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“I Will Never Trust Him Again”: Man Finally Shows His True Colors Immediately After Getting Married
A couple’s wedding day should be one of the happiest days of their lives. All of their closest friends and family members are gathered in one place to celebrate their love story, and they finally get to take their relationship to the next step.
But unfortunately, not everyone gets a magical fairytale wedding. This woman reached out online for advice after her husband made her absolutely miserable during their wedding night. Now, she’s wondering if her marriage is completely ruined only a couple of weeks after tying the knot.
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This woman was thrilled to marry the love of her life
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But only hours after the wedding, she began questioning if their marriage was already doomed
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About 10% of marriages don’t make it to their first anniversary
As much as people try to avoid thinking about it, we all know that divorce is a possibility when getting married. After all, about 41% of all first marriages end in divorce. But how long should a couple stick it out before pulling the plug? Some can manage to be happy together for decades before finally deciding that something isn’t working.
Meanwhile, others know within a few short weeks that their marriage was a huge mistake. According to The Law Offices of Peter Van Aulen, approximately one in ten marriages will end in the first year.
Some factors that can impact whether or not a marriagewill survive its first year are: whether the couple lived together before marriage or not, financial issues, age, infidelity, lack of communication, unrealistic or unmet expectations, lack of intimacy, mental health or substance use issues, lack of support from family and friends, and unresolved trauma.
Apparently, couples who tie the knot at a young age are more likely to call it quits during the first year, often due to immaturity, lack of life experience and challenges adapting to the responsibilities of marriage. However, just because a couple has been living together before getting hitched doesn’t mean that they’ll be in for a smooth marriage either.
The Law Offices of Peter Van Aulen notes that cohabitation can sometimes provide a false sense of security, making couples assume that because they can live together well, they’re prepared for all of the trials and tribulations that come along with marriage.
Jen Glantz also warns on her blog, The First Years of Marriage, that some couples divorce before ever reaching their first anniversary because they disagree about children, got married to save their relationship, or they’re both unwilling to compromise.
It’s common for spouses to complain about their partner’s behavior changing after tying the knot
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Another potential issue is a person’s partner changing right after getting married. According to marriage and family therapy specialist Stephen J. Betchen, DSW, one of the most common complaints people have about their partner after getting married is that they’ve changed.
They’re less affectionate, they changed their mind about kids, they don’t want to be intimate, they don’t want to travel, or they’re working far more or less than before.
Betchen proposes two potential explanations for these changes. First: “The spouse who made a seemingly sudden shift was never happy or satisfied with the role they were playing prior to their marriage.” But it’s also possible that the spouse who feels like their partner tricked them never really knew them in the first place.
“Because of their own needs, these individuals may not look closely enough at their potential mates, and in a sense, do not get to know who their partners truly are,” Betchen explains. “This mistake could serve to unconsciously replicate their history of not getting their needs met.”
In this particular situation, however, many readers warned the author that her husband clearly doesn’t respect her. Marriage.com recommends that anyone dealing with a disrespectful husband initiate an honest and calm conversation. It’s also important to set boundaries and make it clear that his behavior has been unacceptable.
If necessary, seek out a couple’s therapist or marriage counseling. And remember to prioritize your own self-care. Finally, if things don’t start to improve, begin to re-evaluate your relationship. As painful as divorce can be, it’s even worse to feel lonely within a marriage for the rest of your life.
We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. Do you think it’s time for this woman to pull the plug on her marriage? Feel free to weigh in. Then, you can find another Bored Panda article discussing similar marital drama right here.
Later, the author responded to a couple of commenters and provided more context on her situation
Many readers warned the woman that her spouse is finally showing his true colors, noting that his behavior is likely to only get worse
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arthbach 17 hours ago
The situation described is manipulation at its best. This woman is asking, "What did I do wrong?" and "How can I make him love me as I love him?" The answer is she did nothing wrong. She is married to a manipulative, abus.ive man. That this happened on the wedding day is not unusual. It's often when abus.ive men start to reveal their true colours. And, you can nothing to make a person like this love you properly. He does not love you, but likes the things you can do for him. The solution - get out, and get out before this man totally destroys you mentally and physically. One thing to think of, would you want *this* man to be the model of manhood your son sees?
Emilu 9 hours ago (edited)
This. And there are so many stories of sons turning abusive because they're following in the footsteps of their abusive fathers.
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Nira Amana 17 hours ago
I am getting tired of fake stories. This is someone testing 'creative' writing, most probably using AI. All the gramatical errors are stuff that autocorrect pics up in split second. All the while sentences are perfect, in sense of how the native structure sentences, not non native. Complete BS
Tyke 14 hours ago
AI wasn't really a thing 6 years ago when this post was made
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Shark Lady 13 hours ago
I think her working in finance and able to get good rates etc is what her husband loves about her. It's not unusual in any culture to marry for reasons that have nothing to do with love.
arthbach 17 hours ago
The situation described is manipulation at its best. This woman is asking, "What did I do wrong?" and "How can I make him love me as I love him?" The answer is she did nothing wrong. She is married to a manipulative, abus.ive man. That this happened on the wedding day is not unusual. It's often when abus.ive men start to reveal their true colours. And, you can nothing to make a person like this love you properly. He does not love you, but likes the things you can do for him. The solution - get out, and get out before this man totally destroys you mentally and physically. One thing to think of, would you want *this* man to be the model of manhood your son sees?
Emilu 9 hours ago (edited)
This. And there are so many stories of sons turning abusive because they're following in the footsteps of their abusive fathers.
Load More Replies... Nira Amana 17 hours ago
I am getting tired of fake stories. This is someone testing 'creative' writing, most probably using AI. All the gramatical errors are stuff that autocorrect pics up in split second. All the while sentences are perfect, in sense of how the native structure sentences, not non native. Complete BS
Tyke 14 hours ago
AI wasn't really a thing 6 years ago when this post was made
Load More Replies... Shark Lady 13 hours ago
I think her working in finance and able to get good rates etc is what her husband loves about her. It's not unusual in any culture to marry for reasons that have nothing to do with love.
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