“Unfair Amount Of Duties”: Wife’s New Job Puts Strain On The Household
Maintaining a household, taking care of kids, and managing a career all at once is more work than the vast majority of the population can handle. It can be a test of any marriage when partners need to renegotiate who does what. Miscommunication, resentment, stress, and misguided expectations are just some of the pitfalls people might encounter.
A man turned to the internet for advice when his wife’s new job ended up overwhelming him with housework and childcare. The comments quickly spiraled into a debate on gender norms, housekeeping standards, and how to communicate in a marriage.
Working out responsibilities in a married household require diplomacy and tact
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So one man needed some advice when he realized his wife’s new job was creating a lot of work for him
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Image credits: jm_video (not the actual photo)
OP debated some readers in the comments
Overall, few really sided with the husband
Others thought he made some valid points
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"She was able to keep up with a few things around the house". Mate, now you know what those "few things" are.
So maybe it's his turn to find a WFH job so that he can keep up with "a few things" around the house? It was fine while it was her, obviously it was quite a list if he's in over his head now.
Battle of the sexes stuff aside for a minute, I've worked from home for 20 years. Anyone who says it isn't easier to keep up on household chores as a partner who works from home is crazy. A ten minute 'pee' break is enough time to throw the laundry on. Another one is enough time to move it to the dryer. A lunch break is enough time to eat lunch and prep dinner etc. If I count the 30-45 minutes a day I can spend on those little chores AND the 2 hours of commuting I can save, over a work week that's 12.5 extra hours to devote to household chores. Again boy/girl aside, loss of that much capacity is going to sting. OTOH, one very important piece of information seems to be missing - What is OP's job? Can it be made flexible? Can he quit?
I don't know why you got downvoted. Ny husband does small things around the house when he is working from home. It's really different, because the time in commute is 1.5h/day and he is more stressed. Also I can leave the kids with him and go out (I'm a SAHM, but I also need time alone sometimes), they can sleep, play or watch a movie while he's working. When he was changing jobs he was specifically looking for WHM at least 3 days a week. Yes, for the 1 hour commute time one person can get 30 minutes for oneself and also cook a dinner.
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"She was able to keep up with a few things around the house". Mate, now you know what those "few things" are.
So maybe it's his turn to find a WFH job so that he can keep up with "a few things" around the house? It was fine while it was her, obviously it was quite a list if he's in over his head now.
Battle of the sexes stuff aside for a minute, I've worked from home for 20 years. Anyone who says it isn't easier to keep up on household chores as a partner who works from home is crazy. A ten minute 'pee' break is enough time to throw the laundry on. Another one is enough time to move it to the dryer. A lunch break is enough time to eat lunch and prep dinner etc. If I count the 30-45 minutes a day I can spend on those little chores AND the 2 hours of commuting I can save, over a work week that's 12.5 extra hours to devote to household chores. Again boy/girl aside, loss of that much capacity is going to sting. OTOH, one very important piece of information seems to be missing - What is OP's job? Can it be made flexible? Can he quit?
I don't know why you got downvoted. Ny husband does small things around the house when he is working from home. It's really different, because the time in commute is 1.5h/day and he is more stressed. Also I can leave the kids with him and go out (I'm a SAHM, but I also need time alone sometimes), they can sleep, play or watch a movie while he's working. When he was changing jobs he was specifically looking for WHM at least 3 days a week. Yes, for the 1 hour commute time one person can get 30 minutes for oneself and also cook a dinner.
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