Get Premium
Dark mode theme is available exclusively for premium users. Learn more about the benefits of subscribing.
No fees, cancel anytime.
Dark Mode 
No fees, cancel anytime 
These People Are So Done With Their Boyfriends’ And Husbands’ Incompetence, They Just Had To Shame Their Infuriating Habits Online (40 Posts)
No matter how ‘perfect’ your relationship is, no matter if you have the patience of a literal saint, there will come a moment in time when your partner is going to make you feel utterly exasperated. And it might be down to something small that they do at home. Something that frustrates you beyond all measure.
Our team here at Bored Panda has collected photos from all over the internet of the most hilariously annoying habits that some boyfriends and husbands have. Filling the fridge up with half-eaten jam jars and eating only the tops of muffins is just the tip of the iceberg! Get ready to have a good laugh, scroll down, and upvote your fave pics. Warning, if you like things extremely neat and tidy and everything in its proper place, these pics might make you feel deeply uncomfortable.
We reached out to Samantha Scroggin, the founder of the very witty 'Walking Outside in Slippers' parenting blog, to hear her thoughts on navigating chores and neatness at home, as well as just how important it is to look for compromises. Read on to see what she told us!
This post may include affiliate links.
#1
I Went Grocery Shopping, And My Husband Put Everything Away. It's A Blue Box, So It Must Be A Pasta
April Caron 3 years ago
This happens all the time in our house… most recently, gum put away with the cat treats. 🫤
RELATED:
#2
I Asked My Husband To Buy Some Cheap Plastic Drinking Cups So That We Wouldn't Break Them. This Is What He Bought. And No, We Don't Have Kids
Nay Wilson 3 years ago
These are the best cups I’ve ever seen and I want them for my own. I’m 37 with no kids but I don’t care. Give me the dino cups!
#3
My Husband Has Been Sticking These Rollers In Places I Can't Reach To Annoy Me. It's Working
#4
I Think My Husband Was Tired This Morning Because That Is The Dog Food And Not Coffee Beans
#5
My Soon-To-Be Ex-Husband Has Been Taking Advantage Of Local Food Banks "Just Because He Can," He Says But Ends Up Tossing Much Of It Out Because It Goes Bad
He (and I) can easily afford to buy food. I can’t tell you how disgusting and wasteful this is.
Littlemiss 3 years ago
This makes my blood boil. I know someone that does this same thing. Stupid thing is, they actually need the food, but he tosses it before his wife can use it and she refuses to leave him.
#6
I Picked Up A Fancy Cake For My Husband On Our Anniversary
#7
I Was Looking Forward To Having Mini-Muffins For Breakfast This Morning, And This Is What I Found. He Ate The Top And Left This For Me
Chewie Baron 3 years ago
Every judge in the world would rule in your favour if this came to a murder trial.
#8
My Husband Keeps Opening New Jars Of Jam Before He Finishes The Other Ones
#9
I Love My Husband. I Love Cheese. Brian, What The Hell?
#10
I'm Very Patiently Waiting For My Fiance To Wake Up So I Can Find Out Why There Is A Bite Mark In The Butter
#11
How My Husband Wrote The Date That He Opened This Orange Juice
#12
I Found My Husband's Stash Of Empty Wrappers
#13
I Asked My Husband To Seal An Envelope For Mailing
#14
My Husband Carries Doughnuts Vertically, And They Become Like This
whaaaaaaaaaa 3 years ago
No, again, this is criminal. How can somebody do this? We all know this is gonna happen if you don't carry them carefully. WTF
#15
I Asked My Boyfriend To Put Some Toilet Paper In The Bathroom
#16
This Is How My Boyfriend Packed Up A Moving Box With Kitchen Stuff While I Was At Work
#17
I Tore My Rotator Cuff, So My Husband Told Me He Would Finish The Interior Painting Downstairs Instead Of Me. Now He Says He's Done
#18
My Husband, Everyone
#19
My Family Members Think Towels Will Dry Like This Or On The Floor
#20
My Fiance Refuses To Finish A Bottle Of Coke Before Opening Another One
David Wambold 3 years ago
A) Mix all partial Cokes into 2 Liter bottle-do not tell him B) Open all coke after purchase to take out carbonation C) Throw out all partial bottles once a day (while he is at work)
#21
My Boyfriend "Washed The Dishes" And Left The Sink Like This
#22
I Get Mad At My Boyfriend That He Finishes Everything In The House Without Buying A Replacement. Here's His Solution
#23
I've Just Done My Business And Saw That "Someone" Left This. Yes, I'm Posting This, To Personally Call Out My Boyfriend
#24
I Found My Boyfriend's Glass Bottles In The Freezer Like This
#25
I Woke Up To This. My Husband Told Me Last Night "Not To Worry" About The New Shelving Unit. I Wasn't But I Should Have Been
#26
My Husband Is The Driest Texter
#27
My Husband Tried To Do The Laundry
David Wambold 3 years ago
Is he lazy or is it a trick? If he does it badly maybe you will always do it, so he doesn't have to. Not that I'd ever do that.
#28
Husband Attempted To Put The Silverware Away
#29
I Brought Home A Couple Of Groceries. I Asked My Husband If He Could Put The Pizza Rolls In The Freezer. This Is What I Found
#30
I've Been Trying To Tell My Husband That Our Oven Runs Hot And He Should Cook Things At A Lower Temperature For Less Time. He Just Doesn't Believe Me
#31
The Way My Husband Unpacked The Book Boxes
#32
Instead Of Putting A Bag In The Trash, My Husband Puts It On The Counter For Me
#33
My Husband's Version Of "The Kitchen Is Clean"
#34
Pettiness Level 100,000,00. My Husband Was Angry This Morning, So He Decided He Was Only Making His Half Of The Bed
#35
The Way My Husband Stacks Up His Used Coffee Spoons And Won't Put Them In The Dishwasher
#36
This Is How My Boyfriend Cuts An Avocado
#37
My Boyfriend Tried To Wash A Pillow
Lyenne Summers 3 years ago
Well at least he tried to do laundry. Pretty funny. Will he clean up the mess though? That's the important question.
#38
When My Husband Gets Mad At Me, He Puts Things Where I Can't Reach Them And He Also Hides My Step Ladder
General Anaesthesia 3 years ago (edited)
Sorry, but done in anger makes it hateful, not funny or teasing.
#39
My Husband Somehow Managed To Put His Cup Upside Down When Making Coffee This Morning
#40
My Boyfriend Made Croissants This Way
#41
My Husband Leaves His Takeaway Containers In The Microwave After He Finishes Eating Instead Of Throwing Them In The Trash
#42
This Is How My Husband Puts The Dishes Away
#43
My Husband Put A Plastic Cutting Board In The Oven
#44
I Came Home To A Smokey Apartment And A Boyfriend Asleep On The Couch. Not Even Sure What These Were
#45
The Way My Husband Cut This Pie
#46
I Asked My Husband To Make Sure The Kitchen Counter Was Clean
#47
A Partner Who Opens A New Jar Of Peanut Butter When There's 1/10th Of A Jar Left In The Old One And Then Leaves It To Sit In The Cupboard
#48
I Asked My Husband To Hang The Mirror Above My Dresser
#49
My Husband Always Forgets To Put A New Roll Of Toilet Paper, But Today - He Didn't
#50
When Your Husband Asks You To Buy More Ranch Because You're "Running Out"
#51
My Husband "Cleaned Up" Yesterday
#52
My Husband Is A Jerk. Every Cookie Has A Bite Mark On It
#53
The Way My Husband Opened The Cheese
#54
How My Partner Puts Away The Cutlery
#55
I Came To The Kitchen To Find Out That My Boyfriend Hung The Towel Like This
#56
How My Boyfriend Folds Socks Versus How They Should Be Folded
Lakota Wolf 3 years ago
"Should" is relative. There's no "should be folded this way" law for socks. XD I put all of mine into the drawer - I don't pre-match/fold them at all.
#57
My Boyfriend And His Buddy Somehow Snapped A Solid Ceramic Pestle In Half. Both Claims To Have No Idea How It Happened
#58
My Husband Refuses To Learn How To Cook, So He Made Himself Boiled Eggs And Naan Bread For Dinner
#59
My Husband Asks Me To Wrap My Own Christmas Gifts Every Year
#60
I Bought My Husband This Expensive Knife For Christmas. He Put The Knife Into The Dishwasher
#61
So I Let My Husband Cook Dinner Last Night. I Found This While Cleaning Up This Morning
NickTheDuck 3 years ago
He most likely needed ice and set the plastic on the stove absentmindedly
#62
Mom's Boyfriend Never Puts The Soap On The Soap Trays
#63
My Husband Insists This Is Normal
Llama_flower93 3 years ago
I have done this. And I reseal it with the tin flap. If it's you're own private gum who cares? If I'm sharing that pack with someone else I will not do that.
#64
My Fiance Refuses To Use The Remaining Portion Of Just About Anything Before Opening Another. A Continuation Of His Coke Bottle Problem
whaaaaaaaaaa 3 years ago
Ok but the fact he won't even finish the whiskey bottle is actually interesting
#65
How My Partner Leaves The Sugar After Making Coffee
whaaaaaaaaaa 3 years ago
Yeah that always happens, that's why you either use different spoons or put sugar first
#66
I Found One Of My Makeup Brushes In My Husband's Workshop
#67
My Wife Asked Me To Put All The Toilet Paper We Bought In The Basket. So I Did This
#68
My 21-Year-Old Boyfriend Made His First Pot Of Coffee This Morning
David Wambold 3 years ago
Now he can clean up his first pot of coffee. How can you be 21 and not know how a coffee maker works????
#69
This Is What Happens When I Leave My Boyfriend Alone To Clean His Tools. Someone Remind Me, To Never Eat Dinner At His Place Again
whaaaaaaaaaa 3 years ago
This is actually just really smart, I like him. Work smarter not harder
Add New Image
What do you think ?
Gabriela Cink 3 years ago (edited)
Everyone should live alone once for few years... to understand there are not fairies collecting thrash and washing dishes and loundry. And that things cost money and you want them to last..
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
Guys this BS is unacceptable. If you can't keep a place civilised please go live by yourself like a troll and stop torturing women, thanks.
Rens 3 years ago
Weaponised incompetence is never a joke. This is partly why I divorced my ex-husband and why I remain single after my partner died. He never did anything like this, I think he was my unicorn.
Strawberry Pizza 3 years ago
I'm sorry for your loss, Rens, but I'm sure he's smiling down on you xx
Load More Replies...
Seth Evans 3 years ago
There were some truly awful things here. Sad to see the selfishness. I think we're all sensible enough to realize not everyone does this, and it goes both ways. I don't feel attacked because it's focused on boys (can't call them men).
CanadianDimes 3 years ago
I think we can call them men - boys (actual children) are still learning how to manage things and should get more consideration and understanding when they don't know how to do things or do things incorrectly. Adults should be able to manage themselves and not weaponize their incompetence.
Load More Replies...
Elio 3 years ago
Mood. I've never lived with someone I was dating. I have had cool roommates before, but my last roommate was an a$$hole. Living by myself is bliss. (Well my mom's cat has been here now, but he's cute so it's ok.)
Load More Replies... LadyManx 3 years ago
I like that phrase weaponized incompetence. Many guys have realized if they do it wrong a couple of times, we'll feel that it's faster better to do it ourselves and then we're stuck with it. Once you find out they're like this, get your own dishes et al., only clean your own. Hide them. Leave their messes. Even if they mess up the coffee pot. You go to Starbuck until he cleans it up. Better yet, if you're not yet married and you discover this is what you could be living with for the next part of your life, explain it to them simply and clearly. If they don't step up, run away. They don't really care that much about you.
Bender Bending Rodríguez 3 years ago
So much incompetence and lack of common sense in one post.
️️Upvote faery️ 3 years ago
Where do people find these guys and how do they stay with them?!?! If you're that incompetent, there's no way I'm keeping you around.
Scott Rackley 3 years ago
Either it's weaponized incompetence or they're dumber than a sack of hammers, but I don't know how these women stay with either one.
Mel Rupp 3 years ago
So much here that is inexcusable. I hate people refuse to learn how to take care of themselves. My husband was never taught anything about housekeeping by his parents, but he LEARNED how. He is a great cook, he can (and does) clean, wash dishes, do laundry, pay bills, shop, then bring it home, carry it in, and put away the shopping. Because he's not a lazy, selfish, entitled jerk.
GhostlySnail (she/her) 3 years ago
Ok. Some of these are reasonable or funny. But the vast majority of these people need to reconsider things. As Sedona said, weaponized incompetence! Poor women.
Flávia Aguiar 3 years ago
None of these men seem fit to live in society... All those women should get a divorce
Leoninus Fate 3 years ago
a lot of these more look like they were not Taught how to do this when they were young so these people just Assume they know how to do them as adults
Katie A. 3 years ago
Having been married twice for 25 years, the only relationship I want now is LIVING APART TOGETHER. I'm an older woman, and I absolutely divorced my first husband because of weaponized incompetence, a term not known in the 90s. Remarried and was happy for 17 years with late husband, although his caregiving got to be a lot before he died. These days, I need my own space, my own peace and quiet, with another adult who also needs the same. I want lifelong, devoted companionship, but absolutely no cooking, cleaning, caregiving. Keep your standards high and do not settle.
Michelle C 3 years ago
I will now look at this post every time I start to think I'm tired of being single.
Alexandra Grey 3 years ago
I don't tolerate weaponized incompetence. I have an ex who tried to do the dishes badly once so I would always do them. I outright asked him why he was behaving like a child because I don't date children, so he could do them correctly or go home single. He tried to argue with me so he went home single. FAFO.
Joroches 3 years ago
Pretty sure you could come up with an equivalent list if you asked men to talk about their incompetent wives. I've seen some bloody messy women out there.
DDmaybeandor 3 years ago
I want this article again but just about partners and not focusing on husbands. I know I do my share of idiotic stuff too and this would actually be helpful to show my husband if it didn’t feel so much like a blatant attack on men.
Yevvie ART 3 years ago
tbh a lot of these scream executive dysfunction with undiagnosed adhd/autism, not incompetence. i'm female, primary cleaner, and subconsciously do some of these so eh
Andrea Kehe 3 years ago
Are all these woman still married to these completely immature and totally inconsiderate men... wow
Celtic Pirate Queen 3 years ago
I am so glad my husband is an actual ADULT. He's not perfect (which came as a surprise when I told him about this article) but these guys are just plain lazy and/or seriously stupid.
Janelle Collard 3 years ago
Thank you, everyone, for making me appreciate my (Boomer) husband more. Ya'll have my deepest sympathies.
Livingwithcfs 3 years ago
Are these men really as stupid as these post seem to say? Honestly everyone should be able to do the basics. A lot if these posts scream toxic relationships
CarpeDentum 3 years ago
This is definitely an awful lot of strategic incompetence. If you do something really bad, you'll never need to do it again. Mostly done by men because culturally they get away with it because "you know how men are!". It's b******t and if your man doesn't stop this after being made aware, throw the whole man out with the trash he leaves everywhere.
Monarch cat lady 3 years ago
Wow I thought my boyfriend was well kinda useless. I guess it's just mostly the male race and notice I said mostly not all!!!
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
facts are facts. I've met precisely one (1) woman in my entire life that was like this. Every other one had pride in their home and cleaned it up EVEN with a pig living there.
Load More Replies...
Gabriela Cink 3 years ago (edited)
Everyone should live alone once for few years... to understand there are not fairies collecting thrash and washing dishes and loundry. And that things cost money and you want them to last..
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
Guys this BS is unacceptable. If you can't keep a place civilised please go live by yourself like a troll and stop torturing women, thanks.
Rens 3 years ago
Weaponised incompetence is never a joke. This is partly why I divorced my ex-husband and why I remain single after my partner died. He never did anything like this, I think he was my unicorn.
Strawberry Pizza 3 years ago
I'm sorry for your loss, Rens, but I'm sure he's smiling down on you xx
Load More Replies... Seth Evans 3 years ago
There were some truly awful things here. Sad to see the selfishness. I think we're all sensible enough to realize not everyone does this, and it goes both ways. I don't feel attacked because it's focused on boys (can't call them men).
CanadianDimes 3 years ago
I think we can call them men - boys (actual children) are still learning how to manage things and should get more consideration and understanding when they don't know how to do things or do things incorrectly. Adults should be able to manage themselves and not weaponize their incompetence.
Load More Replies... Elio 3 years ago
Mood. I've never lived with someone I was dating. I have had cool roommates before, but my last roommate was an a$$hole. Living by myself is bliss. (Well my mom's cat has been here now, but he's cute so it's ok.)
Load More Replies... LadyManx 3 years ago
I like that phrase weaponized incompetence. Many guys have realized if they do it wrong a couple of times, we'll feel that it's faster better to do it ourselves and then we're stuck with it. Once you find out they're like this, get your own dishes et al., only clean your own. Hide them. Leave their messes. Even if they mess up the coffee pot. You go to Starbuck until he cleans it up. Better yet, if you're not yet married and you discover this is what you could be living with for the next part of your life, explain it to them simply and clearly. If they don't step up, run away. They don't really care that much about you.
Bender Bending Rodríguez 3 years ago
So much incompetence and lack of common sense in one post.
️️Upvote faery️ 3 years ago
Where do people find these guys and how do they stay with them?!?! If you're that incompetent, there's no way I'm keeping you around.
Scott Rackley 3 years ago
Either it's weaponized incompetence or they're dumber than a sack of hammers, but I don't know how these women stay with either one.
Mel Rupp 3 years ago
So much here that is inexcusable. I hate people refuse to learn how to take care of themselves. My husband was never taught anything about housekeeping by his parents, but he LEARNED how. He is a great cook, he can (and does) clean, wash dishes, do laundry, pay bills, shop, then bring it home, carry it in, and put away the shopping. Because he's not a lazy, selfish, entitled jerk.
GhostlySnail (she/her) 3 years ago
Ok. Some of these are reasonable or funny. But the vast majority of these people need to reconsider things. As Sedona said, weaponized incompetence! Poor women.
Flávia Aguiar 3 years ago
None of these men seem fit to live in society... All those women should get a divorce
Leoninus Fate 3 years ago
a lot of these more look like they were not Taught how to do this when they were young so these people just Assume they know how to do them as adults
Katie A. 3 years ago
Having been married twice for 25 years, the only relationship I want now is LIVING APART TOGETHER. I'm an older woman, and I absolutely divorced my first husband because of weaponized incompetence, a term not known in the 90s. Remarried and was happy for 17 years with late husband, although his caregiving got to be a lot before he died. These days, I need my own space, my own peace and quiet, with another adult who also needs the same. I want lifelong, devoted companionship, but absolutely no cooking, cleaning, caregiving. Keep your standards high and do not settle.
Michelle C 3 years ago
I will now look at this post every time I start to think I'm tired of being single.
Alexandra Grey 3 years ago
I don't tolerate weaponized incompetence. I have an ex who tried to do the dishes badly once so I would always do them. I outright asked him why he was behaving like a child because I don't date children, so he could do them correctly or go home single. He tried to argue with me so he went home single. FAFO.
Joroches 3 years ago
Pretty sure you could come up with an equivalent list if you asked men to talk about their incompetent wives. I've seen some bloody messy women out there.
DDmaybeandor 3 years ago
I want this article again but just about partners and not focusing on husbands. I know I do my share of idiotic stuff too and this would actually be helpful to show my husband if it didn’t feel so much like a blatant attack on men.
Yevvie ART 3 years ago
tbh a lot of these scream executive dysfunction with undiagnosed adhd/autism, not incompetence. i'm female, primary cleaner, and subconsciously do some of these so eh
Andrea Kehe 3 years ago
Are all these woman still married to these completely immature and totally inconsiderate men... wow
Celtic Pirate Queen 3 years ago
I am so glad my husband is an actual ADULT. He's not perfect (which came as a surprise when I told him about this article) but these guys are just plain lazy and/or seriously stupid.
Janelle Collard 3 years ago
Thank you, everyone, for making me appreciate my (Boomer) husband more. Ya'll have my deepest sympathies.
Livingwithcfs 3 years ago
Are these men really as stupid as these post seem to say? Honestly everyone should be able to do the basics. A lot if these posts scream toxic relationships
CarpeDentum 3 years ago
This is definitely an awful lot of strategic incompetence. If you do something really bad, you'll never need to do it again. Mostly done by men because culturally they get away with it because "you know how men are!". It's b******t and if your man doesn't stop this after being made aware, throw the whole man out with the trash he leaves everywhere.
Monarch cat lady 3 years ago
Wow I thought my boyfriend was well kinda useless. I guess it's just mostly the male race and notice I said mostly not all!!!
censorshipsucks 3 years ago
facts are facts. I've met precisely one (1) woman in my entire life that was like this. Every other one had pride in their home and cleaned it up EVEN with a pig living there.
Load More Replies... 
Related on Bored Panda
