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Pandas, please share some ideas on how to get over depression.
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#1
How I got over my... ? I will let you know as soon as that happens.
Final score:
84points
Norah Reilly 4 years ago
For those of you who think that depression is just about being bummed about something or sad that your grandpa died, think again. Real depression is a genuine emotional, physical, incurable condition that requires behavioral therapy, drug therapy, a strong support network, and the self-acknowledgement that it will NEVER GO AWAY. 'Nuff said.
Billy The Kid 4 years ago
Thats right. I dont have it myself but i have worked with plenty of clients that do have it. One time you could be just like anyone else then all of a sudden the depression kicks in. It is a high suicidal rate.
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Shiny Pants 4 years ago
It might be dark, it might be a bummer, but for many of us, it's our reality. Every damn day.
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#2
I have chronic mild depression and reoccurring major depression, and I'm an alcoholic. I got into therapy. I got clean/sober. Started taking antidepressants as prescribed. Developed a spiritual life. Continued to work on myself, confront the things that caused me problems, seek ways to improve. There is no quick fix, but it can get better. I still have depression, but I am not depressed. I'm living my best life and I expect it to keep getting better.
Final score:
38points
Leslie K Von Dell 4 years ago
That's awesome. Good for you. It IS a tough battle, but never has there been a worthier battle to fight!
#3
I didn't. I learned to accept that, unfortunately, it is part of me and I can only learn to live with it. I recognise the signs and prepare myself to be emotionally assaulted by it's ugly presence. For me, the first sign is complete loss of appetite followed by irritability by everyone and everything around me. I plucked up the courage to call a meeting with my manager to lay bare all the facts about my depression and anxiety and in doing this I no longer have the pressure of having to force a smile and pretend everything is okay at work when it isn't. So whenever I'm entering a particularly dark phase then I am allowed to call off work for however long it takes me to feel more stable. I volunteered my medical information to my boss and that way it's been noted on my file so I don't have to explain or repeat myself when I call off sick. I have such a supportive workplace. I also have a very supportive partner who understands that I'm not in control of my depression. When I was single I did used to worry that nobody would want me as I'm damaged goods and complicated at times. But being in a relationship with someone for 8 years means they know me inside out and know what to expect. I've found distracting myself with websites such as this (not to sound too soppy but thank you Bored Panda) and keeping myself to myself by sleeping on the couch allows me to get through my depressive episodes faster. Unlike a lot of people I really don't find talking helps so I enjoy peace and quiet, although music sometimes helps. For all the partners of depressed people out there- sometimes you don't have to say or do anything to show your support, all you have to do is be there. Something as small and insignificant as gently rubbing your partners back is enough to make them feel loved and supported. Stay safe everyone ❤
Final score:
26points
Thomas Duncan 4 years ago
My employer is also excellent in this regard; without that support and my wife, I likely wouldn't be here to post.
Leslie K Von Dell 4 years ago
Wow! You hit the head right on the nail on so many issues that accompany depression. Keep up the good fight!
Billy The Kid 4 years ago
Well said Jonathan. It is good that you told your boss rather than going into work depressed then losing your job over it. It must be a great relief although some bosses aint that understanding. That is exactly what people need - support. My missus is going through the menopause (6 years now) and it aint easy. One minute she is fine then the slightest thing makes her snap. It is sad to see her in this state as i feel useless. Everything i do or say just makes the situation worse. When she is coming out of it she breaks down and starts crying apologizing to me. It breaks my heart to see her like this.
Jonathan (Submission author) 4 years ago (edited)
Your patience and understanding is very admirable, many men would just walk away. When your partner comes through the other side then she will be so gratfeul you stood by her, though she no doubt is already gratfeul. It's difficult having a mind you're not entirely in control of but having someone there with you makes a world of difference. I remember my mother going through the menopause, it was terrible. Luckily she's past it now. My arsehole of a step-dad left her to go through it alone- partly the reason she divorced him! Regarding my employer, this is the only one that's help me with my struggle. You're completely right when I said it's better to have everything out in the open rather than losing my job. I'm a care and support worker and not only can it be physically exhausting, it is extremely emotionally taxing at the same time. I'm proud I've managed to stick at it for so long- over five years now!
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I have been in a major depression for years. I have two answers: 1. You wouldn’t believe how good it feels to own it. I decided I was too depressed to get through on my own and knew I was on the brink then decided to tell my close friends. Bottling it up was actually the absolute wrong thing for me to do. The weight I’d been feeling was gone, and now I feel protected by people who love me for all of what I am. 2. I say to people I talk with “I just need you to hear, let me feel heard, no need to figure out how fix it for me. Just give me your compassion for awhile.
Final score:
19points
Melanie Lahman 4 years ago
Owning my chronic depression has helped a lot. I'm not afraid of it anymore. Good meds, a great therapist and supportive loved ones have helped me to have a great life.
Billy The Kid 4 years ago
Just like any problem, never bottle up whats inside. Let it out and share it. You never know someone might have been there, done that and have the solution. Like BP
#5
First off, there is a temporary depression that comes with say, losing a job, a loved one, anything that can bum you out for a few days. These are usually passing. You can "get over these" just by the passage of time, most of the time. When you're talking clinical depression, there is no "getting over" it. Medication and treatment can help alleviate the symptoms, but you cannot be "cured". If you are severely hindered by your depression in your daily life, its time to seek professional help (if not before).
Final score:
18points
#6
You don’t get over depression, you get through it. With medication, family, friends, and support though therapy.
Final score:
15points
#7
Well, I have not quite gotten over it, but I have certainly improved, and I'm proud of myself and thankful to my family and the doctors. I've come from sobbing every night, being a bit violent, and suicidal to taking medicine, and learning to cope with my depression and anxiety.
Final score:
13points
#8
I find small things I enjoy and tell myself "This is something worth living for"
Final score:
12points
saesha has depression 4 years ago
i dont have anything worth living for but i keep going on with life
Richard Portman 4 years ago
So keep going. You might be surprised. You sound pretty depressed. Give it some time. It is like a hole that people get sucked into. It is not your fault. Give it some time.
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#9
Honestly, by letting myself be depressed. By thinking of it the same way you'd think of a cold. By making sure to know my signs, acknowledge when I'm depressed, and following my biggest rule - never analyze my life or make big decisions when depressed (because it's like trying to get an accurate view of the world while wearing dark sunglasses.) By catching negative self talk and talking back. ("God, I'm such an idiot. Hey, you can't call me an idiot!" "Why can't I do this hard thing? What the hell is wrong with me? Haha, damn! I really AM depressed. Time for a Coke and some murder shows! I can do that hard thing later, no big.") Now, I still get depressed, but not as deep or for as long. Because I no longer get depressed about being depressed.
Final score:
11points
Josy Bannon 4 years ago
I do that too sometimes, treating it like a cold. It helps not to define yourself through depression. Meaning that you have depression and it is hard and painfull but there is another part of yourself that is you. and you are normally not like this - "normally" regardless of how often you have this pain. You would think the same about other illnesses that dont affect the psyche, you won't take them as personal too, while still don't underestimate them.
Richard Portman 4 years ago
Same, or similar. I don't like being depressed but i accept it as the weather of my soul. It would be like asking why are you so happy today?
#10
Art and regular exercise (not much of it, as I also have ME and chronic pain) help me a lot, but I need to be on antidepressants to get to the point where I can motivate myself to do them. If you have depression, ask your doctor about medication. It's not weakness, or some sort of moral failure. Your body isn't producing enough neurotransmitters, and medication can help with that.
Final score:
10points
#11
I manage my depression or it manages me. Exercise, positive activities, medication therapy, my dog, my friends and family are all part of the process and it can be exhausting, so I am occasionally overwhelmed and have to re-evaluate the process and adjust.
Final score:
10points
#12
In my case you don't, 35 years and counting. SSRI's help, but they just mask the depression; depression manifests itself at any time, regardless of what pill you're swallowing.
Final score:
10points
Steve Barnett (Submission author) 4 years ago
I even thought at one point that cocaine was a cure-all. Yes, I’m glad I nipped that one in the bud a long time ago.
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I find it as like a wave, and I honestly just sleep until it's over.
Final score:
9points
#14
I bettered myself. I went back to school got an Engineering Degree and a great Job. At the same time I got into running. Let me tell you the runner's high is real. Tuns of endorphins and adrenaline.
Final score:
9points
Thomas Duncan 4 years ago
I tried this for months ( to lose weight, not for depression ) Never once got runners high, but I know several folks who do.
#15
Before you are diagnosed with depression, anxiety or low self-esteem make sure you're not just surrounded by arseholes...
Final score:
9points
#16
Thanks, Bored Panda, for posting these! I manage my mild depression by looking for fun stuff to read on Bored Panda.
Final score:
9points
R3belB4nny 4 years ago
Me too. Kinda helps. Until I realize I have a weeks work to do cuz i spent too much time on here
Billy The Kid 4 years ago
It can also be used for solutions. Think of how many people have been there and done that and found the solution. It is great for passing on advice for anything.
#17
Pills. I’ll have to take them for the rest of my life. As long as they keep working, I’m totally fine with that.
Final score:
9points
Sharon Chang 4 years ago
My PCP compared it to diabetics. They wish they didn’t need to inject insulin to feel “normal”; but their bodies don’t make it in sufficient quantities. Depression can be a biochemical deficiency as well. Our brains need serotonin, dopamine, etc. some people don’t have the proper ratios of needed biochemicals to function “normally”. It isn’t something to be ashamed of or deny. Note: not all drugs work the same way, so don’t give up if one doesn’t help. There are other options to try.
Debby Hartinger 4 years ago
Our bodies change as we age, so stay on top of what you're taking.
#18
Doing one small thing at a time to take control of my life back. I started with medication that allowed me to exercise.
Final score:
9points
#19
I haven't. My younger brother died 6 years ago and my dad 3 years ago. Loosing my brother, who was 37 at the time, was the single worst thing to ever happen and plunged me into the deepest darkest place I have ever been to. I have never climbed back to the surface light. My brother and my dad were more than father and son to each other too. Best friends and it hurt my dad deeply. My dad and I spent more time together after my brother passed away - I live in a different town, roughly an hours drive away. My dad would come up each Saturday and we would go bowling together - Crown Green Bowling - He joined the club I was a member of. Many good times. He was supposed to be coming up to the end of season awards bash, an excuse to go and get drunk with your mates really, hotel booked and everything. He rand me and said he was going to come but not stay he'd drive up and head back the same night. He didn't sound right on the phone and I called him back, I just got lots of heavy, laboured breathing. I knew he wasn't right so I drove down to see him, got his spare keys from mums house (they had split many years ago but remained friends - she still did his washing!) and went to his. I found him crashed out on the floor in the dark. He'd hit his head on the ceramic fireplace and wasn't in a good way at all. Rang 999 and got an ambulance out. Took into the local hospital for some tests, he was there a few weeks before being transferred to a specialist unit in Manchester. He was there several weeks, I was there almost everyday. He was showing progress but suffered multiple heart attacks and passed in his sleep. It was hard to loose him, but strangely, didn't hit me as hard as loosing my brother. I don't know why and I feel bad for it not hurting as much. I don't think that I'll ever recover from loosing these two, it's a little easier everyday but it is still very dark.
Final score:
9points
Josy Bannon 4 years ago
I am sorry for your loss and all you had to go trough. You were such a good son, taking good care of your father. I Hope things get better one day for you and you can see light again!
Sharon Chang 4 years ago
You have two very good reasons to feel depressed. Losing a loved one is traumatic. Losing two can definitely lead to a downward spiral. Sometimes medication for a short time can help regain your balance. I hope you can find your way back.
#20
I remember being scared all the time of my parents dying or something bad happening to me or my family, and my parents just told me to try harder and I didnt want to tell them how i felt because I felt like I was a burden to them, but when i started to talk about how i felt i started to get better, every time another wave of sadness came, they were there for me. For everyone out there who is having a bad time just keep going, even when you feel like you are at your worst and that its never going to get better just keep going. I'm only twelve, I have a hole life ahead of me, so for everyone reading this please just remember your loved ones, thats my advice.
Final score:
9points
#21
I have a whole list of 'issues' including depression. I don't think it will ever go away completely, but I am learning tricks to help myself out. I've been in & out of therapy for years, but most of the ways I help myself I've learned on my own: I write, draw comics of situations that bother me, imagine negative thoughts leaving my head and burning into the sun, practicing meditation, remove people from my life who cause anxiety and negativity, doing little favors for 'future me', being outside - walks/run, decorating my space in ways that make me happy - lots of string lights. I'm still learning how to take care of myself and not expect to make all the problems go away, but make it easier to deal with the depression and still function. Its a process.
Final score:
9points
Josy Bannon 4 years ago
"doing little favors for 'future me'" YES I do that too! :-) A way of self love
#22
Well depression stays with you. But it can get better. I like to play flute and listen to jazz to help. But I also take prozac which helps as well. I actually wrote a poem about depression. I'll share it on here.
Final score:
8points
Squirrelflightisawesome (Submission author) 4 years ago
Actually I made a post for it. Press on it in my profile
Billy The Kid 4 years ago
That poem is brilliant. It shows that no matter how small or big there is some hope that shines.
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By coming to the conclusion that "if you want something to change, you have to do things you never done before". It was still a long way to go, but I got there in the end. In my case, psychologists/psychiatrists didn't help much, because I found them to be too easy to fool. So now I'm studying to become a psychologist myself, so I can help to learn others how to deal with it. My advice will still be to talk to professionals though, they can really help a lot if you allow them to.
Final score:
8points
Laura 4 years ago
The role of the psychologist isn't to not be fooled. He doesn't care and it's not her role. Her role is more that of a mirror (at least that't the case for the good ones), he doesn't "fix you", you are the one doing the work. Just the fact that you realised that you can "fool" her gives you a bit of insight into how this process works, you might be doing the same with yourself (fooling yourself that is). You need to figure out your role in your own recovery. This can be quite empowering and a big milestone. It can be a safe way of getting to know yourself better and alleviate some pain in the process. You need some patience though, and a fairly good therapist.
Tarcandor (Submission author) 4 years ago
Completely agree, at that moment in time, I only went to one to get people around me to shut up, because I only wanted to be left alone.
Load More Replies... #24
I... didn't. I didn't even learn how to manage it like some people on here. I just live with it and ignore the thoughts that tell me I'm not worth it, and I don't tell anyone. It's probably not the answer you were looking for, but it's what I do.
Final score:
7points
PAN-da (hehe get it) (Submission author) 4 years ago
saesha darling are you okay? i've looked at a few of your posts and it sounds like you need to talk to someone
Leslie K Von Dell 4 years ago
But you see, you ARE worth it! That and so much more. The depression hides so much that is good in life. If you can find a way to get a glimpse thru the curtain of depression and see some of this it can help you get thru it, manage it, cope better, whatever. You ARE worth so much more than you will ever know!
Debby Hartinger 4 years ago
It's good that you 'ignore the thoughts that tell you that you're not worth it." Now replace them with "I AM worth it!" - because you are. :)
Richard Portman 4 years ago
Saesha is going through a hard time. We all are. She might not have any help. Maybe she has no one to talk with. Maybe she is being beat up. Maybe she is hungry or cold. I keep thinking about what she said. I know that she can survive whatever problems are on her. It might be a good idea to ask for help.
saesha has depression 4 years ago
this made me cry because most of this is true i am getting beat up i can barely pay my bills i haven´t ate in days because i dont have any food i have a lot of money problems i cant talk to anyone because i dont have anyone to talk to and there is no use for me to ask for help i can handle my own problems
Load More Replies... #25
I never exactly got out of depression, but it is on and off with the feelings and stuff. I have had plenty of moodswing issues and cry for no reason many times. My besties try to help me al the time, and they do, but sometimes i do depressed.
Final score:
7points
Debby Hartinger 4 years ago
Besties are like therapists you don't have to pay. :) They can listen and try to help.
#26
well i don't know much because i'm kinda depressed rn but all you need to do is focus on happy things in you life instead of sad things oh and i'm not really good at giving people advice
Final score:
7points
Billy The Kid 4 years ago
You dont necessary have to give advice. Just a comfort and a listening ear can make a difference. ; )
#28
I've gotten extremely good at hiding how I really feel from everyone in my life - Most people consider me a confident introvert I chose to say I was introverted because its very tiring to maintain this persona. I've just accepted who I am and have very low expectations of those around me which helps because really I know and have accepted that I'm a piece of s**t so I just feel lucky that anyone wants to stick around - its become more difficult since my partner moved in but luckily he's to caught up sexting with other people to notice or even ask which works perfectly for me - I don't blame him I own a mirror and have had to look at myself for the past 33 years I know its not a joy to wake up to this face - but i know he's with me because I take care of him so I distract myself with that - I just honestly don't want to be alone anymore - Sometimes you just have to accept who you are and take the best of what life will give you
Final score:
7points
Debby Hartinger 4 years ago
This sounds horrible! Please get help. A therapist for sure, and some kind of anti-depressant from a doctor. You DO NOT have to live this way! Your therapist could help you find a place to live with people who can love and accept you - not use you. You DO NOT deserve to be treated this way!
uber mensch 4 years ago
Please, please, please... find someone you trust and/or believe in, start talking to them, and get help. Speaking from experience, it CAN get better.
Tara Wicks (Submission author) 4 years ago (edited)
Thanks for your optimism Tried that they always leave - I've tried a lot over the years and always get the same response from different people so there for the common denominator is me which is fine - At least now half my rent is paid and no one bothers me because I appear to have it all together and honestly that's the best I could ask for - I'm not looking for sympathy or anything it just became extremely exhausting trying to convince myself that there "more to life"
Load More Replies... Billy The Kid 4 years ago
I cant believe what i just read! You look at yourself as though you are worthless. You cannot be thinking this way. To someone and many others out there you are worth a hell of a lot more. You are a human being that deserves to live just the same way as anyone else. Get out there and meet people. As for your partner, maybe he knows this and is taking advantage of you.
serenityhow 4 years ago
Oh, dear heart, that partner is not good for you. Dump him! Look around you, not just in the mirror. There are lots of people you might consider unattractive who have people who love them and treat them right. If you don't want to be alone, get a dog. They will treat you better. Please, please, don't accept this as the best life will give you! It can give you more.
serenityhow 4 years ago
Oh, I just read down to your other reply. Makes sense about the rent. But how about a roommate AND a dog? At least a roommate wouldn't drag you down, hopefully.
Load More Replies... Melissa Jones 4 years ago
I understand completely how you feel. I can’t even cry, it’s been years.
#29
Just started therapy. I talked myself out of doing it for years because my depression made me feel like it was impossible to feel better so why try. But I did the scariest thing I could imagine and I reached out to a therapist. It was hard and every session is hard but, I feel better every time I get a new tool to deal with how I feel and get more insight into myself.
Final score:
7points
#30
Nope. My husband is disabled now and cannot work. I have kids who go to school and sometimes they don’t because of Covid. It changes monthly. And I decided to adopt a puppy to make everyone happy, but he chews all my s**t, but I love him. My depression has turned into stress on how to make all of them happy and content. I work from home, run a diner and a dog training school to say the least. I don’t have time to be depressed and that stresses me out. I just fake happiness.
Final score:
7points
Melissa Jones (Submission author) 4 years ago
To clarify I don’t run a diner, I cook whatever they ask for and it’s hard. I used to love to cook but now I’m just a so called line cook In my own home.
Debby Hartinger 4 years ago
You need some help from family/friends. If you don't take care of yourself, you won't be able to take care of your family.
Billy The Kid 4 years ago
Thats right. To be the strong one you have to stay strong. Maybe you can have a relative/friend to take care of things at home just for 1 night a week to help you get your thoughts together? Everyone needs a break from time to time.
Load More Replies... Octavia Hansen 4 years ago
Consider getting the kids to do their share . . . have them set and clear the table, fold laundry, clean basic countertops and get them into washing dishes and picking things up. Kids who learn responsibility ALWAYS do better in life than TV watchers and game players. And when someone knows what it's like to clean something, they are less likely to make it dirty again. Women think if they don't do everything that they are failures. Leave the kitchen/sink mess for those to clean who would eat the meal. And give yourself a day off and a break -- EVERYONE can help taking care of the husband's needs, too. I would help if I were there!
#31
I change my hair color. Then every time I look in the mirror I smile, sometimes laugh, and it is the new start to a new day and a new attitude. And I can always change it back if I ever need to. Women used to buy a new hat. Change something about yourself on the outside and there will be a difference on the inside. Comedy helps, too!
Final score:
7points
Octavia Hansen (Submission author) 4 years ago
YES! Thank you! I am always okay . . . keep looking towards the future. Everything will pass and doing funny changes, even for a little while, changes everything. People I know see a different outside on me, and I'm reflecting something different back. And everything will change again . . . As David Bowie sang: Ch-ch-changes -- turn and face the strain . . .
Load More Replies... Billy The Kid 4 years ago
I always use comedy in my classroom. Its amazing how it can help people forget their worries even for just a short time.
Octavia Hansen (Submission author) 4 years ago
Mark Twain - "Against the assault of laughter nothing can stand." And laughter is the best medicine. Hmm, I'm sure there are more wise sayings, too. And don't forget funny movies -- there will never be enough laughter!
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I haven't. And honestly? I'm OK with that. I manage symptoms through a combination of medication (no shame) and distraction (video games, books, films, sewing, even work). There are bad days which suck, but there are also good days.
Final score:
7points
#34
Sometimes depression is life circumstances and not clinical. Then drugs don't help and actually give you horrible side effects. I found it when I keep my life busy and have lots of friends around me I'm not depressed. Covid has dumped me right back into it because I'm alone and things look awful. I keep in mind that that situation is improving.
Final score:
6points
#35
Well I didn't have the best support system so it took a long time to finally decide to tell someone about it but when I told them I went to a mental hospital and therapy for a few months
Final score:
5points
Jonathan 4 years ago
What happens in hospital? I've only seen them in movies so I don't know how much they differ in reality? Sorry if I'm intruding, I just don't really wanna get stuck down a Google rabbit hole- would much rather hear from an actual person with experience. I hope you're doing well, especially right now. The virus has magnified my depression.
AliceInWonderland? (Submission author) 4 years ago
Well they put you in a room and talk to you for a while mostly just so you wont hurt yourself and things like that
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#36
Self care. Finding funny things to watch or just in real life. Helping someone else who is depressed. Talking to a good friend. Going for a walk. Taking care of a pet. Music. Ahhh music. Meditation. Counting my blessings. Giving thanks. Prayer. Talk therapy.
Final score:
5points
Josy Bannon 4 years ago
I am curious how did you experience meditation? Because I hear lot about the benefits of meditation but for me it's hard to do it when depressed or anxious. The last thing I want/can do then is sitting calm and look at my thoughts, which are negative and intrusive :/
GVL (Submission author) 4 years ago
So many ways to meditate. You can meditate while you walk. You can just sit quietly and focus on a word or a phrase and say it out loud or silently. Before I go to bed at night I listen to a mediation that focusing on tightening and relaxing your muscles head to toe, another one I listen to tells uplifting affirmations, another one I just listen to Tibetan bowls with just a musical tone and so many more. You can meditate with a song you like, just focus on the words and the music tones. The more you try to do it the better you become at it. It can be as simple as recognizing you feel anxious or depressed and saying our loud "I am happy and calm". And repeat it over and over and eventually that feeling will come. It helps you focus your mind eighth
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Did something I love. Painting, writing, spending time with my pets, walking in the desert, watching the sunsets. Find the things you love and do them. If it's difficult to do so at first, force yourself. It gets easier. Eventually you realize you aren't sad, you're doing things and enjoying them.
Final score:
5points
#38
13 years after my first visit to the psychiatric ward I can say with 100% certainty that in my case it takes a ton of medication. I've been admitted to hospital, had regular therapy sessions etc etc but that didnt do much. In the beginning I was given SSRIs, which were better than nothing but not good enough. After 3 years on those I got SNRIs instead and finally felt like myself again. And it's not like I'm happy 24/7 now, I just feel like a regular person with ups and downs. It's amazing! My diagnosis is recurrent major depressive disorder and I'll probably be on meds for life.
Final score:
5points
Debby Hartinger 4 years ago
Congratulations for working on this and continuing to work things out until you found a solution. Sometimes it takes a while, but it's worth it. :)
#39
Learning that the bad days don't invalidate the good days. Having a bad/terrible day doesn't mean that all the good days were 'fake', 'wishful thinking' or just imagined, or not that great after all; no matter what my brain tried to tell me. I turned my good days from an 'impossible to reach goal' into a safety net, At the beginning, it might have not been a good day, but just a good moment. But that doesn't make them less valid. Moments have turned into days, and I am certain, that someday they will become weeks.
Final score:
5points
#40
A better way to word this post would be "How do you get THROUGH your depression." Unfortunately, even with intensive therapy, positive life changes, and decades of meds, many people, including me, don't get over it. We work on it daily, fighting it so it doesn't consume us. Depression is usually a life-long condition, to word it as "get over it" only promotes the myth that it's a character failing, as if we don't try hard enough.
Final score:
5points
Josy Bannon 4 years ago
I agree! It's good to know ways to make it more bearable though, but "getting over it" is a (dangerous) misconception, which might lead people to underestimate depression and stigmatise others.
ispeak catanese (Submission author) 4 years ago
You said it much better than I did, Josy. Thank you. 🌹🌹🌹
Load More Replies... #41
Clinical depression is something you don’t get over. You have to learn how to keep it in check. The #1 intervention is adhering to a regular sleep/wake cycle with 8 or more hours of sleep. A close second is 20 mins or more of exercise as close to daily as you can. Simply walking can change your mood.
Final score:
5points
#42
Well, I haven't quite gotten over the depression of my reptile dying, but what helps is to think of the nice parts of owning him.
Final score:
4points
#44
I doubt that it's something that a person *can* "get over" - at least not if it isn't relatively mild to start with. I've been on some hefty doses of antidepressants for nearly 30 years, and don't expect that to change any time soon.
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Diane Patrick 4 years ago
I was on antidepressants for 35 years with severe major depression and anxiety. I then heard about TRS heavy metal detox spray. It is all natural. Anxiety gone within three days after using it. Depression gone after two months. Incredible stuff!
Tiny Dynamine 4 years ago
You can. It's certainly not easy, but there are many stories of people who have got over it.
#45
Still have not "got over" it- sometimes incredibly happy, sometimes hiding from my parents and crying. Sometimes I have extreme anxiety. It varies. I am only a child, so no antidepressants or therapists for me. I do have the school counselor though.
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Josy Bannon 4 years ago (edited)
Do you think you can talk to your parents about this? They may understand you better if they know and might be able to help you. You shouldnt have to go through this alone. I hope talking to the school counselor helps!
#46
Exercise. Developing strong self boundaries and learning to say 'no, absolutely not.' Learning to love myself [even if it's not 100% consistent]; myself for only myself, and not someone else. Prioritizing the people who care about me vs wasting effort on people that don't. Going back to university and making friends :)
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Debby Hartinger 4 years ago
You are strong and a fighter! It's great that you fought for yourself and won. :)
#47
The unfortunate reality of the matter is that regardless of culture/background, there's always been a stigma surrounding mental health issues in general, not necessarily just depression. As an example, a close family member of mine thinks that suicidal people are cowards who just want to escape from everything. As a human being AND as a music therapy student, I wholeheartedly disagree with that notion. I've been through depression before and had many dark thoughts within that realm, and I can tell you it's not us being cowards–oftentimes, as I see it at least from my experiences, it's years of negativity from other individuals and the overall environment alongside several other factors that you bury deep in your chest and rarely/never let out that causes it. Ultimately, indeed as many of you have said–take it one day at a time, and most importantly, do your best to surround yourself with positivity, be it from people, the environment, etc... Be safe and make wise decisions!
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#48
I haven't. And honestly? I'm OK with that. I manage symptoms through a combination of medication (no shame) and distraction (video games, books, films, sewing, even work). There are bad days which suck, but there are also good days.
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#49
I clinical depression, attempted suicide last year... you don’t get over depression, you learn to live with it and you fight hard. Therapy and medication have been key in my struggle.
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Diandra “Mss Didi” Blackthorn 4 years ago
Please look into TheTappingSolution.com - free, no drugs, and you have the control.
#50
Well, I didn't, but my medications help a lot. There are still days where I feel really bad, though. We need to work on diagnosing this medical problem! It's serious.
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#51
I would take good care of myself as if I were a little child I love and that needs some help right now. I will be understanding, honest, comforting and patient. Thats what I can do going through it, but I cant "overcome" it.
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4points
#52
Moomin books and the Moomin anime of the '90s.
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3points
#53
How I got over depression? Uh, well, ok. I've been depressed at least 11 times, and this is the 12th. To get over it, I just did what I loved most, like reading, doing book reports for fun (I am a huge nerd and find comfort in researching and studying.) I also became a furry. I now draw athropomorphic art, and will start selling fursuits soon.
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#54
I got depression because of how short I am, and because I just lost my best friends # while a phone switch. I coped with it by pretending I'm in my own world and listening to sad music. I would and still, pretend I'm in a recording studio singing this while fiction characters watched in awe.
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3points
#55
When I get depressed, I usually go to my room, take deep breaths, and rest a little, and when I wake up, I feel better. :)
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3points
#56
The 10 Best-Ever Depression Management Techniques by Margaret Wehrenberg
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2points
#57
Learning that the bad days don't invalidate the good days. Having a bad/terrible day doesn't mean that all the good days were 'fake', 'wishful thinking' or just imagined, or not that great after all; no matter what my brain tried to tell me. I turned my good days from an 'impossible to reach goal' into a safety net, At the beginning, it might have not been a good day, but just a good moment. But that doesn't make them less valid. Moments have turned into days, and I am certain, that someday they will become weeks.
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2points
#58
Trigger warning: Mentions self-harm, su*cide Disclaimer: I didn't have clinical depression. I was assessed, but it wasn't "severe" enough. I was told that it couldn't be clinical since I didn't have any appetite/weight change. It took me awhile to realize that not being clinical didn't invalidate what I was feeling. ANYWAY I would say what really helped were two things: 1) God Probably a really controversial answer. But it's true. God said do not murder, (Ex. 20:13) and that includes myself. He also said I am his child, (John 1:12-13)and he knows the plans he has for me (Jer. 29:11). Who am I to say when it is time for me to die? He said my body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, (1 Cor. 6:19-20)who am I to cause harm to it? I trust God to make those decisions for me, and that trust in him saved me from cutting and suicide. So even though bad thoughts were in my head, God's commands and promises gave me something to hold on to. 2) Counselling. I found an amazing councillor. All that first point probably makes it sound like I'm one of those miracle-healer-prosperity-gospel people, but part of taking care of my body is taking care of my mind. After like three weeks I got in touch with a certified counsellor, signed a no-harm contract, and began my 4-month recovery. I don't think I could have done it without her. She was so good. I did cognitive-behavioral therapy, CBT, and learned a lot of stuff. I am able to pick out spiraling, black-and-white, and generalizing/catastrophizing thoughts, and I 100% recommend CBT to anyone and everyone, depressed or no.
Final score:
2points
#60
I was depressed from about 15 to 21 and I hated myself and the way I acted with other people. I used meditation as I was reading about Buddhism at the time anyway. I learned how to meditate (Naomi Humphrey's book - check it out) and selected one behaviour that I exhibited that I didn't like and meditated on that during a session. I went through different things and after about 6 months, I was more content with the kind of person I had then become. I highly recommend it as the drugs just mask it, but don't beat it.
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1point
#61
1) Interrupt the depression-thought patterns - TheTappingSolution.com - NO drugs and FREE 2) I practice #Gratitude by listing things that I am so fortunate to be grateful for --like food; running water; a home; heat; and so many things that people just a few miles away in NYC and around the world do NOT have. I start with #Gratitude for My health. 3) Put on some feel-good music and DANCE! Immediate boost of endorphins and good exercise!
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Billy The Kid 4 years ago
Hi All. I just came across this. Unfortunately it is for the UK only - sorry but you might want to check it out: https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines/
Billy The Kid 4 years ago (edited)
For all those that are struggling with depression here is some tips: https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/dealing-with-depression/ Hope it helps. Also from time to time read the comments above. There is some true words in there.
Doubleheader 4 years ago
When I was in my darkest hour of depression I was writing really angsty posts on my blog, and one moment it really seemed like I was teetering close to suicidal thoughts. The last post I made on the subject was so bad, that I realized "okay this is it, I need to do something about this before it gets worse," and instead of posting it up I saved it to my drafts... It's still sitting there, and honestly I feel too scared to even look at it. I just remember how hopeless I sounded and I hate that it ever got that bad. But anyways, when I felt that flash of realization, I really REALLY put my all into getting better. I forced myself to go to the doc and get on prozac and started exercising. I was on prozac for about half a year? But I personally was able to stop taking it since I put myself into a routine (exercise and having a good hobby helps soo much). Depression is absolutely a chemical imbalance in your body. I've felt sad and upset since then, but nothing ever like what I felt then.
Doubleheader 4 years ago
I dunno if I want to be featured or not, so I'm just gonna write it here in case anyone stumbles upon my comment. Just know that things get better! Don't give up.
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saesha has depression (Post author) 4 years ago
i have tried therapy i tried talking to people but nothing helps so i know its not simple but the fact that people give ideas on how to get rid of it that helps me cause it shows me that there are people that care
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Adél Gáspár 4 years ago
For me 2 books really helped with mainly anxiety but depression as well, The road less travelled, by M S Peck and my favourite is Flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. I think both are available as pdf online. It takes patience, be patient to yourself
Billy The Kid 4 years ago
Hi All. I just came across this. Unfortunately it is for the UK only - sorry but you might want to check it out: https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines/
Billy The Kid 4 years ago (edited)
For all those that are struggling with depression here is some tips: https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/dealing-with-depression/ Hope it helps. Also from time to time read the comments above. There is some true words in there.
Doubleheader 4 years ago
When I was in my darkest hour of depression I was writing really angsty posts on my blog, and one moment it really seemed like I was teetering close to suicidal thoughts. The last post I made on the subject was so bad, that I realized "okay this is it, I need to do something about this before it gets worse," and instead of posting it up I saved it to my drafts... It's still sitting there, and honestly I feel too scared to even look at it. I just remember how hopeless I sounded and I hate that it ever got that bad. But anyways, when I felt that flash of realization, I really REALLY put my all into getting better. I forced myself to go to the doc and get on prozac and started exercising. I was on prozac for about half a year? But I personally was able to stop taking it since I put myself into a routine (exercise and having a good hobby helps soo much). Depression is absolutely a chemical imbalance in your body. I've felt sad and upset since then, but nothing ever like what I felt then.
Doubleheader 4 years ago
I dunno if I want to be featured or not, so I'm just gonna write it here in case anyone stumbles upon my comment. Just know that things get better! Don't give up.
Load More Replies... saesha has depression (Post author) 4 years ago
i have tried therapy i tried talking to people but nothing helps so i know its not simple but the fact that people give ideas on how to get rid of it that helps me cause it shows me that there are people that care
Load More Replies... Adél Gáspár 4 years ago
For me 2 books really helped with mainly anxiety but depression as well, The road less travelled, by M S Peck and my favourite is Flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. I think both are available as pdf online. It takes patience, be patient to yourself
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