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Internet Is Split Over Italian Mom Winning Case Against Two Adult Children After They Refuse To Move Out
Internet Is Split Over Italian Mom Winning Case Against Two Adult Children After They Refuse To Move Out
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Internet Is Split Over Italian Mom Winning Case Against Two Adult Children After They Refuse To Move Out

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Sooner or later, most parents of adult children must grapple with the empty nest syndrome, experiencing a sense of sadness when their not-so-little ones grow up and move out of the family home.

Still, this isn’t always the case as one Italian mother has recently taken her two sons, both in their 40s, to court for being a little too lazy to spread their wings. 

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    The 75-year-old woman from the northern city of Pavia tried to persuade her children, 40 and 42, to leave her house, but the two have repeatedly refused.

    According to the mother, “neither of them wanted to know” anything about emptying the family nest despite both men having jobs, the Lombard woman told the local newspaper La Provincia Pavese.

    The Pavia judge presiding over the case, Simona Caterbi, ruled in favor of the mother, who complained about the lack of contribution of her two sons in regard to household expenses and chores.

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    The woman explained that, despite having jobs, neither of them cooperated with household expenses or chores

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    While children living under the same roof as their mother would be justifiable based on the “obligation of the parent to provide maintenance,” the judge concluded that this principle didn’t apply to the case given that both men were over 40.

    Caterbi has issued an eviction order and the 40-year-olds have until December 18 to move out.

    In Italy, the phenomenon of adults living with their parents isn’t that uncommon: almost 70% of people aged between 18 and 34 still reside with their mother or father, data from 2022 shows. A large portion of that population (72.6%) are men, while a smaller but significant one is composed of women (66%).

    The Italian woman said that “neither of them wanted to know” anything about leaving the nest

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    A study from 2019 found that, among the adults living with their folks, 36.5% were students, 38.2% had a job, and 23.7% were searching for one.

    These figures have spiked in recent years, partly due to adverse economic conditions and the struggle to secure steady employment.

    In the Bel Paese, the reality of adults residing with their parents is often a source of ridicule. A frequent term used to describe them, bamboccioni (big babies), was coined in 2007 by the Italian Ministry of Economy Tommaso Padoa-Schioppa to mock those wanting to live a pampered life benefiting from free housing and food.

    According to U.S. Census Bureau data from 2021, one in three U.S. adults ages 18 to 34 live in their parents’ home.

    Things are different across the pond. Young adults in many European countries are far more likely than their American counterparts to reside with their parents, statistical agency Eurostat data shows.

    The judge ruled in favor of the mother, determining that the “obligation to provide maintenance” was unjustifiable at 40 years old

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    In 24 of the 29 countries analyzed, more than one in three adults between 18 and 34 lived under the same roof as their parents in 2021. In addition to Italy, other countries that reported high figures were Croatia (77%), Greece (73%), Portugal (72%), and Serbia (71%).

    Scandinavian countries present a contrasting image. Fewer than one in five young adults in the region live with their parents, the lowest figure corresponding to Denmark (16%).

    The Pavia mother isn’t the first to take their adult children to court. Three years ago, Italy’s supreme court rejected the appeal of a 35-year-old part-time musician who wished to savor the taste of homemade pasta for a little longer.

    The young man alleged that his €20,000 income wasn’t enough to subsist on his own. In the ruling, the court determined that young adults don’t have the right to expect financial support from their parents.

    Most people supported the mother, making up their own theories as to why this phenomenon happens

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    Libstak
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    75 years old and they expect her to support them? If they had any honour they would be doing everything for her, cooking, cleaning, paying all the bills. Most especially they would ensure her good health and ensure she is regularly checked by a doctor and has all her medication etc. These 2 are complete monsters.

    VioletHunter
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, the people in the comments blaming her for her sons being like that are nuts.

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    Stuart
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How in the heck can the internet be split over this?? They are over 40!!

    CatLady
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm over 40 and live with my parents and sometimes rely on them. However, I am disabled. If I was capable of earning an independent living and having my own place, I would.

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    Vinnie
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    From the Guardian: "While an eviction order is rare, there have been cases in Italy of parents being taken to court by their adult children who still expect financial support. In one case, in 2020, Italy’s supreme court rejected the appeal of a 35-year-old part-time musician, who argued that his €20,000 (£17,400) income wasn’t enough to live off and he needed money from his parents. His case was rejected, with the court ruling that young adults do not have an automatic right to parental financial support."

    Debbie
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like elder abuse, or however you call it when children abuse their parents.

    Tabitha
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For those who are talking about multi-generational households, or adult children living with their parents until well into their thirties or beyond, stop yourselves, because neither is the case here. In multigenerational homes and homes where one child stays behind and lives, those children—-adults——are also working full time and supporting their parent(s), or at least putting a good chunk of their salary back into the house and all the occupants. If the adult child is married with children, both spouses work full time to support the entire household, and the grandparents help with home and child care. THIS is a case of two kids who are in their FORTIES, not working or even interested in working, not married, never “launched”, who are acting like entitled children, doing nothing but FREELOADING off their mother and using her as a built in maid and ATM at 75 years old!! That’s not a multigenerational household or an adult child living with and supporting their parent(s). Not. At. All! That’s two bums who never grew up sponging off their mommy and taking unfair advantage of her. Boot. Them. TF. OUT!

    Mary Guerinot
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Actually, the post said that both of them are working, but do not contribute to household expenses or assist around the house. I agree that they are freeloading and should be booted out though.

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    Judes
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd just sell the house and move into a one bedroom apartment.

    Karl
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Quite right - although she no doubt created much of this problem for herself by infantilising them for so many years. My mother must be spiritually Italian since my 45 year old brother still lives with her paying zero for bed and board. Me - I was out the door at 18 and glad to get away. I think this happens when parents make it too easy for kids to hang around, As a kid, you need to feel that living at home is cramping your style , otherwise you’ll never have incentive to move out.

    VioletHunter
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A friend of my mother's had her son living with her into his late 20s, not paying rent, not buying groceries, but eating all the food in the fridge and making messes. Guess why she didn't kick him out? Because she couldn't! And she was afraid he'd get violent.

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    Alethea Fletcher
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We have five children. Ages (now), between 21-29yrs. We moved house in 2019 to a property large enough so that the children could stay with us as long as needed while saving for their own homes. However, two children were, at that point, living and working overseas on work visas (ie, not permanently). Then. Covid happened. All of them moved back home, along with partners, (one with a best friend who needed somewhere to live during lockdown), and we became a 12 person household. This was incredible, and frustrating, but all the kids did become amazing friends as adults (the one silver lining of covid for us). That said, only in the last 2mths have have they finally started moving out. Two so far (well, four counting their partners). The others will be moving on oget the next year. This, imvho, is what parenting is about. Giving them their home for as long as needed. .... I am horrified by how those two men feel so entitled to do that to their mother. They have def outstayed NEED!

    Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I moved out at 17, I wanted privacy more than anything

    Libstak
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The problem with your argument Isabella is that mum is also a child that didn't ask to be born. 50 years ago, there was an enormous social stigma against not having children, women suffered this and they didn't ask for all the social brainwashing and judgements growing up in such a culture either. Finally, it's fine for them to live there if they, as adults equally share the financial, cooking, cleaning etc burden of living. They didn't do that, they abused her treating her like a slave to their needs and financially crippling her.

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    Isabella
    Community Member
    2 years ago

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    First of all - no child was bring to this world because child wanted to be here. it was a parent wants and selfishness. Second - it is normal in economy where young and middle aged singl;e people canot afford housing. In Italy it is even bigger problem due to tourism. And third - she wants them out now, but she will beg for elderly care in less than 10 years from now. Then they will tell her to f**k off and rightfully so. Should they do the chores and contribute? sure. Were they raised to do so? nope, as all italian mammas and nonnas do everything for their precious boys. That is all on her

    Libstak
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    75 years old and they expect her to support them? If they had any honour they would be doing everything for her, cooking, cleaning, paying all the bills. Most especially they would ensure her good health and ensure she is regularly checked by a doctor and has all her medication etc. These 2 are complete monsters.

    VioletHunter
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, the people in the comments blaming her for her sons being like that are nuts.

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    Stuart
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How in the heck can the internet be split over this?? They are over 40!!

    CatLady
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm over 40 and live with my parents and sometimes rely on them. However, I am disabled. If I was capable of earning an independent living and having my own place, I would.

    Load More Replies...
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    Vinnie
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    From the Guardian: "While an eviction order is rare, there have been cases in Italy of parents being taken to court by their adult children who still expect financial support. In one case, in 2020, Italy’s supreme court rejected the appeal of a 35-year-old part-time musician, who argued that his €20,000 (£17,400) income wasn’t enough to live off and he needed money from his parents. His case was rejected, with the court ruling that young adults do not have an automatic right to parental financial support."

    Debbie
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like elder abuse, or however you call it when children abuse their parents.

    Tabitha
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For those who are talking about multi-generational households, or adult children living with their parents until well into their thirties or beyond, stop yourselves, because neither is the case here. In multigenerational homes and homes where one child stays behind and lives, those children—-adults——are also working full time and supporting their parent(s), or at least putting a good chunk of their salary back into the house and all the occupants. If the adult child is married with children, both spouses work full time to support the entire household, and the grandparents help with home and child care. THIS is a case of two kids who are in their FORTIES, not working or even interested in working, not married, never “launched”, who are acting like entitled children, doing nothing but FREELOADING off their mother and using her as a built in maid and ATM at 75 years old!! That’s not a multigenerational household or an adult child living with and supporting their parent(s). Not. At. All! That’s two bums who never grew up sponging off their mommy and taking unfair advantage of her. Boot. Them. TF. OUT!

    Mary Guerinot
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Actually, the post said that both of them are working, but do not contribute to household expenses or assist around the house. I agree that they are freeloading and should be booted out though.

    Load More Replies...
    Judes
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd just sell the house and move into a one bedroom apartment.

    Karl
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Quite right - although she no doubt created much of this problem for herself by infantilising them for so many years. My mother must be spiritually Italian since my 45 year old brother still lives with her paying zero for bed and board. Me - I was out the door at 18 and glad to get away. I think this happens when parents make it too easy for kids to hang around, As a kid, you need to feel that living at home is cramping your style , otherwise you’ll never have incentive to move out.

    VioletHunter
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A friend of my mother's had her son living with her into his late 20s, not paying rent, not buying groceries, but eating all the food in the fridge and making messes. Guess why she didn't kick him out? Because she couldn't! And she was afraid he'd get violent.

    Load More Replies...
    Alethea Fletcher
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We have five children. Ages (now), between 21-29yrs. We moved house in 2019 to a property large enough so that the children could stay with us as long as needed while saving for their own homes. However, two children were, at that point, living and working overseas on work visas (ie, not permanently). Then. Covid happened. All of them moved back home, along with partners, (one with a best friend who needed somewhere to live during lockdown), and we became a 12 person household. This was incredible, and frustrating, but all the kids did become amazing friends as adults (the one silver lining of covid for us). That said, only in the last 2mths have have they finally started moving out. Two so far (well, four counting their partners). The others will be moving on oget the next year. This, imvho, is what parenting is about. Giving them their home for as long as needed. .... I am horrified by how those two men feel so entitled to do that to their mother. They have def outstayed NEED!

    Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I moved out at 17, I wanted privacy more than anything

    Libstak
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The problem with your argument Isabella is that mum is also a child that didn't ask to be born. 50 years ago, there was an enormous social stigma against not having children, women suffered this and they didn't ask for all the social brainwashing and judgements growing up in such a culture either. Finally, it's fine for them to live there if they, as adults equally share the financial, cooking, cleaning etc burden of living. They didn't do that, they abused her treating her like a slave to their needs and financially crippling her.

    Load More Replies...
    Isabella
    Community Member
    2 years ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    First of all - no child was bring to this world because child wanted to be here. it was a parent wants and selfishness. Second - it is normal in economy where young and middle aged singl;e people canot afford housing. In Italy it is even bigger problem due to tourism. And third - she wants them out now, but she will beg for elderly care in less than 10 years from now. Then they will tell her to f**k off and rightfully so. Should they do the chores and contribute? sure. Were they raised to do so? nope, as all italian mammas and nonnas do everything for their precious boys. That is all on her

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