Woman Allows Husband’s Mistress To Think He Owns Her Assets, Gets Called A “Douche” By Friend
One devastating experience commonly shared in relationships is infidelity. It’s a deep betrayal, often accompanied by disrespect and a violation of trust. Imagine: your partner not only admits to loving someone else but flaunts it by bringing them into your shared home, even claiming ownership of your possessions. This Reddit user shared her story about how her husband announced to her that he was in love with someone else and brought the woman into their home while claiming her property was his.
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Infidelity is enough to shatter an entire relationship
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This poster’s “husband” suddenly announced to her that he was in love with someone else
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Something his mistress didn’t know was that he lied to her about the assets he owns, passing off the poster’s property as his
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Her best friend berated her for not telling the mistress about this revelation
The poster and her “husband” in question had been together for the past 14 years, although they weren’t legally married. One day, he revealed he was in love with someone else. Much to the poster’s surprise, she couldn’t care less, likely because her love for him was contingent on it being reciprocated. The moment he mentioned feelings for someone else, her love ceased to exist.
The husband, however, didn’t want a separation but proposed an open marriage. She refused and ended the relationship on the spot. A couple of days later, she came home to find his mistress there. She confronted them, stating she never wanted to see the mistress in her house again or she would call the police.
As the mistress left, she berated her partner for not kicking the author out yet. He tried to calm her down and urged her to quiet her voice. When she left, he came to the author, apologizing for overhearing and assuring her they hadn’t had sex there. He claimed the mistress’s visit was because he was working from home that day. The author wasn’t convinced. She told him he had until the end of March to move out and find somewhere else to stay on weekends. She changed the locks the next morning, effectively barring him from the house during work hours.
However, curiosity about the mistress’s words led the author to check her Instagram. Apparently, the mistress believed the author’s ex was rich, owning the author’s apartment, her parents’ summer house, and a boat. When the author told her best friend about this revelation, the friend criticized her for not correcting the mistress’s misconceptions. The friend even demanded the author share the mistress’s username to warn her, calling the author a “bigger douche” for refusing.
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She even demanded the poster give her the mistress’ username so she could warn her
Verywell Mind notes the importance of self-care when dealing with a cheating partner. You might experience physical stress reactions like nausea, sleep problems, difficulty concentrating, and appetite changes. After the initial shock, try to eat healthy, maintain a schedule, sleep regularly, exercise, drink plenty of water, and engage in activities you enjoy. Blaming yourself is common, but as Bride points out, you’re not responsible for your partner’s actions. While self-reflection can be beneficial, harsh self-criticism hinders healing. Place the blame on the cheater and focus on your own well-being.
The poster was clear about her stance. Upon learning the truth, she ended the relationship, knowing what she wanted for herself. Brides notes that moving on requires taking charge of your life. Consider whether you want to break up or work on the relationship. Weigh factors like: has the cheating stopped, has honesty returned, are there more positives than negatives, and can trust be rebuilt? There are no right or wrong answers, but these questions can offer clarity.
HackSpirit emphasizes the importance of empathy and compassion when supporting a friend who has been cheated on. If you haven’t personally experienced such a betrayal, don’t claim to understand their pain. Avoid telling them what to do. They need a listening ear for their heartache. As they express their feelings, they’ll gradually begin to process them internally. This allows them to gain clarity and make their own decisions.
While you might imagine your own response if you were in their situation, remember that their experience is unique, and they deserve to make their own choices. Be honest. Tell them you can’t fully grasp the depth of their devastation, but you’re there to listen and support them.
People in the comment section were very shocked and were surprised at the reaction from the best friend, with some questioning the relationship the best friend had with the man.
Internet commenters were shook at her best friend’s reaction, with some telling her to get rid of the best friend
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The friend has a curious loyalty to a woman she has never met who has been knobbing her best friend’s partner for an extended period. Time to bin the friend.
Maybe the friend had been in the mistress' shoes at some point? Not with OP's husband maybe, but her being in a similar situation could explain her reaction.
Load More Replies...SUPER sketchy friend. Something is up with her, maybe she had her eye on the ex?
I feel like if that was the case she'd be happy seeing him break up, then break up a second time. I feel more like she's putting herself in the cheaters shoes and saying "well I'd want to know". Which is understandable but weird.
Load More Replies...Most real friends would find the situation mistress was in to be less than she deserves for knowingly getting with a guy in a relationship. OP should move on from both of them.
That she's giving him til March to move out when he has a mistress is too kind. Having a mistress means having a place to go. Considering the stakes - and not knowing what the mistress is capable of - I would not feel safe until he's gone and cannot be there with anyone else unless trespassing.
Load More Replies...I don’t think I’m the only one who will have this opinion of the alleged friend. There are only 2 possible reasons for her feelings on this. Either she has been in the position of the new girlfriend and felt like she should have been given the information, or more likely she wants the new girlfriend to know so that she’ll dump him and she can offer him ‘comfort’. Either way she’s no friend.
OP confronted and ditched the "best friend" and ex has moved out (with help from OPs dad!) - update is here if anyones interested: https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/s/k5nqLZadfy
She knew he was married. Therefore she gets absolutely no sympathy, empathy or respect. Let her find out the hard way. After she's wasted years on a douche that she can't get back either. Especially bc all of those nice shiny things he's been flaunting around her are all gone now! So it's way better that he has to come clean than you do it for him. Also, make sure you go change the cabin locks too. I'd definitely add a ring doorbell there if you don't have cameras already. You KNOW he's going to take her there. Also, f**k ur friend. She sounds like an idiot. Also, your ex is upset that you're not absolutely destroyed by this. That's why he brought his little play thing over. He wanted to get a rise out of you. Lol. He's more bothered than you are. Let it stay that way. He did you a favor. When you move on w/ someone that he feels threatened by, it will be even more satisfying. Not saying you have to rub it in his face. But he will be SM stalking u. Also, he's going to come crawling back
In any situation where a married or seriously involved person has an affair, all the blame should be on the cheater. The "other person" is not the one cheating on you, your partner is. And there is no way to know exactly what lies the cheater has told. "My wife doesn't understand me" "We're separated" "No, I'm not involved with anyone right now.". I get sick of people blaming the other. Put the blame where it belongs. On the cheater.
I think maybe this relationship was weighing you down & it's now off your shoulders, relief, happiness & freedom to follow. Your friend in NOT your friend period, maybe she was the "other woman" in a similar situation. What other reason would there be? Let the "side-piece" find out about Romeo in her own time. That would be my revenge, the kind that's best served cold, heehee.
I'm not sure where she's posting from, but many places (most US states, at least some Canadian provinces, at least a few EU and UK countries) you can't just evict someone. 11 years of cohabiting, he is entitled to access to the house, and possibly palimony payments in the future. Just because you aren't married doens mean he is without legal recourse. This is an established partnership and a split is very much like a divorce. From a legal point of view, don't say anything to the new partner, and if you do, have a witness that is not the ex. Best to avoid contact.
It really does depend on where you live. In my US state, there are laws about common-law marriage. One key part is that you have to represent yourself as being husband and wife.
Load More Replies...I'd pay to see the mistress' face when he has to ask if he can live with her
The friend has a curious loyalty to a woman she has never met who has been knobbing her best friend’s partner for an extended period. Time to bin the friend.
Maybe the friend had been in the mistress' shoes at some point? Not with OP's husband maybe, but her being in a similar situation could explain her reaction.
Load More Replies...SUPER sketchy friend. Something is up with her, maybe she had her eye on the ex?
I feel like if that was the case she'd be happy seeing him break up, then break up a second time. I feel more like she's putting herself in the cheaters shoes and saying "well I'd want to know". Which is understandable but weird.
Load More Replies...Most real friends would find the situation mistress was in to be less than she deserves for knowingly getting with a guy in a relationship. OP should move on from both of them.
That she's giving him til March to move out when he has a mistress is too kind. Having a mistress means having a place to go. Considering the stakes - and not knowing what the mistress is capable of - I would not feel safe until he's gone and cannot be there with anyone else unless trespassing.
Load More Replies...I don’t think I’m the only one who will have this opinion of the alleged friend. There are only 2 possible reasons for her feelings on this. Either she has been in the position of the new girlfriend and felt like she should have been given the information, or more likely she wants the new girlfriend to know so that she’ll dump him and she can offer him ‘comfort’. Either way she’s no friend.
OP confronted and ditched the "best friend" and ex has moved out (with help from OPs dad!) - update is here if anyones interested: https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/s/k5nqLZadfy
She knew he was married. Therefore she gets absolutely no sympathy, empathy or respect. Let her find out the hard way. After she's wasted years on a douche that she can't get back either. Especially bc all of those nice shiny things he's been flaunting around her are all gone now! So it's way better that he has to come clean than you do it for him. Also, make sure you go change the cabin locks too. I'd definitely add a ring doorbell there if you don't have cameras already. You KNOW he's going to take her there. Also, f**k ur friend. She sounds like an idiot. Also, your ex is upset that you're not absolutely destroyed by this. That's why he brought his little play thing over. He wanted to get a rise out of you. Lol. He's more bothered than you are. Let it stay that way. He did you a favor. When you move on w/ someone that he feels threatened by, it will be even more satisfying. Not saying you have to rub it in his face. But he will be SM stalking u. Also, he's going to come crawling back
In any situation where a married or seriously involved person has an affair, all the blame should be on the cheater. The "other person" is not the one cheating on you, your partner is. And there is no way to know exactly what lies the cheater has told. "My wife doesn't understand me" "We're separated" "No, I'm not involved with anyone right now.". I get sick of people blaming the other. Put the blame where it belongs. On the cheater.
I think maybe this relationship was weighing you down & it's now off your shoulders, relief, happiness & freedom to follow. Your friend in NOT your friend period, maybe she was the "other woman" in a similar situation. What other reason would there be? Let the "side-piece" find out about Romeo in her own time. That would be my revenge, the kind that's best served cold, heehee.
I'm not sure where she's posting from, but many places (most US states, at least some Canadian provinces, at least a few EU and UK countries) you can't just evict someone. 11 years of cohabiting, he is entitled to access to the house, and possibly palimony payments in the future. Just because you aren't married doens mean he is without legal recourse. This is an established partnership and a split is very much like a divorce. From a legal point of view, don't say anything to the new partner, and if you do, have a witness that is not the ex. Best to avoid contact.
It really does depend on where you live. In my US state, there are laws about common-law marriage. One key part is that you have to represent yourself as being husband and wife.
Load More Replies...I'd pay to see the mistress' face when he has to ask if he can live with her



























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