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Hey Pandas, Can You Give Me Advice About A Friend Problem?
One of my friends has been pretty rude to me lately. We both have mental health problems, and whenever she wants to talk about them I am willing to listen. However, when I want to tell her something that is making me scared, she seems uninterested. I asked her if she would listen, and she flat out said, "You can tell me, but I won't listen." Later that day, I asked her to walk the track with me instead of running it. She said no because she didn't want people to look at her. I told her that no one would care, and she got really offended. She said, "Did you forget that I have social anxiety?" I felt bad, but it isn't my job to be her therapist. I wasn't trying to be rude, but what she said earlier had put me in a bad mood. I feel like I care more about her than she will ever care about me. I think she was having an off day, but it still made me feel bad. She went away on a 10 day vacation and even though it makes me feel bad to say it, I am happier when she is away. It makes everything less hard. I am wondering what to do now. Any help would be so appreciated! Thank you for taking the time to read this
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Hmmm idk what to say exactly, but I’d say maybe try to make some new friends while she’s gone just in case. So you have other people to hang out with. If they are rude, maybe take a break from being friends with them for a bit. Or just ignore them for a while. Hope this helps!
This advice was so helpful. I can't always try to act like she is my best friend. She has other friends, and maybe instead of trying to increase my friendship with her, I can make new friends and increase other friendships! Thank you so so so much!!!
It sounds like you’re in a toxic relationship with her. Remember that it’s not your responsibility to be her therapist. This may seem a bit too much but you may want to consider breaking up with her as it would improve your mental health by a bit. I don’t know much about your friend so my advice may be wrong. Keep us updated on the situation in case my advice may change
Thank you so much! I think she recognized she was being a bit rude and she seemed to be sorry. She returned from her trip today and brought me a gift, so I know she cares about me. I will definitely keep your advice in mind!
