Many parents like their child being cared for in their own home. So does Reddit user Flashy_Guess7973. However, after the mother found the nanny of her dreams, her husband probably also started dreaming of her as his behavior around the woman grew increasingly infatuated.
In a post on the subreddit ‘Two Hot Takes‘, Flashy_Guess7973 explained that this unexpected development in the household dynamics began to raise concerns for her and the nanny, leading to a series of awkward and uncomfortable situations.
This woman noticed her husband started acting weird around their nanny
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Which made both her and the nanny feel concerned about his intentions
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As her post went viral, the woman provided more context
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As this story illustrates, nannies have little protection against sexual harassment at work
The #MeToo movement has shown just how pervasive sexual harassment is at really work. But those women, unlike the nanny from the Reddi post, have an easier way to push back against their bosses and colleagues.
For example, if a woman working in a corporate office believes she is being harassed and wants it to stop, she can report it to a supervisor, or the human resources department, and hope they will intervene.
A nanny who is directly hired by a family, on the other hand, usually has no one to complain to if she is harassed and likely has no witnesses to the behavior. (Luckily, this case was different.)
No matter who sexually harasses a nanny, they have the right to demand justice. Nannies aren’t objects of sexual desire; they’re employees who deserve a workplace free from sexual harassment and discrimination.
Later, the author of the post also answered some of the most popular questions
And folks have had a lot of reactions to the whole ordeal
Husband just demonstrated that the only thing stopping him from cheating is if the other person says no. Wife needs to get a good divorce attorney and get out of this marriage.
You can’t have both the husband and the nanny. Personally, I’d keep the nanny and chuck the husband.
Reading this made my stomach turn so I went to Reddit to see if there is an update and there is. She is still in contact with the nanny (OP gave her 8 weeks severance pay, she no longer works for them, but they remain friends.) OP has been in contact with lawyers about a divorce and is trying to save money and get away from him. I hope everything works out for her, the kids, and the nanny. That man is a sh!t stain of a husband and a predator to boot.
Get the divorce. Get the camera footage of him coming in to her. Show it in court. Have her be a witness to him being a perv. Take your kids an nanny to ur new place. You don't have to deal with him. He's already hunting for pootang. If your marriage is over then it's over. No need to feel empty if you have your church people that can help you out too.
Gosh, I remember this from Reddit. Equally disgusting as the husband that gushed about how sexy their nanny was before telling Reddit about a day he just "happened" to be late to work, go downstairs in just a towel after showing. Playing with the kid on the floor and the nanny is there. The towel "accidentally" fell of and he just "casually covered himself" because we all seen naked people before. Am I right? Right? 🤢 Yeah, he flashed the nanny and wondered why she just walked out the door, overreacting so his wife was mad over the nanny quiting over "no big deal".
OMG, that is just disgusting. I never understood why men are so obsessed with their genitals that they believe EVERYONE wants to see them.
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Sadly the incel man brigade on reddit will support the cheating scummy twat.
Bah. Who gives a poo what incels think? Their opinions on the matter don’t mean anything. Any noises they make are just fly farts in a windstorm.
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About 90% of jobs I've lost have been because of men like OP's husband. ETA staying with a man like this for money is foolish. Men who behave like that don't tend to be financially responsible and have a tendency to get fired and become unemployed due to problematic behavior. Bad investment, really.
If only it were that simple... Sadly she is locked into the marriage due to money, she can't provide for herself and her kids. She sounded very happy with the nanny, as a very good friend.
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Why would you stay and have a other kid with someone who was so useless with the first one? Lose the man, sue for child support, keep the nanny
Sue for child support? With what money? She told us she’s tied to him because he’s her wallet (I paraphrase). I kinda think he won’t allow her to spend “his money” on a lawyer. (And just watch this dickhole: that’ll come out if his mouth before long. 🤬) My fingers are crossed that she and nanny find a surprise way to get away from that pig. I’m hoping a kid-hearted divorce lawyer (I know, I know. Oxymoron) sees her post and offers her services gratis!
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As much as I hate divorce, I think the advice to ditch the husband and get the nanny back was the correct call. EDIT: I had missed a frame above about future behavior when I suggested maybe he's acting weird around her to desperately try to see if things might be OK. What kind of guys are you into? I live black women? Oh, no, no, no, no, he's 100% a perv. Protect your kids.
I'm confused as to what she's looking for. Is she asking advice or just sharing the story?
Hmm, well now you KNOW. Who you are REALLY married to. You know he's a cheater. You say you don't like him, don't love him, need his financial support for you and the children. Before people start jumping on the 'get divorced' wagon, depending upon the country you are in, it's sometimes better to have all the knowledge and use it to your advantage. 1st, hire a competent, perhaps older, not his type nanny you can rely on. You can reach out and remain friends with the original nanny if she will have you and see each other outside the home. 2, Use your knowledge with power. Your husband IS SLEEPING AROUND. Not attempting, not waiting for the next black nanny, he's doing it right now. Keep yourself safe from STD's ,so cut off all sex and let him know why. 3, get proof. It's easy enough and once you have it, any court will grant you the lions share. 4, Tell him the tables have turned. You and the children will be taken care of financially and if he doesn't like it, tell him you have proof.
They all sound screwed up to me. 'I do not like my husband and he's been useless to my family.' Phew. Sounds like there's a whole television series on this guy and his neurotic wife. Though maybe fair's fair, he may have made her like that. He certainly 'carried a torch' for the nanny.
How doe SHE “sound screwed up” to you? If she’s screwed up, it’s because she’s trapped financially in a marriage to an 🫏🕳️ Shr sounds MUCH less screeed up than many, MANY of the folks who post about their relationships. Think about it: how many posts have you seen from females who’ve got their eyes wide open about their relationships? Versus how many you’ve seen from men who are very clearly 🫏🕳️ who want us to side with them?
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She spent so much energy posting and being worried about keeping this relationship with the nanny and is not at all alarmed by a husband (who is definitely cheating or has in the past) being comfortable enough to hit on your nanny in your own home while you're in it? And you're concerned because he says he like black women and you're not black? That's your biggest concern? Just tell the world your marriage is a façade based on what you think a happy home is supposed to look like but there is no love involved.
“is not at all alarmed by a husband (who is definitely cheating or has in the past) being comfortable enough to hit on your nanny in your own home”: It seems you missed some sentences. Like all but one (a nearly off-hand comment about her husband’s fetish, mentioned here to illustrate what a bag o’shig she’s married to). Time to go read the story then come back here to edit your comment. Your first sentence should read “I’m sorry for commenting without understanding what’s going on.” (I think you’re gonna be shocked about HOW ALARMED SHE IS she’s trapped in a marriage to a pig.)
Load More Replies... Husband just demonstrated that the only thing stopping him from cheating is if the other person says no. Wife needs to get a good divorce attorney and get out of this marriage.
You can’t have both the husband and the nanny. Personally, I’d keep the nanny and chuck the husband.
Reading this made my stomach turn so I went to Reddit to see if there is an update and there is. She is still in contact with the nanny (OP gave her 8 weeks severance pay, she no longer works for them, but they remain friends.) OP has been in contact with lawyers about a divorce and is trying to save money and get away from him. I hope everything works out for her, the kids, and the nanny. That man is a sh!t stain of a husband and a predator to boot.
Get the divorce. Get the camera footage of him coming in to her. Show it in court. Have her be a witness to him being a perv. Take your kids an nanny to ur new place. You don't have to deal with him. He's already hunting for pootang. If your marriage is over then it's over. No need to feel empty if you have your church people that can help you out too.
Gosh, I remember this from Reddit. Equally disgusting as the husband that gushed about how sexy their nanny was before telling Reddit about a day he just "happened" to be late to work, go downstairs in just a towel after showing. Playing with the kid on the floor and the nanny is there. The towel "accidentally" fell of and he just "casually covered himself" because we all seen naked people before. Am I right? Right? 🤢 Yeah, he flashed the nanny and wondered why she just walked out the door, overreacting so his wife was mad over the nanny quiting over "no big deal".
OMG, that is just disgusting. I never understood why men are so obsessed with their genitals that they believe EVERYONE wants to see them.
Load More Replies... Sadly the incel man brigade on reddit will support the cheating scummy twat.
Bah. Who gives a poo what incels think? Their opinions on the matter don’t mean anything. Any noises they make are just fly farts in a windstorm.
Load More Replies... About 90% of jobs I've lost have been because of men like OP's husband. ETA staying with a man like this for money is foolish. Men who behave like that don't tend to be financially responsible and have a tendency to get fired and become unemployed due to problematic behavior. Bad investment, really.
If only it were that simple... Sadly she is locked into the marriage due to money, she can't provide for herself and her kids. She sounded very happy with the nanny, as a very good friend.
Load More Replies... Why would you stay and have a other kid with someone who was so useless with the first one? Lose the man, sue for child support, keep the nanny
Sue for child support? With what money? She told us she’s tied to him because he’s her wallet (I paraphrase). I kinda think he won’t allow her to spend “his money” on a lawyer. (And just watch this dickhole: that’ll come out if his mouth before long. 🤬) My fingers are crossed that she and nanny find a surprise way to get away from that pig. I’m hoping a kid-hearted divorce lawyer (I know, I know. Oxymoron) sees her post and offers her services gratis!
Load More Replies... As much as I hate divorce, I think the advice to ditch the husband and get the nanny back was the correct call. EDIT: I had missed a frame above about future behavior when I suggested maybe he's acting weird around her to desperately try to see if things might be OK. What kind of guys are you into? I live black women? Oh, no, no, no, no, he's 100% a perv. Protect your kids.
I'm confused as to what she's looking for. Is she asking advice or just sharing the story?
Hmm, well now you KNOW. Who you are REALLY married to. You know he's a cheater. You say you don't like him, don't love him, need his financial support for you and the children. Before people start jumping on the 'get divorced' wagon, depending upon the country you are in, it's sometimes better to have all the knowledge and use it to your advantage. 1st, hire a competent, perhaps older, not his type nanny you can rely on. You can reach out and remain friends with the original nanny if she will have you and see each other outside the home. 2, Use your knowledge with power. Your husband IS SLEEPING AROUND. Not attempting, not waiting for the next black nanny, he's doing it right now. Keep yourself safe from STD's ,so cut off all sex and let him know why. 3, get proof. It's easy enough and once you have it, any court will grant you the lions share. 4, Tell him the tables have turned. You and the children will be taken care of financially and if he doesn't like it, tell him you have proof.
They all sound screwed up to me. 'I do not like my husband and he's been useless to my family.' Phew. Sounds like there's a whole television series on this guy and his neurotic wife. Though maybe fair's fair, he may have made her like that. He certainly 'carried a torch' for the nanny.
How doe SHE “sound screwed up” to you? If she’s screwed up, it’s because she’s trapped financially in a marriage to an 🫏🕳️ Shr sounds MUCH less screeed up than many, MANY of the folks who post about their relationships. Think about it: how many posts have you seen from females who’ve got their eyes wide open about their relationships? Versus how many you’ve seen from men who are very clearly 🫏🕳️ who want us to side with them?
Load More Replies... She spent so much energy posting and being worried about keeping this relationship with the nanny and is not at all alarmed by a husband (who is definitely cheating or has in the past) being comfortable enough to hit on your nanny in your own home while you're in it? And you're concerned because he says he like black women and you're not black? That's your biggest concern? Just tell the world your marriage is a façade based on what you think a happy home is supposed to look like but there is no love involved.
“is not at all alarmed by a husband (who is definitely cheating or has in the past) being comfortable enough to hit on your nanny in your own home”: It seems you missed some sentences. Like all but one (a nearly off-hand comment about her husband’s fetish, mentioned here to illustrate what a bag o’shig she’s married to). Time to go read the story then come back here to edit your comment. Your first sentence should read “I’m sorry for commenting without understanding what’s going on.” (I think you’re gonna be shocked about HOW ALARMED SHE IS she’s trapped in a marriage to a pig.)
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