.
And if she doesn't eat takeout WHY was she upset that dil ate the takeout?
Umm...because she's a hypocrite?
Being a hypocrite is more unintentional. They say one thing and do that exact thing without noticing the connection. She was being 100,000,000% manipulative and her momma's boy of a son fell right for it. I wonder if he's the youngest
Exactly!
Not a hypocrite, more like passive aggressive behavior.
Exactly!
Especially when she is menstruating! I remember all I wanted to do was eat something comforting, shower, and crawl into bed.
...sorry! Tried to hit "load more comments", and bumped the dreaded 'down vote' - then tried to "uncheck it" and it did another! Ugh... I upvoted x 3 (think the downs disappeared now) feel like that 'one' time snooping thru someones 10 year old pics on Facebook and accidentally hit that farking 'like' button when trying to hit the back button and nearly pee my pants, faint, and want to die at the same time! LMAO! Sorry again xoxo :] - (EDIT: sic)
"And why do you want a separation?" "Because my husband got upset that I ate a sandwich his mother didn't want"
2 sandwiches. Just a few hours apart.
That the MIL said she didn't want both times.
She already explained she has her period and gets hungry at that time of the month.
So? Your point?
MIL sounds like a crusty old b***h just looking for something to be angry about.
Can't the old cow make one herself???
Cut her some slack, maybe the old cow wasn't in the moooood.. :-D
Exactly!
Old cow probably.can't cook and too lazy to try
The Idea Many Have Is That If You're Making Yourself Something, You Automatically Have To Make One For Everyone. I Know The Feeling. They Say They Don't Want Anything Then Eat Your Stuff As Soon As Your Done. Now, You Have To Mentally Prepare Yourself To Go Back And Make Your Own All Over Again, Like I Didn't Already Put All My Love And Special Spice In MY Original Meal!! I'd Rather Not Eat Anything Anymore.
apparently not.
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
There was chicken in the fridge but no chili sauce. Therefore there was no possibility of another chicken & chili chicken sandwich.
She went to the store to get more, so it is not like she was being greedy or selfish. Don't make it sound as if she did not even try.
Well, after chasing around multiple convenience stores then going to a takeaway place, I think OP had earnt that second sandwich. And after a response of "I don't eat takeout" and that MIL didn't want to eat the sandwich or anything else, how was OP supposed to anticipate MIL would change her mind a second time? As for saving a bite of the first sandwich, just in case MIL fancied a bit, nah, that is how food wastage happens. It sounds like there was plenty of other non-chilli related food in the house, so MIL was being a baby if nothing else would do when she felt hungry later. NTA.
Yeah, the "I don't eat takeout" definitely implies, "I will never eat that sandwich at any time in the future, either." OP was definitely NTA.
A cold leftover take out sandwich is almost impossible to warm up. It needed to be eaten right then. If she didn't. MIL wouldn't have eaten it and it would have been wasted.
And if she doesn't eat takeout WHY was she upset that dil ate the takeout?
Umm...because she's a hypocrite?
Being a hypocrite is more unintentional. They say one thing and do that exact thing without noticing the connection. She was being 100,000,000% manipulative and her momma's boy of a son fell right for it. I wonder if he's the youngest
Exactly!
Not a hypocrite, more like passive aggressive behavior.
Exactly!
Especially when she is menstruating! I remember all I wanted to do was eat something comforting, shower, and crawl into bed.
...sorry! Tried to hit "load more comments", and bumped the dreaded 'down vote' - then tried to "uncheck it" and it did another! Ugh... I upvoted x 3 (think the downs disappeared now) feel like that 'one' time snooping thru someones 10 year old pics on Facebook and accidentally hit that farking 'like' button when trying to hit the back button and nearly pee my pants, faint, and want to die at the same time! LMAO! Sorry again xoxo :] - (EDIT: sic)